{"id":36079,"date":"2020-08-29T08:17:05","date_gmt":"2020-08-29T08:17:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=36079"},"modified":"2021-08-11T08:58:27","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T08:58:27","slug":"5-coisas-a-fazer-quando-a-falsa-esperanca-o-mantem-numa-relacao-abusiva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/5-coisas-a-fazer-quando-a-falsa-esperanca-o-mantem-numa-relacao-abusiva\/","title":{"rendered":"5 coisas a fazer quando a falsa esperan\u00e7a o mant\u00e9m numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o abusiva"},"content":{"rendered":"

Todos n\u00f3s queremos ver o melhor dos nossos parceiros, independentemente da situa\u00e7\u00e3o real.<\/p>\n

Even when it\u2019s at our own expense, we tend to ignore those little things that we know are assim<\/em> errado devido \u00e0 nossa falsa esperan\u00e7a que, no fundo, \u00e9 a \u00fanica coisa que nos faz ultrapassar a nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica.<\/a><\/p>\n

Getting out of an abusive relationship is always a difficult thing\u2014be it physical or emotional abuse.<\/p>\n

Saying \u2018no\u2019 to your partner and leaving him once and for all sounds easy enough, but in reality, it\u2019s an extremely tough situation to be in.<\/p>\n

Vivemos numa sociedade que imp\u00f5e todo o tipo de estigmas e constrangimentos \u00e0s pessoas por diversas raz\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

For example, if you are a woman in your late twenties, you are (silently) judged if you\u2019re not yet married<\/em>\u2014ou, pelo menos, bem encaminhado para l\u00e1.<\/em><\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t have a boyfriend by that age, there must be something wrong with you<\/em>\u2014or at least that\u2019s what you\u2019re made to believe<\/em>\u2014e sente-se julgado e menosprezado.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

All those things (and many more!) are what\u2019s doing us all a huge disservice because due to those stigmas, we choose to stay in unhealthy relationships that are toxic for us and are arruinando a nossa sa\u00fade mental.<\/a><\/p>\n

We\u2019d rather silently suffer and pretend everything is peachy on the outside, than stay single and happy until the right man comes along\u2014one that\u2019s not going to be abusive, toxic, and make us feel like crap.<\/p>\n

E devido a estas quest\u00f5es infelizes, as mulheres de todo o mundo sofrem em sil\u00eancio.<\/p>\n

Deixam que os homens dominem os seus mundos, diminuindo lentamente a sua auto-perce\u00e7\u00e3o e fazendo-as sentir-se erradas por quererem que as suas vozes sejam ouvidas.<\/p>\n

I want you to remember that it really doesn\u2019t have to be that way. You pode<\/em> Encontra a tua sa\u00edda. Ele n\u00e3o \u00e9 o teu patr\u00e3o e tens de lhe mostrar isso!<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 muitas coisas que pode fazer quando deixa que o seu falso sentido de esperan\u00e7a a mantenha numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o abusiva, e aqui est\u00e3o 5 coisas que certamente a ajudar\u00e3o a encontrar a sa\u00edda para sempre!<\/em><\/p>\n

Recorra aos seus pr\u00f3ximos e queridos (deixe que eles o ajudem!)<\/h2>\n

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Your partner may have painted a perfect picture of himself to your family and friends, but YOU are the one they love, and you are the one they are going to believe, so don\u2019t shy away from telling them the truth.<\/p>\n

Explique-lhes como se sente emocionalmente destru\u00edda e de que forma o seu parceiro contribuiu para isso.<\/p>\n

Let them in, and don\u2019t fear being vulnerable.<\/p>\n

Eles s\u00e3o o seu lugar seguro e, quando come\u00e7arem a v\u00ea-lo como ele realmente \u00e9 e como est\u00e1 infeliz e destro\u00e7ada, ser\u00e3o o melhor sistema de apoio, ajudando-a a livrar-se dele de uma vez por todas.<\/p>\n

Start saying \u2018no\u2019 to his insane demands and refuse to obey him<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

He needs to see that you are not his puppet\u2014not anymore. Be calm, sure of yourself, and don\u2019t let him get to you.<\/p>\n

Da pr\u00f3xima vez que ele te exigir uma coisa louca, recusa.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t raise your voice, and don\u2019t be spiteful. Just say that you do not agree with what he\u2019s asking of you, and you will not be doing that thing.<\/p>\n

Quando ele vir que est\u00e1 a aprender a fazer-lhe frente, vai come\u00e7ar a entrar em p\u00e2nico e a ver que o poder que tem sobre si est\u00e1 a esgotar-se.  <\/p>\n

He is not going to like this, and with time, it\u2019s going to become easier for you to get out because an parceiro abusivo<\/a> alimenta-se da submiss\u00e3o, o que j\u00e1 n\u00e3o \u00e9 o seu caso.<\/p>\n

Se ele amea\u00e7ar p\u00f4r as m\u00e3os em cima de si, chame a pol\u00edcia e mostre-lhe que est\u00e1 a falar a s\u00e9rio<\/h2>\n

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Se ele come\u00e7ar a amea\u00e7ar tocar-lhe ou fazer-lhe mal de alguma forma, pegue no telefone e comece a marcar.<\/p>\n

Mostre-lhe que est\u00e1 a falar a s\u00e9rio, e isso far\u00e1 com que a sua loucura diminua.<\/p>\n

Fear is the most effective motivator, and once he sees you\u2019re not messing around and you\u2019re no longer going to put up with his craziness, he\u2019s going to ease up and back down.<\/p>\n

But in case he doesn\u2019t, leave immediately and call for help.<\/p>\n

Grave secretamente as explos\u00f5es dele e guarde esse registo num local seguro para quando precisar de provas de que est\u00e1 a ser abusada<\/h2>\n

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Keep a hidden phone somewhere and press \u2018record\u2019 when you feel he\u2019s being triggered in order to have it all on video.<\/p>\n

You can also or keep the phone in your pocket while it\u2019s recording so that you can have a recording of him verbally abusing you.<\/p>\n

This is going to come in handy should you decide to go to the police, as this is proof of him being abusive, and you\u2019re easily going to at least get a restraining order\u2014if nothing else.<\/p>\n

Also, you having actual proof of what he\u2019s like when he\u2019s gone mad is going to make him scared you\u2019ll show it to people, so it might make him let you go peacefully.<\/p>\n

Go to a family member\u2019s place, and cut off all contact with him<\/h2>\n

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Stay at your sister\u2019s for as long as you need, and have two or more people collect your things if you share a place with your partner.<\/p>\n

As long as you keep him outnumbered, it\u2019s going to be fine.<\/p>\n

Make him see you\u2019re really done with him and his bullshit, and don\u2019t respond to any of his calls and texts.<\/p>\n

Vive a tua vida, mant\u00e9m-te rodeado das pessoas que te s\u00e3o pr\u00f3ximas e afasta-te dos locais onde o possas encontrar.<\/p>\n

Tente estar sempre acompanhado por um ente querido e comece a organizar a sua vida, apagando-o lentamente da sua mente.<\/p>\n

Sooner or later, he\u2019s going to get tired of calling and harrassing you, and finally let you be happy and at peace surrounded by those who love you.<\/p>\n

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