{"id":35384,"date":"2020-05-12T07:08:53","date_gmt":"2020-05-12T07:08:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=35384"},"modified":"2022-01-04T15:41:46","modified_gmt":"2022-01-04T15:41:46","slug":"6-coisas-cruciais-que-deve-considerar-antes-de-sair-com-um-amigo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/6-coisas-cruciais-que-deve-considerar-antes-de-sair-com-um-amigo\/","title":{"rendered":"6 coisas cruciais que deve considerar antes de sair com um amigo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sair com um amigo pode acabar por ser a melhor coisa que alguma vez lhe aconteceu, sem qualquer sombra de d\u00favida.<\/p>\n

But before it gets to the good part, there are some steps to overcome in order to master that perfect new balance of emotions you\u2019re feeling.<\/p>\n

O meu homem<\/em><\/a> and I started out as friends, and let me tell you\u2026 it was a bumpy ride before I finally figured out how to act, now that I was more than just his friend and my feelings were so much more intensified.<\/em><\/p>\n

A primeira vez que ele me beijou foi muito estranho, mas n\u00e3o porque ele beijasse mal (trust me, he\u2019s not),<\/em> mas porque est\u00e1vamos ambos muito hesitantes e inseguros quanto ao que est\u00e1vamos realmente a fazer.<\/p>\n

Apesar de termos tido a coragem de o fazer, tudo aconteceu num \u00e1pice e foi muito esquec\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

Luckily, we both knew we could do so much better than that, so it didn\u2019t really discourage us from giving it another shot.<\/p>\n

Os primeiros dias s\u00e3o os mais estranhos, para dizer o m\u00ednimo.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I guess it would depend on how close you were as friends, but for us, since we were really close, we just weren\u2019t totally sure if we wanted to risk losing the friendship that we had over something that might not work.<\/p>\n

Learning how to behave now that you\u2019re trying to be a little more than just two really close friends is daunting.<\/p>\n

Especially when certain feelings start appearing and you\u2019re feeling yourself get so much more attached and connected to him.<\/p>\n

It gets scary, because you know this is actually leading somewhere new and exciting, but at the same time, the over-encompassing level of affection you\u2019re feeling scares the shit out of you.<\/p>\n

Because if it ends up backfiring, you\u2019re probably losing one of os teus melhores amigos<\/a>.<\/p>\n

For us, I thank my lucky stars we never gave up, because it\u2019s been a little over a year now, and I\u2019ve literally never been in a healthier, happier relationship.<\/em><\/p>\n

A base que t\u00ednhamos como amigos foi o que mais nos ajudou.<\/p>\n

J\u00e1 nos sent\u00edamos \u00e0 vontade um com o outro e n\u00e3o houve conversas estranhas e profundas em que nos preocupamos com a possibilidade de descobrir algo que nos far\u00e1 correr para as colinas.<\/a><\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

J\u00e1 sabia tudo o que havia para saber sobre ele, e isso deu-me a seguran\u00e7a e a confian\u00e7a necess\u00e1rias para continuar a perseguir este objetivo.<\/p>\n

When you feel there is something more there than just a beautiful friendship, my sincere advice is \u2013 go for it!<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t be the woman that I am now if I hadn\u2019t had the guts to start namorar um amigo<\/a>.<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t try, you\u2019ll never know what you potentially could end up gaining, and if it works, it\u2019s going to feel that much better because he was your friend first.<\/p>\n

There isn\u2019t a rulebook on how to handle the transition from friends to lovers, but there are some things that are inevitably going to play a significant role in the process, and it definitely can\u2019t hurt to inform yourself before actually going for it.<\/p>\n

So if you\u2019re truly contemplating dating a friend, here are some things you should be mindful of before taking the leap!<\/em><\/p>\n

Talvez seja melhor come\u00e7ar com um flirt para ver qual \u00e9 a vossa posi\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

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It can be challenging trying to decipher his feelings, since you\u2019re already close and you know he cares about you a lot.<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s the whole thing. He cares for you as a friend, but you want to make sure it transcends that!<\/p>\n

