{"id":34461,"date":"2019-03-18T10:22:24","date_gmt":"2019-03-18T10:22:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=34461"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:30:28","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:30:28","slug":"6-licoes-que-o-divorcio-dos-meus-pais-me-ensinou-sobre-relacionamentos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/6-licoes-que-o-divorcio-dos-meus-pais-me-ensinou-sobre-relacionamentos\/","title":{"rendered":"6 li\u00e7\u00f5es que o div\u00f3rcio dos meus pais me ensinou sobre relacionamentos"},"content":{"rendered":"

O facto de a fam\u00edlia se desfazer mesmo \u00e0 sua frente \u00e9 uma das experi\u00eancias mais traum\u00e1ticas para qualquer crian\u00e7a. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu devia saber, porque foi algo por que passei depois de os meus pais se terem separado.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what I didn\u2019t know at the time was that their divorce would help me a lot through life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What I didn\u2019t know was that it would teach me some crucial things about relationships which I wouldn\u2019t have had the chance to learn otherwise and here are 6 of them.
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1. Nem todas as rela\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o para durar uma vida inteira<\/strong>
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Let\u2019s face it\u2014none of us casa-se<\/a> com uma estrat\u00e9gia de sa\u00edda j\u00e1 planeada. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t promise to love each other until death do us part unless we really believe in the vows we are saying or if we feel like our marriage has no expiration date.
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Nevertheless, things don\u2019t always end up the way we planned them to. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can be convinced that someone is the person you\u2019ll grow old next to but eventually, it turns out that they are not meant to be yours.
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A quest\u00e3o \u00e9 que nem todas as rela\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o feitas para durar uma vida inteira, por muito que queiramos que durem. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Algumas pessoas est\u00e3o l\u00e1 para nos ajudar a atravessar uma determinada fase da vida ou para nos ensinar uma li\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once their job is done and once they\u2019ve accomplished their mission, we lose them, even though that was something we could never imagine happening.
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2. E n\u00e3o faz mal<\/strong>
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E tudo isso faz parte da vida. N\u00e3o, o fim de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o ou o colapso de um casamento n\u00e3o \u00e9 o fim do mundo.
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Sim, \u00e9 doloroso e devastador. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sim, por vezes sentimos que todos os nossos piores pesadelos se tornaram realidade, mas estas coisas simplesmente acontecem. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E simplesmente n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada que se possa fazer em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a isso, em vez de a aceitar e tirar o melhor partido dela. \u00a0
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3. It\u2019s always better to walk away than to stay in a toxic relationship<\/strong>
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Another thing my parents\u2019 divorce taught me is to never permanecer numa m\u00e1 rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> or next to a man who can\u2019t give me what I need. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I am not saying that you should run for the hills at the first sign of inconvenience or that you shouldn\u2019t fight for your relationship but it doesn\u2019t mean that you should ever stay in an unhealthy relationship which is making your life hell.
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I\u2019ve learned that walking away from someone who isn\u2019t making me happy anymore is always a good idea, no matter what someone might tell you about it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Estar sozinho \u00e9 sempre melhor do que estar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o em que nos contentamos com menos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Come\u00e7ar de novo e ser solteiro \u00e9 sempre melhor do que ficar ao lado de algu\u00e9m que nos faz infelizes.
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4. Your history with someone shouldn\u2019t be a reason to stay next to them<\/strong>
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Quando se termina uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o amorosa e, sobretudo, um casamento, \u00e9 \u00f3bvio que se tem muita hist\u00f3ria com a pessoa que se est\u00e1 a deixar para tr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trata-se de uma pessoa com quem passou por muitas coisas e com quem estava a construir uma vida em conjunto.
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Nevertheless, this shouldn\u2019t be the only reason you decide to stay by their side. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes, a lot may connect the two of you\u2014children, a mortgage, a house, a business together\u2026 Yes, this person has become your comfort zone.
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However, you can\u2019t spend an eternity dwelling on the happy memories, if the present is far from pretty. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t stay next to someone just because of your past if you don\u2019t see your future next to them.
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5. Sadly, love isn\u2019t always enough<\/strong>
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Quando era mais nova, acreditava nos contos de fadas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu acreditava que tudo o que \u00e9 preciso para um final feliz \u00e9 ter o homem que amamos a amar-nos de volta.
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Well, my parents\u2019 divorce showed me otherwise. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mostrou-me que h\u00e1 outras coisas mais importantes para al\u00e9m do afeto m\u00fatuo, como o esfor\u00e7o, o compromisso, o respeito, o apre\u00e7o e, acima de tudo, a compatibilidade.
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It helped me see that your love can\u2019t change someone unless they decide to do it themselves. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

That love can\u2019t make up for some crucial differences between people. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por vezes, isso fez-me perceber isso, love isn\u2019t enough<\/a> and that it alone can\u2019t make a relationship work.
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6. Sobreviver\u00e1s<\/strong>
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When you\u2019re going through a brutal break-up, you think of it as the end of the world. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are convinced that this is a pain you can\u2019t survive and you see no hope of ever putting yourself back together.
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Bem, adivinha? A minha m\u00e3e e o meu pai sobreviveram ao div\u00f3rcio. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sim, no in\u00edcio, estavam ambos de rastos, mas acabaram por se curar. E agora est\u00e3o mais felizes do que nunca.
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So, if they could heal from losing the person they once wanted to spend their entire life with, who I am to think that I won\u2019t be able to get over some random boy who tried to break my heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quem sou eu para n\u00e3o ter f\u00e9 de que sobreviverei a todas as dores emocionais que a vida me atira?
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Having your family break apart right in front of you is one of the most traumatic experiences for every child. I should know because that is something I went through after my parents split. However, what I didn\u2019t know at the time was that their divorce would help me a lot through life. What I…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":34462,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29621],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-34461","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-healthy-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29621,"label":"healthy relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/daisy-s-699997-unsplash.jpg",800,523,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29621,"name":"healthy relationship","slug":"healthy-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29621,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","parent":29620,"count":254,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29621,"category_count":254,"category_description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","cat_name":"healthy relationship","category_nicename":"healthy-relationship","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34461","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=34461"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34461\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/34462"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=34461"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=34461"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=34461"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}