At first, this fear doesn\u2019t manifest itself much, and you see it as a way of dealing with your past traumas.<\/p>\n
Afinal de contas, \u00e9 perfeitamente natural que todos queiramos evitar magoar-nos.<\/p>\n
No entanto, com o tempo, este medo torna-se o seu mecanismo de defesa.<\/p>\n
It makes you build walls around your heart, and it causes you to become a closed person who isn\u2019t ready to let anyone in.<\/p>\n
As well as every other fear, the fear of love is also irrational and something you can\u2019t control, as much as you\u2019d like to.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s not that you have the <\/em>capacidade de acordar uma manh\u00e3 e decidir que quer deixar de ter medo.<\/p>\n Na verdade, na maioria dos casos, as pessoas nem sequer t\u00eam consci\u00eancia de que sofrem desta doen\u00e7a porque se envolvem em diferentes rela\u00e7\u00f5es das quais fogem quando as coisas se tornam s\u00e9rias e, no segundo em que apanhar-se a desenvolver sentimentos<\/a>.<\/p>\n Algumas pessoas t\u00eam medo de alcan\u00e7ar uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o mais profunda com outra pessoa, outras t\u00eam pavor da intimidade e outras t\u00eam medo do compromisso.<\/p>\n As pessoas com filofobia diagnosticada est\u00e3o dispostas a fazer tudo o que for preciso para fugir do amor, e a simples ideia de se apaixonarem assusta-as.<\/p>\n Once you\u2019ve learned everything there is to know about the fear of love, it\u2019s time to deal with some introspection and admit to yourself that you have a serious problem you need to fight.<\/p>\n Remember that this is nothing for you to be ashamed of and that many people deal with the same issues\u2014with or without knowing it.<\/p>\n Para al\u00e9m disso, reprimir as emo\u00e7\u00f5es<\/a> and pretending that everything is OK when it clearly isn\u2019t will only make things worse.<\/p>\n It might be easier to act like your fear of love doesn\u2019t exist, but sooner or later, everything you\u2019ve tried to hide under the carpet will get to you, and you\u2019ll have to face it.<\/p>\n Ent\u00e3o, porque n\u00e3o come\u00e7ar agora?<\/p>\n You\u2019ve obviously recognized yourself in some of these symptoms of philophobia, and that is always the first step toward helping yourself.<\/p>\n It\u2019s time to be brave enough and look at your fear of love straight in the eye.<\/p>\n Time to remember how strong you are and to be certain that you\u2019ll successfully defeat your fear of love.<\/p>\n Lembre-se que esta condi\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 bastante s\u00e9ria e n\u00e3o \u00e9 algo que deva ignorar.<\/p>\n No entanto, o medo do amor pode ser trabalhado, e aqui est\u00e3o as formas de o ultrapassar.<\/p>\n Um dos primeiros passos no processo de supera\u00e7\u00e3o do medo do amor \u00e9 analisar todos os seus segmentos.<\/p>\n Se \u00e9 isto que quer derrotar, h\u00e1 algumas perguntas a que s\u00f3 voc\u00ea pode dar resposta.<\/p>\n Quando \u00e9 que sentiu pela primeira vez esse medo do amor? Como \u00e9 que ele se manifestou? Qual foi a sua rea\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/p>\n Quando foi a primeira vez que come\u00e7ou a duvidar de que poderia ter um problema? Como \u00e9 que decidiu lidar com isso?<\/p>\n Ignorou o seu medo do amor ou decidiu resolv\u00ea-lo de imediato?<\/p>\n Porque \u00e9 que este sentimento apareceu pela primeira vez? Deve-se a uma experi\u00eancia negativa pela qual passou?<\/p>\n Estava feridas no passado<\/a>? Arrepende-se de ter deixado entrar as pessoas erradas?<\/p>\n Uma experi\u00eancia negativa matou a sua f\u00e9 no amor? Uma pessoa errada f\u00ea-lo acreditar que sempre que d\u00e1 uma oportunidade a algu\u00e9m novo, o resultado ser\u00e1 sempre o mesmo?<\/p>\n Did your toxic ex convince you that you aren\u2019t meant to be loved and that you should give up on romantic relationships all together?<\/p>\n \u00c9 poss\u00edvel que, num determinado momento da sua vida, tenha chegado inconscientemente \u00e0 conclus\u00e3o de que a \u00fanica forma de se proteger de mais dor \u00e9 levantar a guarda?<\/p>\n Alguma vez estiveste verdadeiramente apaixonado? Ou esse medo do amor est\u00e1 presente desde que se lembra?<\/p>\n Foi afetado pelos acontecimentos no seu meio envolvente? A sua inf\u00e2ncia foi abusiva? Passou por algum trauma causado por uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o com um amigo ou familiar que o afectou gravemente?