{"id":31284,"date":"2020-08-14T13:18:11","date_gmt":"2020-08-14T13:18:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31284"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:26:47","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:26:47","slug":"faca-girar-a-regra-80-20-das-relacoes-e-torne-a-sua-vida-amorosa-fantastica","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/faca-girar-a-regra-80-20-das-relacoes-e-torne-a-sua-vida-amorosa-fantastica\/","title":{"rendered":"D\u00ea a volta \u00e0 regra 80\/20 das rela\u00e7\u00f5es e torne a sua vida amorosa fant\u00e1stica"},"content":{"rendered":"

Understanding the concept of the 80\/20 rule of relationships can be a bit confusing or even unknown to some people, so let\u2019s start at the beginning and explain what it is exactly and then continue on to have you spin it and make your love life amazing.<\/p>\n

To put it simply, the 80\/20 rule of relationships states that in a healthy relationship, you only get 80 percent of the things you want and 20 percent of the things you don\u2019t like about the person you are with.<\/em><\/p>\n

It\u2019s like a fatal flaw in human DNA that makes us think that the grass is greener on the other side, so we crave more the 20 percent we don\u2019t have and take for granted all the rest.<\/p>\n

Discutimos com o nosso parceiro, sentimos que ele nos d\u00e1 menos, acabamos mesmo por nos separar por causa desses 20 por cento, sem ter em conta a maior parte, que \u00e9 geralmente \u00f3ptima.<\/p>\n

To transfer things into a real-life situation, let\u2019s say you are dating someone quem \u00e9 leal<\/span><\/a>algu\u00e9m que se esfor\u00e7a e faz com que saibamos que ele se preocupa.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, he does really stupid little things that make you feel neglected, like spending too much time playing games, falling asleep really fast or he doesn\u2019t like to socialize as much as you do.<\/p>\n

Assim, em vez de se concentrar na parte mais importante e no facto de ter 80 por cento das coisas que deseja, fica obcecado com a parte que lhe falta e guarda isso contra ele, de tal forma que os seus problemas se tornam cada vez maiores.<\/p>\n

Then you hear your friends talking about the 20 percent you don\u2019t have and you feel envious. You see it exists and you wonder why your significant other can\u2019t be more like that.<\/p>\n

Mas se parassem para respirar e pensassem bem nas coisas, realmente pensassem bem, veriam que lhes faltam 20% das coisas que voc\u00eas t\u00eam.<\/p>\n

O mesmo aconteceria se conhecessemos algu\u00e9m novo, algu\u00e9m que tivesse aquela pequena percentagem que desejamos e que nos parece t\u00e3o ideal e apelativa.<\/p>\n

But your mind is so clouded by that 20 percent that you don\u2019t see that they don\u2019t have all the other things you want. They don\u2019t have the 80 percent your partner already has.<\/p>\n

Remember what I told you about the grass looking greener on the other side? That\u2019s the point if something looks a certain way, it doesn\u2019t necessarily mean it actually is.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, como utilizar a regra 80\/20 das rela\u00e7\u00f5es para resolver a situa\u00e7\u00e3o em que se encontra e melhorar a sua vida amorosa? <\/b><\/p>\n

# parar de esperar que o seu parceiro seja perfeito<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Aprecie o que tem em vez de chorar pelas pequenas coisas que lhe faltam. A sua cara-metade isn\u2019t perfect<\/span><\/a> e n\u00e3o \u00e9 suposto serem.<\/p>\n

They can\u2019t do things like you imagined them in your head, they can\u2019t behave in every situation like you would like them to, they are not in your mind and they see things differently than you do.<\/p>\n

Admit to yourself that you are not perfect either, maybe you don\u2019t have 20 percent of what your partner wants but you surely have 80 percent they can\u2019t live without.<\/p>\n

You wouldn\u2019t like them holding that small percentage over your head, now would you?<\/p>\n

# parar de comparar<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

They are your boyfriend or girlfriend, not your friend\u2019s. They can\u2019t behave in the same way or do things you think are great in your friend\u2019s relationship.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important you realize you are two completely separate individuals who are totally unlike your friend and their partner and that there is no way you would want the same things or react to certain situations the same way.<\/p>\n

Most importantly, you only get your friend\u2019s side of the story, which might be blown out of proportion or at least a bit embellished and you don\u2019t know what\u2019s under the perfect surface.<\/p>\n

Lembre-se que ningu\u00e9m tem os 100 por cento, nada \u00e9 assim t\u00e3o perfeito e toda a gente tem pelo menos aqueles 20 por cento que sempre lhe faltam.<\/p>\n

So start concentrating more on your own relationship and stop wasting your time on comparisons, it\u2019s irrelevant and useless and you are only doing more harm to your relationship than good.<\/p>\n

# come\u00e7ar por si pr\u00f3prio<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Muitas pessoas v\u00eaem sempre o problema no seu parceiro, n\u00e3o tendo sequer em considera\u00e7\u00e3o que podem ser elas as culpadas ou menos perfeitas em determinadas situa\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be one of those people. Be a realist and understand that none of us are saints. We are all flawed in our own way.<\/p>\n

