{"id":34649,"date":"2020-03-22T08:52:53","date_gmt":"2020-03-22T08:52:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=34649"},"modified":"2021-10-29T15:25:43","modified_gmt":"2021-10-29T15:25:43","slug":"como-um-narcisista-se-faz-de-vitima-10-tacticas-para-recuperar-o-controlo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-um-narcisista-se-faz-de-vitima-10-tacticas-para-recuperar-o-controlo\/","title":{"rendered":"Como um narcisista se faz de v\u00edtima? 10 t\u00e1cticas para recuperar o controlo"},"content":{"rendered":"

As pessoas que sofrem de uma perturba\u00e7\u00e3o narc\u00edsica n\u00e3o se enquadram nos padr\u00f5es sociais, principalmente por uma raz\u00e3o importante - falta-lhes empatia.<\/p>\n

Para se integrarem na sociedade e interagirem com outros seres humanos, as pessoas t\u00eam de ser compreensivas umas com as outras.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s normal to offer help to the person who needs it. Showing empathy should be one of people\u2019s primary instincts.<\/p>\n

Os narcisistas funcionam de forma diferente. Eles apresentam-se como v\u00edtimas.<\/p>\n

O seu comportamento e atua\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e3o t\u00e3o perfeitos que raramente algu\u00e9m consegue ver atrav\u00e9s da sua fachada.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

As verdadeiras v\u00edtimas passam assim despercebidas ou s\u00e3o mesmo falsamente acusadas de falta de considera\u00e7\u00e3o e de ego\u00edsmo.<\/p>\n

Quem \u00e9 realmente a v\u00edtima?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Os narcisistas acreditam verdadeiramente que s\u00e3o as v\u00edtimas porque n\u00e3o t\u00eam empatia.<\/p>\n

They truly don\u2019t understand what the real victim is going through and they can\u2019t put themselves into someone else\u2019s shoes.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t understand emotions.<\/p>\n

Narcissists don\u2019t perceive other people as individual human beings, they see them as extensions of themselves.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

So, when things don\u2019t go their way, they aren\u2019t taking into account that someone else\u2019s feelings got hurt.<\/p>\n

Mant\u00eam-se fi\u00e9is a si pr\u00f3prios e acreditam verdadeiramente que foram prejudicados, pelo que assumem o papel de v\u00edtima.<\/p>\n

Jogo da v\u00edtima narcisista<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

A incapacidade de empatia impede o narcisista de compreender que nem sempre \u00e9 a v\u00edtima.<\/p>\n

They can\u2019t detect what\u2019s causing their problems because the source of the problem is usually them.<\/p>\n

What happens is they are incapable of feeling guilt or remorse, that\u2019s why they never blame themselves for causing trouble or hurting another human being.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

This wouldn\u2019t be such a big deal if they don’t pass the guilt on you and make you feel ashamed for something you didn\u2019t do or something you did by accident.<\/p>\n

Even if the taking up of the victim role looks like it has happened by accident, that\u2019s not true.<\/p>\n

Para desempenhar o papel de v\u00edtima, \u00e9 necess\u00e1rio possuir um grande conjunto de compet\u00eancias. Estes s\u00e3o os seus movimentos favoritos:<\/p>\n

\u2022 Fake tears or no tears at all<\/p>\n

\u2022 Telling sad stories<\/p>\n

\u2022 Emphasizing details they know will trigger your emotions<\/p>\n

\u2022 Pretending they are worried about you<\/p>\n

\u2022 Excessive body gestures (e.g. throwing hands up in the air)<\/p>\n

\u2022 Pointing at themselves to keep the focus on them<\/p>\n

A maioria destas ac\u00e7\u00f5es est\u00e1 presente no comportamento das verdadeiras v\u00edtimas, mas como reconhecer uma v\u00edtima verdadeira de uma falsa?<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

O seu instinto est\u00e1 a dizer-lhe<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

