{"id":33364,"date":"2019-02-21T10:11:03","date_gmt":"2019-02-21T10:11:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=33364"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:52:44","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:52:44","slug":"um-simples-desculpa-nao-pode-mudar-tudo-o-que-me-fizeste","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/um-simples-desculpa-nao-pode-mudar-tudo-o-que-me-fizeste\/","title":{"rendered":"Um simples \"desculpa\" n\u00e3o pode mudar tudo o que me fizeste"},"content":{"rendered":"

I am a human being, not a robot. I don’t work on pressing the right buttons and I don’t have the ability of turning my emotions on and off the way you’d like me to.<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t snap my fingers and erase my memory or choose between the things I want to forget and the ones I want to remember.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t have a magic wand which can make all of my emotional pain go away or which could erase my past, even though that is something I want more than anything.<\/p>\n

So you must understand why I can\u2019t aceitar as vossas desculpas<\/a><\/span>, just like that. Why I can\u2019t pretend as if nothing happened and as if you never made my life a living hell.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

I am not telling you this because I don\u2019t believe you\u2014as much as I am apprehensive, you might really regret your mistakes.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o estou a fazer isto para me vingar de ti ou para te dar uma li\u00e7\u00e3o para nunca mais brincares comigo.<\/p>\n

I cannot accept your apology because deep in my heart, I know that I can\u2019t forgive you for real.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n

Dar-te o meu falso perd\u00e3o e absolver-te dos teus pecados, quando ainda guardo rancor por toda a dor que me fizeste passar, faria de mim hip\u00f3crita e em nada diferente de ti.<\/p>\n

A verdade \u00e9 que gostaria de recuperar a minha for\u00e7a e que gostaria de ser a pessoa maior e permitir-me perdoar-vos.<\/p>\n

However, I wouldn\u2019t like to do it to make things easier for you. Instead, I would like to accept your apology for my own sake.<\/p>\n

Gostaria de te perdoar para me poder libertar deste ressentimento horr\u00edvel e desta negatividade que ainda me consome vivo, mesmo muito depois de teres sa\u00eddo da minha vida.<\/p>\n

Assim, poderia libertar-me deste desejo de vingan\u00e7a que continuo a tentar combater.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, that is something I can\u2019t do, as much as I want to.<\/p>\n

A simple, \u201cI am sorry,\u201d can\u2019t make me forget all the nights I spent crying myself to sleep, all the humiliation I went through because of you or the feeling of abandonment I had when you left me hanging.<\/p>\n

It can\u2019t change the fact you enganado<\/a><\/span> durante anos, enquanto me prometia a sua fidelidade eterna, que me manipulou para me culpar pelos seus erros e pelo facto de ter despeda\u00e7ado o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

It can\u2019t magically make me go back to being the girl I was before you broke me, nor can it erase the fact that you scarred me for life.<\/p>\n

A simple, \u201cI\u2019m sorry,\u201d won\u2019t take back all the insults and lies you kept telling me for years.<\/p>\n

It won\u2019t make up for the fact that you always treated me like second best, while you were always my priority.<\/p>\n

Your, \u201cSorry,\u201d won\u2019t give me back the years I wasted on you.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Os anos que desperdicei a justificar o teu comportamento de merda, a dar-te segundas oportunidades ou a esperar que te tornasses no homem que eu precisava que fosses.<\/p>\n

It won\u2019t erase the trauma you inflicted and it won\u2019t change the fact that you made me think I was n\u00e3o foi feito para ser amado<\/a><\/span>.<\/p>\n

It won\u2019t glue my broken heart back together and it won\u2019t heal my wounded soul.<\/p>\n

So, no, we can\u2019t be friends and you can\u2019t come back into my life just because you told me you are sorry. You don\u2019t deserve my forgiveness and I can\u2019t pretend like none of these things happened.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014this doesn\u2019t mean I don\u2019t appreciate the fact that you\u2019ve finally admitted your mistakes and that you\u2019ve taken responsibility for your actions.<\/p>\n

Nonetheless, a simple apology isn\u2019t enough and can never make up for all the pain you\u2019ve caused.<\/p>\n

To be honest, I would be lying if I told you that I am sorry for the fact that you are consumed with guilt. Because you don\u2019t deserve to sleep peacefully, thinking that you\u2019ve done me no harm. You don\u2019t deserve to continue living as if there doesn\u2019t exist a woman whose life you\u2019ve ruined.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\"Um<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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