{"id":3179,"date":"2020-08-03T08:57:20","date_gmt":"2020-08-03T08:57:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=3179"},"modified":"2022-03-17T01:33:57","modified_gmt":"2022-03-17T01:33:57","slug":"foi-assim-que-casei-com-o-meu-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/foi-assim-que-casei-com-o-meu-ex\/","title":{"rendered":"Foi assim que casei com o meu ex"},"content":{"rendered":"

Decidi telefonar ao meu ex depois de tr\u00eas anos de sil\u00eancio.<\/b> Achei que era a altura certa para nos dar o encerramento adequado que nunca tivemos.<\/p>\n

Separ\u00e1mo-nos de uma forma estranha e nunca conseguimos seguir em frente. Durante tr\u00eas anos, n\u00e3o sa\u00ed com mais ningu\u00e9m. Ele teve rela\u00e7\u00f5es que recusou-se a rotular<\/a> porque ele usava aquelas raparigas para descarregar a tens\u00e3o e acalmar a raiva que tinha depois de termos acabado.<\/p>\n

Until he found a girl that made him forget about me\u2014or that\u2019s what I thought at first.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t even have his number<\/b>Pedi ao nosso amigo comum que me desse o n\u00famero dele. Queria ligar-lhe e falar sobre o que t\u00ednhamos tido.<\/p>\n

I wanted him to tell me why was he angry all the time and why couldn\u2019t we manage to work it out.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, liguei e ele deixou tocar. <\/b>That night he didn\u2019t pick up and I broke into million pieces. I thought he\u2019d be happy to hear from me\u2014the emotions should be cooling off by now.<\/p>\n

My phone call wasn\u2019t answered and I went to sleep beating myself up for thinking I meant something to him. I was hurt.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

My heart was broken one more time and my ego\u2026 well, my ego was devastated. I thought I\u2019d feel better if I\u2019d just sleep it off.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m:<\/strong> Obrigado por n\u00e3o atender o telefone quando eu liguei<\/a><\/p>\n

Na manh\u00e3 seguinte, os meus sentimentos eram os mesmos da noite anterior. Odiava-me por ter telefonado. <\/b><\/p>\n

I hated myself for thinking he\u2019d still smile upon seeing my name on the screen of his phone. Well, he was, but it turned out that I called at the wrong moment. <\/b><\/p>\n

His fiance had his phone and she didn\u2019t appreciate my call. That\u2019s why it was left unanswered. <\/b><\/p>\n

The moment he got a chance he wrote me a message. I felt he was mad but happy at the same time. That\u2019s what we did to each other.<\/p>\n

He was happy to see my name on the screen of his phone, but he was so mad to see it only after three years. I had no explanation for that\u2014although, it\u2019s not like my phone died from his missed calls.<\/p>\n

\"Jovem<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Quando o seu maior amor se casa com o seu maior amor<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

It was the most awkward talk I had until it wasn\u2019t anymore.<\/b> Assim que a raiva se desvaneceu, entraram as emo\u00e7\u00f5es felizes. E Deus, era t\u00e3o bom lembrarmo-nos do que t\u00ednhamos.<\/p>\n

Fal\u00e1mos durante quase uma hora at\u00e9 que ele decidiu fazer 112 quil\u00f3metros para me ver. <\/b>It was already night. I\u2019d be lying if I said that I had seen this coming, but I\u2019d be lying as well if I said I was surprised.<\/p>\n

Costum\u00e1vamos fazer coisas loucas como essa um pelo outro. N\u00e3o havia maneira de o convencer a n\u00e3o o fazer, por isso fui na onda.<\/p>\n

At first I couldn\u2019t believe he drove all that distance just to see me<\/b>. At some point, I thought he was just playing me. But he wasn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Nunca fomos n\u00f3s. Eu estava t\u00e3o nervosa, apesar de ter feito o meu melhor para estar o mais bonita poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

We both knew there wouldn’t be anything but the talk happening that night and yet, I had the need to look the best I could. I still don\u2019t know if it was for me or for him.<\/p>\n

\"Uma<\/p>\n

No momento em que o vi, o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o parou.<\/b> I couldn’t believe it was him before my eyes. It was so real and I just wasn’t ready for it.<\/p>\n

Eu estava pronto e tive a coragem de lhe telefonar para falar ao telefone, mas ele teve a coragem de aparecer pessoalmente. Ele estava t\u00e3o bem como sempre.<\/p>\n

It didn’t surprise me at all\u2014what is your ex going to do after a breakup other than get better looking.<\/p>\n

