{"id":31705,"date":"2020-06-23T10:26:07","date_gmt":"2020-06-23T10:26:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31705"},"modified":"2022-08-12T08:05:10","modified_gmt":"2022-08-12T08:05:10","slug":"razoes-surpreendentes-pelas-quais-voltamos-para-as-pessoas-que-nos-magoaram","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/razoes-surpreendentes-pelas-quais-voltamos-para-as-pessoas-que-nos-magoaram\/","title":{"rendered":"Raz\u00f5es surpreendentes pelas quais voltamos para as pessoas que nos magoam"},"content":{"rendered":"

As pessoas s\u00e3o criaturas de h\u00e1bitos e, quando criam uma rotina para si pr\u00f3prias e se mant\u00eam fi\u00e9is a ela durante muito tempo, torna-se muito dif\u00edcil sair dela.<\/p>\n

Por mais retorcido que pare\u00e7a, ser numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica<\/span><\/a> where things are always a certain way and which allows you to know the endgame is a source of comfort and security for some people, and they just aren\u2019t ready to break out of it.<\/p>\n

Algumas pessoas sentem-se extremamente atra\u00eddas por algo que lhes \u00e9 familiar, com um risco m\u00ednimo envolvido, e devido a essa sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de familiaridade, acabam por se encontrar num ciclo intermin\u00e1vel de dor e m\u00e1goa.<\/b><\/p>\n

Everyone\u2019s pain stems from somewhere, be that from a traumatic childhood experience, a bad relationship that is haunting them to this day or any kind of abuse.<\/p>\n

E como essa dor \u00e9 tudo o que conhecem e tudo o que foram ensinados a aceitar, encontram conforto na instabilidade que o seu parceiro t\u00f3xico lhes proporciona.<\/p>\n

Quando a dor \u00e9 tudo o que se pensa merecer, \u00e9 dif\u00edcil procurar qualquer outro tipo de tratamento.<\/p>\n

\"mulher Um outro exemplo \u00e9 a depend\u00eancia cega de uma pessoa que sabemos que n\u00e3o \u00e9 boa para n\u00f3s.<\/b><\/p>\n

It is way too easy to get lost in a relationship when we are blinded by \u2018\u2019love\u2019\u2019 that is merely an unhealthy addiction to the wrong person.<\/p>\n

In order to justify going back, we tell ourselves: \u2018\u2019Maybe this time he\u2019s really going to change\u2019\u2019 or \u2018\u2019It was me who made him react that way\u2019\u2019, so we would feel less shameful for not being able to say \u2018\u2019No\u2019\u2019 when it\u2019s the only right thing left to do.<\/p>\n

Uma amiga partilhou recentemente comigo que decidiu aceitar o seu ex de volta depois de ter sido magoada in\u00fameras vezes por ele, porque se convenceu de que ele precisava de compensar todas as vezes que a tinha maltratado.<\/p>\n

As pessoas dizem a si pr\u00f3prias tudo o que precisam de ouvir e inventam as raz\u00f5es mais estranhas e perturbadoras para voltarem para aqueles que as magoaram, porque precisam de acreditar que est\u00e3o a fazer a coisa certa<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

Outra raz\u00e3o porque \u00e9 que as pessoas voltam para os seus parceiros t\u00f3xicos<\/a> is because it\u2019s easier than opening up to someone new and making yourself vulnerable for new potential heartbreak.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Being in a long-term relationship and investing so much of your soul, energy and time into this one person is a lot to give up, so it\u2019s easier for some people to go back over and over again, hoping it will be better, than to start something brand new.<\/p>\n

Voltar a expor-se \u00e9 assustador, intimidante e arriscado, pois est\u00e1 a abrir-se a novas possibilidades de acabar magoado e desiludido.<\/p>\n

Depois de nos permitirmos ser vulner\u00e1veis em frente de algu\u00e9m e, portanto, de o tornarmos o nosso porto seguro, \u00e9 dif\u00edcil torn\u00e1-lo inseguro.<\/b><\/p>\n

They are what\u2019s familiar to you, and they know you best. And after distancing yourself for a little while, you romanticize what you had and make it seem better in your head than it actually was, which justifies going back to that endless cycle of pain.<\/p>\n

Voltar para pessoas que nos magoaram est\u00e1 muitas vezes ligado a problemas de autoestima. Tentar sair de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o doentia e depois ceder e reaviv\u00e1-la pela bilion\u00e9sima vez contribui para sentimentos de inutilidade.<\/a><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Esses sentimentos fazem-nos acreditar que n\u00e3o somos dignos de amor e que o tratamento que estamos a receber \u00e9 o tratamento que merecemos.<\/p>\n

A ideia de algu\u00e9m n\u00e3o se sentir como tal suficientemente bom<\/span><\/a> ou mesmo digno de um amor verdadeiro, gentil e genu\u00edno \u00e9 de partir o cora\u00e7\u00e3o e prova a facilidade com que todos n\u00f3s podemos ser manipulados para termos uma imagem errada de n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios.<\/p>\n

Acreditar que essa m\u00e1goa a que voltamos \u00e9 a extens\u00e3o do que merecemos \u00e9 errado a muitos n\u00edveis, pois \u00e9 apenas uma t\u00e1tica usada para nos fazer voltar \u00e0 dor e \u00e0 neglig\u00eancia.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t need validation from anyone that you are worthy of love. When he tells you he\u2019s the best you\u2019ll ever have, know that he is wrong! When he manipulates you into coming back, be brave to say \u2018\u2019No\u2019\u2019 and walk away from his web of deceit.<\/p>\n

Tu \u00e9s linda, forte, gentil e merecedora do melhor tipo de amor que existe. Sair nunca \u00e9 f\u00e1cil, mas h\u00e1 sempre esperan\u00e7a quando se decide que j\u00e1 chega.<\/b><\/p>\n

It\u2019s never too late to walk away from pain and decide to find someone who loves you and makes you feel safe. We are all deserving of love, and you are no exception.<\/p>\n

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