{"id":30308,"date":"2018-12-18T08:56:54","date_gmt":"2018-12-18T08:56:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=30308"},"modified":"2021-08-11T09:36:58","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T09:36:58","slug":"no-final-estou-grato-pela-minha-quase-relacao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/no-final-estou-grato-pela-minha-quase-relacao\/","title":{"rendered":"No final, estou grato pela minha quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"

Eu n\u00e3o tinha a inten\u00e7\u00e3o de estar numa quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o; simplesmente entrei nela sem sequer me aperceber. Abri as portas que levaram o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o ao homem errado. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sa\u00edmos para um encontro e mais um e mais um. Fal\u00e1mos sem parar e divertimo-nos imenso, as emo\u00e7\u00f5es foram-se acumulando, a qu\u00edmica estava l\u00e1 e a rela\u00e7\u00e3o progrediu naturalmente. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pensei que est\u00e1vamos no caminho certo para algo mais significativo, at\u00e9 que comecei a reparar em todos os sinais regulares de que estava numa quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/span><\/p>\n

Nunca me chamou namorada, nunca conheci os seus amigos ou a sua fam\u00edlia, pass\u00e1vamos a maior parte do tempo no meu apartamento, ele evitava todas as conversas s\u00e9rias e, de repente, a realidade bateu-me \u00e0 porta<\/span>\u2014<\/span>Eu estava quase numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ele andava a sair comigo h\u00e1 alguns meses e ia ficar por a\u00ed, sem nunca progredir para algo mais. <\/span><\/p>\n

I confronted him about it and he just went on and on about how things were not as easy as it seemed, how he needed more time, how we should take it slow\u2026 and I played along. <\/span><\/p>\n

Fui paciente, tentei ser compreensiva, mas estava a apaixonar-me cada vez mais e ele continuava a manter-se distante. Ao dar-lhe tempo, s\u00f3 piorei as coisas para mim. <\/span><\/p>\n

And let me tell you this; a heart breaks just as much after an almost relationship as it does after a real one. A heart can\u2019t tell the difference, it just loves. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Acho que me agarrei \u00e0 esperan\u00e7a de que algo mudasse. Optei por ver o lado bom dele e ignorei o lado mau. Ignorei todas as bandeiras vermelhas que se agitavam \u00e0 minha frente e continuei a esperar e a esperar que ele estivesse pronto. <\/span><\/p>\n

He never was. I don\u2019t know if he will ever be. Maybe men like him never mature, maybe they are never ready and they never evolve, they never allow themselves to wholeheartedly love another human being. <\/span><\/p>\n

Foi t\u00e3o dif\u00edcil esquec\u00ea-lo. Ultrapassar todos os \"e se\" e todo o potencial que vi na nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Mas o tempo seguiu o seu curso e eu consegui curar-me. <\/span><\/p>\n

Na verdade, consegui fazer mais do que isso e agora agrade\u00e7o a Deus pela minha quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o porque, embora tenha sido muito dolorosa, foi tamb\u00e9m uma experi\u00eancia de aprendizagem pela qual tive de passar. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Now I know how to read the signs. I won\u2019t shut my eyes and hope for the best anymore. I will ask the right questions sooner and I won\u2019t allow anybody else to <\/span>me amarrar<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Eu presto mais aten\u00e7\u00e3o ao que um homem faz do que ao que ele diz. Porque quando ele estava atr\u00e1s do ecr\u00e3 a escrever-me mensagens, dizia-me as palavras mais doces e coisas que me faziam pensar que est\u00e1vamos a ficar mais pr\u00f3ximos. <\/span><\/p>\n

In person, it was a whole different story. He wasn\u2019t as vocal. He kept dodging all the personal topics, he asked more about me than he ever shared about himself.  <\/span><\/p>\n

Ele estava sempre a fazer promessas que nunca cumpriu. Disse as palavras mais bonitas para me fazer ficar ao seu lado e ficou por a\u00ed, nunca fez nada que mostrasse que \u00e9ramos mais do que quase. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

That\u2019s why I know better now. I know how to listen to my gut that\u2019s telling me something\u2019s wrong. I know how to leave in time and save myself further pain. <\/span><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Porque quanto mais tempo ficava, mais me preocupava com ele. Cri\u00e1mos mais mem\u00f3rias que s\u00e3o imposs\u00edveis de esquecer. Ele tornou-se algu\u00e9m meu sem ser realmente meu. <\/span><\/p>\n

I stayed where I wasn\u2019t appreciated, where I wasn\u2019t treated as enough, where I started to ask myself if I was <\/span>material de namorada<\/span><\/a>, asked what was wrong with me and why he wasn\u2019t stepping up his game. <\/span><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t ask myself those questions anymore because I realized it was never about me. It was always about him and his emotional unavailability. <\/span><\/p>\n

Estou mais confiante agora porque a minha confian\u00e7a foi abalada por uma quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Quase a perdi completamente e tive de a construir a partir do zero. <\/span><\/p>\n

I had to reinvent myself and I learned what I am made of. Now I don\u2019t allow anyone to take me for granted and I ask for what I deserve. <\/span><\/p>\n

And for starters, I deserve to be someone\u2019s girlfriend, I deserve someone who is sure about me and isn\u2019t afraid to feel. <\/span><\/p>\n

I took all the pain he left behind him and I turned it into something good. I turned it into self-love and that\u2019s where it all begins.<\/span><\/p>\n

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I didn\u2019t intend to be in an almost relationship; I simply stepped into it without even noticing. I opened the doors that led my heart to the wrong man. We went out on one date and one more and one more. We talked endlessly and we had so much fun, the emotions were building up,…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":40514,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-30308","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/shutterstock_1023418663.jpg",800,532,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30308","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=30308"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30308\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/40514"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=30308"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=30308"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=30308"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}