{"id":31310,"date":"2020-03-15T08:17:02","date_gmt":"2020-03-15T08:17:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31310"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:14:27","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:14:27","slug":"5-formas-de-ultrapassar-uma-ligacao-traumatica-e-sair-de-uma-relacao-abusiva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/5-formas-de-ultrapassar-uma-ligacao-traumatica-e-sair-de-uma-relacao-abusiva\/","title":{"rendered":"5 maneiras de superar um v\u00ednculo traum\u00e1tico e deixar um relacionamento abusivo"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o traum\u00e1tica \u00e9 um tipo de din\u00e2mica que \u00e9 carater\u00edstica de <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/licoes-aprendidas-relacao-abusiva\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> rela\u00e7\u00f5es abusivas <\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>It happens when a victim becomes so emotionally tied to their abuser to the point where they can\u2019t seem to find a way to detach from them, even though deep down they know how toxic their partner really is.<\/p>\n<p>Apesar de ser a \u00faltima coisa que se poderia esperar, quando ocorre a liga\u00e7\u00e3o traum\u00e1tica, a v\u00edtima sente um amor intenso, lealdade e devo\u00e7\u00e3o ao seu agressor e deixar esta rela\u00e7\u00e3o e ultrapassar esta liga\u00e7\u00e3o parece uma miss\u00e3o imposs\u00edvel.<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, isso pode ser feito e aqui est\u00e3o 5 maneiras infal\u00edveis de o fazer.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">Identificar o problema<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-80103\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-biting-nails.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste a roer as unhas\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-biting-nails.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-biting-nails-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-biting-nails-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A primeira coisa que tem de fazer se quiser realmente livrar-se do seu agressor e ajudar-se a sarar \u00e9 olhar a verdade diretamente nos olhos e aceitar que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 tudo menos saud\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n<p>Antes de mais, tem de compreender que a sua perce\u00e7\u00e3o do que deve ser o amor n\u00e3o est\u00e1 correcta e que o seu parceiro \u00e9, na verdade, o seu agressor.<\/p>\n<p>Al\u00e9m disso, apenas pensamos que os amamos quando, na realidade, estamos viciados e emocionalmente dependentes deles.<\/p>\n<p>Realizing that you\u2019ve been sharing your life with a toxic person and that this, what the two of you have, is a trauma bond instead of love is quite difficult but once you do so, everything will be easier from that step onwards.<\/p>\n<p>Se tem dificuldade em perceber a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o sem se aperceber disso, tente olhar para ela como algu\u00e9m de fora, pois isso dar-lhe-\u00e1 uma perspetiva mais objetiva das coisas.<\/p>\n<p>Como se sentiria se um dos seus amigos ou familiares fosse tratado da mesma forma que voc\u00ea \u00e9 tratado? O que \u00e9 que lhes diria para fazerem?<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Come\u00e7ar a viver na realidade<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-80104\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-alone.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste sentada no sof\u00e1 sozinha\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-alone.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-alone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-alone-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>In addition to identifying the problem, you also have to stop living in the past or in the potential future if you really wish to get over this trauma bond you\u2019ve got yourself stuck in.<\/p>\n<p>Fa\u00e7a o seu melhor para se concentrar no momento presente e para colocar toda a sua energia em salvar-se da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o atual.<\/p>\n<p>Isto significa deixar de se lembrar de como o seu parceiro o tratava com amor e carinho no in\u00edcio da rela\u00e7\u00e3o e desejar que esses tempos voltem.<\/p>\n<p>Pare de tentar perceber onde tudo correu mal ou de se culpar por n\u00e3o ter feito algumas coisas de forma diferente quando teve oportunidade de o fazer.<\/p>\n<p>Para al\u00e9m disso, tamb\u00e9m tem de deixar de fantasiar sobre o futuro brilhante que tinha planeado nessa cabe\u00e7a ao lado desse homem.<\/p>\n<p>Parar de sonhar como as coisas poderiam ou deveriam ser, se ele agisse um pouco diferente.<\/p>\n<p>Deixar de ter esperan\u00e7a e de esperar <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/o-teu-amor-nao-pode-mudar-um-homem-ate-que-ele-proprio-decida-faze-lo\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">o vosso amor para mudar <\/a> o teu agressor, porque isso nunca vai acontecer.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Reconhecer as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-80105\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-crying.jpg\" alt=\"mulher jovem a chorar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-crying.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-crying-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-crying-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/8-sinais-de-emocoes-reprimidas-formas-de-lidar-com-elas-com-sucesso\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> Reprimir as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es <\/a> and running away from them, no matter how painful they are, won\u2019t get you anywhere.