{"id":34436,"date":"2020-05-18T08:22:28","date_gmt":"2020-05-18T08:22:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=34436"},"modified":"2022-05-04T11:08:49","modified_gmt":"2022-05-04T11:08:49","slug":"se-ele-disser-pelo-menos-5-destas-20-coisas-foge-para-as-colinas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/se-ele-disser-pelo-menos-5-destas-20-coisas-foge-para-as-colinas\/","title":{"rendered":"Se ele disser pelo menos 5 destas 20 coisas, fuja para as colinas"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hoje em dia, a maioria dos homens devia vir com instru\u00e7\u00f5es. Est\u00e3o a enviar sinais contradit\u00f3rios, dizendo e fazendo coisas que n\u00e3o fazem sentido nenhum.<\/p>\n

Wouldn\u2019t the world be just a better and more enjoyable place if we weren\u2019t stuck reading in-between the lines and deciphering people\u2019s thoughts?<\/p>\n

Sadly, the reality is different but luckily that\u2019s where we come in to try to help you out.<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 vinte coisas comuns que um homem diz<\/a> que deve acionar o alarme.<\/p>\n

Se reconhecer o homem com quem est\u00e1 a sair em pelo menos cinco delas, fuja para as colinas porque ele \u00e9 m\u00e1 not\u00edcia.<\/p>\n

No entanto, tenha em conta que tudo depender\u00e1 da situa\u00e7\u00e3o em que se encontra; talvez uma coisa que ele diga seja suficiente para que abandon\u00e1-lo<\/a> mas cinco \u00e9 definitivamente um sinal de aviso de que \u00e9 preciso correr para as colinas e nunca olhar para tr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m not looking for anything serious right now.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Neste momento, esta frase \u00e9 o isco para cair na armadilha de uma quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

D\u00e1-lhe esperan\u00e7a de que um dia ele possa estar pronto, mas as probabilidades s\u00e3o de que ele nunca esteja pronto ou que possa estar pronto um dia com outra pessoa.<\/p>\n

Se est\u00e1 \u00e0 procura de um engate casual, esta \u00e9 uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o em que todos ganham.<\/p>\n

If you aren\u2019t, then don\u2019t waste your time on trying to change things into something more committed, as you will just break your own heart.<\/p>\n

\u201cI am one of the good guys.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

If he was genuinely a good, decent and kind guy, he wouldn\u2019t have the need to say it.<\/p>\n

Good guys show who they are through their actions, they don\u2019t sing their own praises.<\/p>\n

A bondade \u00e9 sempre modesta e silenciosa.<\/p>\n

Se ele tem necessidade de explicar quem \u00e9 e que tipo de homem \u00e9, \u00e9 porque lhe falta confian\u00e7a e provavelmente est\u00e1 a tentar esconder alguns problemas mais profundos ou falhas de personalidade.<\/p>\n

Por isso, \u00e9 preciso ter cuidado.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou must be out of your mind to think that.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Esta frase \u00e9 habitual para narcisistas<\/a> e outros tipos de manipuladores t\u00f3xicos que est\u00e3o a tentar convenc\u00ea-lo de que a sua sanidade \u00e9 question\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

Tentam mudar a sua perce\u00e7\u00e3o, convencendo-o de que \u00e9 louco por pensar que eles fizeram ou disseram algo, quando sabe de facto que aconteceu uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o diferente.<\/p>\n

Normalmente, acabamos por pedir desculpa por duvidarmos deles, apesar de sabermos, no fundo, que a culpa \u00e9 deles.<\/p>\n

\u201cI really can\u2019t stand women who\u2026\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 por a\u00ed alguns homens de mente estreita que acreditam que uma mulher tem de fazer ou dizer coisas que eles consideram aceit\u00e1veis.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not the Middle Ages and a woman can be whatever she wants to be and do whatever she feels like.<\/p>\n

If a man starts a conversation with you something along the lines of: I really can\u2019t stand a woman who: smokes, wears crop tops, eats healthily, wears too much make-up, etc,. the odds are he will try to change you and make you fit his world rather than accept you for who you are.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou are clingy.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Quando ouvimos esta frase, temos de ser honestos connosco pr\u00f3prios.<\/p>\n

Determinar se \u00e9 muito pegajoso<\/a> (e veja como pode baixar um pouco o n\u00edvel) ou se lhe est\u00e1 a pedir coisas que ele deveria dar sem esfor\u00e7o.<\/p>\n

If you know it\u2019s not clinginess but a severe lack of attention and affection, you should really reconsider your relationship.<\/p>\n

Whatever you decide, keep in mind that you can\u2019t force a relationship.<\/p>\n

\u201cDo you really need to\u2026?\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

This sentence can refer to all sorts of things, for example: \u201cDo you really need to buy that shirt?\u201d, \u201cDo you really need to eat that chocolate?\u201d , \u201cDo you really need to go on that vacation?\u201d, \u201cDo you really need him\/her in your life?\u201d<\/p>\n

