Para um espetador comum, um amigo ou um membro da fam\u00edlia, as coisas podem parecer simples.<\/p>\n
Eles podem olhar objetivamente para a sua situa\u00e7\u00e3o e dizer que uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 a melhor coisa a fazer.<\/p>\n
Voc\u00ea, por outro lado, est\u00e1 demasiado pr\u00f3ximo, demasiado ligado, e os sentimentos dominam-no. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> is the hardest choice to make. It\u2019s like you are breaking your own heart by leaving.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Infelizmente, por vezes, as decis\u00f5es que nos assustam s\u00e3o as melhores a tomar.<\/p>\n S\u00e3o elas que nos fazem crescer e tornarmo-nos na pessoa que sempre quisemos ser, porque ningu\u00e9m nos impede de o fazer.<\/p>\n Fazem-no evoluir para uma vida com a qual se sente mais satisfeito. <\/p>\n Por vezes, causamos mais danos ao agarrarmo-nos a uma pessoa, situa\u00e7\u00e3o ou rela\u00e7\u00e3o que, no fundo, sabemos que isn\u2019t right for us <\/a>do que se nos deix\u00e1ssemos ir.<\/p>\n Still, you\u2019re afraid you\u2019ll make a mistake, that things could change if you held on just a while longer and you just don\u2019t know what to do.<\/p>\n To help you answer the question, \u201cShould I break up with my boyfriend?\u201d we decided to make a difficult situation a bit easier and relieve you of all doubts by providing you with 21 red flags that say you should:<\/p>\n O facto de n\u00e3o ser feliz na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 raz\u00e3o suficiente para terminar a rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Surely, people in healthy relationships are not happy 24\/7; they have their off days, days that they argue and can\u2019t stand each other.<\/p>\n O que se passa \u00e9 que eles resolvem tudo rapidamente; falam sobre as coisas e chegam a um compromisso.<\/p>\n O mais importante \u00e9 que os dias maus nunca superam os bons. H\u00e1 sempre mais coisas positivas do que negativas.<\/p>\n Em suma, tem de analisar racionalmente a sua situa\u00e7\u00e3o, determinar se passa mais tempo a stressar, a preocupar-se e a chorar por causa das coisas que o seu parceiro faz do que a sentir-se seguro, confort\u00e1vel, descontra\u00eddo e alegre.<\/p>\n Por muito que queiramos que as coisas resultem, por muito tempo e esfor\u00e7o que tenhamos investido numa determinada rela\u00e7\u00e3o, por muitos dias de sol que tenhamos passado com algu\u00e9m, se a nossa intui\u00e7\u00e3o nos diz que ele n\u00e3o \u00e9 a pessoa certa, acabemos com o nosso namorado sem pensar duas vezes.<\/p>\n Ele n\u00e3o \u00e9 claramente a pessoa com quem se v\u00ea a envelhecer.<\/p>\n A vida que est\u00e1 a viver com ele n\u00e3o \u00e9 a vida que quer para si.<\/p>\n Something is just not adding up and that little voice inside of you is telling you that he is not your soulmate. Trust that voice \u2013 it\u2019s hardly ever wrong.<\/p>\n If you\u2019ve already tried the impossible to make your relationship work and you just found yourself in a dead end street, you will figure out that you are not going anywhere.<\/p>\n What you need to ask yourself here is, \u201cIs there anything still worth saving between my boyfriend and me?\u201d<\/p>\n Be brutally honest with yourself. If there is nothing to be saved, don\u2019t waste your time or emotions.<\/p>\n Sometimes things get broken so badly that they can\u2019t be fixed.<\/p>\n You can\u2019t come up with any solution to your problems and that kind of leaves you without any other choice.<\/p>\n O seu parceiro f\u00e1-la sentir que n\u00e3o \u00e9 suficientemente boa? Ele aproveita-se das suas fraquezas e torna-as piores?<\/p>\n Ser\u00e1 que ele disfar\u00e7a os seus insultos com piadas?