But I couldn\u2019t force myself to have the talk. That is one of the things I ended up regretting the most. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n O tempo passou a voar enquanto eu adiava a conversa e ele voou para fora da minha vida como algu\u00e9m que significava muito para mim, apesar de eu nunca ter sabido se ele era inteiramente meu.<\/p>\n Ca\u00ed na armadilha de uma quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o da qual nunca quis fazer parte.<\/p>\n Sempre quis a consist\u00eancia e a estabilidade que uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o de compromisso proporciona.<\/p>\n Tinha tanto medo do que ele pudesse dizer, tinha medo de o perder e de tudo o que t\u00ednhamos.<\/p>\n Guess what? I lost him anyway, the only difference being that it hurt so much more when he left than it would have if we\u2019d had the talk in the beginning.<\/p>\n Desta forma, tivemos a oportunidade de criar mem\u00f3rias, partilhar momentos inesquec\u00edveis que doem muito mais.<\/p>\n Os seus beijos estavam impressos na minha pele, sentia falta do seu cheiro nos meus len\u00e7\u00f3is antes de adormecer, sentia falta das nossas pequenas conversas, sentia falta dele, sentia falta de n\u00f3s.<\/p>\n I was broken regardless of any labels but from this perspective, now that is all behind me, I wish I had confronted him and asked him, \u201cWhat are we?\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n It wouldn\u2019t have made any difference to my brokenness but it would have made a difference to my mind.<\/p>\n O tempo que partilh\u00e1mos teria sido melhor se eu soubesse que era a namorada dele.<\/p>\n A sua aus\u00eancia teria do\u00eddo menos se eu soubesse qual era a minha posi\u00e7\u00e3o desde o in\u00edcio.<\/p>\n I wouldn\u2019t have lost my energy, my time or my emotions on someone who had no intention of staying.<\/p>\n Cometi um erro ao n\u00e3o esclarecer as coisas com ele desde o in\u00edcio.<\/p>\n O lado positivo \u00e9 que n\u00e3o voltei a cometer esse erro e estou aqui para o ajudar a n\u00e3o o cometer tamb\u00e9m.<\/p>\n Before you can ask, \u201cWhat are we?\u201d make sure you have covered all the basics.<\/strong><\/p>\n You can\u2019t ask a man you barely know to label your relationship. There has to be a certain dating period. But never allow it to last too long.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t rush the conversation and before you have the talk make sure you are on the same page and want the same things.<\/p>\n Como \u00e9 que se faz isso? Como saber se ele quer ser seu namorado? <\/strong><\/p>\n Bem, existem alguns sinais \u00f3bvios, s\u00f3 precisa de saber como os ler: <\/strong><\/p>\n Arranjam sempre tempo um para o outro, muito mais do que para as outras pessoas.<\/p>\n Por mais ocupados que estejamos e por mais coisas que tenhamos em m\u00e3os, h\u00e1 algo que o atrai para n\u00f3s e n\u00f3s para ele.<\/p>\n Hoje em dia, as redes sociais falam muito.<\/p>\n If he is the type of guy who posts a lot on his social media accounts and he doesn\u2019t mind posting a photo with you, it\u2019s a good sign he is ready for the next step.<\/p>\n Ao fazer isso, ele est\u00e1 a dar a conhecer \u00e0s outras mulheres que tem algo em mente e que est\u00e1 fora do mercado.<\/p>\n A qu\u00edmica entre voc\u00eas os dois \u00e9 t\u00e3o forte que as outras pessoas tamb\u00e9m se apercebem disso. Elas conseguem ver claramente que voc\u00eas s\u00e3o mais do que amigos.<\/p>\n Also, if he gets confused when introducing you to other people, it\u2019s a good sign to have the talk and see if you are at least headed toward the same goal.<\/p>\n If you don\u2019t spend time together, you at least text, Snapchat or call one another. Keeping in touch is very important to both of you.<\/p>\n If he doesn\u2019t allow a day to go by without hearing from you, he is letting you know that he is already hooked.<\/p>\n You make plans together and they can be short-term or long-term but the important thing is he doesn\u2019t run away from them.<\/p>\n Ele quer que saibas que \u00e9s uma parte importante dos seus planos futuros, por mais pequenos que possam parecer.<\/p>\n Of course, you won\u2019t skip the other steps and meet each other\u2019s parents right away but friends are a must.<\/p>\n If you know each other’s friends, or at least his friends know of you and send you their hellos when they speak to him, you are somebody important in his life.<\/p>\n O que fazer se ele n\u00e3o fizer nenhuma das coisas acima referidas? <\/em><\/strong> Fale com ele na mesma. N\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada a temer.<\/p>\n If this is a guy you\u2019ve been dating for a while and he is sending you mixed signals and driving you nuts with them, put your mind at peace and simply ask him, \u201cWhat are we?\u201d<\/p>\n Seja qual for a sua resposta, \u00e9 melhor saber do que n\u00e3o saber.<\/p>\n Se a \u00fanica coisa que a impede de fazer a pergunta que quer fazer \u00e9 o medo de o perder, pergunte a si pr\u00f3pria se h\u00e1 alguma coisa a perder e se isto que est\u00e1 a acontecer est\u00e1 no caminho certo.<\/p>\n Confie nos seus instintos. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n J\u00e1 sabe no fundo qual ser\u00e1 a resposta dele; a \u00fanica quest\u00e3o \u00e9 se \u00e9 algo que quer ouvir ou n\u00e3o.