{"id":31187,"date":"2019-01-11T10:38:21","date_gmt":"2019-01-11T10:38:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31187"},"modified":"2022-01-13T00:42:40","modified_gmt":"2022-01-13T00:42:40","slug":"6-sinais-de-que-ainda-nao-aceitaste-a-tua-separacao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/6-sinais-de-que-ainda-nao-aceitaste-a-tua-separacao\/","title":{"rendered":"6 sinais de que voc\u00ea ainda n\u00e3o aceitou a separa\u00e7\u00e3o (ainda)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>N\u00e3o \u00e9 f\u00e1cil aceitar que a separa\u00e7\u00e3o aconteceu de facto, especialmente se namorou com uma pessoa com quem viu o seu para sempre.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why most of us go through the phase of denial in which we decide to ignore the fact that the relationship is over for good, and we feed ourselves with the hope that something will miraculously change.<\/p>\n<p>O que se passa \u00e9 que nem sequer te apercebes de que est\u00e1s em nega\u00e7\u00e3o. Come\u00e7a por ser um mecanismo de defesa que nos protege de toda a dor que a separa\u00e7\u00e3o nos traz.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why you should check the signs and see if you have accepted your breakup.<\/p>\n<h2>1. A ideia de voltar a estar juntos est\u00e1 constantemente presente<\/h2>\n<p>Mesmo que o negue publicamente, se algu\u00e9m lho perguntar, no fundo tem esperan\u00e7a de resolver as coisas com o seu ex e de voltar para os bra\u00e7os dele.<\/p>\n<p>You spend a lot of time contemplating how to change you ex\u2019s mind. You write them lengthy texts explaining why you two should be together again. You do what you can to make him see you should give this another go,and that\u2019s a pretty clear sign that you haven\u2019t accepted your breakup.<\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t and under no circumstances should <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/se-ele-nao-quer-estar-consigo-nao-o-force-a-ficar\/\">for\u00e7ar algu\u00e9m<\/a> into the relationship or beg for a second chance. If he was on the same page with you, he would also reach out and a simple text saying: \u201cHi, how are you?\u201d would be all the push he needs to pursue you.<\/p>\n<h2>2. You can\u2019t stop stalking them on social media<\/h2>\n<p>You can\u2019t bring yourself to unfriend them on social media. You are interested in every new picture and status update they make. You are trying to find the clues and read the signs. and sadly, there aren\u2019t any.<\/p>\n<p>Ter acesso \u00e0 vida dele atrav\u00e9s das redes sociais d\u00e1-lhe uma falsa sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de proximidade e continua a sentir que ele faz parte da sua vida.<\/p>\n<p>He is not sending you encrypted messages and the longer you browse through his social media accounts the more pain you\u2019ll be in. Don\u2019t do that to yourself. Delete and block, and let him gradually leave your system.<\/p>\n<h2>3. Concentra-se apenas nas partes boas da rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p>When you look back, you only see the good days, happy moments and sweet things he did and you sweep all the bad and ugly in your relationship under the carpet and refuse to get it out. It\u2019s just too painful to deal with all of that mess, and it\u2019s easier to see the positive sides.<\/p>\n<p>Take a step back from your daydreams, and look at the reality. It wasn\u2019t all that great. You probably spent more days crying, worrying and stressing that you weren\u2019t happy.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t make your ex into the Prince Charming he never was and admit to yourself that you deserve better.<\/p>\n<h2>4. P\u00f4s a sua vida em espera<\/h2>\n<p>Muitas mulheres passam por isso quando a rela\u00e7\u00e3o termina. Subconscientemente, elas tornam-se dispon\u00edveis para a perspetiva de ele voltar a entrar nas suas vidas.<\/p>\n<p>So they pass on business or life opportunities that are in front of them They say \u2018no\u2019 without thinking twice to anyone who asks them on a date. They live in the past, replaying everything that happened in their head instead of moving ahead.<\/p>\n<p>If you find yourself among some of these descriptions, it\u2019s time to wake up. It\u2019s time to realize that he\u2019s gone, and you are just beginning your life.<\/p>\n<h2>5. Est\u00e1 a tentar fazer ci\u00fames ao seu ex<\/h2>\n<p>One more clear sign that you haven\u2019t fully accepted your breakup is that you still care what he thinks and how he feels.<\/p>\n<p>So you post pictures and selfies in which you look hot. You post things that make him think you have somebody else. You show up with some random guy at the place you know he\u2019ll be at, etc.<\/p>\n<p>Est\u00e1 a tentar fazer-lhe ci\u00fames, para que ele se aperceba do que perdeu e, possivelmente, o fa\u00e7a voltar.<\/p>\n<h2>6. Desvaloriza a sua nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p>It\u2019s unbelievably hard to grasp that your ex has moved on and started a new relationship with somebody new.<\/p>\n<p>Por isso, tenta diminuir o valor da nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o, dizendo a si pr\u00f3pria que vai acabar em breve, que ele s\u00f3 est\u00e1 a fazer isto para a esquecer, que lhe vai ligar quando se cansar dela, etc.<\/p>\n<p>Na realidade, tudo o que ele est\u00e1 a fazer \u00e9 enviar-lhe uma mensagem clara de que a rela\u00e7\u00e3o entre si e ele terminou e que tem de aceitar isso.<\/p>\n<p>E mesmo que ele se canse dessa nova pessoa e mesmo que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/coisas-que-a-tua-ex-quer\/\">ele volta a rastejar para si<\/a>, you don\u2019t need someone like him in your life. The moment he decided to go after someone else is the moment he lost you for good.<\/p>\n<h2>Como aceitar a separa\u00e7\u00e3o e seguir em frente?<\/h2>\n<p>The first step of accepting your breakup is to admit to yourself that you are in denial. And that\u2019s also the trickiest part.<\/p>\n<p>Secondly, you have to know that it\u2019s going to be everything but easy and that the quickest way to heal is to embrace the pain that comes with a breakup.<\/p>\n<p>O mais importante \u00e9 que precisas de espa\u00e7o. Precisas de deixar de ser amiga dele, de o bloquear e de o evitar. Ir <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/recuperacao-de-uma-separacao-90-dias-sem-contacto\/\">nenhum contacto<\/a> \u00e9 a melhor coisa a fazer. Ao fim de alguns meses, ter\u00e1 uma vis\u00e3o muito melhor da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o passada do que tem agora.<\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t get over somebody who is constantly present in your life. By keeping him close in any way, you are just prolonging your denial period.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-31193\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/to-live-a-creative-life-we-must-lose-our-fear-of-being-wrong.-5-200x300.png\" alt=\"6 sinais de que voc\u00ea ainda n\u00e3o aceitou a separa\u00e7\u00e3o (ainda)\" width=\"700\" height=\"1049\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/to-live-a-creative-life-we-must-lose-our-fear-of-being-wrong.-5-200x300.png 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/to-live-a-creative-life-we-must-lose-our-fear-of-being-wrong.-5.png 467w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 700px) 100vw, 700px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It isn\u2019t easy to accept that the breakup actually happened, especially if you dated a person with whom you saw your forever. 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