{"id":32232,"date":"2020-05-06T11:06:33","date_gmt":"2020-05-06T11:06:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=32232"},"modified":"2022-02-26T11:49:31","modified_gmt":"2022-02-26T11:49:31","slug":"se-o-seu-homem-faz-estas-10-coisas-provavelmente-esta-na-altura-de-o-deixar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/se-o-seu-homem-faz-estas-10-coisas-provavelmente-esta-na-altura-de-o-deixar\/","title":{"rendered":"Se o teu homem faz estas 10 coisas, provavelmente \u00e9 altura de o deixares"},"content":{"rendered":"

At some point in any relationship, the time comes when you need to ask yourself if the relationship is worth sticking it out, or if it\u2019s maybe time to move on to something better for yourself.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a difficult question to be faced with because on the one hand, this is the person you have dedicated a pretty big chunk of your life to, and you don\u2019t want to see all of your effort turn out to have been for nothing, but on the other hand, it doesn\u2019t seem to be clicking anymore, so is the past you share really worth sticking it out?<\/b><\/p>\n

Em muitas das minhas rela\u00e7\u00f5es, deparei-me com este dilema e nunca foi f\u00e1cil tomar esta decis\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

It is so tough having to hurt the person you love, and let\u2019s face it, even if it\u2019s not working out anymore, the love doesn\u2019t just vanish into thin air all of a sudden. It\u2019s still there!<\/p>\n

Por isso, sabendo que ainda sinto algo por essa pessoa, foi muito mais dif\u00edcil decidir se devia ficar ou partir.<\/p>\n

There were always telltale signs when I think about it now\u2026 I just never wanted to see them.<\/p>\n

Eventually, even in situations where I did stay, despite things being far from perfect\u2026 it always came to an end.<\/p>\n

Love can only take you so far, and I\u2019ve learned it the hard way.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

My point is, always listen to your gut. Your feelings are important, but when something inside of you is telling you to leave and not look back, that\u2019s probably what you should be doing.<\/p>\n

You always know what\u2019s right for you\u2014sometimes you just decide not to see it. And that\u2019s okay\u2026 we\u2019re all guilty of that at times. <\/b><\/p>\n

There\u2019s nothing wrong with being an eternal optimist about love, as long as you don\u2019t put up with shit you really shouldn\u2019t tolerate.<\/b><\/p>\n

Which brings me to this. I\u2019ve let it slide one to many times for the sake of love, but don\u2019t be foolish like me.<\/p>\n

Take responsibility for your relationship, and don\u2019t put up with shitty treatment. Decide that your needs are important, and don\u2019t let him get away with anything you\u2019re not okay with.<\/p>\n

Por que raz\u00e3o darias a tua vida a uma pessoa incapaz de te apreciar?<\/p>\n

Enough is enough. If you\u2019re struggling with this perpetual dilemma between staying and hitting the road, pay attention to these 10 major signs that your gut is right and that it really is time to dump his ass.<\/p>\n

10 major signs it\u2019s time to dump him<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Raramente te d\u00e1 aten\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Now, don\u2019t get this wrong. I\u2019m not saying that you should be the center of his universe or anything.<\/p>\n

But if it takes him a long time to answer your calls or texts, and even when you\u2019re together, you never feel like you have his full attention, it indicates that you\u2019re not important enough to him.<\/p>\n

If he\u2019s always on his phone when you\u2019re together and then when you leave it takes him ages to get back to you\u2026 I think you get the picture.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be with someone who doesn\u2019t appreciate your presence. Rather, show him how much he\u2019s going to miss you when you\u2019re gone.<\/p>\n

2. It just doesn\u2019t feel right<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t quite put your finger on it, but there\u2019s something that\u2019s just off, and you don\u2019t know what it is.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t have to mean that it\u2019s something that he does wrong. It can simply indicate that he\u2019s wrong for you, and no matter how good of a man he is, you two just aren\u2019t destinado a ser <\/a>.<\/p>\n

This is your gut telling you it\u2019s time to dump him. Don\u2019t ignore this feeling because it\u2019s telling you something your conscious mind is not yet aware of.<\/p>\n

Stop wasting your time on a good guy who doesn\u2019t feel right for you, and go out there and give yourself a chance to find your Mr. Right.<\/p>\n

