{"id":35503,"date":"2019-04-16T09:32:10","date_gmt":"2019-04-16T09:32:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=35503"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:16:05","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:16:05","slug":"5-melhores-formas-de-lidar-com-o-seu-parceiro-demasiado-controlador","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/5-melhores-formas-de-lidar-com-o-seu-parceiro-demasiado-controlador\/","title":{"rendered":"5 melhores formas de lidar com o seu parceiro demasiado controlador"},"content":{"rendered":"

Love can be hard work as it is… but when you\u2019re in a relationship with a controlling partner, it can get that much harder trying <\/em>para fazer as coisas funcionarem<\/em><\/a> enquanto se \u00e9 escrutinado por tudo o que se faz.<\/em><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Sometimes, your partner\u2019s controlling habits aren\u2019t yet that serious that they can\u2019t be managed and worked on, so that you can go back to that healthy relationship you once had.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Controlling behavior is often a manifestation of his own insecurities and shortcomings and he simply doesn\u2019t know any other way to deal with them than projecting it all onto you.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

This can often be a very trying time and it\u2019s crucial you nip this in the bud before it gets out of hand.<\/em><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

You want to make sure that it doesn\u2019t cross over to a more dangerous territory where you feel at risk in any way, which would be an immediate red flag to leave that relationship!<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Mas se te sentes como o tipo com quem te apaixonaste apaixonado por<\/a> ainda est\u00e1 l\u00e1 algures e sabe que o pode fazer voltar a ser o que era normalmente, h\u00e1 algumas coisas \u00fateis que pode experimentar para que a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o volte a entrar nos eixos.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Se tem a certeza de que quer continuar com esta pessoa e de que h\u00e1 uma esperan\u00e7a genu\u00edna de que ela se recomponha, continue a ler, porque aqui vai descobrir exatamente como melhorar os seus h\u00e1bitos problem\u00e1ticos e voltar a esse lugar feliz.<\/em><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Aqui est\u00e3o 5 dicas sobre como lidar com os seus h\u00e1bitos de controlo da forma mais saud\u00e1vel.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

1. Manter-se calmo e nunca recorrer a discuss\u00f5es ou disputas<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Descer ao seu n\u00edvel e recorrer \u00e0 discuss\u00e3o com ele s\u00f3 vai agravar a situa\u00e7\u00e3o, j\u00e1 de si problem\u00e1tica.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Instead, stay cool, calm and collected and ask him (once he\u2019s said his piece) if he has considered your side of things and calmly state what that is. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Nunca levante a voz e, em vez disso, tente fazer com que ele o ou\u00e7a de forma racional.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Isto pode n\u00e3o funcionar com toda a gente, mas \u00e9 a sua melhor hip\u00f3tese de ser, pelo menos, ouvido e potencialmente compreendido. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Tenha em conta o que ele disse, mas mantenha-se confiante naquilo que pensa ser o melhor.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

2. Tentar realmente compreender o ponto de vista dele e considerar as coisas do ponto de vista dele<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Se o seu parceiro est\u00e1 a ser irracional e a fazer-lhe exig\u00eancias question\u00e1veis, d\u00ea um passo atr\u00e1s e ponha-se no lugar dele.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Try to see things the way he sees them and understand why exactly he would feel that what he\u2019s saying is okay and acceptable.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

You may realize that he does have a point but is still proving it in the wrong way, so try and explain that you understand what he\u2019s saying but you feel he\u2019s being a bit too harsh.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Nunca utilizar isto para inventar desculpas<\/a> for being overly aggressive and rude, only for instances that aren\u2019t as serious or worrisome.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

3. Ask him to explain exactly why he wants a certain thing and don\u2019t get defensive<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

If he demands you be back home from your girls\u2019 night at a particular hour, ask him exactly why that would be okay, since he stays out for as long as he wants.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Tell him that you\u2019ll check in with him and let him know where you are so that he doesn\u2019t worry but also suggest that you really do deserve a night off with your girls.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Certifique-se de que ele sabe que \u00e9 totalmente inofensivo e garanta-lhe que nunca faria nada que pusesse em causa a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\nAsk for him to trust you, because if he doesn\u2019t, what\u2019s the point?\r\n\r\n\r\n

Stand your ground and tell him you\u2019ll be out for as long as you want but that you would much rather that he be on-board, as there is really nothing to worry about because you love and respect him.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

4. Estabele\u00e7a limites claros e explique o que tolera e o que n\u00e3o tolera da parte dele<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

If your partner doesn\u2019t seem to have a problem with micromanaging you and scrutinizing your every move, explain to him the problematic side of this and state your boundaries of acceptable behavior.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Diga-lhe exatamente qual \u00e9 o seu problema e explique-lhe porqu\u00ea. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Certifique-se de que ele compreende as coisas que n\u00e3o tolera mais e que o leva a s\u00e9rio.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Tenha sempre em considera\u00e7\u00e3o a opini\u00e3o dele, mas diga-lhe que, por vezes, ele ultrapassa os limites e que n\u00e3o est\u00e1 de acordo com isso. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Encontrar um meio-termo \u00e9 a sua melhor aposta para mant\u00ea-lo<\/a>.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

5. Try going to couple\u2019s therapy and give it a final go<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

If your controlling partner doesn\u2019t seem to grasp the seriousness of your demands to stop acting a certain way, suggest therapy as your last resort.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Estar com um conselheiro profissional pode ser \u00fatil para tentar encontrar uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o para o seu problema. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Ele pode mesmo ouvir se uma terceira pessoa tentar faz\u00ea-lo ver o erro dos seus caminhos, especialmente se essa pessoa for um profissional que resolve problemas nesse departamento.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

O seu parceiro tamb\u00e9m pode tentar sess\u00f5es individuais, pois isso pode dar-lhe a oportunidade de se sentir completamente seguro para dizer aquilo que o preocupa.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Talvez o seu comportamento controlador seja o resultado de uma inf\u00e2ncia problem\u00e1tica, ou pode ter origem num acontecimento traum\u00e1tico particular do seu passado.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Seja qual for o problema, a melhor hip\u00f3tese de o resolver \u00e9 a terapia individual, por isso, tente lev\u00e1-lo a faz\u00ea-la e poder\u00e1 ver resultados reais. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

D\u00ea tempo ao tempo e tenha alguma f\u00e9.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Se \u00e9 uma pessoa por quem se est\u00e1 disposto a fazer tudo isto, \u00e9 porque ainda h\u00e1 esperan\u00e7a para ele.
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Love can be hard work as it is… but when you\u2019re in a relationship with a controlling partner, it can get that much harder trying to make things work while being scrutinized about every little thing you do. Sometimes, your partner\u2019s controlling habits aren\u2019t yet that serious that they can\u2019t be managed and worked on,…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":35504,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29625],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-35503","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-toxic-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29625,"label":"toxic relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/adult-black-and-white-person-972325-1.jpg",800,531,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29625,"name":"toxic relationship","slug":"toxic-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29625,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? What should you do if you find yourself in one? Here's all you need to know!","parent":29620,"count":228,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29625,"category_count":228,"category_description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? What should you do if you find yourself in one? Here's all you need to know!","cat_name":"toxic relationship","category_nicename":"toxic-relationship","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35503","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=35503"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35503\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/35504"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=35503"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=35503"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=35503"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}