<\/p>\n<p>They won\u2019t magically disappear just because you act like they are not there.<\/p>\n<p>De facto, a \u00fanica coisa que conseguir\u00e1 ao tentar esconder os seus verdadeiros sentimentos \u00e9 que eles se acumulem e sejam mais dif\u00edceis de lidar no futuro.<\/p>\n<p>Besides, you\u2019ll have to face each one of your emotions sooner or later, so why not start now?<\/p>\n<p>Outra coisa importante \u00e9 n\u00e3o permitir que o seu parceiro t\u00f3xico o manipule, levando-o a pensar que est\u00e1 a exagerar ou a exagerar por sentir certas coisas.<\/p>\n<p>No, you are not crazy\u2014he just wants to make you think that so you become easier to control.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Comprometer-se a mudar a si pr\u00f3prio<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-80106\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-meditating-with-closed-eyes.jpg\" alt=\"mulher jovem a meditar de olhos fechados\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-meditating-with-closed-eyes.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-meditating-with-closed-eyes-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-meditating-with-closed-eyes-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Mudar os nossos padr\u00f5es de comportamento e h\u00e1bitos \u00e9 dif\u00edcil para todos e especialmente para as pessoas que se encontram presas num c\u00edrculo intermin\u00e1vel de viol\u00eancia emocional.<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, \u00e9 algo que tem de ser feito e \u00e9 um passo necess\u00e1rio no processo de auto-cura.<\/p>\n<p>Fa\u00e7a uma lista dos seus comportamentos autodestrutivos e prometa a si pr\u00f3prio que vai mudar cada um deles o mais rapidamente poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n<p>For example, you may always find yourself replying to your abuser\u2019s texts or answering his phone calls when he wants to apologize.<\/p>\n<p>Ou tens o h\u00e1bito de ir aos locais onde o poderias ver sempre que ele te persegue.<\/p>\n<p>Estas s\u00e3o algumas das coisas que pode nem sequer ter consci\u00eancia de estar a fazer, mas alguma auto-introspe\u00e7\u00e3o ajud\u00e1-lo-\u00e1 a identificar estes padr\u00f5es de comportamento. Posteriormente, quando conseguir fazer isso, o seu poder de livre arb\u00edtrio ajud\u00e1-lo-\u00e1 a mudar esses padr\u00f5es e, eventualmente, ajud\u00e1-lo-\u00e1 a sair dessa rela\u00e7\u00e3o para sempre.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Obter ajuda<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-80107\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-friends-talking-in-the-living-room.jpg\" alt=\"amigos tristes a conversar na sala de estar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-friends-talking-in-the-living-room.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-friends-talking-in-the-living-room-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-friends-talking-in-the-living-room-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A \u00faltima coisa, mas n\u00e3o menos importante, que deve fazer para superar um trauma e <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/8-coisas-que-acontecem-quando-se-deixa-uma-relacao-abusiva\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> sair de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o abusiva <\/a> \u00e9 procurar ajuda.<\/p>\n<p>Remember\u2014none of these things you\u2019ve experienced is your fault and you have nothing to be ashamed of.<\/p>\n<p>Embora falar com um profissional seja sempre uma boa ideia, pode tamb\u00e9m tentar partilhar os seus problemas com os seus amigos e familiares mais pr\u00f3ximos.<\/p>\n<p>Besides having the opportunity to hear other people\u2019s opinions, which can serve you as a reality check, reaching out to your loved ones will also help you know that you are not alone in all of this.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-80102\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/5-Ways-To-Get-Over-A-Trauma-Bond-And-Leave-An-Abusive-Relationship-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"5 maneiras de superar um v\u00ednculo traum\u00e1tico e deixar um relacionamento abusivo\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/5-Ways-To-Get-Over-A-Trauma-Bond-And-Leave-An-Abusive-Relationship-pinterest.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/5-Ways-To-Get-Over-A-Trauma-Bond-And-Leave-An-Abusive-Relationship-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A trauma bond is a type of dynamic which is characteristic of abusive relationships . It happens when a victim becomes so emotionally tied to their abuser to the point where they can\u2019t seem to find a way to detach from them, even though deep down they know how toxic their partner really is. Even&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":80108,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-31310","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse &amp; trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/5-Ways-To-Get-Over-A-Trauma-Bond-And-Leave-An-Abusive-Relationship.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse &amp; trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse &amp; trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31310","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31310"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31310\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/80108"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31310"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31310"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31310"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}