{"id":32066,"date":"2019-01-31T13:49:31","date_gmt":"2019-01-31T13:49:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=32066"},"modified":"2022-08-12T08:05:42","modified_gmt":"2022-08-12T08:05:42","slug":"7-fases-de-cura-apos-abuso-verbal-toxico","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/7-fases-de-cura-apos-abuso-verbal-toxico\/","title":{"rendered":"7 fases de cura ap\u00f3s abuso verbal t\u00f3xico"},"content":{"rendered":"

Verbal abuse is the fastest way to diminish and finally destroy someone\u2019s self-esteem. The mind games and the control consumes your life completely, and after some time, your life loses every inch of beauty it had.<\/p>\n

Depois de ter sido emocionalmente e abusado verbalmente<\/span><\/a>, darkness descends over you. You begin to see abuse even though abuse is not present because it\u2019s the kind of life you\u2019ve gotten used to by now.<\/p>\n

Os medos tomam conta de n\u00f3s e entramos em modo de prote\u00e7\u00e3o, construindo muros muito altos \u00e0 nossa volta. Tudo isto por causa de uma pessoa pobre e insegura que tinha de o fazer sentir-se mal, para poder ter um sentimento de superioridade.<\/p>\n

The truth is, in almost all cases of verbal and emotional abuse, the victim is so much better than the abuser in every sense possible. That\u2019s the main reason why the victim is abused in the first place.<\/p>\n

A verbal abuser is capable of making you feel like you\u2019re losing your mind, and any sense of stability is gone.<\/b><\/p>\n

Antes de entrar em modo de cura, you have to admit to yourself that the person you\u2019re living with or dating is an abuser.<\/b><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be ashamed of that. Don\u2019t blame yourself because there is nothing you could have done to prevent it, and there is no way you could have known he is that kind of a person.<\/p>\n

You have to come to peace with the fact you\u2019ve been abused. I know those issues and the trauma you\u2019ve been through seems unbearable, but believe me, it\u2019s not.<\/p>\n

Now, you think you\u2019re never going to recover. You think you\u2019re going to stay damaged for the rest of your life. But, that is not true. That\u2019s just the reflection of the state you\u2019re currently in.<\/p>\n

Mas acreditem em mim, isto tamb\u00e9m h\u00e1-de passar.<\/b><\/p>\n

Como sarar depois de ter sido emocional e verbalmente abusado: <\/b><\/p>\n

1. Don\u2019t believe the lie<\/h2>\n

Whatever a toxic person tells you is a lie. Don\u2019t believe those words because they are only said to hurt you. That is their primary goal – to make sente-se in\u00fatil.<\/a> Porque as pessoas sem autoestima s\u00e3o pessoas mais f\u00e1ceis de controlar.<\/p>\n

Mas ningu\u00e9m \u00e9 feito de pedra e at\u00e9 as palavras de um completo estranho podem entrar no nosso cora\u00e7\u00e3o e fingir que s\u00e3o verdadeiras.<\/p>\n

You have to fight against those lies, actively choosing which words you\u2019ll take to your heart and which you\u2019ll turn your back on.<\/p>\n

2. Pedir apoio e amor<\/h2>\n

After you\u2019ve been emotionally and verbally abused, you need huge amounts of love. You need someone to hold you or listen to you. You need reassurance – someone who will tell you everything will be alright.<\/p>\n

If you don’t ask for it, no one will give you what you want. People can\u2019t read minds, and sometimes when you\u2019re hurt, others might not recognize it immediately.<\/p>\n

Por isso, pede ajuda. Pe\u00e7a amor quando precisar, e a pessoa certa reconhecer\u00e1 o seu pedido de ajuda.<\/p>\n

3. Start believing that you\u2019re good enough<\/h2>\n

Fa\u00e7a o que for necess\u00e1rio para esquecer a rela\u00e7\u00e3o em que esteve e trabalhe para recuperar a sua autoestima. Fique sozinho. Chore mil l\u00e1grimas. Grite, grite, ou v\u00e1 para o meio das pessoas e passeie. Faz o que te parecer melhor no momento.<\/p>\n

We are all different from each other, and we don\u2019t work in the same ways. Some of us need loneliness; some of us need company. Whatever you need, take it, and bring back your self-esteem because you\u2019re good enough.<\/p>\n

4. Perdoe-se a si pr\u00f3prio<\/h2>\n

Forgiveness is hard, and when you need to forgive yourself, it\u2019s even harder. You have to come to terms with the fact that the person you trusted betrayed you and led you astray. It\u2019s hard enough to imagine that happening to you, let alone accept it truly did.<\/p>\n

The betrayed person becomes guarded and builds walls around, trying to shut down from emotions which make them vulnerable. Closing inside can only bring more damage. It\u2019s much healthier to open up to pain and accept it. You\u2019ll forgive yourself easier and move on.<\/p>\n

5. Utilizar a natureza como uma ferramenta de cura<\/h2>\n

D\u00ea um passeio. Respire o poder que a natureza tem para lhe oferecer. Relaxe a sua mente e o seu corpo. Viva esse momento e deixe de lado tudo o que est\u00e1 na sua mente.<\/p>\n

Quando a negatividade o consumir, vire-se para as \u00e1rvores e para o ar fresco, porque a natureza estar\u00e1 sempre l\u00e1 para relaxar a sua mente e mostrar-lhe como o mundo pode ser belo.<\/p>\n

6. Perdoa o teu agressor<\/h2>\n

I know this is almost impossible for you to read and let alone do. But, abusers are people who need help. At first, you\u2019re furious because of the things your abuser did to you, but what you need to realize is that evil plants its seed in the most suitable ground.<\/p>\n

Those abusers are lost people who have gone astray and are unhappy with themselves. They seek approval and power by torturing others. And to them, that is the way to go. They don\u2019t know any different. They need professional help.<\/p>\n

Perdoa-lhes. Livra-te da m\u00e1 semente que tens dentro de ti e segue em frente com a tua vida.<\/p>\n

7. Concentre-se noutra coisa e escolha o amor<\/h2>\n

Concentre-se em melhorar e esque\u00e7a os maus tratos por que passou. Sempre que a vida o abalar e come\u00e7ar a duvidar de si pr\u00f3prio, lembre-se de que quer melhorar; quer trazer de volta o seu antigo eu.<\/p>\n

And in the end, it\u2019s up to you whether you\u2019re going to heal or not. We are all faced with a choice. We can choose self-love or we can choose self-loathing. <\/b><\/p>\n

So, what\u2019s it gonna be?<\/b><\/p>\n

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