{"id":31063,"date":"2020-07-18T09:19:51","date_gmt":"2020-07-18T09:19:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31063"},"modified":"2022-02-27T11:03:14","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T11:03:14","slug":"se-continuas-a-perdoa-lo-apesar-de-ele-nao-estar-a-mudar-le-isto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/se-continuas-a-perdoa-lo-apesar-de-ele-nao-estar-a-mudar-le-isto\/","title":{"rendered":"Se continuas a perdoar-lhe mesmo que ele n\u00e3o esteja a mudar, l\u00ea isto"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Aqui est\u00e1 voc\u00ea novamente, repetindo o mesmo cen\u00e1rio antigo, esperando que algo mude. Na esperan\u00e7a de que ele perceba o seu valor e a trate melhor.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Olhe para dentro da sua alma e seja honesto consigo mesmo<\/i><\/b><b><i>\u2014<\/i><\/b><b><i>ele nunca vai mudar. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>He doesn\u2019t want to change. He already thinks he is great and on the days when he himself can\u2019t justify his actions, he blames you for his behavior.<\/p>\n<p>He blames you for everything because it\u2019s easier than admitting that he is wrong. It\u2019s easier to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/6-sinais-de-que-se-esta-a-fazer-de-vitima\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> fazer-se de v\u00edtima <\/a> do que ser homem e enfrentar os seus actos.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s easier than to see a fault in his system and try to improve it.<\/p>\n<p>Claro, h\u00e1 dias em que ele jura que vai mudar. Normalmente, esses s\u00e3o os dias em que ele teme perder o poder que tem sobre si para sempre.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-104472\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-begging-woman.jpg\" alt=\"homem a pedir a uma mulher\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-begging-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-begging-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-begging-woman-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-begging-woman-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-begging-woman-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><b><i>Mas assim que o perdoar, assim que ele sentir que est\u00e1 a cair nas suas mentiras mais uma vez, ele voltar\u00e1 aos seus velhos h\u00e1bitos. Vai voltar a mago\u00e1-la uma e outra vez, desde que o permita. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>Ele vai voltar a desrespeitar-te. Voltar\u00e1 a n\u00e3o enviar mensagens, a n\u00e3o arranjar tempo para si e a n\u00e3o lhe dar o apoio emocional de que tanto precisa.<\/p>\n<p>With him, it\u2019s always going to be the same. The same scenario will keep on repeating itself until you decide that enough is enough.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Parem de arranjar desculpas para ele. N\u00e3o h\u00e1 nenhuma. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b><i>N\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada neste mundo que possa justificar todas as l\u00e1grimas que rolaram pelo teu rosto. N\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada que possa compensar a falta de amor e de respeito. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>I know it\u2019s breaking your heart that no matter how much you love him and no matter how many times you tried to make things work, it was never enough.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-104473\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-roof.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste sentada no telhado\" width=\"800\" height=\"531\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-roof.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-roof-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-roof-768x510.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-roof-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>But don\u2019t beat yourself up. It\u2019s not your fault. There was nothing you could have done better or said differently to change the final result; you simply<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/apaixonar-se-pela-pessoa-errada-algo-precisa-de-menos\/\"> apaixonou-se pela pessoa errada<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s time you open your eyes and see that. You deserve a better life than this.<\/p>\n<p>Mereces a felicidade que ele nunca soube dar-te. Mereces ser amada por algu\u00e9m que sabe amar.<\/p>\n<p>Ele n\u00e3o \u00e9 esse homem. A \u00fanica pessoa que ama \u00e9 a si pr\u00f3prio. S\u00f3 est\u00e1 atento \u00e0s suas necessidades, s\u00f3 se preocupa com os seus pr\u00f3prios interesses.<\/p>\n<p>Ele s\u00f3 est\u00e1 interessado em coisas que pode tirar de si porque n\u00e3o tem nada para dar.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Open your eyes and see what your life could be without him. You could be free of this emotional roller coaster that\u2019s getting you nauseous all the time. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b><i>Poder\u00e1 finalmente encontrar a paz interior de que ele a privou.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-104474\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-near-the-window.jpg\" alt=\"mulher loura e triste sentada perto da janela\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-near-the-window.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-near-the-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-near-the-window-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-near-the-window-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/sad-blond-woman-sitting-near-the-window-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The thing you have with him or had with him, whichever you prefer, is not your life\u2019s love story. It\u2019s just one bad chapter you had to experience so you could grow stronger from it.<\/p>\n<p>Para que pudesses quebrar e sarar e n\u00e3o voltasses a repetir o mesmo erro.<\/p>\n<p>Ele n\u00e3o \u00e9 a pessoa certa para ti, \u00e9 apenas algu\u00e9m que teve de te ensinar como o amor nunca deve ser, com o que nunca te deves contentar.<\/p>\n<p>Admita para si mesma que, com ele, est\u00e1 a acomodar-se. Est\u00e1 a contentar-se com algo que vem e vai e leva peda\u00e7os de si com ele.<\/p>\n<p>Est\u00e1 a contentar-se com baixos investimentos e fragmentos de amor. Est\u00e1 a contentar-se com uma vida sem alegria.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t sell yourself short. Don\u2019t be afraid to be alone. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/once-you-embrace-your-single-life-these-8-amazing-things-will-happen\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> Ser solteiro <\/a> pode ser uma b\u00ean\u00e7\u00e3o em si mesma, se a encararmos da forma correcta.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-104475\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/smiling-woman-standing-in-sunlight.jpg\" alt=\"mulher sorridente \u00e0 luz do sol\" width=\"800\" height=\"531\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/smiling-woman-standing-in-sunlight.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/smiling-woman-standing-in-sunlight-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/smiling-woman-standing-in-sunlight-768x510.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/smiling-woman-standing-in-sunlight-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><b><i>Por outro lado, ficar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o de merda, perdoar constantemente algu\u00e9m que n\u00e3o tem perd\u00e3o, acreditar numa mudan\u00e7a que nunca vai acontecer, s\u00f3 o vai destruir. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>Salve-se das garras t\u00f3xicas dele. Pare de o perdoar e pe\u00e7a perd\u00e3o a si pr\u00f3pria, porque ficou quando, no fundo, sabia que devia ir embora.<\/p>\n<p>Deixa-o ir e agarra-te a ti pr\u00f3pria. Ame-se com cada \u00e1tomo do seu ser. S\u00ea uma mulher que tem a coragem de se manter sozinha e construir a sua pr\u00f3pria felicidade.<\/p>\n<p>Tu consegues fazer isto, tu consegues faz\u00ea-lo sozinha, ele s\u00f3 est\u00e1 no teu caminho.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-104471\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/If-You-Keep-Forgiving-Him-Even-Though-He-Isnt-Changing-Read-This-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Se continuas a perdoar-lhe mesmo que ele n\u00e3o esteja a mudar, l\u00ea isto\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/If-You-Keep-Forgiving-Him-Even-Though-He-Isnt-Changing-Read-This-pinterest.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/If-You-Keep-Forgiving-Him-Even-Though-He-Isnt-Changing-Read-This-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/If-You-Keep-Forgiving-Him-Even-Though-He-Isnt-Changing-Read-This-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Here you are again, repeating the same old scenario, hoping that something will change. Hoping that he will realize your worth and treat you better. Look inside your soul and be honest with yourself\u2014he is never going to change. He doesn\u2019t want to change. He already thinks he is great and on the days when&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":104476,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-31063","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/If-You-Keep-Forgiving-Him-Even-Though-He-Isnt-Changing-Read-This.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. 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