{"id":31364,"date":"2019-01-15T13:37:11","date_gmt":"2019-01-15T13:37:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31364"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:36:30","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:36:30","slug":"devo-chamar-lhe-uma-visao-brutalmente-honesta-para-o-ajudar-a-decidir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/devo-chamar-lhe-uma-visao-brutalmente-honesta-para-o-ajudar-a-decidir\/","title":{"rendered":"\"Devo ligar-lhe?\" - Uma vis\u00e3o brutalmente honesta para a ajudar a decidir"},"content":{"rendered":"

Aposto que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nenhuma mulher por a\u00ed que n\u00e3o se tenha sentado na cama, confusa e a ponderar se deve ou n\u00e3o ligar-lhe.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s really easy for us to give advice when our friends are in need of some but when it comes to ourselves, we\u2019re helpless.<\/span><\/p>\n

More often than not, I get asked by my girlfriends for advice on this topic, because it\u2019s really easy for me to give the advice I feel is right when it\u2019s not me who\u2019s in question.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mas quando me encontro na mesma situa\u00e7\u00e3o, acabo por ficar completamente sem saber o que fazer, porque n\u00f3s, como mulheres, estamos t\u00e3o habituadas a ser as perseguidas que tomar as coisas nas minhas pr\u00f3prias m\u00e3os e telefonar primeiro parece um pouco carente ou desesperado.<\/b><\/em><\/p>\n

Now, I know that\u2019s not the case, and I am learning to recognize when it\u2019s okay to be the one to make the first move and when to allow a guy to woo me.<\/p>\n

Sure, there have been times when I have mustered up the courage and called, and it sometimes backfired. But honestly, I\u2019m glad. Because this is all a learning experience and how are you supposed to know if you don\u2019t try?<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s truly easier to decide for my girlfriends than it is to decide for myself but I guess that\u2019s just life! We\u2019re always hardest on ourselves.<\/span><\/p>\n

I can\u2019t tell you how many Saturday nights I could\u2019ve spent in a more enjoyable way than by waiting by the phone for him to call and wrecking my head trying to get myself to call him.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

The truth is, good guys are always going to like being called. They know that the ball isn\u2019t always in their court and that girls are just as capable of picking up that phone and calling and why wouldn\u2019t we?<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve tried to recollect all my experiences on this topic and those of my girlfriends and get to the bottom of the whole calling thing. Here\u2019s what I\u2019ve come to realize to be the case!<\/span><\/p>\n

O mais importante \u00e9 seguir sempre o seu instinto.<\/b><\/h2>\n

No fundo, sabe sempre a resposta. O seu instinto tem sempre uma forma de lhe dizer e tudo o que tem de fazer \u00e9 prestar aten\u00e7\u00e3o e segui-lo. Nunca force nada, tem de parecer genu\u00edno e org\u00e2nico.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you feel like the date went well and you got on, then it\u2019s okay to call him. If you feel like he was genuinely interested and had fun, then there\u2019s no reason to question yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

But if the date didn\u2019t go to plan and it wasn\u2019t as comfortable and there was nothing from his side to let you know he was that interested, then it\u2019s probably best not to call.<\/span><\/p>\n

If he really liked you, he\u2019ll call you but if you feel he wasn\u2019t biting, it\u2019s probably best to not be the one texting or calling first. There\u2019s plenty more fish in the sea.<\/span><\/p>\n

If he said he was going to call you, wait, and don\u2019t call him first.<\/b><\/h2>\n

<\/p>\n

I truly stand by this. If a person tells you they are going to call you, believe them, keep your fingers crossed and wait (but don\u2019t wait desperately by the phone all day long).<\/span><\/p>\n

Se ele parece <\/span>ele gosta de si<\/span><\/a> and he openly tells you that he\u2019s going to call, there\u2019s no reason to beat him to it. Give the man a chance to prove himself.<\/span><\/p>\n

Also, this is a good test to see if he is a man of his word or if you\u2019re dealing with a bullshitter. If he calls, that\u2019s awesome, there\u2019s something there but if he doesn\u2019t, you got rid of potential trouble.<\/span><\/p>\n

Se as coisas estiverem a correr bem e sentir uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o, ligue-lhe primeiro.<\/b><\/h2>\n

Gosta do rapaz? Os encontros est\u00e3o a correr bem e sente uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o e um gosto m\u00fatuo? Ent\u00e3o, porque n\u00e3o telefonar primeiro?<\/span><\/p>\n

There is nothing wrong in sometimes being the one to initiate things! It\u2019s one thing if he explicitly said HE would call but if that wasn\u2019t made clear, then by all means, call the guy.<\/span><\/p>\n

He\u2019ll most probably be really pleased when he sees you reaching out first and you\u2019ll set up another date!<\/span><\/p>\n

Por vezes, os homens t\u00eam tanto medo como n\u00f3s! E quando os ajudamos, as coisas normalmente correm pelo melhor. Acredite na liga\u00e7\u00e3o que tem, d\u00ea um empurr\u00e3ozinho a si pr\u00f3pria e ligue ao homem.<\/span><\/p>\n

We live in a modern era where it\u2019s finally totally okay for a woman to be in control.<\/b><\/h2>\n