You simply know something is wrong; you can feel it. You can sense someone\u2019s lying to you and trying to manipulate you.<\/p>\n

The problem is, you can\u2019t prove it. All you can do is target their abuso narc\u00edsico<\/a> t\u00e1cticas. <\/p>\n

Verifica\u00e7\u00e3o dos factos<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Mantenha um registo pormenorizado da sua situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

If you write things down, no one can assure you something has happened or didn\u2019t happen; no one can brainwash you.<\/p>\n

If a narcissist\u2019s story changes over time (and if he\u2019s lying, it will), you\u2019ll know for sure he\u2019s been altering reality to succeed in playing the victim.<\/p>\n

Procurar l\u00e1grimas verdadeiras<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

<\/figure>\n

Invisible tears don\u2019t count. Look for the real ones.<\/p>\n

Estudar o seu comportamento depois de uma luta<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Observem-nos bem depois do epis\u00f3dio. Estudem todos os seus movimentos.<\/p>\n

Se agirem como se nada tivesse acontecido e se forem capazes de fazer coisas normais sem qualquer problema, provavelmente est\u00e3o a brincar consigo.<\/p>\n

As pessoas que s\u00e3o verdadeiras v\u00edtimas continuar\u00e3o a sentir-se incomodadas e agitadas ap\u00f3s o epis\u00f3dio.<\/p>\n

As verdadeiras v\u00edtimas n\u00e3o s\u00e3o capazes de regressar imediatamente \u00e0 sua rotina di\u00e1ria.<\/p>\n

Comportamentos narc\u00edsicos comuns e t\u00e1cticas para se fazer de v\u00edtima<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Ilus\u00e3o e nega\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Os narcisistas conseguem transformar qualquer situa\u00e7\u00e3o em seu proveito.<\/p>\n

Utilizam a ilus\u00e3o e a nega\u00e7\u00e3o para se convencerem de que a m\u00e1 situa\u00e7\u00e3o que criaram n\u00e3o \u00e9 de todo culpa sua.<\/p>\n

T\u00eam a capacidade de transformar a situa\u00e7\u00e3o real numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o falsa.<\/p>\n

Tudo o que v\u00eaem e como percepcionam as coisas \u00e9 real aos seus olhos e nada mais.<\/p>\n

As they have the strong ability to make themselves believe in things that aren\u2019t real, they have the ability to do the same to you, too.<\/p>\n

Usually, narcissists truly believe that their version of reality is the real one, and sometimes even if they don\u2019t, they keep convincing you that you\u2019re wrong.<\/p>\n

After some time of hearing the same story over and over again, you may even start believing what he\u2019s saying. Well, that\u2019s their end game.<\/p>\n

A t\u00e1tica da batata quente<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Neste caso, a batata quente representa a culpa.<\/p>\n

Someone threw the blame to them and since they don\u2019t accept it, they have to hurry up and hand it over to someone else.<\/p>\n

Usually, that\u2019s the closest person to him \u2013 you. Narcissists will never accept blame for anything.<\/p>\n

Mesmo que sejam culpados, encontrar\u00e3o uma forma de descarregar em si e virar as coisas a seu favor, fazendo de si o mau da fita.<\/p>\n

If it by any chance happens that they do feel a certain amount of shame as a consequence of their actions, they will find someone to pass it on to \u2013 remember, a narcissist is always the victim.<\/p>\n

Atrav\u00e9s de manipula\u00e7\u00e3o cuidadosamente planeada<\/a>Se o seu problema n\u00e3o for resolvido, ele garante-lhe que o problema foi causado pelo seu papel.<\/p>\n

A culpa \u00e9 sua desde o in\u00edcio.<\/p>\n

Mentir<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Os narcisistas precisam de valida\u00e7\u00e3o constante para refor\u00e7ar a sua autoestima, j\u00e1 de si abalada.<\/p>\n

Precisam de ser elogiados para terem energia para continuar a sua vida.<\/p>\n

As pessoas normais t\u00eam ferramentas para lidar com essas situa\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

