{"id":33344,"date":"2020-02-21T08:20:48","date_gmt":"2020-02-21T08:20:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=33344"},"modified":"2022-08-02T16:20:29","modified_gmt":"2022-08-02T16:20:29","slug":"8-maneiras-de-resistir-aos-jogos-mentais-perversos-quando-se-divorcia-de-um-narcisista","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/8-maneiras-de-resistir-aos-jogos-mentais-perversos-quando-se-divorcia-de-um-narcisista\/","title":{"rendered":"8 maneiras de resistir aos jogos mentais perversos quando se divorcia de um narcisista"},"content":{"rendered":"

Na verdade, n\u00e3o fazia ideia de que o meu ex era um narcisista, at\u00e9 nos divorciarmos.<\/p>\n

Costumava ouvir as mulheres falarem de narcisismo, jogos mentais, manipula\u00e7\u00e3o e abuso emocional e o mais triste \u00e9 que eu n\u00e3o fazia ideia de que isso tamb\u00e9m me estava a acontecer.<\/p>\n

Maybe I didn\u2019t even want to admit it to myself at that time.<\/p>\n

A quest\u00e3o \u00e9 que, durante toda a minha rela\u00e7\u00e3o, todo o meu casamento com o meu ex-marido narcisista, senti que eu \u00e9 que era a louca.<\/p>\n

I felt like every problem was on me and that I was the source of our troubles. Then our marriage fell apart because I couldn\u2019t take it any longer.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Desisti de tentar resolver as coisas, de andar sobre cascas de ovos quando estava perto dele.<\/p>\n

Deixei de fingir ser algo que n\u00e3o era s\u00f3 para o fazer feliz, porque o que \u00e9 que aconteceu \u00e0 minha felicidade nessa hist\u00f3ria?<\/p>\n

E os meus sentimentos?<\/em><\/p>\n

Eu achava que devia ter uma palavra a dizer em tudo aquilo porque, afinal de contas, era a minha vida que estava em jogo. Infelizmente, ele nunca se preocupou com o que eu queria, nem sequer levantou um dedo para ajudar ou para mostrar interesse na minha vida.<\/p>\n

Nunca parou e perguntou-me porque \u00e9 que os meus olhos estavam manchados de r\u00edmel, se tinha estado a chorar. didn\u2019t give a damn. <\/a><\/p>\n

Nunca tinha conhecido uma pessoa t\u00e3o desonesta e astuta em toda a minha vida.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Ele esmagava tudo e todos para conseguir o que queria e o que precisava, e esse algo era um caos emocional completo e total.<\/p>\n

He needed his narcissistic supply and he knew how to get it\u2014through me. I was going through emotional hell and the worst part was no one believed me.<\/p>\n

Ningu\u00e9m poderia sequer tentar imaginar que o meu ex-marido, um narcisista disfar\u00e7ado de homem bom e honesto, fosse capaz de fazer algo de prejudicial a algu\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

A sua hist\u00f3ria era \u00e0 prova de bala e o seu comportamento nunca sugeriria que havia algo de errado com ele.<\/p>\n

Ele tinha uma hist\u00f3ria encantadora e muita confian\u00e7a e era uma loucura algu\u00e9m suspeitar que ele era um peda\u00e7o de merda narcisista.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

So imagine my struggle and emotional pain during our divorce. Imagine how it feels to fight someone who lies to everyone and what\u2019s even worse, everyone believes him.<\/p>\n

Imagina como \u00e9 estar a lutar sozinho contra o mundo e seres o \u00fanico que sabe a verdade, mas ningu\u00e9m acredita em ti.<\/p>\n

Fortunately, he couldn\u2019t keep up with his charade for long. I was smarter than him and I was more persistent.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Depois de ter come\u00e7ado a ignor\u00e1-lo, depois de me ter tornado aborrecida como uma pedra, ele perdeu o interesse em mim.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

That\u2019s when I finally found my peace. He gave up torturing me and my kids and moved on to the next victim.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

