{"id":31783,"date":"2019-01-24T11:02:22","date_gmt":"2019-01-24T11:02:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31783"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:28:51","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:28:51","slug":"leia-isto-se-acha-que-a-relacao-acabou-por-sua-causa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/leia-isto-se-acha-que-a-relacao-acabou-por-sua-causa\/","title":{"rendered":"Se achas que a tua rela\u00e7\u00e3o acabou por tua causa, l\u00ea isto"},"content":{"rendered":"

As separa\u00e7\u00f5es nunca s\u00e3o f\u00e1ceis, mas quando sabemos que o outro lado \u00e9 o culpado e que, apesar do que sentimos, sabemos que estamos melhor sem ele, isso acalma-nos a mente. <\/span><\/p>\n

But, when we know we are the ones to blame, it\u2019s a whole different story. Our wounds and pain are deepened by the feeling of guilt that consumes us. <\/span><\/p>\n

Para mim, a parte mais dif\u00edcil foi aceitar que a culpa do fim de tudo era minha. Fui eu que fiz asneira. Fui eu que fui <\/span>demasiado pegajoso<\/span><\/a> e demasiado ciumento, e basicamente sufoquei a nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/span><\/p>\n

Esta confus\u00e3o na minha cabe\u00e7a magoou-nos aos dois. <\/b><\/p>\n

Demorei muito tempo a aceitar o facto de que tinha acabado para sempre e que, em grande parte, isso se devia a mim. Mas seja qual for a raz\u00e3o da sua separa\u00e7\u00e3o, saiba tamb\u00e9m que s\u00e3o precisos dois para manter uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o, assim como s\u00e3o precisos dois para a estragar.<\/span><\/p>\n

When it comes to love wrecks, nothing is ever black or white. And I am not saying that to justify myself or anyone else in a similar situation. It\u2019s just the reality of things. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tenho plena consci\u00eancia de onde errei e paguei por isso com l\u00e1grimas, um cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido e noites sem dormir. Mas tamb\u00e9m aprendi muito. Toda esta experi\u00eancia fez-me crescer como pessoa. <\/span><\/p>\n

You see, time gives you clarity, and once I took a step back, I realized that there was a reason I unconsciously sabotaged my relationship: it wasn\u2019t going to last anyway, and I just kept on fooling myself. <\/span><\/p>\n

I wasn\u2019t ready for the relationship I was in because I came into it carrying baggage from my last relationship. I was filled with trust issues and insecurities, and I just couldn\u2019t shake them off so easily. <\/b><\/p>\n

On the other hand, he couldn\u2019t understand me. He couldn\u2019t understand what I had gone through and why I behaved the way I did. I don\u2019t blame him for that, though. It wasn\u2019t his job to heal me and make me happy. That was always in my hands. I just didn’t realize that at the time. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s why I am trying to do that now. I am rebuilding my life brick by brick. I am learning to love myself. I am learning to depend on myself. \u00a0I am learning to forgive myself. <\/span><\/p>\n

I kept on wishing to turn back time and do everything differently. Sadly, that can\u2019t be done. That\u2019s why I did the only thing that was left for me to do. I made peace with the situation. I accepted that the damage can\u2019t be undone.<\/span><\/p>\n

Still, I wanted him to know that I am sorry. I wanted him to know that I know now what I didn\u2019t know back then and that my intention wasn\u2019t to hurt him. It was good to get that off my chest. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t wait too long to say you are sorry. It won\u2019t fix anything, but it will benefit you, and it will let other people know that you care for their feelings. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be too hard on yourself. We all screw up from time to time. We are only human, and mistakes are the ones that make us grow. Learn from them; don\u2019t be their prisoner. <\/b><\/p>\n

No fim, tudo vai ficar bem, juro. S\u00f3 tens de ver o lado positivo por baixo de todas essas nuvens negras que est\u00e3o por cima de ti.<\/span><\/p>\n

Seja o que for que tenhas feito, perdoa-te a ti pr\u00f3prio. D\u00ea a si pr\u00f3prio a oportunidade de corrigir o que fez. Crie uma vida de que se orgulhe. <\/span>Trabalhar em si pr\u00f3prio<\/span><\/a>, by yourself for yourself, and make sure you don\u2019t make the same mistakes next time around.<\/span><\/p>\n

And there will be a next time; don\u2019t doubt that for a second. So start the work immediately and be the best version of yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Leia<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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