3. He\u2019s obnoxious<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Quando se conheceram, ele era desagrad\u00e1vel, e agora, passado todo este tempo, nada mudou.<\/p>\n

A personalidade dele n\u00e3o \u00e9 nada atractiva. Esperava que isso mudasse \u00e0 medida que a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o evolu\u00edsse, mas, infelizmente, isso nunca aconteceu.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re unsure of whether you should include him when you visit your friends and family because you\u2019re scared that his personality will be extremely off-putting, and they will dislike him.<\/p>\n

Who can blame them? If you\u2019re dating a guy who doesn\u2019t try in the least bit to be on his good behavior, even when you clearly wish he would, what are you still doing with him?<\/p>\n

\u00c9 esse o homem que querem que seja o pai dos vossos filhos um dia?<\/p>\n

Didn\u2019t think so\u2026 so go and find yourself a guy with good manners who will know how to act without you needing to tell him all the time.<\/p>\n

4. Tem um temperamento vol\u00e1til<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Pode ser muito agressivo e as coisas mais pequenas irritam-no. Perde muitas vezes a calma e grita muito. Muitas vezes, para ti.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s extremely uneasy, and you\u2019re always scared that something will set him off.<\/p>\n

No, you didn\u2019t deserve this, and it is never your fault when he acts like this! There is nothing you could possibly do that would justify his erratic, violent behavior!<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t wait for him to resort to physical violence\u2014dump him immediately! He\u2019s got issues\u2014don\u2019t let him take it out on you. Even if he hasn\u2019t been that aggressive with you specifically, who\u2019s to say he won\u2019t be in the future?<\/p>\n

That\u2019s his temperament, and it\u2019s only a matter of time before he starts bringing that toxic, comportamento violento na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>. So leave, and don\u2019t look back.<\/p>\n

5. N\u00e3o tem quaisquer ambi\u00e7\u00f5es<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

He\u2019s always jumping from one job to another, unable to hold one job for too long. He\u2019s always broke, and he doesn\u2019t show any interest in changing his situation.<\/p>\n

He spends his time lounging in front of the TV, not wanting to commit to anything. He\u2019s just too lazy to care!<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t tolerate this behavior for much longer. If you do, you\u2019ll regret it in the future when you end up married with kids!<\/p>\n

It\u2019s actually common for men like this to find an intelligent, hard-working woman to leech off because you will make his lazy lifestyle that much easier for him.<\/p>\n

Deixa-o em paz antes que ele perturbe ainda mais a tua vida.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s clearly set on being the unproductive partner, letting you do all the hard work, so show him that you\u2019re no longer doing that, and leave him once and for all.<\/p>\n

6. He doesn\u2019t care much about your needs<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

All he\u2019s worried about is himself and his own wants and needs. He simply overlooks your own.<\/p>\n

Be they emotional or physical, he just doesn\u2019t pay much attention to them. As long as he\u2019s taken care of, there\u2019s not much else that interests him.<\/p>\n

Ele nunca tenta fazer-te sentir-se bem <\/a> sobre si pr\u00f3pria. Ele minimiza os seus problemas e faz com que pare\u00e7a carente e pegajosa quando expressa os seus problemas com qualquer coisa.<\/p>\n

Clearly, you are the one who holds the power over making yourself feel okay, but isn\u2019t your man supposed to make you feel good when your days are shitty?<\/p>\n

And isn\u2019t he supposed to pamper you a little to make you see he cares and pays attention?<\/p>\n

There\u2019s no excuse if he doesn\u2019t contribute to your happiness at all. If he loves you, he won\u2019t be able to stand seeing you sad or hurt.<\/p>\n

Se ele parecer alheio a tudo isto, deixa-o. Mereces muito melhor.<\/p>\n

7. He\u2019s giving you reasons to feel jealous<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not the jealous type, and you don\u2019t want to be THAT girl\u2026 but lately, he\u2019s been giving you so many reasons to be jealous.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s been coming home later than usual. You can smell a different perfume on him, and he avoids answering where he\u2019s been and why he\u2019s late yet again.<\/p>\n

All of a sudden, his voice is quieter when he\u2019s on the phone, and he\u2019s been getting late-night phone-calls that he refuses to say anything about.<\/p>\n