<\/p>\n If his answer is something you don\u2019t want to hear, ask it anyway.<\/p>\n Ficar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o casual quando se quer uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o mais comprometida tamb\u00e9m n\u00e3o \u00e9 a resposta.<\/p>\n You will only accumulate dissatisfaction and you won\u2019t be happy if the situation remains unchanged. So, there is no reason to stay.<\/p>\n Por outro lado, se a resposta dele \u00e9 algo que quer ouvir, que raz\u00e3o mais precisa para simplesmente fazer a pergunta e saber com certeza qual \u00e9 a sua posi\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n O tempo \u00e9 tudo. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Se fizer a pergunta demasiado cedo, pode afugent\u00e1-lo, porque ele ficar\u00e1 com a impress\u00e3o de que est\u00e1 a pedir demasiado, demasiado cedo.<\/p>\n Escolher o momento certo para falar \u00e9 t\u00e3o importante, se n\u00e3o mesmo mais, do que aquilo que se tem para dizer.<\/p>\n Give it a while and let everything develop naturally and if it doesn\u2019t, give it a little push. You won\u2019t be waiting around forever once you know.<\/p>\n \u201cWe need to talk,\u201d is the worst conversation starter ever.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Essas palavras accionam imediatamente o bot\u00e3o de p\u00e2nico na mente masculina e ele fica ansioso com o que tem para dizer.<\/p>\n It\u2019s easy enough for guys these days to freak out and pull away\u2014 they don\u2019t need any extra help.<\/p>\n \u201cWe need to talk,\u201d creates a negative atmosphere and adds to the pressure of the whole situation. Avoid it at all costs.<\/p>\n Quem disse que esta conversa tem de ser s\u00e9ria? <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n A maioria das pessoas espera uma conversa s\u00e9ria, em que uma das partes exp\u00f5e todos os seus desejos e exig\u00eancias e a outra parte diz o que pensa sobre isso.<\/p>\n Isso \u00e9 um pouco aborrecido, coloca press\u00e3o em ambas as partes envolvidas e \u00e9 totalmente desnecess\u00e1rio.<\/p>\n It would be so much better if you wrapped it up as something funny with a serious note\u2014e.g. \u201cWill we couple up or is this fabulous ass of mine still on the market?\u201d or, \u201cI want to know where we stand so I can tell all the boys lined up at my front door to buzz off or try harder; it\u2019s up to you.\u201d<\/p>\n Seja criativo e imaginativo, tenho a certeza de que h\u00e1 uma tonelada de coisas que lhe passar\u00e3o pela cabe\u00e7a ou que surgir\u00e3o de uma conversa passada que o far\u00e3o dizer as palavras certas.<\/p>\n A simple, \u201cWhat are we?\u201d in a casual and laid-back context will have a greater impact than a forced conversation between the two of you, where you are nervous and pronouncing all the words wrong.<\/p>\n Dito isto, h\u00e1 mais uma coisa que precisa de fazer e que \u00e9 certificar-se de que ambos est\u00e3o s\u00f3brios durante a conversa. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Est\u00e1 bem, talvez uma bebida para relaxar, mas nem mais um golo. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Adiar a conversa sobre o seu estado de relacionamento \u00e9 um dos seus pensamentos constantes e, se bebeu um ou dois goles a mais, pode dizer tudo o que quer dizer, mas da forma errada.<\/p>\n Words will just come out wrong, you will say some things you don\u2019t mean, he will follow your lead and everything will turn into one big chaotic mess.<\/p>\n Evite simplesmente beber com ele at\u00e9 saber em que ponto \u00e9 que voc\u00eas est\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Whatever you do, don\u2019t even think about texting him about it\u2014have the talk in person. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n It\u2019s easier to look for an escape from a difficult conversation by hiding behind a screen.<\/p>\n It\u2019s easier to text than to talk face-to-face. It\u2019s easier but it\u2019s not the best option.<\/p>\n Texting won\u2019t give you insight into the whole situation.<\/p>\n You won\u2019t be able to see his face, monitor his body movement or hear the sound of his voice when he gives you the answer.<\/p>\n Algo se perde entre as linhas escritas e nunca pode substituir uma conversa na vida real entre duas pessoas.<\/p>\n Perde-se o la\u00e7o que nos une e a sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de intimidade quando trocamos mensagens de texto.<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/pensive-young-beautiful-woman-drinking-coffee.jpg\")
<\/p>\nPassam muito tempo juntos<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nHe doesn\u2019t mind posting photos of you on his social media accounts<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nAs outras pessoas pensam que s\u00e3o um casal<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nMant\u00e9m-se em contacto regularmente<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nHe isn\u2019t afraid to talk about the future<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nEle inclui-te na sua vida e quer fazer parte da tua<\/h2>\n
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