He had to move on because I was no longer his narcissistic supply and he can\u2019t live without his supply. So he left in a rush to find it somewhere else.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying fighting him was easy because it wasn\u2019t. It was the hardest fight of my life because I had to stay sane for the sake of my children.<\/p>\n

Tive de resistir aos seus joguinhos ardilosos e \u00e0s suas ilus\u00f5es para me afastar dele e dos meus filhos.<\/p>\n

He even managed to turn them against me. He even succeeded in turning my own family against me. It didn\u2019t last for long but it hurt like hell.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It felt like the whole world had turned against me. With time, they\u2019ve all seen who he really is after his mind games didn\u2019t work on me anymore.<\/p>\n

Isso deixou-o frustrado; estava a perder a cabe\u00e7a, por isso virou-se e mostrou acidentalmente a sua verdadeira cara.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

H\u00e1 uma maneira de aguentar o mal que uma pessoa nos pode fazer. \u00c9 preciso paci\u00eancia, for\u00e7a e sobreviver a muita dor.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re going to feel left and abandoned, with no reason to live your life like that.<\/p>\n

Saiba que tudo isso \u00e9 apenas uma fase que passar\u00e1 se fizer algumas coisas corretamente:<\/p>\n

Advogado<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Fa\u00e7a o que for preciso. Pe\u00e7a v\u00e1rias opini\u00f5es e escolha a pessoa que considera ser a melhor para o seu caso.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de manter a discri\u00e7\u00e3o por causa do narcisista.<\/p>\n

If he finds out you\u2019re looking for a lawyer and you\u2019re going behind his back, he will return to you and play one of his mind games on you, like love bombing or stalking.<\/p>\n

Seja inteligente e tome esta medida em segredo e esteja preparado para todos os cen\u00e1rios poss\u00edveis, porque numa luta com um narcisista, as luvas est\u00e3o fora de jogo.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t negotiate or settle<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It\u2019s in the interests of a narcissist to prolong the process.<\/p>\n

Isso significa que ele tem mais tempo para o manipular de modo a que aceite a sua vers\u00e3o da verdade, na qual ele realmente acredita.<\/p>\n

Narcissists really believe in what they say. They don\u2019t even question their thoughts or their claims.<\/p>\n

Seja qual for o acordo que se fa\u00e7a, um narcisista nunca o levar\u00e1 at\u00e9 ao fim.<\/p>\n

They will do a part of what they are supposed to do and then they\u2019ll try to convince you to change what they don\u2019t like. It\u2019s all a part of their game to stall things.<\/p>\n

Nunca considerar\u00e3o um compromisso como uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o poss\u00edvel para o seu problema e tentar\u00e3o sempre manipul\u00e1-lo para que recue e as coisas acabem \u00e0 maneira deles.<\/p>\n

So, don\u2019t fall for that trick and never try to settle out of compassion for your narcissistic ex. He can\u2019t feel empathy and he doesn\u2019t care about you or your children.<\/p>\n

A \u00fanica pessoa que lhe interessa \u00e9 ele pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

Recolher todos os documentos importantes<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Certifique-se de que \u00e9 voc\u00ea que tem todos os documentos necess\u00e1rios para o div\u00f3rcio. Pegue em certid\u00f5es de nascimento, c\u00f3pias das facturas, a sua licen\u00e7a de casamento e tudo o que precisar.<\/p>\n

Se se encontrar numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o em que precisa de algo do seu narcisista, pode contar com o facto de ele n\u00e3o lho dar.<\/p>\n

He will lie that he doesn\u2019t have it, he\u2019ll lie he\u2019s working on it, or he will simply, \u201cNo,\u201d with some lame excuse.<\/p>\n

Ser astuto<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Remember, you\u2019re playing against a narcissist and you have to be as devious as him.<\/p>\n

You have to play rough and lower yourself to his level because if you choose an honest way to try to win the battle, you\u2019re going to lose.<\/p>\n

Por isso, sugiro-vos vivamente que usem tudo o que t\u00eam contra ele.<\/p>\n

E n\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de que um narcisista tem a capacidade de se apresentar como perfeito atrav\u00e9s de uma s\u00e9rie de ac\u00e7\u00f5es desonestas.<\/p>\n