Por isso, antes de atacar o seu parceiro e de o sobrecarregar com todas as culpas, tire algum tempo para refletir e reavaliar os seus pensamentos, desejos e ac\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 impulsivo, deve contar at\u00e9 dez antes de reagir? H\u00e1 algumas coisas que possa estar a fazer mal?<\/p>\n

# determinar o que se pretende<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

A causa de todos os nossos problemas com os 20% que consideramos defeituosos no nosso parceiro pode estar na nossa incapacidade de sermos honestos connosco pr\u00f3prios sobre o que queremos.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s time you do just that. Literally take a pen and paper and write down all the things you want from your partner and your relationship.<\/p>\n

Escreva todas as coisas que acredita que est\u00e1 a trazer para a mesa. Escreva tamb\u00e9m todas as coisas que considera serem culpa sua ou que poderia fazer melhor.<\/p>\n

Now take a really close look, are you getting most of the things you want from your partner and do they make up for the part that\u2019s missing? If you were him looking at your list, would you like him to ignore the negative and concentrate on the positive?<\/p>\n

Se a resposta for afirmativa, n\u00e3o est\u00e1 a perder muito com o 20%, pois n\u00e3o?<\/p>\n

# encontrar-se<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

This is the reason why most of us don\u2019t know what we want, we simply forget to ask ourself, we forget to get to know our wishes, preferences, and goals and actually dream our dreams.<\/p>\n

Para ter uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel e funcional, temos de nos amar a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios. Tem de amar a sua vida e viv\u00ea-la de facto.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o h\u00e1 ningu\u00e9m que possa tornar a sua vida completa a n\u00e3o ser voc\u00ea. A outra pessoa apenas complementa a sua vida e acrescenta-lhe algo. Por isso, certifique-se de que tem isso bem claro.<\/p>\n

# determinar a raz\u00e3o pela qual iniciou a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o em primeiro lugar<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

To expand on the previous note, it\u2019s important to say that people have a habit of entering a relationship hoping (sometimes even unconsciously) they will get something from it.<\/p>\n

Mainly they are looking for somebody who will make them happy. Don\u2019t fall into that trap, there\u2019s nobody who can make you happy, at least not long-term, if you don\u2019t make yourself happy first.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de que as rela\u00e7\u00f5es t\u00eam a ver com dar e receber e que ambos os segmentos t\u00eam de ser incorporados. O amor flui quando ambas as pessoas est\u00e3o igualmente investidas uma na outra.<\/p>\n

# ouvir mais e presumir menos<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

The way in which you interpret somebody\u2019s words or actions might have nothing to do with what they said and everything to do with negative experiences you had in the past.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let the bagagem emocional<\/span><\/a> que carrega dentro de si arruinam uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o potencialmente boa. O seu parceiro atual n\u00e3o \u00e9 culpado de nenhuma das coisas que o seu ex ou ex fizeram.<\/p>\n

Por isso, antes de se preocupar com os 20% dos problemas que tem com ele, certifique-se de que eles t\u00eam realmente algo a ver com ele.<\/p>\n

# Conta as tuas b\u00ean\u00e7\u00e3os<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Contabilize tudo o que tem na parte dos 80 por cento. Tente ver o panorama geral e seja sincero consigo mesmo sobre o que realmente precisa.<\/p>\n

You probably have much more than you think but you are so concentrated on that 20% you don\u2019t have that you don\u2019t see how lucky you are.<\/p>\n

Espero que agora esteja esclarecido sobre o significado da regra 80\/20 das rela\u00e7\u00f5es. Aposto que agora tudo parece l\u00f3gico e bastante \u00f3bvio.<\/p>\n

The most important thing to remember if you want to make your love life amazing is not to sweat the small stuff. Don\u2019t make problems where there aren\u2019t any. <\/b><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t brush anything under the carpet either, so if that 20 percent contains things that undervalue all the good things, try to solve them. Talk to your partner and ask them to work on something.<\/p>\n

O pior que se pode fazer \u00e9 n\u00e3o comunicar o que se sente, guardar rancores ou acumular insatisfa\u00e7\u00e3o. Ficar em sil\u00eancio nunca resolveu nada.<\/p>\n

Depois de ter lido isto, espero que da pr\u00f3xima vez que se quiser queixar da sua cara-metade, pare um momento para respirar e pensar e a coisa mais \u00f3bvia de que se vai lembrar s\u00e3o os valiosos 80 por cento que recebe todos os dias. <\/b><\/p>\n

The other 20 percent is something you should erase from your memory because all in all, it really isn\u2019t that important.<\/p>\n

Acknowledge the fact that you also give 80 percent that your partner wants and 20 percent they don\u2019t want but accept.<\/p>\n

Isn\u2019t life better when you concentrate on all the good stuff rather than spend your time dwelling on the things that aren\u2019t so important?<\/p>\n

So don\u2019t be petty by giving more value to something as small and insignificant as the 20 percent.<\/p>\n

Enjoy the good days and storm through the bad ones without reflecting too much about them. As I said, don\u2019t create problems where there aren\u2019t any.<\/p>\n

Time flies so quickly and it\u2019s important we seize as many great, breathtaking, sweet moments as we possibly can.<\/p>\n

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