{"id":30970,"date":"2019-01-09T08:06:26","date_gmt":"2019-01-09T08:06:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=30970"},"modified":"2021-08-11T09:16:57","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T09:16:57","slug":"se-queres-deixar-de-atrair-homens-toxicos-deixa-de-fazer-estas-6-coisas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/se-queres-deixar-de-atrair-homens-toxicos-deixa-de-fazer-estas-6-coisas\/","title":{"rendered":"Se queres deixar de atrair homens t\u00f3xicos, p\u00e1ra de fazer estas 6 coisas"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>For so many years, I was in this weird loop where I kept dating these horrible guys who took much more than they actually gave. It was such a toxic environment and I honestly didn\u2019t know what the hell was wrong with me to keep attracting all the wrong men into my life.<\/p>\n<p>N\u00e3o parava de pensar nisso e sabia que tinha de haver uma raz\u00e3o v\u00e1lida para isso, por isso fiz um exame de consci\u00eancia e cheguei \u00e0 conclus\u00e3o de que o meu comportamento era a principal raz\u00e3o pela qual acabava sempre com <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/para-todas-as-raparigas-que-pensam-que-nao-conseguem-deixar-de-amar-o-homem-errado\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">o homem errado<\/span><\/a>!<\/p>\n<p><b>Subconscientemente, manifestei certas caracter\u00edsticas pouco saud\u00e1veis que me afastaram dos homens que eu realmente merecia e, em vez disso, trouxeram um mar de homens t\u00f3xicos para a minha vida.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>If you don\u2019t want to repeat my mistakes and get your dating life back on track, read these 6 things I did wrong and save yourself years of regret.<\/p>\n<h2>1. Sentia-me atra\u00edda por tipos sombrios e misteriosos com um passado obscuro<\/h2>\n<p>Fui suficientemente tolo para acreditar que seria capaz de quebrar o seu exterior duro e fazer com que se abrissem comigo como nunca o tinham feito antes. \u00c9 evidente que me enganei, e isso voltou sempre para me assombrar!<\/p>\n<p>Esses tipos podem parecer atraentes e apelativos \u00e0 superf\u00edcie, mas, na realidade, s\u00e3o almas danificadas que s\u00e3o incapazes de se amarem a si pr\u00f3prios, quanto mais a qualquer outra pessoa. Afaste-se!<\/p>\n<h2>2. Eu gostava secretamente quando eles eram um pouco maus para mim<\/h2>\n<p>This is a messed up thing to admit and it probably goes back to my childhood when I was told that if a boy was mean or teased me, it meant he liked me! That is a crazy concept and I can\u2019t believe anyone would ever be told that!<\/p>\n<p>So it translated back to my adult years, where I believed that if he yelled at me, it must\u2019ve meant he really cared! What a shitty thing to be made believe.<\/p>\n<h2>3. I wasn\u2019t interested in nice guys<\/h2>\n<p>Nice guys just always somehow seemed boring. I am aware that one can\u2019t judge a book by its cover and now I don\u2019t anymore but I used to believe that I could get no thrill by being with a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/a-beleza-de-conhecer-um-bom-rapaz-depois-de-uma-relacao-toxica\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">bom rapaz<\/span><\/a>, as it just seemed too ordinary. And now, I would kill for that \u2018ordinary\u2019 type of love! Stability over unpredictability.<\/p>\n<h2>4. Gostava de homens que tinham acabado de sair de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p>Por raz\u00f5es que ainda desconhe\u00e7o, sempre me apaixonei por homens que tinham acabado de sair de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o ou que tinham uma bagagem emocional de rela\u00e7\u00f5es passadas.<\/p>\n<p>Acreditava estupidamente que podia ser eu a pessoa com quem eles encontrariam o seu \"felizes para sempre\" e que os poria de novo no bom caminho! Raramente foi isso que aconteceu e, na maior parte das vezes, foi apenas doloroso, pois senti-me sempre como uma segunda op\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>Now I see that I should\u2019ve waited for them to get over their past love before I started anything with them.<\/p>\n<h2>5. Estava sempre a deixar os homens sem raz\u00e3o aparente<\/h2>\n<p>Eu gostava demasiado de ter raz\u00e3o e, por isso, em vez de resolver as coisas, acabava por deix\u00e1-los para n\u00e3o ter de discutir com eles. Era um c\u00edrculo realmente t\u00f3xico que n\u00e3o era saud\u00e1vel para n\u00f3s os dois e a culpa era toda minha.<\/p>\n<p>I couldn\u2019t accept that I wasn\u2019t right all the time so it was easier to end it and find another <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/7-reasons-many-toxic-guys-drawn\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">homem t\u00f3xico<\/span><\/a> para o substituir. Fui muito ego\u00edsta e nem sequer me apercebi disso.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t really think they were that bad in the first place, I somehow made them act that way due to my twisted way of thinking and acting toward them.<\/p>\n<h2>6. I would act crazy if I didn\u2019t have my way<\/h2>\n<p>If things didn\u2019t work out how I wanted them to, I would blame it all on the guy. I always had to have it my way and I made myself believe that if a guy couldn\u2019t conform to that, he was not the guy for me and there had to be something wrong with him. And all this time, it was me who messed everything up.<\/p>\n<p>Fui demasiado teimoso para admitir que estava errado e paguei o pre\u00e7o. Gra\u00e7as a Deus, agora vejo que uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 uma via de dois sentidos e que ambas as partes merecem ser ouvidas e reconhecidas de igual modo. Tudo o resto n\u00e3o \u00e9 justo e agora estou finalmente a ver isso.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-30972 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/In-2019-Im-Choosing-Happiness-2-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Se queres deixar de atrair homens t\u00f3xicos, p\u00e1ra de fazer estas 6 coisas\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/In-2019-Im-Choosing-Happiness-2-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/In-2019-Im-Choosing-Happiness-2-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/In-2019-Im-Choosing-Happiness-2.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>For so many years, I was in this weird loop where I kept dating these horrible guys who took much more than they actually gave. It was such a toxic environment and I honestly didn\u2019t know what the hell was wrong with me to keep attracting all the wrong men into my life. I kept&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":30971,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29648],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-30970","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-tips"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29648,"label":"dating tips"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/shwa-hall-485803-unsplash.jpg",800,537,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29648,"name":"dating tips","slug":"dating-tips","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29648,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn to date like a pro and avoid making some of the biggest mistakes in texting, flirting, winning a man's heart, and commitment. 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