{"id":34159,"date":"2019-03-12T11:13:23","date_gmt":"2019-03-12T11:13:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=34159"},"modified":"2022-01-12T22:03:28","modified_gmt":"2022-01-12T22:03:28","slug":"para-de-inventar-desculpas-se-ele-se-importasse-mostrava-o","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/para-de-inventar-desculpas-se-ele-se-importasse-mostrava-o\/","title":{"rendered":"P\u00e1ra de arranjar desculpas - Se ele se importasse, mostrava-o"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>J\u00e1 alguma vez esperou que algu\u00e9m acabasse por mudar, apesar de, no fundo, saber muito bem que era pouco prov\u00e1vel que isso acontecesse?<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Have you ever ignored your intuition which kept telling you that someone wasn\u2019t worthy of your time and energy and stuck to a person who has proven to be good for nothing more than once?<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>J\u00e1 alguma vez ficou ao lado de algu\u00e9m mesmo sabendo que precisava de se ir embora para o seu pr\u00f3prio bem?<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>J\u00e1 alguma vez mentiste a ti pr\u00f3pria que algu\u00e9m te amava de verdade, apesar de ele continuar a provar que estavas errada?<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong>If you have, this one\u2019s for you. <\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong>It\u2019s for every girl who continues <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/7-desculpas-para-uma-relacao-abusiva\/\"><strong>arranjar desculpas<\/strong><\/a><strong> por um homem que a trata como merda, s\u00f3 para ela poder continuar a am\u00e1-lo.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Para cada rapariga que age como se fosse cega, para a rapariga que se recusa a ver todos os sinais que est\u00e3o \u00e0 sua frente e para a rapariga que se recusa a tirar os \u00f3culos cor-de-rosa e a olhar a verdade nos olhos.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>For the girl who continues justifying the man who doesn\u2019t deserve to have her love, hoping that eventually he\u2019ll become different.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Para cada rapariga que continua a mentir a si pr\u00f3pria que ser\u00e1 ela a salvar este homem que n\u00e3o est\u00e1 emocionalmente dispon\u00edvel.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Que continua a convencer-se de que \u00e9 ela que abrir\u00e1 o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o ao amor e que o far\u00e1 mudar de atitude.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>N\u00e3o, n\u00e3o estou a dar-te o conforto de que precisas e a dizer-te para continuares a lutar.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>This won\u2019t be me getting your hopes up or telling you that one of these days, you\u2019ll get what you want from this guy.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Isto sou eu a tentar meter-lhe algum ju\u00edzo na cabe\u00e7a e a tentar abrir-lhe os olhos para a feia verdade.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Eu a tentar lembrar-te do teu valor e eu a tentar for\u00e7ar-te a organizar as tuas coisas.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong>Honey, I hate to be the one to tell you this but if a guy acts like he doesn\u2019t give a damn about you, you need to start believing him.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong> Remember that a man\u2019s efforts are a <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/his-effort-is-a-reflection-of-his-love-for-you\/\"><strong>reflexo do seu amor por ti<\/strong><\/a><strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Tudo o resto s\u00e3o tretas.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Sei que est\u00e1s \u00e0 espera que eu te diga que esta \u00e9 apenas a sua forma especial de te amar.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>To tell you that he is like this because he\u2019s been hurt in the past or because he needs time to open up to you and to trust you.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>To tell you that deep down he knows that you are the love of his life but he can\u2019t seem to find the proper way to show it.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>No entanto, nada disto \u00e9 verdade.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Veja,<strong> if a guy doesn\u2019t treat you as his first choice, if he takes you for granted, if he abuses you in any way, if he cheats you on physically or emotionally, if he doesn\u2019t put any effort into your relationship, if he doesn\u2019t want to label things, if he wants you to chase him and if he doesn\u2019t give you the love you need, he simply doesn\u2019t care. <\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong>No, you are not asking for much, you are not too picky or too demanding, he just doesn\u2019t love you, never did and never will.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Por muito que doa admitir algo assim a si pr\u00f3pria, tem simplesmente de aceitar o facto de que este homem n\u00e3o \u00e9 adequado para si.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Tem de parar de esperar que ele mude de atitude e que comece a valorizar tudo o que faz por ele, porque isso nunca vai acontecer.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Tens de parar de desperdi\u00e7ar anos da tua vida para que ele se torne um homem melhor e para que comece a tratar-te como devia desde o primeiro dia.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Para que ele compreenda que \u00e9s \u00fanica e para que comece a ver o quanto o amas.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>\u00c9 preciso deixar de lado todos os \"devia\" e \"podia\". Deixar de lado o seu potencial e deixar de lado o homem que ele pode vir a ser.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Em vez disso, por uma vez, olhem para as coisas de forma realista.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong>For once, stop deceiving yourself and see this man for who he really is\u2014<\/strong>um idiota manipulador que est\u00e1 a usar o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o bondoso e que se est\u00e1 a aproveitar de si.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Quando o fizeres, quando finalmente vires as suas verdadeiras cores, por favor, s\u00ea suficientemente forte e deixa-o.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Don\u2019t do it to teach him a lesson or to make him realize what he\u2019s lost. Instead, do it for yourself.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Do it because you don\u2019t need him and because you are way better off alone than with him.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong>F\u00e1-lo porque mereces melhor e porque sabes que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/por-favor-para-de-me-dar-esperancas-porque-ambos-sabemos-que-nunca-me-poderas-dar-o-que-eu-preciso\/\">ele nunca poderia dar-te o que precisas<\/a>. <\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong>F\u00e1-lo porque gostas mais de ti do que dele. Faz isso porque <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/4-razoes-pelas-quais-acabar-com-ele-foi-a-melhor-decisao-da-sua-vida\/\"><strong>acabar com ele ser\u00e1 a melhor decis\u00e3o<\/strong><\/a><strong> da sua vida.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" class=\"wp-image-34168\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/PINTEREST-2019-03-12T121154.600-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"P\u00e1ra de arranjar desculpas - Se ele se importasse, mostrava-o\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/PINTEREST-2019-03-12T121154.600-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/PINTEREST-2019-03-12T121154.600-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/PINTEREST-2019-03-12T121154.600.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever hoped that someone would eventually change, even though deep down you were very well aware that something like that was unlikely to happen? Have you ever ignored your intuition which kept telling you that someone wasn\u2019t worthy of your time and energy and stuck to a person who has proven to be&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":34160,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29631],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-34159","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-getting-over-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29631,"label":"getting over him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/StockSnap_IS2NXEIDJV-1.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29631,"name":"getting over him","slug":"getting-over-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29631,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","parent":29627,"count":124,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29631,"category_count":124,"category_description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","cat_name":"getting over him","category_nicename":"getting-over-him","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34159","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=34159"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34159\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/34160"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=34159"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=34159"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=34159"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}