{"id":33580,"date":"2019-02-26T08:58:16","date_gmt":"2019-02-26T08:58:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=33580"},"modified":"2022-02-21T00:41:17","modified_gmt":"2022-02-21T00:41:17","slug":"perdoar-lhe-nao-vai-apagar-a-dor-mas-vai-ajuda-la-a-seguir-em-frente","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/perdoar-lhe-nao-vai-apagar-a-dor-mas-vai-ajuda-la-a-seguir-em-frente\/","title":{"rendered":"Perdo\u00e1-lo n\u00e3o vai apagar a dor, mas vai ajud\u00e1-la a seguir em frente"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando se termina uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica ou rela\u00e7\u00e3o abusiva<\/a>Todos lhe dizem que o melhor que tem a fazer \u00e9 deixar no passado tudo o que lhe aconteceu de mau.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Toda a gente continua a pression\u00e1-lo para seguir em frente, como se fosse a coisa mais f\u00e1cil a fazer depois de tudo o que passou.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

However, you can\u2019t expect to leave the past in the past while all the pain you\u2019ve been through is still haunting you as it did the first day.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Deseja n\u00e3o sentir nada disto, mas a verdade \u00e9 que a amargura e a negatividade o consomem completamente.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Everything you\u2019ve experienced changed the essence of the girl you used to be.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Fez de ti uma pessoa vingativa que quer vingar-se a qualquer pre\u00e7o e uma pessoa que aprendeu o significado do \u00f3dio.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

The harsh truth is that you can\u2019t help but wish everything worst for the man who crushed you.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Queres que ele seja para sempre assombrado pelas coisas horr\u00edveis que te fez e que passe o resto da vida a lamentar o facto de te ter partido o cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

No matter how hard you try, you can\u2019t seem to forgive him for the way he treated you. You can\u2019t forgive or forget the pain<\/a> ou os danos que este homem deixou.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

To be honest, he doesn\u2019t deserve your forgiveness either.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

A \u00faltima coisa que ele merece \u00e9 dormir tranquilamente enquanto voc\u00ea ainda est\u00e1 algures por a\u00ed, a lutar contra as consequ\u00eancias de tudo o que ele lhe fez e a tentar afugentar os dem\u00f3nios que ele deixou para tr\u00e1s.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Nevertheless, this forgiveness shouldn\u2019t happen because of him. <\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Tens de dar o teu melhor para encontrar a for\u00e7a dentro de ti para o perdoar, para teu pr\u00f3prio bem, porque esse \u00e9 o \u00fanico caminho para a tua liberdade espiritual.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014forgiveness isn\u2019t omnipotent. <\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

It won\u2019t heal your broken heart overnight, it won\u2019t make your pain go away just like that and it won\u2019t magically erase the scars on your wounded soul. <\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

No entanto, ser\u00e1 o primeiro passo para seguir em frente.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Every time you doubt your ability to forgive, remember that people\u2019s actions only say things about them and they shouldn\u2019t in any way define you.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

N\u00e3o \u00e9 seu dever carregar o enorme peso de tudo o que aconteceu, mesmo agora que se libertou da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Besides, if the man who has caused you harm doesn\u2019t have a conscience about what he\u2019s done then you not forgiving him won\u2019t make him see the consequences of his actions.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I know this is a painful realization but no matter what you do or don\u2019t do won\u2019t make this man feel the blame for the way he hurt you.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Ent\u00e3o, porque \u00e9 que \u00e9s tu que continuas a carregar tudo isto? <\/strong>bagagem emocional<\/strong><\/a>sabendo que isso s\u00f3 vos pesa? <\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Letting go all of this bitterness and desire for revenge won\u2019t make things easier for your abuser\u2014it will just set you free from the chains of his deeds and it will make the process of moving on easier for you.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I know that you\u2019re aware of the fact that this man, who has done you so much harm and who has damaged you so deeply, is out there living his life as if nothing has happened while you still struggle with the outcome of your relationship.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

No entanto, Em vez de desperdi\u00e7ar toda a sua energia a pensar nele e nas formas de se vingar dele, dedique toda a sua for\u00e7a a ajudar-se a recuperar e a sarar.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Deixem que o karma fa\u00e7a o seu trabalho, porque posso garantir-vos que ele ser\u00e1 castigado por cada l\u00e1grima que choraram por causa dele.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

No entanto, n\u00e3o \u00e9 seu dever obrig\u00e1-lo a pagar.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Assim instead of allowing this guy\u2019s toxicity to have an impact on your life after all this time, turn to yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Have faith that God always has a plan and that there will come a day when he\u2019ll go through all the things you went through.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

N\u00e3o estou a pedir-lhe que se liberte de toda a tristeza e dor num segundo, porque a cura \u00e9 um processo que leva tempo e que acontecer\u00e1 quando estiver preparado.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I am just begging you to let go of resentments and grudges because they won\u2019t lead you anywhere except becoming the same as the guy whom you luckily escaped from in time.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

\"Perdo\u00e1-lo<\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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