<\/p>\n Se a resposta for sim, deve fugir para as colinas.<\/p>\n A sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o deve fortalec\u00ea-la e faz\u00ea-la sentir-se mais forte e confiante do que nunca, e n\u00e3o deit\u00e1-la abaixo e ench\u00ea-la de d\u00favidas.<\/p>\n Ele est\u00e1 a tentar torn\u00e1-la mais pequena para se sentir maior.<\/p>\n Este \u00e9 um dos sinais de que pode estar a lidar com um narcisista ou sociopata t\u00f3xico. Quanto mais tempo ficar, pior ser\u00e1.<\/p>\n Por isso, saia dessa rela\u00e7\u00e3o o mais depressa poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n Como disse na introdu\u00e7\u00e3o, os seus amigos e familiares t\u00eam uma vis\u00e3o objetiva da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n They don\u2019t have the same feelings for your partner as you do and they can see him more clearly.<\/p>\n Pense bem, se mais do que uma pessoa lhe disser a mesma coisa, isso \u00e9 um grande sinal de alerta.<\/p>\n Eles t\u00eam os seus melhores interesses no cora\u00e7\u00e3o, querem que seja feliz e sabem que nunca o ser\u00e1 se ficar com ele.<\/p>\n Ou\u00e7a o que eles t\u00eam para dizer e tente argumentar com o seu c\u00e9rebro em vez do seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Feelings can cloud your judgment and make you put up with things that you normally wouldn\u2019t.<\/p>\n Fa\u00e7a de conta que est\u00e1 a ouvir o seu melhor amigo a contar-lhe as coisas pelas quais est\u00e1 a passar com o seu parceiro.<\/p>\n Aconselhava-os a ficar ou a partir?<\/p>\n Once you answer this, you will answer the question that doesn\u2019t leave you be: \u201cShould I break up with my boyfriend?<\/p>\n N\u00e3o h\u00e1 lugar para \"mas\" e \"e se\".<\/p>\n If you think your situation is unhealthy or deprived of love and you wouldn\u2019t wish it for anybody else, don\u2019t wish it on yourself either.<\/p>\n Merece uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel, feliz e normal, tal como qualquer outra pessoa.<\/p>\n O comportamento paranoico, as constantes mudan\u00e7as de humor, a m\u00e1 gest\u00e3o da raiva, a defensividade, o ego\u00edsmo, etc. s\u00e3o apenas alguns dos muitos indicadores de que est\u00e1 a lidar com um indiv\u00edduo emocionalmente inst\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n This shouldn\u2019t be your burden to carry, and his emotional state will affect yours.<\/p>\n Por mais forte e positivo que sejas, a sua negatividade puxar-te-\u00e1 para a escurid\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Pode querer ajud\u00e1-lo ou encoraj\u00e1-lo a procurar ajuda, mas a menos que ele pr\u00f3prio veja que tem um problema que precisa de resolver, \u00e9 impotente.<\/p>\n It doesn\u2019t matter if he is an alcoholic, drug addict, or gambler, the answer is always the same: break up with him and sever all ties.<\/p>\n It\u2019s not easy for an addict to change his ways, and like with any problem, he first has to be aware of it and be willing to fix it.<\/p>\n More often than not, addicts are neither until they hit rock bottom and you don\u2019t want to stick around and witness that.<\/p>\n Nada de bom vir\u00e1 dele. Ele vai esgotar-vos emocional, f\u00edsica e financeiramente.<\/p>\n Laziness can really become an issue in your relationship, especially when your partner can\u2019t hold on to a job for very long or refuses to work altogether.<\/p>\n You won\u2019t just feel like a provider financially but all the emotional investments will come from your side, which will be more and more difficult as your relationship progresses.<\/p>\n While you would do just about anything to make him happy, he wouldn\u2019t lift his little finger for you.