{"id":33230,"date":"2020-02-20T07:32:42","date_gmt":"2020-02-20T07:32:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=33230"},"modified":"2022-08-04T09:28:47","modified_gmt":"2022-08-04T09:28:47","slug":"este-metodo-e-imprescindivel-quando-se-e-pai-ou-mae-com-um-narcisista","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/este-metodo-e-imprescindivel-quando-se-e-pai-ou-mae-com-um-narcisista\/","title":{"rendered":"Este m\u00e9todo \u00e9 obrigat\u00f3rio quando se \u00e9 pai ou m\u00e3e com um narcisista"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>O ideal quando se lida com um narcisista seria uma pol\u00edtica de n\u00e3o contacto.<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, se tiver filhos com ele, ser\u00e1 imposs\u00edvel n\u00e3o o contactar. Pode parecer-lhe que vai ficar presa ao seu narcisista durante toda a sua vida.<\/p>\n<p>Mas n\u00e3o tem de ser esse o caso.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>H\u00e1 uma coisa que pode usar para lidar com a co-parentalidade como um chefe com um narcisista.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Uma vez que n\u00e3o se pode usar totalmente o n\u00e3o contacto quando se tem filhos com um narcisista, o m\u00e9todo da pedra cinzenta \u00e9 o m\u00e9todo que ajudar\u00e1 muito a reduzir ao m\u00ednimo a sua comunica\u00e7\u00e3o com ele.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77559\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/serious-couple-talking-in-the-living-room.jpg\" alt=\"casal s\u00e9rio a conversar na sala de estar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/serious-couple-talking-in-the-living-room.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/serious-couple-talking-in-the-living-room-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/serious-couple-talking-in-the-living-room-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quando se \u00e9 pai ou m\u00e3e em conjunto com um narcisista, o m\u00e9todo da pedra cinzenta \u00e9 definitivamente \u00fatil. O m\u00e9todo da pedra cinzenta consiste em n\u00e3o ter opini\u00f5es, ser desinteressante e aborrecido.<\/p>\n<p>You definitely don\u2019t want to be the center of attention and attract your narcissist with your drama.<\/p>\n<p>Tem de fazer parecer que o seu<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/porque-e-que-a-vida-e-tao-aborrecida\/\"> a vida \u00e9 aborrecida<\/a>Como se n\u00e3o se passasse nada, como se n\u00e3o houvesse nada para ele ver.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>O \u00fanico assunto de que devem falar s\u00e3o as crian\u00e7as.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>You should talk about the grades the kids get at school, their achievements, their school performances, etc. You don\u2019t owe your narcissist anything more than that.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77560\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/serious-couple-talking-in-cafe.jpg\" alt=\"casal s\u00e9rio a conversar num caf\u00e9\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/serious-couple-talking-in-cafe.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/serious-couple-talking-in-cafe-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/serious-couple-talking-in-cafe-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Um narcisista n\u00e3o quer saber de si nem dos seus filhos. Ele usa as crian\u00e7as para se poder envolver em todo o drama que acontece nas vossas vidas. O drama \u00e9 o que ele adora.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Quando se \u00e9 pai ou m\u00e3e em conjunto com um narcisista, \u00e9 preciso ter em conta que a utiliza\u00e7\u00e3o do m\u00e9todo da pedra cinzenta ser\u00e1 um pouco dif\u00edcil.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Ele vai dar as suas opini\u00f5es sobre as crian\u00e7as e vai ser dif\u00edcil n\u00e3o ser apanhado na discuss\u00e3o porque, independentemente do que disser, ele vai ter a opini\u00e3o contr\u00e1ria.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s going to be really hard, but don\u2019t get caught up in self-defense!<\/p>\n<p>A verdade \u00e9 que os narcisistas n\u00e3o t\u00eam opini\u00f5es verdadeiras sobre nada. Eles querem dizer o oposto do que tu dizes s\u00f3 para discordar.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77561\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/young-couple-arguing-while-sitting-on-sofa.jpg\" alt=\"jovem casal a discutir sentado num sof\u00e1\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/young-couple-arguing-while-sitting-on-sofa.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/young-couple-arguing-while-sitting-on-sofa-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/young-couple-arguing-while-sitting-on-sofa-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Lembre-se de manter sempre a calma e de nunca lhe mostrar as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es!<\/p>\n<p>Independentemente do que ele diga ou fa\u00e7a, fa\u00e7a de conta que n\u00e3o est\u00e1 aborrecida e aja como se fosse totalmente indiferente!<\/p>\n<p>\u00c9 perfeitamente normal que esteja zangada e que queira discutir com ele, mas n\u00e3o vale a pena fazer isso.<\/p>\n<p>Se ele vir que a est\u00e1 a irritar com as suas opini\u00f5es, \u00e9 mais do que prov\u00e1vel que se divirta. E, mais uma vez, ser\u00e1 ele a ganhar.<\/p>\n<p>Al\u00e9m disso, vai parecer o louco \u00e0 frente dos seus filhos.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77562\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/young-couple-arguing-in-the-kitchen.jpg\" alt=\"jovem casal a discutir na cozinha\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/young-couple-arguing-in-the-kitchen.