O meu primeiro instinto foi abra\u00e7\u00e1-lo e abra\u00e7\u00e1mo-nos. Foi um abra\u00e7o longo. Foi um abra\u00e7o de duas pessoas que sentiam uma falta louca uma da outra. <\/b><\/p>\n

He had the same smile he always had when he saw me. Nothing had really changed. I didn’t think it would have anyways.<\/b><\/p>\n

I sat in the car and he drove us to the coffee shop out of the town. It was on top of a mountain\u2014far away from anything that could cause our attention to wander from each other.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

It was just me and him, and that’s what we needed that night. I sat next to him because I knew he was here with me\u2014so why sit across the table?<\/p>\n

Come\u00e7\u00e1mos a falar. Era como se tiv\u00e9ssemos feridas com tr\u00eas anos de idade, como se nunca tiv\u00e9ssemos acabado.<\/p>\n

Era t\u00e3o real como se tiv\u00e9ssemos viajou no tempo<\/a> but something in the back of my mind was telling me it wasn’t real.<\/p>\n

We talked for hours. I didn’t look at my watch\u2014not once. The time was irrelevant. It felt so good to sit next to him to talk and talk. <\/b><\/p>\n

S\u00f3 para ficar ali a pensar no que teria acontecido se eu fosse um pouco menos eu e ele um pouco menos ele. <\/b><\/p>\n

Disse-me como eu o tinha magoado. Disse-me que eu lhe tinha partido o cora\u00e7\u00e3o ao escolher toda a gente em vez dele.<\/p>\n

He told me he hasn\u2019t been able to sleep peacefully all these years and that each time when he’d close his eyes, he’d see me.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

He said that he found a girl that respects him and makes him feel he’s at home. He said he’s not mad at me anymore.<\/b><\/p>\n

He also said that he understands why I did the things I did. He knows things can’t change between us and things are really just too different at this point in our lives. He pointed out that he’s happy I called and he can’t believe his eyes.<\/p>\n

Ele nunca pensou em ver-nos sentados ao lado um do outro desta forma. <\/b>And then he pulled me closer and hugged me. I said I’m sorry for everything.<\/p>\n

I said how I’d punished myself and told myself not to have anybody else next to me because of the things I did to him.<\/p>\n

I thought I don’t deserve love and I don’t want to leave broken people behind me. I figured it out that I can’t love because that’s not what I was taught in life.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

He said he’ll never love anybody the way he loved me and he loves me now\u2014no matter how much time passes, no matter what distance and how many miles are between us. <\/b><\/p>\n

Continuarei a estar no seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o e a ser a sua pessoa preferida neste mundo. Ele sempre foi bom a amar-me<\/b>.<\/p>\n

Escolhia sempre as palavras certas mas, por vezes, optava por me castigar e deitar-me abaixo s\u00f3 para se sentir melhor.<\/p>\n

Eu precisava de provar a ele e a toda a gente que I’m strong and that I’m independent.<\/a> Depois, apercebemo-nos que nos am\u00e1vamos numa altura errada.<\/p>\n

I couldn’t say I loved him even though I did\u2014even though I do. I couldn’t do it because I’m still as broken as I was before.<\/p>\n

I didn’t do it because I knew nothing would change by saying those words out loud.  So, I just smiled. I smiled because I didn’t want to ruin what he had with another girl.<\/p>\n

I smiled because I knew if I said I loved him, he would try and give us another chance\u2014and we\u2019d blow that chance as well.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

He asked me if I\u2019d marry him. He said he\u2019d leave everything in a second and run away with me. <\/b><\/p>\n

He\u2019d forget every single person in his life if I decided to stay with him. But I couldn\u2019t do it\u2014the same as I couldn\u2019t kiss him. I know I\u2019ll be sorry years from now since I\u2019m sorry already.<\/p>\n

But the girl he was with didn\u2019t deserve any of this. He didn\u2019t deserve to tie the rest of his life to a toxic person such as me.<\/p>\n

Where I grew up, the phrase \u2018I married someone\u2019 has a double meaning. One is that I am the person that got married and the second one is that I made it possible for somebody to get married. <\/b><\/p>\n

No, I wasn\u2019t the one to get married.<\/b> I wasn\u2019t the one to wear white today. It was his fiancee. By saying \u2018no\u2019 to him, I made it possible for her to say \u2018yes\u2019 to him today. That\u2019s how I married my ex.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry for not giving you a happy-ending. I\u2019m just not that type of a person.<\/p>\n

\"Foi<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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