{"id":31986,"date":"2020-01-23T08:30:10","date_gmt":"2020-01-23T08:30:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31986"},"modified":"2022-02-27T14:07:02","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T14:07:02","slug":"6-coisas-que-aconteceram-quando-deixei-a-minha-quase-relacao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/6-coisas-que-aconteceram-quando-deixei-a-minha-quase-relacao\/","title":{"rendered":"6 coisas que aconteceram quando deixei a minha quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando se est\u00e1 numa quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o, n\u00e3o se faz as coisas pela metade. Quer conter-se, mas investe inteiramente.<\/p>\n

Partilham todos os vossos pensamentos e sonhos. Riem a plenos pulm\u00f5es. Beijam-se o mais intensamente poss\u00edvel porque nunca se sabe qual desses beijos ser\u00e1 o \u00faltimo.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t half love, even though you maybe would if you could. You are verdadeiramente, loucamente, profundamente apaixonado<\/a> na tua quase pessoa, e n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada que possas fazer para te deteres.<\/p>\n

At least I couldn\u2019t. No matter how many times I said to myself that what I had with him was going nowhere, that I shouldn\u2019t let him in, and that he was just going to hurt me, I allowed things to evolve.<\/p>\n

Por um breve mas longo momento, senti que era a pessoa mais especial para ele. Senti que era importante e que n\u00e3o havia ningu\u00e9m neste mundo que me pudesse fazer sentir como ele.<\/p>\n

I didn’t imagine things. I didn\u2019t misinterpret the signs. They were all there.<\/p>\n

He really liked me. He was really drawn to me. He really cared, but sadly, he didn\u2019t care as much as I did.<\/p>\n

He never cared enough to bridge the distance from \u2018almost\u2019 to \u2018real\u2019.<\/p>\n

So I used to live my life in the grey area of \u2018maybe\u2019. Maybe he will be ready for a relationship someday.<\/p>\n

Talvez ele me apresente aos seus amigos e familiares. Talvez ele me trate como se eu fosse importante para ele. Talvez ele se torne o homem que eu mere\u00e7o. Talvez n\u00e3o haja espa\u00e7o para \"talvez\".<\/p>\n

A lista de \"talvez\" continuava a acumular-se, mas nunca era suficiente para colmatar todo o vazio dentro de mim, que se tornava cada vez maior com a minha insatisfa\u00e7\u00e3o com toda a situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know at which point my patience ceased to exist. I don\u2019t know what was the last drop that filled the cup and made me see that enough was enough, but I just knew I had to end it because with him, I would never have it all. I would never be truly happy.<\/p>\n

Acabou por ser a melhor decis\u00e3o que alguma vez tomei, e isto foi o que aconteceu quando Deixei<\/a> a minha quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o:<\/p>\n

1. Parti o meu pr\u00f3prio cora\u00e7\u00e3o ao deix\u00e1-lo, mas tinha de ser feito<\/h2>\n

Foi provavelmente uma das coisas mais dif\u00edceis que alguma vez fiz. Eu ainda estava interessada nele.<\/p>\n

I still loved him. I still cared. But I couldn\u2019t take it anymore.<\/p>\n

Era altura de retomar o controlo da minha vida. Era altura de me lembrar do que merecia e esquecer o que sentia.<\/p>\n

2. Percebi que tamb\u00e9m me amo a mim pr\u00f3prio<\/h2>\n

Apercebi-me que merecia ser amada da mesma forma que o amava. Merecia a mesma compreens\u00e3o e os mesmos investimentos que lhe costumava dar.<\/p>\n

Eu merecia mais do que quase. Merecia algu\u00e9m que estivesse pronto para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o ou, pelo menos, algu\u00e9m que estivesse pronto para mim.<\/p>\n

Ele teve muito tempo para chegar a esse ponto, talvez at\u00e9 demasiado. Cansei-me de esperar.<\/p>\n

3. O meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o precisava de muito tempo para sarar<\/h2>\n

All the emotions were real, and this isn\u2019t something you can turn your back on that easily. Even when he was no longer a part of my life, I still wanted to know where he was and what he was up to.<\/p>\n

Demorei muito tempo a deixar de o perseguir nas redes sociais e de fazer perguntas sobre ele. Demorei muito tempo a perder o h\u00e1bito de pensar nele.<\/p>\n

Tive de passar pelo que qualquer pessoa passa ap\u00f3s a separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

E adivinha? Eu sobrevivi. Fiz mais do que isso. Comecei a viver realmente a minha vida, para variar.<\/p>\n

4. Eu vi o lado positivo<\/h2>\n

There were no more sleepless nights which I spend thinking about where he was at and with whom. Were all his female friends just friends or were they like me…more than a friend less than a girlfriend?<\/p>\n

The tears I spilled while I was still with him used to hurt more. It was devastatingly painful to have someone close and not to have him entirely at the same time. It\u2019s the loneliest feeling in the world.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o havia mais \"talvez\". Deixei de pensar em coisas que poderiam ser, e concentrei-me no aqui e agora. Decidi reconstruir a minha vida, tijolo a tijolo.<\/p>\n

5. I discovered a part of me that I didn\u2019t even know was there<\/h2>\n

I had to do something to move on with my life. That\u2019s why I stopped feeling sorry for myself and everything that could’ve been but wasn\u2019t and started acting.<\/p>\n

Experimentei coisas novas. Envolvi-me em novas aventuras. Aprendi coisas novas e esforcei-me por melhorar a minha vida.<\/p>\n

Sometimes I failed. sometimes I triumphed, but I tried, and that\u2019s what\u2019s important.<\/p>\n

Tornei a minha vida mais interessante. Conheci novas pessoas e ganhei uma nova perspetiva de vida.<\/p>\n

6. Descobri o que quero e com o que n\u00e3o me devo contentar<\/h2>\n

I know now that I want a relationship. I don\u2019t need one, and as sure as hell I don\u2019t need an almost relationship to be happy and complete.<\/p>\n

I was more miserable in my almost relationship than I could ever be on my own. That\u2019s why I will never settle for that again.<\/p>\n

At\u00e9 que apare\u00e7a algu\u00e9m que esteja pronto para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o e que goste tanto de mim como eu gosto dele, vou ficar solteiro e aproveitar ao m\u00e1ximo.<\/p>\n

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