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/young-couple-arguing-in-the-kitchen-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/young-couple-arguing-in-the-kitchen-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Os seus filhos n\u00e3o devem v\u00ea-la a discutir \u00e0 frente do seu narcisista, porque ele pode facilmente tirar partido disso.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>N\u00e3o pode deixar que o seu narcisista vire os seus filhos contra si. A primeira coisa que tem de fazer \u00e9 falar sinceramente com eles.<\/p>\n<p>Tem de ser honesta e dizer aos seus filhos que voc\u00ea e o seu narcisista n\u00e3o se d\u00e3o bem, mas que ambos est\u00e3o a tentar fazer o que \u00e9 preciso para os fazer felizes.<\/p>\n<p>A segunda coisa importante \u00e9 que a sua vida pessoal n\u00e3o deve ser mencionada quando falar com o seu narcisista sobre os filhos.<\/p>\n<p>Nunca deve partilhar informa\u00e7\u00f5es sobre a sua vida pessoal com ele. Partilhar \u00e9 um limite. Se partilhar alguma coisa, ele us\u00e1-la-\u00e1 contra si.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77565\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/man-yelling-at-woman-in-the-house.jpg\" alt=\"homem a gritar com mulher dentro de casa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/man-yelling-at-woman-in-the-house.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/man-yelling-at-woman-in-the-house-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/man-yelling-at-woman-in-the-house-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>He does not need to know what happens in your private life. If you share you\u2019re happy about something, he will make you feel like shit.<\/p>\n<p>Se disseres que est\u00e1s triste, ele vai fazer-te sentir ainda mais miser\u00e1vel. Eles adoram fazer isto. S\u00e3o mestres na manipula\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>Quando o narcisista se aperceber de que n\u00e3o pode ultrapassar os seus limites, vai ficar aborrecido e furioso.<\/p>\n<p>Mas sempre que estabelecemos um limite e o fazemos cumprir, ficamos mais fortes. Ganha-se mais auto-confian\u00e7a e mais respeito por si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>E mais uma coisa importante: ser\u00e1 um exemplo saud\u00e1vel para os seus filhos.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77572\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/happy-mother-hugging-her-daughter.jpg\" alt=\"m\u00e3e feliz a abra\u00e7ar a filha\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/happy-mother-hugging-her-daughter.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/happy-mother-hugging-her-daughter-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/happy-mother-hugging-her-daughter-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Aprender\u00e3o a implementar limites saud\u00e1veis desde cedo nas suas vidas.<\/p>\n<p>The most important part of it, you will become like a grey rock\u2014plain and boring. And that\u2019s when your narcissist will leave you alone.<\/p>\n<p>Ele come\u00e7ar\u00e1 a procurar uma nova v\u00edtima, algu\u00e9m que o alimente com a energia que decidiste negar-lhe.<\/p>\n<p>It takes a lot of hard work to master the art of grey rocking. But once you\u2019ve mastered it, it\u2019ll be totally worth your while.<\/p>\n<p>Your narcissist will have to honor the legal agreement of shared custody\u2014and you will be seeing him a lot. But with the method you\u2019ve mastered, he stands no chance.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77558\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/This-Method-Is-A-Must-Have-When-Co-parenting-With-A-Narcissist-pinterest-2.jpg\" alt=\"Este m\u00e9todo \u00e9 obrigat\u00f3rio quando se \u00e9 pai ou m\u00e3e com um narcisista\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/This-Method-Is-A-Must-Have-When-Co-parenting-With-A-Narcissist-pinterest-2.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/This-Method-Is-A-Must-Have-When-Co-parenting-With-A-Narcissist-pinterest-2-200x300.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77557\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/This-Method-Is-A-Must-Have-When-Co-parenting-With-A-Narcissist-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Este m\u00e9todo \u00e9 obrigat\u00f3rio quando se \u00e9 pai ou m\u00e3e com um narcisista\" width=\"735\" height=\"1102\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/This-Method-Is-A-Must-Have-When-Co-parenting-With-A-Narcissist-pinterest.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/This-Method-Is-A-Must-Have-When-Co-parenting-With-A-Narcissist-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/This-Method-Is-A-Must-Have-When-Co-parenting-With-A-Narcissist-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 735px) 100vw, 735px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The ideal thing when dealing with a narcissist would be a no-contact policy. However, if you have kids with him, going no-contact would be impossible. It might seem to you that you will be stuck with your narcissist your whole life. But that does not have to be the case. There is one thing you&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":77573,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29633],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-33230","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-narcissism"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29633,"label":"narcissism"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/This-Method-Is-A-Must-Have-When-Co-parenting-With-A-Narcissist-1.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29633,"name":"narcissism","slug":"narcissism","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29633,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. 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