{"id":32360,"date":"2020-07-07T19:10:09","date_gmt":"2020-07-07T19:10:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=32360"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:58:56","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:58:56","slug":"6-coisas-com-que-se-vai-identificar-se-estiver-a-aprender-a-amar-novamente","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/6-coisas-com-que-se-vai-identificar-se-estiver-a-aprender-a-amar-novamente\/","title":{"rendered":"6 coisas com que te vais identificar se estiveres a aprender a amar de novo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando ficamos com o cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido por algu\u00e9m que pens\u00e1vamos que ficaria ao nosso lado para sempre, todo o nosso mundo se desmorona.<\/p>\n

Para al\u00e9m de sentir esta enorme dor que o est\u00e1 a despeda\u00e7ar por dentro, tamb\u00e9m perde a f\u00e9 de que poder\u00e1 voltar a encontrar a felicidade.<\/p>\n

Fechamo-nos em n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios e desistimos da possibilidade de voltar a encontrar o amor.<\/p>\n

No entanto, passado algum tempo, come\u00e7a a curar-se. Passado algum tempo, um homem digno da sua aten\u00e7\u00e3o entra na sua vida.<\/p>\n

Antes de darmos por isso, damos por n\u00f3s a aprender a amar novamente e aqui est\u00e3o 6 coisas que normalmente acontecem no processo.<\/p>\n

1. Tem medo<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019ve been hurt in the past, the last thing you want to allow is to get your heart broken all over again. So obviously, you are terrified of going through the same shit once more.<\/p>\n

Tem medo de se permitir deixar entrar algu\u00e9m novo na sua vida, tem medo de se abrir de novo ao amor e tem medo de repetir o mesmo erro.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve lost faith in your judgment-making skills and you overthink your every move, trying to protect yourself.<\/p>\n

Apesar de veres que este novo rapaz que entrou na tua vida \u00e9 nada como o teu ex<\/span><\/a>, you keep doubting his intentions. It is more than clear that you have strong trust issues and you can\u2019t start believing men overnight, after everything you\u2019ve been through.<\/p>\n

You want to prevent all of this from happening and you don\u2019t want to let your fear control you but somehow, it keeps blocking your emotions and it keeps preventing you from relaxing completely.<\/p>\n

2. Mas est\u00e1 lentamente a deixar o passado para tr\u00e1s<\/h2>\n

No entanto, apesar de a simples ideia de um novo amor o assustar, a cada novo dia, est\u00e1 a deixar o passado para tr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

You might not even be aware of this but the truth is that you are slowly getting rid of your emotional baggage that\u2019s been burdening you for so long.<\/p>\n

D\u00e1 por si a n\u00e3o pensar no homem que lhe fez mal durante dias. Em vez disso, todos os seus pensamentos s\u00e3o redireccionados para esta nova pessoa na sua vida.<\/p>\n

Deixa de ser amargo e negativo em rela\u00e7\u00e3o ao amor e, lentamente, come\u00e7a a acreditar nele de novo, mesmo que se recuse a admiti-lo.<\/p>\n

3. Tem dificuldade em baixar a guarda<\/h2>\n

Todas as mulheres que passaram por situa\u00e7\u00f5es complicadas no passado tiveram de encontrar uma forma de proteger o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o vulner\u00e1vel de ser novamente esmagado. E tu n\u00e3o \u00e9s diferente.<\/p>\n

With time, you\u2019ve put on your face the mask of this tough girl. You\u2019ve become vigiado<\/span><\/a>, you\u2019ve built thick walls around your heart which kept everyone out because you thought that it was the only way to keep yourself emotionally safe.<\/p>\n

No entanto, est\u00e1 perfeitamente consciente de que esses muros t\u00eam de ser derrubados se quiser ter uma nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

Sabe que tem de baixar a guarda se quiser que o amor volte a entrar na sua vida.<\/p>\n

No entanto, tudo isto \u00e9 mais f\u00e1cil de dizer do que de fazer. Por muito que se tente, voltar ao que era antes n\u00e3o \u00e9 nada f\u00e1cil e baixar a guarda n\u00e3o \u00e9 algo que se consiga fazer de um dia para o outro.<\/p>\n

4. Percebes finalmente que \u00e9s am\u00e1vel<\/h2>\n

Quando a pessoa que mais amamos nos vira as costas, \u00e9 natural que fiquemos de rastos.<\/p>\n

You wonder why you couldn\u2019t be enough for him and with time, you start thinking that you are obviously n\u00e3o foi feito para ser amado<\/span><\/a>, if this man couldn\u2019t love you for real.<\/p>\n

No entanto, quando se come\u00e7a a aprender a amar de novo, tudo isso muda.<\/p>\n

You realize that you are not so hard to love after all and that you deserve a man\u2019s love, despite what your ex tried to make you think.<\/p>\n

5. Est\u00e1 a dar passos de beb\u00e9<\/h2>\n

Outra coisa com que todas as raparigas que est\u00e3o a aprender a amar de novo se identificam \u00e9 com o facto de n\u00e3o quererem apressar as coisas. Em vez disso, est\u00e1 a dar passos de beb\u00e9, um de cada vez.<\/p>\n

It is not that you are playing hard to get\u2014you are just not ready to give yourself entirely to someone until he proves that he deserves you. And there is nothing wrong with that, no matter what anyone might tell you.<\/p>\n

Remember that you are not a coward for wanting to take things slowly because this is exactly what you should be doing after all the devastating pain you\u2019ve experienced.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 apenas uma rapariga que aprendeu com os seus erros e uma rapariga que \u00e9 suficientemente inteligente para n\u00e3o os repetir.<\/p>\n

6. Est\u00e1 a come\u00e7ar a gostar de si pr\u00f3prio novamente<\/h2>\n

You know what the best part of letting love enter your life after a heartbreak is? It is not loving someone else the way you thought you weren\u2019t capable of\u2014it is the liberating feeling that allows you to ama-te a ti pr\u00f3prio<\/span><\/a> novamente.<\/p>\n

It is seeing all of your virtues and seeing how amazing and beautiful you are. It is the fact that you\u2019ve finally stopped seeing yourself through the eyes of the man who mistreated you, the fact that you finally see your worth and the fact that you no longer allow one asshole to define it.<\/p>\n

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