{"id":32571,"date":"2019-02-12T08:03:47","date_gmt":"2019-02-12T08:03:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=32571"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:05:32","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:05:32","slug":"tirar-as-pessoas-toxicas-da-minha-vida-e-o-meu-metodo-favorito-de-auto-cuidado","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/tirar-as-pessoas-toxicas-da-minha-vida-e-o-meu-metodo-favorito-de-auto-cuidado\/","title":{"rendered":"Tirar pessoas t\u00f3xicas da minha vida \u00e9 o meu m\u00e9todo favorito de autocuidado"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando expulsei o meu ex t\u00f3xico da minha vida, comecei a respirar novamente. <\/b><\/p>\n

I was totally clueless of all the ways my ex was poisoning my life. He would twist my words so skilfully that I would end up apologizing for the things I hadn\u2019t done. I was always the monster and he was never the one to blame.<\/p>\n

Adorava a aten\u00e7\u00e3o que ele me dava desde o in\u00edcio, adorava que ele me ouvisse, mas \u00e0 medida que avan\u00e7\u00e1vamos na rela\u00e7\u00e3o, ele abusava das minhas palavras e dos meus pensamentos. Aproveitou-se das minhas fraquezas e inseguran\u00e7as e aprofundou-as.<\/p>\n

Like a fool, I made excuses for him as I didn\u2019t think he did that on purpose. But it only got worse as time passed by and I became a mere shadow of the woman I once was.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t recognize my voice anymore because it was so silent. The volume of my laughter turned down almost completely. All that kept screaming were the self-doubts in my head and the sobbing sounds at night when I was all by myself.<\/p>\n

Sabia que tinha de fazer alguma coisa ou perder-me-ia completamente. Tinha de me afastar dele para me salvar.<\/p>\n

Quando me libertei dele, senti-me como se estivesse livre da jaula mental em que ele me tinha mantido. Estava livre dos grilh\u00f5es das inseguran\u00e7as que ele imprimiu em mim.<\/p>\n

Finally, I started hearing my voice again, I started laughing again, I started breathing and living again. Because my relationship with him wasn\u2019t life.<\/p>\n

Quando comecei a dar ouvidos a todas as vozes m\u00e1s, prosperei. <\/b><\/p>\n

Os coment\u00e1rios sarc\u00e1sticos embrulhados em conselhos sinceros s\u00e3o t\u00f3xicos. As pessoas que tentam deitar-nos abaixo para se elevarem s\u00e3o a pior coisa que nos pode acontecer em termos de carreira e de vida.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t allow that. Smile in their faces and keep doing what you\u2019ve been doing and your hard work will pay off eventually. Mine did.<\/p>\n

O que aprendi aqui \u00e9 que nem todos os nossos colegas de trabalho t\u00eam de ser nossos amigos; temos imensa sorte se forem<\/span><\/a>. Time always tells you who you can trust and get closer to, who you should keep at arm’s length and who you should base your relationship on a professional level with.<\/p>\n

I surrounded myself with people who have my best interests at heart, who are not envious of my successes, who don\u2019t feed their broken egos on my sufferings and I started rising from the ashes that toxic people put me in.<\/p>\n

Depois de me ter despedido de algumas pessoas que julgava serem minhas amigas, criei la\u00e7os mais firmes com as que s\u00e3o verdadeiras. <\/b><\/p>\n

Um amigo t\u00f3xico \u00e9 como um namorado t\u00f3xico, suga-nos a vida. Toda a energia e amor que investimos neles, eles nunca investem de volta e quando continuamos a dar, ficamos vazios.<\/p>\n

Os verdadeiros amigos nunca fazem isso. Nunca se servem de n\u00f3s, v\u00e3o ao nosso encontro a meio caminho. Nunca nos menosprezam, elevam-nos porque acreditam em n\u00f3s, mesmo quando come\u00e7amos a duvidar de n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o est\u00e3o presentes apenas nos mares calmos, est\u00e3o presentes tamb\u00e9m nas piores tempestades. Eles apoiam-nos, aconte\u00e7a o que acontecer. Ficam felizes com a tua felicidade e simpatizam com a tua dor.<\/p>\n

Comecei realmente a apreciar os verdadeiros amigos quando os comparei com os t\u00f3xicos. Todas as formas como eles eram diferentes falaram comigo. Eles s\u00e3o a melhor coisa que me podia ter acontecido e eu certifico-me de que eles sabem o quanto estou grata.<\/p>\n

Quando deixei de tentar fazer todos \u00e0 minha volta felizes, comecei a ser feliz. <\/b><\/p>\n

It\u2019s almost like I had a subconscious mission in life to make everyone happy. I would go above and beyond to accommodate them and it would just backfire on me.<\/p>\n

Quanto mais simp\u00e1tico eu era, mais mal me tratavam. Independentemente do facto de ser a minha ex-namorado<\/span><\/a>Se eu fosse um amigo ou mesmo um familiar, o processo era o mesmo: quanto mais eu tentava faz\u00ea-los felizes, mais eles esperavam de mim. Tomavam-me por garantido.<\/p>\n

I would ditch everything I was doing or everything I planned to do. It\u2019s like I didn\u2019t know how to say no because I was afraid that they would get offended.<\/p>\n

After a long time of putting up with that, I changed. I couldn\u2019t take it anymore. So, I started putting myself first for a change.<\/p>\n

Algumas pessoas foram-se embora, outras ficaram e adaptaram-se ao novo eu. Seja como for, foi a melhor decis\u00e3o que alguma vez tomei.<\/p>\n

Quando comecei a afastar as pessoas t\u00f3xicas da minha vida, apercebi-me que essa era a melhor forma de cuidar de mim. <\/b><\/p>\n

Once I said goodbye to all the toxicity in my life, I suddenly started to bloom. I wasn\u2019t as worn out as I used to be. I had more time to attend to my own needs. I had more time for the people who inspire me to grow.<\/p>\n

After I tossed all the negativity out of my life, positivity found its way to me. My life got a whole lot better with the absence of some people. So you see, this self-care method wasn\u2019t selfish, it was long-overdue and necessary.<\/p>\n

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