When they have problems, they seek help \u2013 either from their friends or someone trained to help others.<\/p>\n

Since narcissists don\u2019t have friends to talk to and they don\u2019t feel the need to seek professional help, they turn to lying.<\/p>\n

Para obterem a simpatia das pessoas, precisam de apresentar a sua situa\u00e7\u00e3o como digna de pena.<\/p>\n

\u201cNo good deed goes unpunished\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Se um narcisista fizer uma boa a\u00e7\u00e3o e esta passar despercebida, ele certificar-se-\u00e1 de transformar a sua vida num inferno.<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t stop at that. His hypocrisy goes even further.<\/p>\n

Em primeiro lugar, a sua boa a\u00e7\u00e3o nunca \u00e9 apenas uma boa a\u00e7\u00e3o. Os narcisistas t\u00eam sempre um objetivo oculto por detr\u00e1s de tudo o que fazem.<\/p>\n

When they don\u2019t get praise for doing the right thing, revenge is already in the making.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 uma atitude extremamente desonesta da sua parte, se tivermos em conta que a sua inten\u00e7\u00e3o inicial n\u00e3o \u00e9 benevolente.<\/p>\n

Eles v\u00e3o gozar contigo e falar nas tuas costas a toda a gente que conheces.<\/p>\n

You are going to be awarded the role of the bitch who doesn\u2019t care about anyone but herself, and he\u2019s going to be the guy who was trying so hard to please you, but he failed because you\u2019re too demanding.<\/p>\n

In other words, he\u2019s going to portray the victim.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s going to exaggerate the details and make things up just to get the upper hand.<\/p>\n

Narcissists need praise from someone else and if they aren\u2019t not getting it from you, they will seek it from the people they are badmouthing you to.<\/p>\n

Eles precisam do seu suprimento narcisista. Precisam de ouvir que eles s\u00e3o os melhores e que tu n\u00e3o \u00e9s nada.<\/p>\n

Proje\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Os narcisistas adoram projetar. Seja o que for que um narcisista diga que algu\u00e9m lhe fez, pode ter a certeza de que ele fez exatamente a mesma coisa a outra pessoa.<\/p>\n

If they say someone hurt them, it means they\u2019ve hurt someone else. If they say someone lied to them, it means they lied to someone, and so on.<\/p>\n

O que acontece \u00e9 que o narcisista tenta justificar o seu pr\u00f3prio comportamento, transferindo a culpa e a responsabilidade para outra pessoa.<\/p>\n

A forma como pensam \u00e9 fascinante pelo seu car\u00e1cter errado. Se outra pessoa \u00e9 culpada por todas as coisas que fez, na sua mente isso significa que foi ela que as fez.<\/p>\n

\u201cMe too\u201d tactic<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

If the victim has a problem, then a narcissist has one, too. They can’t allow you to be the only victim.<\/p>\n

Se algo de mau lhe aconteceu, pode apostar o seu \u00faltimo d\u00f3lar que algo semelhante ou mais terr\u00edvel lhe aconteceu.<\/p>\n

Esta t\u00e1tica \u00e9 concebida para minar o seu problema e torn\u00e1-lo irrelevante, porque o narcisista j\u00e1 passou pelo mesmo ou pior...<\/p>\n

Criar um cen\u00e1rio falso<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve been bullied by a narcissist and you decided to stand up for yourself, a narcissist will come up with a different story.<\/p>\n

Apresentam a hist\u00f3ria como lhes apetece. Saltar\u00e3o o in\u00edcio e a situa\u00e7\u00e3o em que a luta come\u00e7ou.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o explicam porque \u00e9 que a luta come\u00e7ou e saltam para a parte em que se sentem v\u00edtimas.<\/p>\n

No caso de ass\u00e9dio moral, apresentar\u00e3o a hist\u00f3ria de forma a parecer que os assediou.<\/p>\n

