{"id":32164,"date":"2020-04-04T11:11:22","date_gmt":"2020-04-04T11:11:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=32164"},"modified":"2022-03-01T23:59:41","modified_gmt":"2022-03-01T23:59:41","slug":"a-dura-realidade-de-amar-alguem-com-quem-nao-se-tem-futuro","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-dura-realidade-de-amar-alguem-com-quem-nao-se-tem-futuro\/","title":{"rendered":"A dura realidade de amar algu\u00e9m com quem n\u00e3o se tem futuro"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><b><i>Apaixonaste-te por ele. <\/i><\/b><b><i>Dif\u00edcil. <\/i><\/b><b><i>A forma como s\u00f3 te apaixonas por um. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>You got blinded with his kisses and hugs, and you couldn\u2019t see they were never given to you because of real love but because of lust.<\/p>\n<p>Ignorou todas as <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/12-sinais-de-alerta-de-que-ele-e-emocionalmente-desequilibrado\/\"> bandeira vermelha <\/a> that he doesn\u2019t love you. Even if you saw things you didn\u2019t like, you decided to ignore them.<\/p>\n<p>Because you became so damn addicted to him. He was the air you couldn\u2019t live without.<\/p>\n<p>Era a \u00fanica pessoa que podia fazer-nos ganhar o dia s\u00f3 com um sorriso. Ele era um homem que tinha tanto controlo sobre ti, mas <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-homem-percebeu-tarde-2\/\">descobriu-o demasiado tarde.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Durante todo o tempo que viveste com ele, pensaste que tinhas tudo. Pensou que tinha tudo sob controlo.<\/p>\n<p>Mas estavas t\u00e3o enganado.<\/p>\n<p>E sabes qual \u00e9 a pior parte? Mesmo que saibas tudo isso agora, ainda n\u00e3o desististe dele.<\/p>\n<p>Ainda est\u00e1 convencida de que ele \u00e9 o seu \"felizes para sempre\" e que voc\u00eas est\u00e3o destinados a ficar juntos.<\/p>\n<p>Ainda tens esperan\u00e7as e sonhos para voc\u00eas os dois. Ainda imagina que ele a vai pedir em casamento com o anel gigante que viu na loja no outro dia.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-75853\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-dreaming.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste a sonhar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-dreaming.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-dreaming-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-dreaming-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You want to think that he just doesn\u2019t know to show love. You believe he loves you but that it is sometimes hard for him to express his emotions.<\/p>\n<p>Sabes com o que sonhas tamb\u00e9m? Aquela casinha na esquina de que gostas. Sonhas que um dia ser\u00e1 a tua casa.<\/p>\n<p>J\u00e1 consegue ouvir as vozes dos seus filhos a correr no quintal. Tem a imagem completa na sua cabe\u00e7a. Tudo est\u00e1 preparado para um conto de fadas.<\/p>\n<p>There is only one ingredient missing. Him. But unfortunately, he doesn\u2019t feel the way you do.<\/p>\n<p>Ele nunca se comprometer\u00e1 contigo da maneira que tu queres. Ele nunca te aceitou de verdade.<\/p>\n<p>Sempre foste a rapariga divertida para ele, a que lhe dava tudo o que ele precisava. Sexo \u00f3timo.<\/p>\n<p>Alta adrenalina. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/10-sinais-de-que-ele-esta-a-usar-o-ego-boost\/\"> Um impulso para o egoc<\/a> . Mas nunca aquele sentimento de pertencer a algu\u00e9m.<\/p>\n<p>He never saw you as the one he will marry eventually. He only saw you as someone who he will have fun with. He doesn\u2019t see the sorrow in your eyes when he mistreats you.<\/p>\n<p>He doesn\u2019t see that you are sad because you are waiting for him to get his shit together.<\/p>\n<p>Hell, there are days when he doesn\u2019t see you at all. He doesn\u2019t pay attention to what you have to say.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-75855\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-young-woman-sitting-on-the-bed.jpg\" alt=\"mulher jovem e triste sentada na cama\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-young-woman-sitting-on-the-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-young-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-young-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>He doesn\u2019t pay attention to your needs and your wishes. And you know it all.<\/p>\n<p>You know it all too damn well. But for some reason that you can\u2019t explain, you are still there, crawling in front of him, and <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/cansado-de-implorar-por-atencao\/\">implorando-lhe alguma aten\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>You are still there to tell him it is okay if he couldn\u2019t call you the whole day.<\/p>\n<p>Continua a estar l\u00e1 para lhe dizer que compreende que ele est\u00e1 ocupado e que falar consigo iria irritar o patr\u00e3o enquanto ele est\u00e1 a trabalhar.<\/p>\n<p>Continua a estar l\u00e1 para o consolar porque ele n\u00e3o \u00e9 suficientemente capaz de melhorar no trabalho. Assim, acaba por ser a pessoa com quem ele vai gritar porque tem problemas no trabalho.