<\/p>\n As pessoas pregui\u00e7osas s\u00e3o normalmente egoc\u00eantricas e est\u00e3o sempre \u00e0 procura de novas formas de evitar fazer alguma coisa.<\/p>\n Parece que a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1 cheia de mal-entendidos, debates e discuss\u00f5es.<\/p>\n You just don\u2019t see eye-to-eye and, instead of being in a healthy and loving relationship, you are spending your time on a battlefield. <\/p>\n It\u2019s time you admit to yourself that you are not compatible with your partner and that, no matter how much you care for him, this relationship is not something you have been dreaming of for the better part of your life.<\/p>\n Quando tudo est\u00e1 a correr mal na nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, come\u00e7amos a procurar as respostas fora dela.<\/p>\n It doesn\u2019t necessarily mean that you are actually going to cheat on your partner, but you will inevitably try to find an escape from the entire situation in your daydreams.<\/p>\n Esta \u00e9 uma grande bandeira vermelha e o seu subconsciente est\u00e1 a dizer-lhe que n\u00e3o est\u00e1 onde quer estar ou com quem quer estar.<\/p>\n O verdadeiro amor \u00e9 quando a sua realidade \u00e9 melhor do que qualquer coisa com que possa sonhar e n\u00e3o h\u00e1 necessidade de fugir para lado nenhum.<\/p>\n Leave, and do it now. This goes without saying, but still, it\u2019s important to stress that any form of abuse is unacceptable.<\/p>\n N\u00e3o h\u00e1 desculpas para isso e nunca deve ser tolerado.<\/p>\n The thing with emotional abuse is that it\u2019s harder to recognize.<\/p>\n Most people don\u2019t even realize it until it\u2019s too late and they are emotionally drained. Still, as soon as you become aware of it, don\u2019t think twice.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t try to change things; break up with him and never look back.<\/p>\n Ele est\u00e1 apaixonado por si pr\u00f3prio e s\u00f3 se interessa pelas coisas que voc\u00ea pode fazer por ele.<\/p>\n Faz tudo a seu bel-prazer e certifica-se de que as suas necessidades s\u00e3o satisfeitas. <\/p>\n A verdade \u00e9 que ele adora o facto de voc\u00ea o amar e de se esfor\u00e7ar para o fazer feliz, mas nunca demonstra que sente o mesmo por si.<\/p>\n It\u2019s all about him and he will never work on a relationship with you. Everything will be one-sided. <\/p>\n Basicamente, ele mostra sinais de comportamento narc\u00edsico<\/a> e ele est\u00e1 a mexer com a sua mente e os seus sentimentos.<\/p>\n The longer you stay with an individual like this, the more broken you\u2019ll be.<\/p>\n H\u00e1 homens que gostam de discutir s\u00f3 por discutir.<\/p>\n Provocam uma luta tocando em assuntos que deixam o seu parceiro muito agitado e aborrecido.<\/p>\n Repetir\u00e3o comportamentos que o seu parceiro considera ofensivos e desrespeitosos.<\/p>\n Isto diz-lhe alguma coisa?<\/p>\n Se passa mais tempo a discutir com o seu namorado do que em harmonia, est\u00e1 na rela\u00e7\u00e3o errada.<\/p>\n Uma discuss\u00e3o ocasional aqui e ali \u00e9 normal e at\u00e9 bem-vinda, mas as discuss\u00f5es constantes s\u00e3o apenas um indicador de que n\u00e3o s\u00e3o compat\u00edveis e de que ele n\u00e3o \u00e9 a pessoa certa para si.<\/p>\n He wouldn\u2019t dream of paying for a meal, coffee, groceries, or anything, but he has no problem with you paying for all.<\/p>\n De vez em quando, dividir\u00e1 as despesas, mas tentar\u00e1 n\u00e3o gastar nada.<\/p>\n Estar com algu\u00e9m que \u00e9 t\u00e3o mesquinho \u00e9 esgotante. Ele n\u00e3o s\u00f3 a vai esgotar financeiramente, como tamb\u00e9m mentalmente.<\/p>\n Remember relationships are for two equals. You shouldn\u2019t be the one supporting his ass; you are in this together.<\/p>\n Tu queres ter filhos e ele nunca se imaginou a ser pai.