If there is hardly any part of your life he doesn\u2019t have the need to comment on, question or judge, you are dealing with somebody controlling.<\/p>\n

Este tipo de comportamento n\u00e3o \u00e9 apenas irritante, pode tornar-se extremamente t\u00f3xico com o tempo.<\/p>\n

\u201cIf you don\u2019t do as I tell you, I am leaving.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Esta \u00e9 a \u00fanica das vinte coisas que ele diz que est\u00e1 a gritar e a implorar para que o deixes e corras para as montanhas.<\/p>\n

Esta frase pode ser moldada de muitas maneiras diferentes.<\/p>\n

He might want to sleep with you before you are ready, he might be jealous and try to stop you from going out with your friends or similar but the bottom line is he wants you to do something you don\u2019t want to do.<\/p>\n

You should never allow a man to force you to do anything you yourself don\u2019t want; no matter how minor or big it is, it just isn\u2019t right.<\/p>\n

Threats, pleads and ultimatums shouldn\u2019t be a part of any relationship.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhy do you wear make-up?\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

This question is pretty common and not so alarming; men just don\u2019t get it and most of the the time they are just trying to give you a compliment and tell you that you are beautiful with or without any make-up on.<\/p>\n

Still, if they cross the line and feel like they can boss you around and try to forbid you to wear make-up, it\u2019s just a small display of a much greater issue.<\/p>\n

The man in your life should be your equal partner who respects your decisions; even if they don\u2019t make sense to him, he shouldn\u2019t act like he is the boss of you.<\/p>\n

\u201cMy ex used to\u2026\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

It really doesn\u2019t matter whether he is singing his ex\u2019s praises or he is talking trash about her, what matters is that his ex shouldn\u2019t be a part of your current relationship.<\/p>\n

He shouldn\u2019t bring her up every waking hour, let alone compare the two of you.<\/p>\n

If the ex sentences are a usual part of your conversation, he clearly has some unresolved issues and he wasn\u2019t ready to date you in the first place.<\/p>\n

Confronte-o sobre o assunto e pe\u00e7a-lhe educadamente que se cale sobre a sua ex.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat\u2019s a woman like you doing in a job like this?\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Isto pode ser inofensivo, muito rude ou desrespeitoso.<\/p>\n

If it\u2019s harmless, he probably has a crush on you and he doesn\u2019t know anything smarter to say.<\/p>\n

If it\u2019s rude, he is probably feeling threatened by you and he wants to make you feel bad because you are in the minority of women who are in that line of business.<\/p>\n

But who says women can\u2019t be engineers, firefighters, drivers or whatever they want.<\/p>\n

Keep in mind that no matter how cute or charming he is, if he can\u2019t respect you as a colleague, he won\u2019t respect you as a woman either, so you will never feel like his equal.<\/p>\n

\u201cI have to say that I didn\u2019t expect that you\u2019d be so smart.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Even if this sentence may appear like a compliment at first glance, it\u2019s actually a very well-wrapped insult.<\/p>\n

Tudo depende do contexto e do tipo de homem que ele \u00e9.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important that you pay attention to his tone here, because he might be being sarcastic and saying it to mock something you said.<\/p>\n

Tamb\u00e9m pode ser o tipo de homem que menospreza as mulheres e as v\u00ea como o sexo fraco, o que \u00e9 errado a muitos n\u00edveis.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou see, my mom thinks that….\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

If his mother doesn\u2019t like you or keeps interfering in your relationship all the time, you are going to go through hell in that relationship.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t really need a mama\u2019s boy who is incapable of standing up for himself or for you and who can\u2019t make a decision before checking it with mommy dearest first.<\/p>\n

If things don\u2019t miraculously change, you are going to end things because you can\u2019t stand it anymore or he will because he is a wuss who allows his mother to control his life.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou are way hotter\/prettier\/smarter than any of your friends.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Dizer a uma mulher que ela tem um \u00f3timo aspeto, que \u00e9 boa, inteligente e fora deste mundo \u00e9 sempre um elogio bem-vindo, mas comparar-se com os outros \u00e9 simplesmente despropositado.<\/p>\n

Real women empower other women, especially their friends, they don\u2019t trash-talk them and they don\u2019t like it when somebody else does it either.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o h\u00e1 necessidade de frases como esta ou de ele a comparar com outra pessoa.<\/p>\n

\u201cI need space.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Dependendo do contexto, isto pode significam algumas coisas<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Mas se ele est\u00e1 a usar o espa\u00e7o como uma forma mais indolor de dizer que quer algo casual ou de acabar com tudo, deve tomar a decis\u00e3o por ele e ir embora.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t need someone who can\u2019t man up and tell you what the deal is.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t allow him to string you along and if he can\u2019t clearly define what space represents to him, correr para o mais longe poss\u00edvel<\/a>.<\/p>\n

