{"id":33193,"date":"2020-07-19T12:19:47","date_gmt":"2020-07-19T12:19:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=33193"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:23:11","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:23:11","slug":"acredita-em-mim-ele-nao-esta-emocionalmente-danificado-e-apenas-um-idiota","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/acredita-em-mim-ele-nao-esta-emocionalmente-danificado-e-apenas-um-idiota\/","title":{"rendered":"Acredita em mim, ele n\u00e3o est\u00e1 emocionalmente ferido, \u00e9 apenas um idiota"},"content":{"rendered":"

Let\u2019s be honest here. How many times have we all found a gazillion excuses for a ex de merda <\/a> e o seu tratamento ainda mais merdoso para connosco?<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll be the first one to raise my hand. Love will do that to you.<\/p>\n

Eu ca\u00ed de cabe\u00e7a para baixo <\/a> for guys who were all sorts of wrong for me and instead of facing it head-on, I\u2019ve put up with so much crap, always finding an excuse for him; deep down knowing the real, painful truth and feeling so ashamed of myself on the inside.<\/p>\n

That didn\u2019t stop me from repeating that mistake a few more times, until one day I finally decided that I\u2019m better than that. But up until that day, this was my sad truth\u2026<\/p>\n

Lembro-me de um ex em particular que era um exemplo perfeito do que nunca se deve fazer ( o que, claro, eu fiz <\/i> ).<\/p>\n

Ele era um verdadeiro <\/i><\/b>falinhas mansas.<\/i><\/b><\/a> He looked like a million bucks and he knew it. He was the type of guy who would never openly say how good he had it but he made sure people knew… He was smug that way.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

He had his way with the ladies and I can\u2019t imagine any girl being immune to his charming ways and that gorgeous, self-sufficient smile.<\/p>\n

I fell for him instantly. It was really casual in the beginning\u2026 coffee dates, lots of laughter, spending evenings at his fancy condo and feeling like I was on cloud nine. I never wanted to leave.<\/p>\n

As coisas estavam a come\u00e7ar a ficar s\u00e9rias e comecei a ter sentimentos leg\u00edtimos por ele. J\u00e1 n\u00e3o se tratava de uma aventura sexy e divertida com um garanh\u00e3o extremamente atraente, mas estava a transformar-se numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o real em que eu me via com ele a longo prazo.<\/p>\n

Durante algum tempo, ele parecia estar na mesma p\u00e1gina que eu e eu era literalmente a rapariga mais feliz do mundo! O que \u00e9 que podia correr mal?<\/p>\n

A lot\u2026 <\/i><\/p>\n

What I didn\u2019t know was how little I actually knew him.<\/p>\n

The minute it started getting real, he became like a completely different person and I couldn\u2019t recognize him anymore. I was completely invested in this and he took it all for granted.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Eu estava \u00e0 sua disposi\u00e7\u00e3o sempre que ele precisava de mim, mas era rec\u00edproco? Claro que n\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Dei-lhe o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o e a minha alma, mas o que \u00e9 que recebi em troca? Peda\u00e7os e mais peda\u00e7os do seu suposto amor e s\u00f3 quando era conveniente.<\/p>\n

Eu estava a melhor namorada <\/a> he ever could\u2019ve had but when I was going through a dark period, he wasn\u2019t there for me. And the worst part is that I kept making excuses in my head.<\/p>\n

If I was going through shit and he wasn\u2019t there, I\u2019d tell myself he must be going through something himself, I shouldn\u2019t push him\u2026 If I needed him to pick me up after a long day and he wasn\u2019t answering my calls, he must be stuck at work.<\/p>\n

If I told him I loved him (which I really did\u2026) and he said, \u2018\u2019Yeah, you too\u2019,\u2019 I knew what he really meant to say was, \u2018\u2019I love you too, baby!\u2019\u2019<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

I had a whole scenario in my head of what his crappy treatment actually meant and for a minute there, I felt better\u2026 I would convince myself of that in order not to completely lose it.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I was so crazy in love that I just couldn\u2019t face the truth. I couldn\u2019t say it out loud. If I did\u2026 it would become too real and I wasn\u2019t ready for that.<\/p>\n

Andava com um homem que s\u00f3 me dava metade do que eu lhe dava a ele. Ele nunca estava presente na totalidade, mas sempre o suficiente para me manter presente.<\/p>\n

He knew I didn\u2019t need much. Just enough to make me feel like there was hope for us and I was hooked.<\/p>\n

I am ashamed of how little I thought of myself. I am ashamed of how little I believed I was worth. It really sucks that we put ourself down for guys who aren\u2019t worth our time!<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\u00c9 uma treta sacrificarmo-nos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios e ao nosso tempo por algu\u00e9m que nunca vai ser o que merecemos!<\/p>\n

It took a lot of tears and a lot of serious conversations with myself to finally admit that it wasn\u2019t working anymore.<\/p>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Why did I keep finding excuses for a guy who blew every chance he had to prove he loved me? Why did I let myself be treated so poorly for somebody who so clearly didn\u2019t deserve me? <\/i><\/p>\n

If he loved me, he would have been there! If he loved me, I wouldn\u2019t have had to question it every single, painful day.<\/p>\n

If he loved me, I wouldn\u2019t have had to keep finding reasons as to why his fucked up treatment of me was actually justified.<\/p>\n

It wasn\u2019t! And it was finally time I put myself first, so I did!<\/b><\/p>\n

It pained me like hell\u2026 but I left his sorry ass. He was only weighing me down.<\/p>\n

And by putting up with so much shit, I was suffering in silence so profoundly that it was only a matter of time before I would explode\u2026<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

No guy is worth this, trust me. If you feel like you\u2019re not getting what you deserve<\/b>\u2014<\/b>sair. Se o seu homem est\u00e1 a tomar tudo o que faz por ele como garantido<\/b>\u2014<\/b>don\u2019t let it slide! <\/b><\/p>\n

Tu \u00e9s uma deusa e ele n\u00e3o passa de um idiota ego\u00edsta e imaturo!<\/b><\/p>\n

And the sooner you say it out loud, the better it\u2019s going to feel!<\/p>\n

He\u2019s not emotionally damaged, he\u2019s just an asshole! And when you\u2019re finally brave enough to realize this, trust me \u2014 you\u2019re never going to settle for less!<\/p>\n

Once you realize your worth, there\u2019s no going back.<\/p>\n

\"Acredita<\/p>\n

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