<\/p>\n You want mariage down the line and he doesn\u2019t believe in the whole institution of marriage.<\/p>\n Voc\u00ea quer viver na cidade e ele prefere os sub\u00farbios ou vice-versa.<\/p>\n The fact of the matter is, you don\u2019t imagine your future together in the same way; you don\u2019t want the same things.<\/p>\n Your paths will inevitably part at some point or one of you will have to make peace with living a life you don\u2019t want for the sake of love, which is never a good option because sooner or later you will resent the other person.<\/p>\n Isn\u2019t it better to go your separate ways sooner rather than later?<\/p>\n You are unsure if he is your soulmate. You keep comparing the positives and the negatives and you just can\u2019t tell.<\/p>\n Deixe-me explicar-lhe: se ele for a sua alma g\u00e9mea, n\u00e3o ter\u00e1 qualquer d\u00favida e saber\u00e1.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t settle for less than real love just because \u201cit\u2019s time\u201d or your biological clock is ticking.<\/p>\n You won\u2019t be late for anything unless you stay with the wrong person.<\/p>\n Sure, sex is not the most important thing in the relationship, but it\u2019s one of its integral parts. That\u2019s why it should never be mediocre.<\/p>\n If there is no passion between you and your partner, you don\u2019t have to ask yourself, \u201cShould I break up with my boyfriend?\u201d<\/p>\n You should ask yourself, \u201cShould I say goodbye to my friend?\u201d<\/p>\n Because at the end of the day, without passion, you are just a couple of good friends hanging out and cohabitating \u2013 nothing more.<\/p>\n Se o seu parceiro \u00e9 ciumento, provavelmente j\u00e1 se sente como se estivesse enjaulado.<\/p>\n He doesn\u2019t like you going out with your friends or anywhere without him. He is jealous of the guys you work with.<\/p>\n Ele verifica o seu telem\u00f3vel para ver se h\u00e1 sinais de trai\u00e7\u00e3o, etc.<\/p>\n N\u00e3o h\u00e1 paz nem confian\u00e7a na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n O ci\u00fame pode ser perigoso e, quando levado ao extremo, transformar-se em possessividade e controlo.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t allow it to go that far; get out as soon as you can.<\/p>\n Have you ever been in a situation with your partner where you had to apologize for things you hadn\u2019t done?<\/p>\n Desenvolveu o h\u00e1bito de assumir a culpa por tudo na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/p>\n Tudo isto s\u00e3o sinais de alerta que indicam que ele \u00e9 um mestre manipulador.<\/p>\n He can\u2019t do anything wrong, so naturally, he puts the blame on you.<\/p>\n The sooner you realize that he isn\u2019t as perfect as he pretends to be and that he is manipulating you, the happier you will be.<\/p>\n The man who can\u2019t own up to his mistakes can be extremely dangerous for your mental health.<\/p>\n It seems like you can\u2019t do anything right. He is on your case non-stop and he closely monitors your every move.<\/p>\n He criticizes the clothes you wear, people you hang out with, your decisions, your work \u2013 even the way you breathe.<\/p>\n Parece que nada do que fazemos \u00e9 suficientemente bom.<\/p>\n Ele faz-te duvidar das tuas decis\u00f5es e da tua capacidade de viver a tua vida com os teus pr\u00f3prios p\u00e9s. Ele est\u00e1 lenta mas seguramente a arruinar a sua autoestima.<\/p>\n Para al\u00e9m disso, a sua cabe\u00e7a est\u00e1 cheia de palavras dele e passar tempo com ele \u00e9 o mais longe poss\u00edvel de ser divertido.<\/p>\n Ele est\u00e1 a aborrec\u00ea-la imenso e vai continuar a faz\u00ea-lo enquanto o deixar. Preciso de dizer mais?<\/p>\n H\u00e1 mais algumas raz\u00f5es que o podem fazer reconsiderar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n![\"jovem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/young-couple-breaking-up.jpg\")
