{"id":33243,"date":"2020-10-20T08:08:14","date_gmt":"2020-10-20T08:08:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=33243"},"modified":"2022-03-22T01:57:06","modified_gmt":"2022-03-22T01:57:06","slug":"10-respostas-magnificas-para-parar-o-mestre-manipulador","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/10-respostas-magnificas-para-parar-o-mestre-manipulador\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Magn\u00edficas respostas para parar o mestre manipulador"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quantas vezes quis que te calasses. Quantas vezes quis gritar contigo para parares de me fazer uma lavagem cerebral com as tuas palavras nojentas e ofensivas.<\/p>\n

Nunca consegui. Fiquei ali parado \u00e0 tua frente, congelado, incapaz de mexer um m\u00fasculo, incapaz de falar para me defender.<\/p>\n

That is what years of your manipulation did to me. That\u2019s how you managed to have complete control over me.<\/p>\n

Sempre que discut\u00edamos, era sempre a mesma coisa.<\/p>\n

Tu a gritar pela casa, a partir coisas, e eu sentado, a olhar numa dire\u00e7\u00e3o, \u00e0 espera que pares.<\/p>\n

Even when you forced me to give you answers and talk to you, you wouldn\u2019t let me.<\/p>\n

I would start, a few words would come out of my mouth unwillingly, and then you\u2019d cut me off. Then, you\u2019d shame me even more.<\/p>\n

Sim, eu vivia com um manipulador<\/a>. I\u2019m not ashamed of it anymore, not now that it\u2019s all over.<\/em><\/p>\n

These people are everywhere. You can\u2019t avoid them. You can\u2019t recognize them. That\u2019s the whole point.<\/p>\n

Se soubesses desde o in\u00edcio que algu\u00e9m pr\u00f3ximo de ti te manipula, terias ficado com essa pessoa?<\/p>\n

No, sadly, you only realize when it\u2019s too late. You realize you\u2019ve been manipulated instead of loved only when you hit rock bottom.<\/p>\n

As pessoas manipuladoras sabem exatamente o que dizer<\/a> para nos manterem calados e para nos levarem a sentir pena deles. Tudo o que eles dizem tem sempre um objetivo oculto.<\/p>\n

S\u00e3o capazes de manipular as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es para o tornar mais vulner\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

In that state you\u2019re the easiest to manipulate and control.<\/p>\n

A melhor solu\u00e7\u00e3o para lidar com um manipulador \u00e9 cort\u00e1-lo completamente da sua vida e ignorar a sua presen\u00e7a, mas, infelizmente, nem todos nos podemos dar ao luxo de o fazer.<\/p>\n

When you don\u2019t have a choice and for some reason, you have to stay in touch with your manipulator, here are a few comebacks you should use whenever you feel threatened:<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cNO!\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Aprender a ser assertivo. Aprender a tomar uma posi\u00e7\u00e3o. H\u00e1 muitos livros de autoajuda que podem fazer o truque.<\/p>\n

A quest\u00e3o \u00e9 que precisa de aprender a acreditar em si pr\u00f3prio, e ganhar algum controlo sobre os seus sentimentos ir\u00e1 certamente fazer-lhe bem.<\/p>\n

A sua autoestima est\u00e1 quase esmagada por causa da sua humilha\u00e7\u00e3o constante.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t believe in yourself, and it makes you insecure. What you need to do is to break free from that emotional prison he put you in.<\/p>\n

Say \u2018no\u2019 to him. Don\u2019t be afraid because nothing bad will happen, and for the love of God, don\u2019t fall for his tricks because while you\u2019re fighting against him, he will try to make you feel sorry for him.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s his tactic to get you back out of pity.<\/p>\n

\u201cThis time I\u2019m going to choose myself.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

It\u2019s hard to make such a change in your life, but for your own good, be brave enough and make the first step toward accepting and loving yourself for who you are.<\/p>\n

Tens de perceber que n\u00e3o \u00e9s tu que fazes asneiras. N\u00e3o \u00e9s o malvado e nunca te deves definir dessa forma.<\/p>\n

Afinal, porque \u00e9 que havemos de sofrer porque outra pessoa tem uma alma corrompida?<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t feel sorry for people like that. Get away from them as soon and as far as possible.<\/p>\n