How do you know if there is something more there when you\u2019re already close and have a fun, playful friendship?<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how I resolved that. Every time I\u2019d go shopping, I\u2019d take a hot selfie in a new outfit and text it to him to ask for his opinion of whether I should buy it or not.<\/p>\n

Also, it needs to be something girly and hot, where he\u2019ll get what you\u2019re trying to do. And based on his response, you can see onde se encontra<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Os seus coment\u00e1rios eram sempre sedutores e nada parecidos com os de um amigo, e eu sabia que ele tamb\u00e9m estava a seduzir-me!<\/p>\n

Isso ajudou-me a decidir a pensar em sair com ele a s\u00e9rio.<\/p>\n

O meu conselho \u00e9 testar primeiro as \u00e1guas, s\u00f3 para ter a certeza de que h\u00e1 realmente alguma coisa, antes de dar aquele salto enorme para o desconhecido.<\/p>\n

Primeiro, certifiquem-se de que t\u00eam uma base s\u00f3lida de amigos<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

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If you\u2019re thinking about dating a friend, make sure that it is in fact a true, genuine friend, and not someone you think might flake on you if he gets cold feet.<\/p>\n

The way he is as a friend is going to be a sign of what he\u2019d be like as a boyfriend.<\/p>\n

Pode contar com ele nos momentos dif\u00edceis? \u00c9 algu\u00e9m em quem pode confiar sem qualquer d\u00favida? Ele viria buscar-te \u00e0s 3 da manh\u00e3 se lhe ligasses a chorar?<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00c9 tudo isto que \u00e9 preciso ter em conta antes de passar a coisas mais s\u00e9rias.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 algu\u00e9m de quem se presume que seja muito pr\u00f3ximo, pelo que deve conhec\u00ea-lo bastante bem.<\/p>\n

Se o que t\u00eam \u00e9 uma amizade profunda e forte, e sabe que ele gosta mesmo de si e nunca tom\u00e1-lo por garantido<\/a>Ent\u00e3o tem luz verde para o fazer!<\/p>\n

But if you see him with other girls and you don\u2019t like the way he treats them, think about the fact that you would be just like those girls.<\/p>\n

Gostarias de receber esse tratamento?<\/p>\n

Deep down, you know exactly what he\u2019s like. Don\u2019t lie to yourself that he\u2019d be different with you. What you see is almost always what you get.<\/p>\n

Make sure he\u2019s a genuine, reliable person in your life before making any big decisions.<\/p>\n

Porque \u00e9 que queres mesmo sair com ele?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

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Be honest with yourself, and don\u2019t let your loss of faith in love or your current feeling of loneliness lead you into the wrong direction.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t want to start dating a friend just because you\u2019re farto e cansado de<\/a> estar sozinho.<\/p>\n

Se isso fosse uma boa raz\u00e3o para namorar com algu\u00e9m, acredita, toda a gente o faria s\u00f3 pelo prazer de o fazer.<\/p>\n

You want to make sure that you\u2019ve got all the right reasons for thinking about this.<\/p>\n

Em primeiro lugar e acima de tudo, tem de haver emo\u00e7\u00f5es genu\u00ednas da sua parte, aquelas que sabe que s\u00e3o mais do que apenas plat\u00f3nicas.<\/p>\n

Without feeling anything different than just your typical friendly vibes, there\u2019s honestly no point in putting yourself through that.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve established that your feelings are indeed transcending that friend stage, you\u2019re good to go.<\/p>\n

Make sure that you have some shared interests first. You don\u2019t want to start anything with him unless you\u2019re on the same page about the future.<\/p>\n

I know he gives you that feeling of security and comfort, but that\u2019s not enough for an actual relationship if that\u2019s the only reason to start things up!<\/p>\n

Tem de haver tamb\u00e9m uma atra\u00e7\u00e3o sexual e tem de querer realmente ter uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica com ele.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re not, sooner or later, it\u2019s going to backfire and you\u2019ll be at square one.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re really sure you want to do this, stop seeing him as a friend and truly go for it<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

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At first, it\u2019s only normal to worry about what this could potentially do to your friendship in case it doesn\u2019t work.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re worried about losing a really good friend and nobody can really blame you.<\/p>\n

But at some point, you\u2019re going to have to stop seeing him as a friend and start focusing on actually making it work as a couple.<\/p>\n

