{"id":33592,"date":"2019-02-26T10:17:08","date_gmt":"2019-02-26T10:17:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=33592"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:48:31","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:48:31","slug":"5-verdades-absolutas-sobre-separacoes-que-nunca-ninguem-lhe-diz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/5-verdades-absolutas-sobre-separacoes-que-nunca-ninguem-lhe-diz\/","title":{"rendered":"5 verdades absolutas sobre separa\u00e7\u00f5es (que nunca ningu\u00e9m te diz)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Let’s start with the first universal truth that we’re all familiar with and that is: As rupturas s\u00e3o mesmo uma porcaria.<\/strong> <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

N\u00e3o importa o que lhe digam sobre este, nunca ningu\u00e9m ser\u00e1 capaz de o contradizer.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

As rupturas s\u00e3o uma verdadeira dor de cabe\u00e7a que nos faz questionar porque \u00e9 que come\u00e7\u00e1mos alguma coisa com algu\u00e9m em primeiro lugar. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

P\u00f5em \u00e0 prova a nossa sanidade, a nossa toler\u00e2ncia e o nosso limiar de dor. Mas, acredite-se ou n\u00e3o, nem tudo \u00e9 preto e branco.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

There\u2019s this little gray area about break-ups that no one ever tells you about. It is stationed between your rationality and insanity and that is why it is really hard to capture it. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Resumindo, h\u00e1 5 verdades absolutas sobre as separa\u00e7\u00f5es que nunca ningu\u00e9m lhe diz e que podem ajudar a aliviar a sua dor.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

1. You can\u2019t choose not to be in pain but you can choose not to suffer
<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Estar em sofrimento e sofrer s\u00e3o duas coisas diferentes, mas, de alguma forma, vemo-las sempre como uma coisa s\u00f3. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

After a break-up, your body and mind go through enormous amounts of pain that you can\u2019t control. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nO cora\u00e7\u00e3o d\u00f3i-lhe, tem dificuldade em respirar, sente-se desiludido.\r\n\r\n\r\n

Todas estas coisas s\u00e3o inevit\u00e1veis, mas o sofrimento \u00e9 opcional. Sofrer significa ser incapaz de parar de pensar demais. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Significa fazer demasiadas perguntas a si pr\u00f3prio e culpar-se a si pr\u00f3prio e ao universo por todas as dificuldades que a separa\u00e7\u00e3o lhe trouxe.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

O sofrimento \u00e9 aquela vozinha na nossa cabe\u00e7a que nos faz perguntas como: O que teria acontecido se eu tivesse feito isto ou aquilo? <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Why didn\u2019t I notice it earlier? Why me? <\/em><\/strong>
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Agora vem a parte mais dif\u00edcil. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

You\u2019re probably asking yourself how in the world you can choose not to suffer because it seems that it is happening automatically.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Optar por n\u00e3o sofrer n\u00e3o \u00e9 de todo f\u00e1cil e f\u00e1-lo dizendo a todas essas perguntas para se irem foder e nunca mais voltarem porque n\u00e3o s\u00e3o reais. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

N\u00e3o fazem parte de ti. S\u00e3o apenas alguns efeitos secund\u00e1rios que podem ser exterminados.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

2. The word \u2018deserve\u2019 is a trap
<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Quando algo de mau acontece como rutura<\/a>, we tend to immediately link it with the word \u2018deserve\u2019. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

We tell ourself that we didn\u2019t deserve it and maybe some other person who was a real asshole did deserve it.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

By classifying people in accordance with what they \u2018deserve\u2019, we fall even deeper into misery. <\/strong>
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Todos n\u00f3s merecemos experimentar um amor rec\u00edproco e a \u00fanica diferen\u00e7a \u00e9 que algumas pessoas experimentam-no mais cedo e outras mais tarde (quando est\u00e3o preparadas para isso). <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Constantly thinking about what you \u2018deserve\u2019 makes you feel even more sad and confused.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Tudo acontece por uma raz\u00e3o e a raz\u00e3o n\u00e3o tem a ver com o facto de merecermos ou n\u00e3o merecermos. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

When it comes to break-ups, you should erase the word \u2018deserve\u2019 from your dictionary because if you don\u2019t, it will prolong your pain.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

3. Fugir do que te magoa nunca te vai curar
<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Todos n\u00f3s lidamos de forma diferente quando se trata de separa\u00e7\u00f5es. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Some of us go drinking night after night, some of us choose one-night \u2018romances\u2019, some of us find something else that will distract us from the pain we\u2019re feeling.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Mas a verdade \u00e9 que, fa\u00e7amos o que fizermos, a \u00fanica coisa que poder\u00e1 curar \u00e9 o tempo. <\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Running from what hurts you will never heal you because simply distracting yourself with some other things so that you don\u2019t think about the core of your pain has nothing to do with healing.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I\u2019m sorry to tell you that no matter how long you choose to run away from yourself and your past, nothing will ever change until the right time comes.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Fa\u00e7as o que fizeres, sarar\u00e1s quando o tempo assim o decidir.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

4. Contar ou exagerar constantemente a hist\u00f3ria da sua separa\u00e7\u00e3o aos outros prolonga o tempo de recupera\u00e7\u00e3o
<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Depois de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o, parece normal contactar os nossos amigos e familiares sobre o assunto porque, evidentemente, a infelicidade gosta de companhia. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

But constantly retelling, or even worse, rewriting and exaggerating your break-up story so that you become the hero of it (when you know you\u2019re not) is not healthy.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

No one\u2019s a hero and no one\u2019s a villain when it comes to break-ups.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

<\/strong>You two simply didn\u2019t get along because of some reasons and that is all there is to it. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Making your ex a villain in other people\u2019s eyes is toxic for your health and the health of others and it will prolong your healing time.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Ser realista em rela\u00e7\u00e3o aos acontecimentos, aceitar o que aconteceu e reduzir a recontagem s\u00e3o as melhores coisas que pode fazer por si e pelas pessoas que o rodeiam.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Quer dizer, ningu\u00e9m quer ouvir os pormenores da sua separa\u00e7\u00e3o 24 horas por dia, 7 dias por semana, porque querem passar tempo consigo e n\u00e3o com o seu passado.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

5. Perdoar o seu ex e a si pr\u00f3prio \u00e9 uma obriga\u00e7\u00e3o se quiser voltar a ser feliz
<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I understand that it is really hard to forgive someone who mistreated you in a relationship but you have to know that you\u2019re doing it for yourself. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

The worst thing you can do after a break-up is pretend that everything\u2019s okay while inside you\u2019re collapsing.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Perdoar o seu ex e a si pr\u00f3prio \u00e9 a chave para voltar a ser feliz. E sabe porqu\u00ea? <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Because if you\u2019re feeling rage, disappointment and madness, all of these will become a part of you and they will not leave you until you forgive.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

You will never be able to enter into a new relationship and be happy with someone else as long as you don\u2019t forgive your ex or yourself for the previous one. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

\u00c9 um ciclo inevit\u00e1vel da vida, pelo qual todos temos de passar se quisermos come\u00e7ar um novo cap\u00edtulo na nossa vida<\/a>. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

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