{"id":31552,"date":"2020-04-21T11:55:47","date_gmt":"2020-04-21T11:55:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31552"},"modified":"2022-02-27T13:55:21","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T13:55:21","slug":"uma-carta-aberta-ao-meu-ex-obrigado-por-me-ter-traido","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/uma-carta-aberta-ao-meu-ex-obrigado-por-me-ter-traido\/","title":{"rendered":"Uma carta aberta ao meu ex: Obrigado por me teres tra\u00eddo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Apesar de, infelizmente, a trai\u00e7\u00e3o se ter tornado comum nos encontros modernos, ser tra\u00eddo pela pessoa amada continua a ser uma das coisas mais devastadoras que algu\u00e9m pode experimentar.<\/p>\n

Eu devia saber, porque senti-o na minha pele.<\/p>\n

Quando tu, que eu pensava ser o amor da minha vida <\/a>Quando o meu pai me traiu, senti-me tra\u00edda, humilhada e desiludida, para al\u00e9m de ter ficado de cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido.<\/p>\n

I felt like the person I trusted the most backstabbed me in the most awful way. Also, I couldn\u2019t help but wonder how come I didn\u2019t see it before.<\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que eu fui t\u00e3o tola ao permitir que uma coisa destas continuasse a acontecer mesmo \u00e0 frente dos meus olhos, sem que eu me apercebesse de nada?<\/p>\n

Sem mais nem menos, o meu sentido de autoestima desapareceu de um dia para o outro.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I asked myself what you missed in our relationship that you had to search for in someone else. What did this girl have that I didn\u2019t?<\/p>\n

Every single one of these thoughts and questions ran through my head the moment I found out that you weren\u2019t faithful.<\/p>\n

Even though staying by your side was never an option, leaving you didn\u2019t ease my pain.<\/p>\n

Sentia-me como se quisesse morrer e como se nada nem ningu\u00e9m pudesse ajudar-me a sentir-me melhor. Como se fosse o fim do mundo e como se eu nunca fosse recuperar de tudo o que me fizeste.<\/p>\n

Perguntei a mim pr\u00f3prio como \u00e9 que podia ter desperdi\u00e7ado tantos anos da minha vida a viver numa mentira. <\/b><\/p>\n

Obviously, you never loved nor respected me the way you should have because you don\u2019t do a thing like this to someone you love.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Eu compreenderia se fosses suficientemente honesto para me dizeres que deixaste de gostar de mim.<\/p>\n

Mas o que nunca consegui compreender e perdoar foi a viola\u00e7\u00e3o da minha confian\u00e7a e o facto de me ter mantido como plano de reserva enquanto tinha um caso e me convencia de que me amava acima de tudo.<\/p>\n

After some time spent grieving, I\u2019ve decided it is time to recompor-me<\/a> de uma forma ou de outra.<\/p>\n

Afinal, estava algures por a\u00ed a viver a sua vida, como se nada tivesse acontecido, e aqui estava eu, agarrado a esta dor e a permitir que o meu desgosto me definisse.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve decided that I wasn\u2019t to blame for everything that went on and that you are the only one responsible for your batota <\/a>.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Uma carta para o meu ex-noivo<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Eu sabia que tinha feito o meu melhor para que a nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o funcionasse e, se havia alguma coisa que te incomodava, devias ter dito a verdade em vez de andares a brincar nas minhas costas.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve decided that hating the girl you had an affair with was pointless, as well.<\/p>\n

Yes, my first instinct was to blame her for everything, but then it hit me\u2014she wasn\u2019t the one who promised commitment to me.<\/b><\/p>\n

She wasn\u2019t the one who would lay in bed next to me every night as if everything was alright, the one who continued to make future plans with me, knowing what was happening, and the one who kept on swearing that she loved me, even though the truth was completely different.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, despite all of this, I learned that I shouldn\u2019t be hating you either. I\u2019ve realized that holding grudges and being bitter was only impacting me negatively.<\/p>\n

My desire for revenge was only making me a prisoner of my own pain, and it didn\u2019t affect you in any way whatsoever.<\/p>\n

So, this is not me cursing you or wishing you all the worst. This is not me resenting you or swearing that I\u2019ll never forgive you for everything you\u2019ve done.<\/p>\n

No, this is me thanking you. Yes, you\u2019ve heard it right: I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for cheating on me. <\/b><\/p>\n

Because if you hadn\u2019t done it, I wouldn\u2019t be the person I am today. I wouldn\u2019t know how strong of a woman I am, and I wouldn\u2019t know how much I could take.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t know that a simple heartbreak can\u2019t break me completely. That time really does heal all wounds and that every pain is temporary, no matter how devastating it might feel.<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t know that I could make it without you or without anyone else to hold my hand. If you hadn\u2019t cheated on me, I wouldn\u2019t have become my own hero and savior.<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t understand some verdades reveladoras sobre o amor <\/a> e as pessoas em geral.<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t know that there are some insensitive and toxic people, such as yourself, who don\u2019t give a damn about hurting others and that my love can\u2019t change those people, as much as I would like it to.<\/p>\n

Mais importante ainda, if you hadn\u2019t cheated on me, I wouldn\u2019t have loved and respected myself the way I do now.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t know how much I deserve, what love isn\u2019t or what to expect from a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t be this proud of my strength and my capacity to overcome all miseries.<\/b><\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t have known better than not to let people who don\u2019t deserve me into my life, and I would continue thinking that there is nothing wrong with settling for less.<\/b><\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, obrigado por me partires o cora\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>. Thank you for cheating on me because if you hadn\u2019t done it, I would have never learned a valuable life lesson.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Uma<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Even though cheating has sadly become common in modern dating, being cheated on by your loved one is still one of the most devastating things anyone could experience. I should know because I felt it on my skin. When you, whom I thought was the love of my life , cheated on me, I felt…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":41,"featured_media":75306,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29653],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-31552","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-letters"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29653,"label":"letters"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/An-Open-Letter-To-My-Ex-Thank-You-For-Cheating-On-Me.jpg",800,532,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Martha Sullivan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/martha-sullivan\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29653,"name":"letters","slug":"letters","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29653,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. ","parent":29651,"count":207,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29653,"category_count":207,"category_description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. ","cat_name":"letters","category_nicename":"letters","category_parent":29651}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31552","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/41"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31552"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31552\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/75306"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31552"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31552"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31552"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}