<\/p>\n<p>You are there to tell him that it will all pass and that you are proud of him in case that means something to him. But it doesn\u2019t. And it will never will.<\/p>\n<p>Um homem como ele nunca teve a inten\u00e7\u00e3o de a fazer feliz. Ele n\u00e3o \u00e9 algu\u00e9m que vai p\u00f4r um anel e fazer de si a sua mulher.<\/p>\n<p>No. He is not that type of a man. He is a coward because he is not letting you go but isn\u2019t making any progress in your relationship either.<\/p>\n<p>E assim que te aperceberes disso, poder\u00e1s libertar-te das correntes que ele colocou \u00e0 volta das tuas pernas.<\/p>\n<p>Ele quer tanto manter-te por perto porque o fazes sentir bem. Mas n\u00e3o o suficiente para se comprometer verdadeiramente contigo.<\/p>\n<p>Ele \u00e9 o homem com quem n\u00e3o tens futuro. E tu sabes muito bem disso.<\/p>\n<p>Est\u00e1 apenas a tentar ver se alguma coisa muda porque, no fundo, ainda h\u00e1 alguma esperan\u00e7a de que ele perceba o tipo de mulher que tem ao seu lado.<\/p>\n<p>But he won\u2019t. He will never see how amazing you are. He will never give you credit for all the good things you did.<\/p>\n<p>He will give it to someone else. Maybe to the one who won\u2019t love him half as much as you love him. But for some reason, it will be enough for him.<\/p>\n<p>Ele nunca ser\u00e1 o homem que te acordar\u00e1 de manh\u00e3, trazendo-te donuts quentes e caf\u00e9 na cama. Ele nunca ser\u00e1 o homem que te abra\u00e7ar\u00e1 quando estiveres doente.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-75858\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-bed-while-man-looking-away.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste sentada na cama enquanto o homem olha para o lado\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-bed-while-man-looking-away.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-bed-while-man-looking-away-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-bed-while-man-looking-away-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Ele n\u00e3o \u00e9 o homem que cuidar\u00e1 de ti ou que te defender\u00e1.<\/p>\n<p>Ele \u00e9 o tipo de homem que desiste de si t\u00e3o facilmente como se nunca tivessem partilhado uma qu\u00edmica incr\u00edvel. Ele \u00e9 o tipo de homem que a vai trair assim que tiver uma oportunidade.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c9 o tipo de homem que nos deixa loucos e que depois nos faz acreditar que somos n\u00f3s os loucos.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c9 ele que vos destruir\u00e1 totalmente se o deixarem fazer.<\/p>\n<p>He is the one who doesn\u2019t know anything about you but who still wants you to make him the most important person in your life.<\/p>\n<p>Ele \u00e9 aquele que quer tudo sem qualquer inten\u00e7\u00e3o de retribuir da mesma forma.<\/p>\n<p>Mas eu sei que vai chegar uma altura em que vais abrir os olhos e ver as coisas com clareza. Sei que chegar\u00e1 uma altura em que ver\u00e1s o pouco que significas para ele.<\/p>\n<p>E sei que, nesse momento, vais decidir dar todo o amor que tens dentro de ti \u00e0 pessoa mais importante da tua vida. Sei que o dar\u00e1s a ti pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>E o amor?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b><i>Love will come when you think that you are not ready for it. It will hit you, and you won\u2019t even be aware of it. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b><i>Mas sabes que mais? Vai ser a melhor coisa que te aconteceu. Finalmente vai ser real.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-75851\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/The-Harsh-Reality-Of-Loving-Someone-You-Have-No-Future-With-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"A dura realidade de amar algu\u00e9m com quem n\u00e3o se tem futuro\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/The-Harsh-Reality-Of-Loving-Someone-You-Have-No-Future-With-pinterest.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/The-Harsh-Reality-Of-Loving-Someone-You-Have-No-Future-With-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You fell in love with him. Hard. The way you only fall for the one. You got blinded with his kisses and hugs, and you couldn\u2019t see they were never given to you because of real love but because of lust. You ignored every red flag that he doesn\u2019t love you. Even if you saw&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":75860,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29617],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-32164","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-heartbreak"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29617,"label":"heartbreak"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/The-Harsh-Reality-Of-Loving-Someone-You-Have-No-Future-With.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29617,"name":"heartbreak","slug":"heartbreak","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29617,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. 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