The judge will most likely buy his story. Don’t let this happen and use all means possible to stop him.<\/p>\n

Stay grounded and don\u2019t fall into traps<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Cease all communication with your narcissistic ex. He is devious enough to use your every frustration outbursts against you and in fact, he\u2019s counting on that.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why he\u2019ll provoke you and deliberately make you angry so you feel tempted to say a lot of ugly things via text or calls.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t fall for that manipulation and try to suppress your anger or channel it elsewhere.<\/p>\n

Nunca partir um regra de n\u00e3o contacto com um narcisista<\/a>. If you do, he\u2019ll make sure you pay for everything you did or didn\u2019t do to him.<\/p>\n

Relacionadas: Como fazer com que um narcisista tenha medo de si: 19 maneiras \u00e0 prova de idiotas<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Rodeie-se de pessoas que se preocupam consigo<\/h2>\n

\"dois<\/p>\n

Todo o apoio emocional que puderes obter d\u00e1-te jeito. V\u00e1 ter com a sua fam\u00edlia e os seus amigos antes que ele o fa\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

Admite tudo e fala com eles sobre o tipo de monstro que ele \u00e9.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be embarrassed and after all, people who sincerely love you will never judge you. They will offer you help because you deserve it.<\/p>\n

At times, you\u2019re going to need someone to talk to because being alone in that kind of situation can easily mess up your mind.<\/p>\n

Certifique-se de que os seus filhos recebem a ajuda de que necessitam<\/h2>\n

\"m\u00e3e<\/p>\n

As crian\u00e7as s\u00e3o normalmente v\u00edtimas em segunda m\u00e3o neste tipo de situa\u00e7\u00f5es, especialmente quando se trata de um pai narcisista. Ele n\u00e3o se det\u00e9m perante nada.<\/p>\n

The fact he\u2019s harming his children doesn\u2019t mean anything to him because as I\u2019ve already said, pessoas como ele s\u00f3 se preocupam com elas pr\u00f3prias<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Hire a counselor to help your kids deal with the situation; even though you think they are okay because they are not talking about the divorce, that doesn\u2019t necessarily mean it\u2019s true.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 prov\u00e1vel que estejam a reprimir os seus sentimentos e que precisem de algu\u00e9m que os ajude a lidar com eles.<\/p>\n

The harassment won\u2019t stop after the divorce<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t stop manipulating you after the divorce. Just in case, make sure to do everything to make yourself the least interesting person alive.<\/p>\n

Nunca caia em armadilhas como quando ele lhe pergunta como foi o seu dia e voc\u00ea responde educadamente, dando-lhe pormenores que ele pode usar contra si.<\/p>\n

Mantenha a sua vida pessoal afastada dele. Fale apenas do que \u00e9 necess\u00e1rio, do que est\u00e1 relacionado com os seus filhos.<\/p>\n

Never reveal what you\u2019re up to or how you\u2019re feeling.<\/p>\n

Estabele\u00e7a limites firmes e nunca abra excep\u00e7\u00f5es. Se o avisar, ele n\u00e3o o largar\u00e1, tentando sempre obter mais.<\/p>\n

Certifique-se de que ele sabe que os seus limites s\u00e3o os que s\u00e3o, sem possibilidade de serem alterados. S\u00f3 o conseguir\u00e1 fazer se for coerente com as suas decis\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

It\u2019s possible he will try to turn your kids against you after the divorce but don\u2019t worry.<\/p>\n

I know it\u2019s hard as hell to listen to lies and false accusations, especially when your kids are involved in that.<\/p>\n

Mantenha a sua for\u00e7a e apoie os seus filhos, aconte\u00e7a o que acontecer. Mais tarde ou mais cedo, eles v\u00e3o perceber o que \u00e9 a verdade.<\/p>\n

Divorciar-se de um narcisista<\/a> will be \u2018the\u2019 battle of your life but you\u2019ll get through it.<\/p>\n

Just remember, there is no way to reason with a narcissist, so don\u2019t even try. Plan your main goal and make it come true at any cost.<\/p>\n

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