\u201cTo be honest, I don\u2019t see myself having kids.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Se est\u00e3o na mesma p\u00e1gina, esta frase n\u00e3o significa nada. Mas se quiserem planear uma fam\u00edlia e ter filhos um dia, esta frase \u00e9 um grande obst\u00e1culo.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t stay too long with someone who doesn\u2019t want the same things as you do. His opinion is not going to change no matter what you do.<\/p>\n

\u201cIs it that time of the month again?\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Basicamente, \u00e9 uma pessoa que tem sempre raz\u00e3o e sempre que a irrita e a deixa aborrecida, culpa a sua TPM.<\/p>\n

The scenario is the same when you get emotional. It\u2019s like you are deprived of emotions on all the other days except for when you have PMS.<\/p>\n

O seu comportamento \u00e9 apenas um reflexo do seu grau de imaturidade.<\/p>\n

Ele n\u00e3o a compreende, nem \u00e9 capaz de assumir a responsabilidade pelos seus actos que a podem magoar tamb\u00e9m num dia normal.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou should support me and trust in me.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Um homem que consegue manter um emprego durante mais de um m\u00eas ou mais est\u00e1 a tentar convenc\u00ea-la de que vai mudar.<\/p>\n

Ele nunca faz nada do que diz que vai fazer, mas espera o seu apoio, tanto financeiro como emocional.<\/p>\n

Lembre-se apenas que n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma organiza\u00e7\u00e3o de caridade para os perdidos e pregui\u00e7osos e que ele vai esgot\u00e1-lo emocional e financeiramente em vez de mudar a sua vida e os seus h\u00e1bitos.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou don\u2019t really love me, I feel it.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

This could be a genuine concern of his because your behaviour shifted or you yourself are aware that you don\u2019t feel so strongly about him, in which case you should be honest with him and let him know where he stands.<\/p>\n

A outra causa, mais prov\u00e1vel, desta afirma\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 o facto de ele ser profundamente inseguro.<\/p>\n

Ele precisa de ser constantemente tranquilizado<\/a> que o ama e se preocupa com ele e h\u00e1 uma grande probabilidade de que, independentemente do que fa\u00e7a ou diga para lhe mostrar que os seus sentimentos s\u00e3o reais, as inseguran\u00e7as dele ser\u00e3o mais fortes.<\/p>\n

O pior de tudo \u00e9 que a falta de confian\u00e7a que ele tem em si pr\u00f3prio, em si e na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o vai acabar com todo o amor que sente por ele.<\/p>\n

\u201cLet\u2019s just stay in.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

A melhor parte de qualquer rela\u00e7\u00e3o de compromisso \u00e9 o facto de poderem ficar no conforto da vossa casa e divertirem-se, abra\u00e7arem-se e verem filmes ou fazerem algo maroto entre os len\u00e7\u00f3is.<\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 mau \u00e9 se isso for tudo o que faz.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso diversidade e ficar em casa o tempo todo ser\u00e1 muito aborrecido ao fim de algum tempo.<\/p>\n

Se est\u00e3o a come\u00e7ar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o e ele est\u00e1 sempre a querer sair (leia-se: fazer sexo) em casa dele ou na sua e nunca faz nada planos de datas<\/a>Se n\u00e3o fores um bom partido, tens de ter consci\u00eancia disso.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s too far away, we\u2019ll talk about it later on.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Whenever you ask him to do something at the end of the week, month or year, the answer is always the same\u2014\u201cIt\u2019s too far away, we\u2019ll talk about it some other time\u201d.<\/p>\n

A verdade \u00e9 que nunca falam sobre isso, nunca fazem planos concretos e tudo \u00e9 feito \u00e0 \u00faltima hora e quando lhe conv\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

Este tipo de comportamento \u00e9 um sinal claro de que he doesn\u2019t see his future with you<\/a>Pelo menos ainda n\u00e3o, e a quest\u00e3o \u00e9: ser\u00e1 que alguma vez o far\u00e1?<\/p>\n

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Most men today should come with instructions. They are sending mixed signals, saying and doing things things that just make no sense at all. Wouldn\u2019t the world be just a better and more enjoyable place if we weren\u2019t stuck reading in-between the lines and deciphering people\u2019s thoughts? Sadly, the reality is different but luckily that\u2019s…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":92757,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29646],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-34436","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29646,"label":"understanding men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/If-He-Says-At-Least-5-Out-Of-These-20-Things-Run-For-The-Hills.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29646,"name":"understanding men","slug":"understanding-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29646,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","parent":29643,"count":570,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29646,"category_count":570,"category_description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","cat_name":"understanding men","category_nicename":"understanding-men","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34436","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=34436"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34436\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/92757"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=34436"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=34436"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=34436"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}