Eles meteram-se contigo um pouco (nada de grave) e tu perdeste a cabe\u00e7a e come\u00e7aste a ser mau para eles.<\/p>\n

Para quem est\u00e1 de fora, esta hist\u00f3ria faz todo o sentido e nada parece suspeito.<\/p>\n

O que realmente aconteceu \u00e9 que o provocaram e foram maus para si, tornando a sua m\u00e1 rea\u00e7\u00e3o perfeitamente desculp\u00e1vel em resposta \u00e0s suas comportamento t\u00f3xico<\/a>.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3 se estava a defender.<\/p>\n

Paranoia<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

<\/figure>\n

When a narcissist feels like he no longer has control over someone, or he feels like he could be abandoned soon, he will slowly start planting the seed of how he can\u2019t trust you because you are out to get him.<\/p>\n

O objetivo desta t\u00e1tica \u00e9 avisar previamente as pessoas de que algo deste tipo pode acontecer.<\/p>\n

So, if you choose to save yourself because you\u2019re fed up with the way they treat you, and you want to loosen yourself from their controlling grip, you’re going to create a situation in which you look like the bad guy and the narcissist is the victim because you left him.<\/p>\n

Conhecem t\u00e3o bem o seu jogo que est\u00e3o sempre um passo \u00e0 vossa frente, independentemente do que fa\u00e7am.<\/p>\n

Triangula\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Em termos psicol\u00f3gicos, a triangula\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 uma forma de manipula\u00e7\u00e3o atrav\u00e9s da comunica\u00e7\u00e3o entre duas pessoas.<\/p>\n

A coscuvilhice e a cal\u00fania s\u00e3o os melhores instrumentos de triangula\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Ao espalharem boatos e exporem a sua roupa suja em p\u00fablico, os narcisistas certificam-se de que voltam as outras pessoas contra si.<\/p>\n

Espalhar informa\u00e7\u00f5es falsas sobre si \u00e9 a sua forma de garantir o apoio dos outros ou, por outras palavras, o seu abastecimento narc\u00edsico.<\/p>\n

Procura de aten\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Os narcisistas transformam montes de terra em montanhas.<\/p>\n

Fazem uma tempestade num copo de \u00e1gua por coisas insignificantes s\u00f3 para obterem a aten\u00e7\u00e3o que tanto desejam.<\/p>\n

Este t\u00e1tica de manipula\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> usually has two purposes \u2013 to belittle you and make themselves look like victims.<\/p>\n

The perfect example of this kind of behavior is their ability to intentionally pick fights about trivial things to cause problems where there aren\u2019t any.<\/p>\n

There is no way you can expose them for those actions and the only thing you\u2019ll achieve is hitting a brick wall and subjecting yourself to a heap of criticism.<\/p>\n

The only solution is to keep a detailed diary of everything that happens so you know what\u2019s real and what\u2019s not.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s crucial you stay sane and keep both feet firmly on the ground.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 a \u00fanica forma de sobreviver aos ataques constantes de um narcisista e ao seu ato de se fazer de v\u00edtima.<\/p>\n

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People suffering from a narcissistic disorder don\u2019t fit the social patterns, mostly because of one major reason \u2013 they lack empathy. In order to fit into society and interact with other human beings, people have to be understanding of one another. It\u2019s normal to offer help to the person who needs it. Showing empathy should…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":83413,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29633],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-34649","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-narcissism"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29633,"label":"narcissism"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/How-A-Narcissist-Plays-The-Victim-10-Tactics-To-Get-The-Control-Back.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29633,"name":"narcissism","slug":"narcissism","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29633,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. Learn how their mind operates so that you can protect yourself. ","parent":22911,"count":233,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29633,"category_count":233,"category_description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. Learn how their mind operates so that you can protect yourself. ","cat_name":"narcissism","category_nicename":"narcissism","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34649","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=34649"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34649\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/83413"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=34649"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=34649"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=34649"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}