Because for as long as you worry about the future and how it may affect you, you\u2019re never going to be fully invested in this.<\/p>\n

Mereces ser feliz. Mereces dar uma verdadeira oportunidade a esta coisa.<\/p>\n

And the only way you\u2019re going to succeed in doing that is by putting in tons of effort and making sure that you\u2019re working towards the same beautiful goal \u2013 a healthy, happy relationship.<\/p>\n

Deixem que a amizade seja a base a partir da qual constroem um alicerce ainda mais forte que vos ajudar\u00e1 a aproximarem-se ainda mais e a atingirem aquele n\u00edvel de intimidade que s\u00f3 os casais partilham.<\/p>\n

Forget about all those things that could potentially go wrong, and stay focused on this thing you\u2019re trying to build with him.<\/p>\n

Every new relationship has a risk of burning out, so that\u2019s no reason to doubt yourself and sabotage something that could end up being the best thing in your life.<\/p>\n

Keep your budding romance private and don\u2019t overshare with your mutual friends<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

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Chances are, you two have some mutual friends and they will likely find out what\u2019s happening between you two.<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s fine. It\u2019s only natural to want to know about your two friends suddenly becoming romantically involved.<\/p>\n

Mas o truque aqui \u00e9 n\u00e3o envolver demasiado esses amigos comuns.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s already challenging enough without prying eyes who want to know every last detail about what\u2019s new with you two.<\/p>\n

Pode partilhar algumas coisas b\u00e1sicas.<\/p>\n

Say that things are doing great and you\u2019re both happy with where it\u2019s heading, but don\u2019t get into too many details. Keep that to yourself.<\/p>\n

The attention is really going to just annoy the hell out of you and you don\u2019t want that additional pressure and all those nagging questions that you don\u2019t even know all the answers to.<\/p>\n

Until you\u2019re truly there, stay as private as possible; it\u2019s the best thing for the relationship.<\/p>\n

Only once you\u2019ve got it all figured out and you know exactly where you are and what your intentions are with each other can you allow yourself to talk about it with your other friends.<\/p>\n

That is the only way it won\u2019t bug and pressure you into God knows what.<\/p>\n

Besides, aren\u2019t secret relationships just the best?<\/p>\n

When you\u2019ve got this whole amazing, hot, exciting new thing just to yourself, and no one in the world knows about it?<\/p>\n

Sei que essa foi a melhor parte para mim, pessoalmente.<\/p>\n

Ele foi o meu segredinho quente durante todo o tempo que conseguimos mant\u00ea-lo em segredo!<\/p>\n

Be aware that everything is going to be awkward at first (but that\u2019s totally normal!)<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

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With every beautiful new experience comes an awkward first time, and you\u2019ll be no exception.<\/p>\n

A primeira vez que tiverem rela\u00e7\u00f5es sexuais provavelmente n\u00e3o ser\u00e1 a sess\u00e3o quente e vaporosa que idealizou na sua cabe\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

It might be\u2026 but it\u2019s more likely that it won\u2019t.<\/p>\n

A press\u00e3o e a ideia de como deve ser desempenham um papel importante no resultado final.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying it\u2019s going to be bad or anything, just a bit awkward, but in a cute way, really.<\/p>\n

Because as close as you two are, sex is another level of intimacy you haven\u2019t experienced with each other yet, so before you get to know his body and vice versa, it\u2019ll take a little time before it gets to that steamy, sexy level.<\/p>\n

Segundo a minha experi\u00eancia, a segunda vez j\u00e1 \u00e9 muito melhor!<\/p>\n

The first time, it\u2019s basically getting to know one another on that ultimate, most personal level and seeing what works for each of you.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll try out things, see what feels right, and you\u2019ll know exactly what to do (or not do) the next time around.<\/p>\n

But the point is, if there\u2019s truly a connection there, you\u2019ll totally be able to just laugh about it and brush it off.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll find it cute and amusing, and when it\u2019s done, you\u2019ll be able to just lie there and make fun of each other, before falling asleep in his arms.<\/p>\n

And trust me, it\u2019s going to feel right. Just give it a few times, and you\u2019ll be on top of things.<\/p>\n

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