If any of this is the case, he\u2019s giving you plenty of reasons to be suspicious!<\/p>\n

There\u2019s all kinds of wrong with this, and if he\u2019s defensive when asked about it and refuses to own up to his shit, he\u2019s clearly hiding something, and you should under no circumstances put up with it.<\/p>\n

If you feel like he\u2019s definitely hiding something from you, listen to your gut feeling. There\u2019s no reason you should be letting him play you for a fool like this.<\/p>\n

Leave him if he\u2019s not offering any kind of explanation for his shady behavior, and don\u2019t regret it for one second. You\u2019re doing a coisa certa <\/a> para si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

8. As vossas ideias sobre o futuro s\u00e3o completamente diferentes<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Sonha em ter uma fam\u00edlia grande, mudar-se um dia para os sub\u00farbios e viver uma vida familiar calma e tranquila.<\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t want to get hitched any time soon, he\u2019s not sure if he wants to be a father and suburbs is the last thing on his mind.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 evidente que t\u00eam sonhos opostos em rela\u00e7\u00e3o ao vosso futuro. O que fazer em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a isto?<\/p>\n

Nenhum de v\u00f3s est\u00e1 errado.<\/p>\n

You both have every right to have your ideas of your ideal future, and maybe it\u2019s best that you get it out in the open now, before your dreams clash and leave you angry and bitter some time down the road.<\/p>\n

Respect each other\u2019s wishes, and if you don\u2019t see any middle ground, maybe it\u2019s best to part ways, before things get too complicated and you get too invested.<\/p>\n

Saiam antes que algu\u00e9m se magoe.<\/p>\n

9. Ele n\u00e3o tem respeito por ti<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

He puts you down and doesn\u2019t care how it makes you feel.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re in public, he has no problem disregarding your feelings and saying whatever comes to his mind, no matter how bad that makes you look.<\/p>\n

He mocks the things you love and doesn\u2019t even try to understand them.<\/p>\n

Ele consegue sempre encontrar uma forma de nos fazer passar por parvos, e isso mata-nos por dentro.<\/p>\n

Deita-o fora! N\u00e3o s\u00f3 \u00e9 um cretino de classe mundial, como tamb\u00e9m tem problemas com a sua personalidade perturbada, e esse n\u00e3o \u00e9 o tipo de homem que quer no seu futuro.<\/p>\n

If he doesn\u2019t respect you and doesn\u2019t even care to, let him know it\u2019s over and dump his ass.<\/p>\n

Your man is supposed to make you feel better about yourself, not doubt everything you say and do. He\u2019s just a jerk, and you\u2019re so much better without him.<\/p>\n

10. He\u2019s just not making you happy<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Em \u00faltima an\u00e1lise, esta deve ser a sua maior bandeira vermelha. Por vezes, tudo se resume a isto. Este homem d\u00e1-lhe alegria?<\/p>\n

Sente uma felicidade extrema por saber que pode ir para casa ter com ele? E estar na companhia dele faz a sua alma feliz?<\/p>\n

If the answer to these is NO, then you\u2019ve got your answer.<\/p>\n

Ele pode ser um ser humano fant\u00e1stico. Pode tratar-te bem e dizer sempre as coisas certas. Pode respeit\u00e1-la, respeitar os seus valores e nunca a desvalorizar.<\/p>\n

Mas se ele n\u00e3o a faz FELIZ, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 raz\u00e3o para estar com ele.<\/p>\n

Estar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 suposto tornar a nossa vida mais f\u00e1cil e mais feliz.<\/p>\n

Knowing you have this person who\u2019s there for you in good times and bad, and just seeing his face which lights your soul on fire is the whole point of being together.<\/p>\n

If you have to keep making excuses as to why you should stay with him, stop. You don\u2019t owe anyone anything.<\/p>\n

And if he\u2019s really as nice as he seems, he\u2019s going to understand.<\/p>\n

You deserve to find a person who\u2019s going to make your days instantly better. You deserve to feel your heart racing when you\u2019re in his presence\u2014don\u2019t deny yourself this.<\/p>\n

Dump him if he\u2019s not making you feel like this, and find someone who will!<\/p>\n

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