<\/p>\n The fear of love isn\u2019t manifested in the same way in everyone. It has different subtypes and aspects.<\/p>\n Actually, nobody is afraid of love itself because love is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world\u2013we\u2019re afraid of the things that we expect to come hand-in-hand with love.<\/p>\n Algumas pessoas t\u00eam medo de se exporem.<\/p>\n With time, being single became their comfort zone, they convinced themselves that a romantic partner would just disrupt their lives and that they\u2019re better of alone.<\/p>\n On the other hand, some are scared of rejection. Their ego is so fragile that they couldn\u2019t stand getting NO as an answer.<\/p>\n This group is panically afraid that they\u2019re actually not good for anyone, so they prefer not giving it a shot with the opposite sex at all.<\/p>\n H\u00e1 tamb\u00e9m pessoas cujo medo do amor n\u00e3o \u00e9 mais do que o medo do desgosto.<\/p>\n Naturally, we\u2019re all scared of getting hurt, but with these people, it goes beyond that\u2013their fears control them and block them completely.<\/p>\n That is why it\u2019s important for you to determine your own specific fear. What is the thing that scares you the most out of all those mentioned above?<\/p>\n Another thing you should have in mind when it comes to overcoming your fear of love is the fact that you can\u2019t control all life circumstances, other people and their actions.<\/p>\n No entanto, em vez de tentar mudar isso, abrace a beleza do desconhecido.<\/p>\n Por muito que fosse mais f\u00e1cil para todos n\u00f3s sabermos sempre o que vai acontecer e podermos controlar a forma como os outros nos tratam, isso \u00e9 simplesmente imposs\u00edvel.<\/p>\n And that is the beauty of life\u2013never being certain of what tomorrow brings and never knowing what to expect.<\/p>\n A coisa que sem d\u00favida o ajudar\u00e1 com o seu medo do amor \u00e9 deixar ir<\/a>s\u00f3 por uma vez.<\/p>\n Deixar de lado a necessidade de controlo, as expectativas e ser um pouco mais espont\u00e2neo.<\/p>\n I\u2019m not saying that you shouldn\u2019t think your decisions through before making them, but relaxing and going with the flow from time to time won\u2019t hurt you.<\/p>\n Besides, you have to learn that you can\u2019t change the past.<\/p>\n You can\u2019t impact how some people treated you before, and you can\u2019t make them change their ways.<\/p>\n Nevertheless, what you can do is accept everything you can\u2019t control, including your history.<\/p>\n Pode aprender-se com isso e pode ser usado como um ponto de crescimento.<\/p>\n Embora nem tudo o que se passa \u00e0 sua volta esteja nas suas m\u00e3os, o que pode controlar totalmente \u00e9 a forma como reage \u00e0s coisas.<\/p>\n You\u2019re the only one who chooses how to accept life\u2019s circumstances and the only one who has control over your own emotions.<\/p>\n I know things don\u2019t look that way, but the truth is that you\u2019re a master of your own fears, including your medo de se apaixonar<\/a>.<\/p>\n You\u2019re the one who made it, the one who allowed it to grow, and the one who will conquer it.<\/p>\n O seu medo \u00e9 o produto do seu pr\u00f3prio c\u00e9rebro, e o seu c\u00e9rebro \u00e9 o \u00fanico que o pode fazer desaparecer e o \u00fanico que o pode afugentar.<\/p>\n So instead of trying to change the world, change yourself\u2013or to be exact, the parts of yourself you don\u2019t like.<\/p>\n Em vez de esperar que algu\u00e9m apare\u00e7a do nada com uma varinha m\u00e1gica que fa\u00e7a desaparecer todos os seus medos, lembre-se que a varinha m\u00e1gica est\u00e1 na sua m\u00e3o e que s\u00f3 pode contar consigo pr\u00f3prio quando se trata de ultrapassar o seu medo do amor.<\/p>\n Em vez de esperar que algu\u00e9m o salve, comece a salvar-se a si pr\u00f3prio neste instante!<\/p>\n O medo do amor n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma emo\u00e7\u00e3o positiva.<\/p>\n Em vez disso, \u00e9 algo que nos sobrecarrega com pensamentos negativos e que nos faz sentir mal connosco pr\u00f3prios.<\/p>\n Consequentemente, devido a este medo, ao fim de algum tempo, come\u00e7a-se a ligar o amor a algo mau e negativo.<\/p>\n \u00c9 exatamente por isso que temos de nos libertar desses preconceitos em rela\u00e7\u00e3o ao amor, se quisermos avan\u00e7ar.