{"id":31145,"date":"2019-01-11T08:48:31","date_gmt":"2019-01-11T08:48:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31145"},"modified":"2022-02-10T02:13:52","modified_gmt":"2022-02-10T02:13:52","slug":"tens-de-parar-de-te-culpar-pela-incapacidade-dele-de-te-amar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/tens-de-parar-de-te-culpar-pela-incapacidade-dele-de-te-amar\/","title":{"rendered":"Tens de parar de te culpar pela incapacidade dele de te amar"},"content":{"rendered":"

N\u00e3o estou a dizer que \u00e9s perfeita, porque a verdade \u00e9 que tens os teus defeitos, tal como todos n\u00f3s. Mas para o homem certo, ser\u00e1s perfeitamente imperfeita exatamente como \u00e9s e, no final do dia, isso \u00e9 a \u00fanica coisa que realmente importa.<\/p>\n

Clearly, this guy we are talking about isn\u2019t the right one for you. And you know why that is so?<\/p>\n

Because he obviously can\u2019t seem to give you back all the love he\u2019s been getting from you. Because he obviously can\u2019t love you the way you love him and the way you deserve to be loved.<\/b><\/p>\n

Well, it\u2019s time for you to understand that this unrequited love is anything but your fault. His lack of emotions and the way he\u2019s been treating you are not things you are responsible for in any way whatsoever.<\/b><\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso compreender que h\u00e1 pessoas que s\u00e3o simplesmente n\u00e3o \u00e9 capaz de amar<\/span><\/a> e n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada que se possa fazer, por mais que se tente. E este tipo \u00e9 obviamente uma dessas pessoas.<\/p>\n

Pode dar-lhe todo o amor do mundo e pode esperar que esse amor acabe por mudar as suas atitudes, mas, infelizmente, isso nunca vai acontecer. Porque este homem nunca lhe dar\u00e1 o que precisa, por muito que tente conquistar o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Por isso, por favor, p\u00e1ra de duvidar de ti e do teu valor.<\/b> Deixar de se comparar com as outras raparigas<\/a>, including his ex-girlfriends, and wondering what it was that they had and you don\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Deixe de permitir que ele alimente as suas inseguran\u00e7as, baixe a sua autoestima e a transforme numa pessoa que n\u00e3o \u00e9. P\u00e1ra de questionar e duvidar de si pr\u00f3prio<\/span><\/a> e o seu valor, porque estas s\u00e3o as \u00faltimas coisas que deveria estar a fazer.<\/p>\n

P\u00e1ra de te perguntares se \u00e9s o mau da fita nesta hist\u00f3ria ou se podias ter feito mais para que ele gostasse de ti. P\u00e1ra de tentar mudar-te s\u00f3 para que ele goste mais de ti e de pensar que esse \u00e9 o caminho para o afeto dele.<\/p>\n

Pare de reler as suas mensagens antigas, tentando perceber se disse alguma coisa errada que o tenha afastado de si. Pare de repetir toda a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o na sua cabe\u00e7a, tentando lembrar-se de quando e porque \u00e9 que as coisas foram por \u00e1gua abaixo.<\/p>\n

Deixe de procurar a valida\u00e7\u00e3o e a aceita\u00e7\u00e3o deste homem. Deixe de pensar que ele precisa de aprovar o seu valor para que este seja real e para que o veja voc\u00ea mesma.<\/b><\/p>\n

Stop seeing yourself through his eyes because he\u2019ll never see all of your qualities. Stop asking yourself if you are enough because this is something the right guy would never make you wonder.<\/p>\n

And most importantly\u2014stop waiting for this guy to change and to become the man you need him to be. Face the harsh truth and finally accept that you can\u2019t save him and that he\u2019ll always remain the same selfish douchebag he\u2019s always been.<\/p>\n

Por isso, em vez de se contentar com as migalhas de p\u00e3o do amor dele e em vez de esperar que as coisas sejam diferentes no futuro, salve-se a si pr\u00f3pria, afastando-se desta rela\u00e7\u00e3o destrutiva. Comece a ter consci\u00eancia de que merece muito mais e espere que esse mais apare\u00e7a.<\/b><\/p>\n

Remember that you are in no way to blame for everything that\u2019s been going on in your relationship. It is not your fault that this guy never managed to see your true beauty and all the qualities you have as a person.<\/p>\n

You are not to blame for choosing him and for not knowing better because we all make mistakes. You are not guilty of trying to find love where it clearly doesn\u2019t exist. And you are definitely not to blame for this man never being able to love you back the way you deserve.<\/p>\n

But I have to tell you something that you probably don\u2019t want to hear\u2014you will be responsible for your own destruction if you consciously choose to stay next to this man, knowing all of this. You will be to blame if you choose to waste more years of your life waiting to get all the love you keep giving him back.<\/p>\n

Because sadly, that will never happen. And it\u2019s about time you understand this.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s about time you walk away from this man and give your best to move on from all of this pain he\u2019s been causing you. To understand that you don\u2019t need him and never did.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s about time you come\u00e7a a amar-te a ti pr\u00f3prio<\/span><\/a> more than you ever loved him. And most importantly\u2014for you to start respecting the woman you are, without allowing this guy or anyone else to diminish your worth anymore.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I am not saying that you are perfect because the truth is that you have your flaws, just like the rest of us. But to the right guy, you will be perfectly imperfect exactly the way you are and at the end of the day, that is the only thing that really matters. Clearly, this…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":31150,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-31145","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/jayson-hinrichsen-713147-unsplash.jpg",800,535,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31145","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31145"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31145\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/31150"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31145"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31145"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31145"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}