Even if you haven\u2019t been on a date but you flirt and get all pleasantly awkward around each other, get his number and ask him out. It can be a call or a text, it doesn\u2019t matter.<\/span><\/p>\n

But nowadays, it\u2019s finally okay and not frowned upon for women to take control of things and be in charge of things. Nobody is going to find it weird and it will be pleasantly refreshing.<\/span><\/p>\n

If he likes you, you\u2019ll be so happy with yourself because you\u2019ll probably get yourself a cute, little date and if not, at least you tried, you <\/span>expor-se<\/span><\/a> e deste o teu melhor.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not the end of the world if the guy says no. Everybody deals with rejection all the time, life goes on and so will you!<\/span><\/p>\n

If you feel he\u2019s playing mind games with you, do not call him.<\/b><\/h2>\n

If you two have been hooking up at times and he is never true to his word, don\u2019t call him. If you feel like he\u2019s <\/span>jogos mentais<\/span><\/a> e passa dias sem te contactar, ele que se lixe!<\/span><\/p>\n

That kind of guy is not worth your time. Let him be someone else\u2019s problem.<\/span><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t need anybody who will treat you like a piece of meat when he feels like hooking up but when you want to see him, he goes on a dry spell and is nowhere to be found.<\/span><\/p>\n

If the guy seems a little shy by nature, it\u2019s okay to call first.<\/b><\/h2>\n

<\/p>\n

Not every guy out there is the type they portray in the movies. Some men actually aren\u2019t as macho and straightforward as movies make it seem and as much as they like you, they are a bit apprehensive about reaching out first.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s totally fine to lift some weight off his shoulders and be the one to reach out.<\/span><\/p>\n

He\u2019ll be really glad that you\u2019ve called and it will give him the confidence boost he needs to call you at a later time. Don\u2019t think twice and get yourself that second date.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tens a certeza que ele tem o teu n\u00famero?<\/b><\/h2>\n

Nowadays, we all use social networks so much for all kinds of communication that exchanging phone numbers sometimes doesn\u2019t even cross our mind.<\/span><\/p>\n

We just give out our Facebook or Instagram and expect them to DM us there. So then, don\u2019t wait for an actual call on the phone, because the guy might night actually have your number!<\/span><\/p>\n

In this case, either give him your number or be the one who always opens that line of communication. You can talk on social networks but he\u2019s not the one who can actually call your phone, so don\u2019t hold a grudge, there\u2019s no reason to.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sometimes, the guy just isn\u2019t sure if you like him back.<\/b><\/h2>\n

Mais uma vez, os homens s\u00e3o como n\u00f3s. Precisam de um pequeno empurr\u00e3ozinho de vez em quando na dire\u00e7\u00e3o certa para fazerem a coisa certa.<\/span><\/p>\n

He truly might not be sure if the feelings he has for you are reciprocated so he doesn\u2019t want to make a fool of himself and call, only to be left hanging.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tranquilizem-no! Telefona-lhe primeiro. Diga-lhe que tem mesmo <\/span>como ele<\/span> <\/a>and that you had a nice time and you\u2019re more than open to another date.<\/span><\/p>\n

That way, he\u2019ll be encouraged to call you after the next date and you won\u2019t be the only one in charge of it. Sometimes, it\u2019s really that simple.<\/span><\/p>\n

Parece-lhe bem telefonar-lhe?<\/b><\/h2>\n

S\u00f3 tu sabes verdadeiramente a resposta a esta pergunta. Cabe-lhe a si tomar esta decis\u00e3o em \u00faltima inst\u00e2ncia.<\/span><\/p>\n

Todos n\u00f3s temos as nossas pr\u00f3prias experi\u00eancias no que diz respeito \u00e0 nossa vida amorosa e tudo o que podemos fazer \u00e9 tentar ouvir o que o nosso instinto nos diz!<\/span><\/p>\n

There all these signs you can follow and use as a guideline to make the best decision for yourself but sometimes, things aren\u2019t as black and white as we make them out to be.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sometimes, you just have to be bold and take the leap and deal with the consequences. It\u2019s really not that big of a deal. If after reading this you feel that\u2019s the right thing to do, then call the guy and whatever happens, you did nothing wrong and can only be proud of yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

Do what feels right for you. That is the best piece of advice you can get. Only you knows what that is, so go for it, and remember\u2013no regrets.<\/span><\/p>\n

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I bet there\u2019s not a woman out there who hasn\u2019t sat on her bed, confused and pondering whether or not she should call him. It\u2019s really easy for us to give advice when our friends are in need of some but when it comes to ourselves, we\u2019re helpless. More often than not, I get asked…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":31365,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29648],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-31364","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-tips"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29648,"label":"dating tips"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/mack-fox-musicfox-700658-unsplash-3.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29648,"name":"dating tips","slug":"dating-tips","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29648,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn to date like a pro and avoid making some of the biggest mistakes in texting, flirting, winning a man's heart, and commitment. ","parent":29643,"count":442,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29648,"category_count":442,"category_description":"Learn to date like a pro and avoid making some of the biggest mistakes in texting, flirting, winning a man's heart, and commitment. ","cat_name":"dating tips","category_nicename":"dating-tips","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31364","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31364"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31364\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/31365"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31364"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31364"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31364"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}