<\/p>\n No entanto, \u00e9 muito mais f\u00e1cil falar do que fazer.<\/p>\n Quantas vezes j\u00e1 ouviu as pessoas dizerem-lhe para come\u00e7ar a pensar de forma mais positiva?<\/p>\n After all, wouldn\u2019t we all like to have a switch in our heads which gives us the ability to turn off pessimistic thoughts and turn on optimistic ones?<\/p>\n Well, sadly things don\u2019t work that way.<\/p>\n Ent\u00e3o, como \u00e9 que se pode deixar de associar o amor a algo sombrio, negativo e doloroso, especialmente quando a maior parte das rela\u00e7\u00f5es passadas s\u00f3 nos trouxe ressentimento, medo de abandono e outros traumas emocionais?<\/p>\n Well, even though your romantic history is an awful experience which made you feel like this in the first place, I\u2019m sure that each one of your loves also brought some good things.<\/p>\n Lembra-se de como estar apaixonado apetecia-me ter borboletas<\/a> no teu est\u00f4mago? Como se sentia capaz de realizar qualquer coisa a que se propusesse?<\/p>\n Lembra-se de como era bom andar ao lado de algu\u00e9m que amava? Como era fant\u00e1stico sentir essa liga\u00e7\u00e3o profunda com outro ser humano?<\/p>\n Not having any of these things at the moment shouldn\u2019t make you depressed because you\u2019re the only one not allowing yourself to experience them once more.<\/p>\n That is exactly why you have to force yourself to think about all of your beautiful memories connected with love every time your brain involuntary starts having pessimistic and negative thoughts\u2013it\u2019s the only way for you to start connecting love with happiness, peace, and other positive emotions and the only way toward your full recovery.<\/p>\n If you\u2019ve been through intense emotional pain in the past, it is perfectly natural for you to be traumatized.<\/p>\n It is clear that you carry a lot of emotional baggage around which has been weighing you down, and that is something you can\u2019t get rid of as easily as you\u2019d wish.<\/p>\n Pretending that you\u2019ve healed overnight and that your fear of love is magically gone won\u2019t make you feel any better.<\/p>\n Jumping from one relationship to another or getting yourself involved in casual sex or meaningless affairs won\u2019t fix you either.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2013I\u2019m not saying that your fear of love should be the reason for you to stay single forever or that you should let this fear paralyze you for the rest of your life.<\/p>\n What I\u2019m saying is for you to take your time and do things at your own pace and rhythm, now that you\u2019ve identified your problem and have decided to do your best to resolve it.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t expect everything to fall into place overnight. Instead, give your heart tempo para curar<\/a> e estar pronto para novas batalhas.<\/p>\n Estabele\u00e7a objectivos pequenos e alcan\u00e7\u00e1veis e orgulhe-se de si pr\u00f3prio sempre que atingir um deles.<\/p>\n Veja esta cura como um processo passo a passo que requer tempo, devo\u00e7\u00e3o, paci\u00eancia e energia.<\/p>\n Start with baby steps\u2013such as letting someone new into your life without immediately labelling things or cracking your brains open about what will happen next.<\/p>\n Viver um dia de cada vez<\/a>, and give yourself a high five after every day in which your fear of love didn\u2019t get the best of yo.<\/p>\n Before you know it, you\u2019ll turn around and see that you\u2019ve made incredible progress without even being aware of it.<\/p>\n Que todos os seus passos de beb\u00e9 o levaram muito longe e que nunca esteve t\u00e3o perto de se livrar completamente do seu medo do amor.<\/p>\n1. Descobrir o fundo do seu medo<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n2. Identificar o seu medo espec\u00edfico<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n3. Remember that you can\u2019t control everything<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n4. Mas podes controlar-te<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n5. Deixar de se concentrar nas coisas negativas<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n6. Permitir que o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido para curar<\/a><\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n7. Don\u2019t idealize love<\/h2>\n
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