<\/p>\nA felicidade tornou-se um conceito desconhecido na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-alone-by-the-sea.jpg\")
<\/p>\nA sua intui\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1 a gritar para deixar ir<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/sad-woman-thinking.jpg\")
<\/p>\nEst\u00e1 num beco sem sa\u00edda na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/sad-woman-standing-by-the-wall.jpg\")
<\/p>\nSente-se pior consigo pr\u00f3prio (e o seu parceiro tem tudo a ver com isso)<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/depressed-woman-laying-on-the-couch.jpg\")
<\/p>\nAs pessoas que te amam apoiam a tua decis\u00e3o de terminar a rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/woman-hugging-her-friend.jpg\")
<\/p>\nAconselharias algu\u00e9m na mesma situa\u00e7\u00e3o de relacionamento que tu a terminar a rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n
![\"dois](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/two-worried-friends-supporting-a-friend.jpg\")
<\/p>\nO seu parceiro \u00e9 emocionalmente inst\u00e1vel<\/h2>\n
![\"homem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/angry-man-yelling-at-phone.jpg\")
<\/p>\nO seu parceiro \u00e9 um toxicodependente<\/h2>\n
![\"homem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/handsome-man-smoking-and-drinking-whiskey.jpg\")
<\/p>\nO seu parceiro \u00e9 o ep\u00edtome da pregui\u00e7a<\/h2>\n
![\"homem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/lazy-man-laying-on-sofa.jpg\")
<\/figure>\nN\u00e3o conseguem comunicar um com o outro<\/h2>\n
![\"jovem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/young-couple-arguing-in-the-living-room.jpg\")
<\/p>\nSonha acordado com outra pessoa ou com outra coisa<\/h2>\n
![\"jovem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/young-woman-dreaming-and-laying-on-the-grass.jpg\")
<\/p>\nO seu parceiro \u00e9 emocional ou fisicamente abusivo<\/h2>\n
![\"homem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/angry-man-yelling-at-crying-woman.jpg\")
<\/p>\n\u00c9 incapaz de amar algu\u00e9m para al\u00e9m de si pr\u00f3prio<\/h2>\n
![\"jovem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/young-man-looking-at-mirror.jpg\")
<\/p>\nHe knows how to push your buttons \u2013 it\u2019s his favorite pastime<\/h2>\n
![\"casal](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/couple-arguing-in-the-kitchen.jpg\")
<\/p>\nEle \u00e9 um forreta <\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/woman-putting-coins-in-man-hand.jpg\")
<\/p>\nYou don\u2019t want the same things in life<\/h2>\n
![\"casal](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/unhappy-couple-sitting-on-sofa.jpg\")
<\/p>\nSente-se como se estivesse a assentar<\/h2>\n
![\"uma](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/sad-young-woman-thinking.jpg\")
<\/p>\nYour sex life is already \u201cmeh\u201d<\/h2>\n
![\"casal](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/couple-having-sex-in-bed.jpg\")
<\/p>\nEle \u00e9 extremamente ciumento<\/h2>\n
![\"homem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/jealous-man-looking-at-woman-phone.jpg\")
<\/p>\nEle faz-te sentir culpado<\/h2>\n
![\"homem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/man-blaming-woman.jpg\")
<\/p>\n\u00c9 cr\u00edtico e picuinhas<\/h2>\n
![\"casal](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/couple-arguing-on-the-couch-1.jpg\")
<\/p>\n![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/annoyed-woman-looking-away.jpg\")
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