Porque, se tentares ajud\u00e1-los, eles s\u00f3 te v\u00e3o magoar. Na verdade, eles est\u00e3o a contar que os ajudes, para que te possam trair e, mais uma vez, conseguir o que querem.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou don\u2019t get to tell me what I can and cannot do!\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t give up on yourself. You\u2019re not meant to be in this world to be someone\u2019s doormat.<\/p>\n

Existem planos muito maiores para si, por isso ningu\u00e9m tem o direito de a controlar. Fa\u00e7a-o perceber esse facto, tomando uma posi\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Os manipuladores atacam as pessoas fracas porque s\u00e3o as mais f\u00e1ceis de controlar.<\/p>\n

If you talk back to him and show him through your words and actions that you\u2019re not weak, he won\u2019t be able to touch you.<\/p>\n

\u201cYour words mean nothing to me!\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

When a manipulator has a feeling that you\u2019re slipping away from his grip, that you\u2019re no longer under his control, he will try hard to lure you back in.<\/p>\n

Ele vai esfor\u00e7ar-se por fazer todo o tipo de promessas, dizendo exatamente as coisas que tu queres ouvir.<\/p>\n

Ele mudar\u00e1 a sua atitude apenas para o levar a confiar na sua s\u00fabita mudan\u00e7a de atitude.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m busy now. We can talk some other time.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Make sure he knows you\u2019re not available to him every time it suits him.<\/p>\n

Make him see that you have a will of your own, a free will and you\u2019re able to make your own decisions without anyone interfering.<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t feel like talking to him right now, he has no right or the power to make you. Make sure he knows that.<\/p>\n

\u201cStep away from me.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"retrato<\/p>\n

Os manipuladores usam a intimida\u00e7\u00e3o como a sua arma mais forte. Usam-na quando todas as outras jogos mentais<\/a><\/span> fail. It\u2019s their last resort.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re in the middle of a fight and they don\u2019t see a way of winning, they will walk into your personal space with the intention of scaring you.<\/p>\n

Most victims can\u2019t handle that kind of emotional pressure, so they fold and allow the abusers to get complete control.<\/p>\n

Let your abuser know that you can\u2019t be intimidated.<\/p>\n

Even though you\u2019re scared as hell, don\u2019t let that fear show because fear is only making him stronger and more aggressive.<\/p>\n

\u201cI feel so sorry for you.\u201d (read: sarcasm)<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Para conseguirem o que querem, os manipuladores tentar\u00e3o provocar a sua simpatia.<\/p>\n

Tentar\u00e3o vender-lhe uma hist\u00f3ria pat\u00e9tica, para que sinta pena deles e fa\u00e7a as coisas \u00e0 maneira deles.<\/p>\n

Don’t let them manipulate your emotional state like this. Show them that this time you mean it. This time you\u2019re serious.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe\u2019ll talk when you calm down.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

Querem que reajas antes de pensares. Querem que penses emocionalmente e n\u00e3o racionalmente, para que digas a primeira coisa que te vem \u00e0 cabe\u00e7a e a uses contra ti.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t fall into that trap, and avoid talking to him during a high emotional state.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m a person worthy of respect and love.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Manipulators are counting on you feeling worthless. They need you to feel like you are a nobody, so it\u2019s easier for them to control you.<\/p>\n

By showing and saying to him that you are as important as anyone else in this world, that you deserve respect and love, you\u2019re automatically ruining his plans, and you\u2019ll make him powerless against you.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m not letting you get inside my mind.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Os manipuladores s\u00e3o os melhores a ultrapassar todos os limites poss\u00edveis que estabelecemos, porque pensam que podem.<\/p>\n

And if you let them, you\u2019re only encouraging them to continue doing whatever the hell they want without any respect for anyone around them.<\/p>\n

Se lhes dissermos que nos recusamos a ser intimidados e maltratados, eles afastar-se-\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Remember this one thing\u2014as long as you\u2019re dancing to the music he\u2019s playing, you won\u2019t be able to get away from his manipulative grip.<\/p>\n

Take a stand and make a change in your life. Don\u2019t be afraid of anyone.<\/p>\n

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