{"id":36203,"date":"2019-05-06T08:08:10","date_gmt":"2019-05-06T08:08:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=36203"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:03:18","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:03:18","slug":"como-criar-novas-vias-neurais-para-recuperar-da-traicao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-criar-novas-vias-neurais-para-recuperar-da-traicao\/","title":{"rendered":"Como criar novas vias neurais para se recuperar de uma trai\u00e7\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A neuroci\u00eancia ajudou a revelar que a dor no cora\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 t\u00e3o dolorosa e real para o c\u00e9rebro como a dor f\u00edsica. <b>Portanto, h\u00e1 boas not\u00edcias<\/b><b>\u2014<\/b><b>tal como sabemos que podemos curar-nos da dor f\u00edsica, tamb\u00e9m podemos curar-nos do sofrimento emocional. <\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Physiological healing is the body\u2019s cells regenerating or repairing to reduce the size of the distressed\/damaged area to restore the body to normal functioning. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A cura emocional \u00e9 menos mecanicista do que esta, mas segue um caminho de restaura\u00e7\u00e3o semelhante. <b><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/esta-entre-o-desgosto-e-a-cura-7-formas-de-ultrapassar-o-limbo-emocional\/\">Cura emocional<\/a> happens when the brain replaces painful events with restorative images\u2014those which will promote behavior that promotes safety, growth and well-being, thereby restoring the normal function of the mind. <\/b><br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you have ever been betrayed, you will know how much it hurts and it leaves us devastated and questioning everything about the relationship\u2014this can be romantic or platonic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A minha experi\u00eancia com a trai\u00e7\u00e3o vem de um ex. Eu amava-o e, at\u00e9 essa altura, pensava que a nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o podia sobreviver a tudo. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">One day I woke up and found myself blocked on all social media, even texting apps. I tried to call but it was going straight to a dead tone. I asked our friends what had happened but nobody would tell me anything. A few days later his friend sent me a link to my ex, John, signing a book deal. The amount of time we had spent talking and wishing for our books to become a reality, I couldn\u2019t understand why he wouldn\u2019t have told me that. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It was a couple of months later that the real scale of betrayal started to unfold. In the time we hadn\u2019t spoken, John had married and not only this but he\u2019d had his book published; but the book had a lot of my words and words we had shared, letters and poems we had sent each other. &nbsp;<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now strangely, his marriage is something I can forgive him for but he took our words, our memories, and made them into a book without even telling me. The hurt of the betrayal and the deception is hard to forgive. I was left wondering what had been real and what hadn\u2019t. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">O que o John fez foi manchar as nossas mem\u00f3rias e roubar-me uma pessoa que era uma parte importante da minha vida. Usou as suas necessidades ego\u00edstas para magoar e manipular algu\u00e9m que se preocupava genuinamente com ele. J\u00e1 n\u00e3o olho para ele e vejo algu\u00e9m que um dia amei. Em vez disso, vejo um estranho que me amou t\u00e3o pouco que me deixou com um sentimento de vazio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The reason I want to share this story is to encourage others to find peace with events that have happened to them. Don\u2019t let the experience make you bitter or destroy the confidence in yourself or let it affect future relationships. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is your journey and no matter what, you are loved and worthy, despite other people\u2019s actions. No matter what you have experienced or what has happened to you on your life journey, you must find a way to make peace with it. Otherwise, it will find a way to lower your self-esteem and your self-worth. &nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">For a long time, John became a trigger point for me; as soon as I heard his name, I would have tears rolling down my face, I would have a panic attack to the point where I couldn\u2019t breathe, then my mind would start to race with all those unanswered questions, over and over. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><b>But it\u2019s a funny thing\u2014our human brain lies. It looks for absolutes to create a narrative with you and yourself, <\/b>&nbsp;a narrative that can, if not careful, paralyze us in a set state of fear and self-judgment. My inner dialogue went along these lines\u2014it couldn\u2019t have been John that had betrayed me, because he had been the best human I knew. Therefore, it had to be me; I couldn\u2019t have been good enough for him, I talked too much, I was thick-headed or I didn\u2019t support him enough. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">O ciclo de auto-d\u00favida e crueldade continuou interminavelmente. Tinha de encontrar uma forma de o perdoar, n\u00e3o para o bem dele mas para o meu, para aliviar o meu ego ferido, para acabar com as d\u00favidas. &nbsp;<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Imagens de restauro<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><b>Uma imagem restauradora \u00e9 a parte emocionalmente carregada da nossa imagina\u00e7\u00e3o que alivia a dor, mudando o foco mental da perda para o crescimento. Lembram-nos que a nossa no\u00e7\u00e3o de quem somos resulta daquilo que ganh\u00e1mos na vida, e n\u00e3o daquilo que perdemos ou sofremos. A nossa capacidade de crescer como seres humanos refor\u00e7a continuamente este facto.<\/b><br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As imagens restauradoras mais poderosas s\u00e3o aquelas que podem refor\u00e7ar os nossos valores mais profundos, como a humanidade b\u00e1sica, a liga\u00e7\u00e3o, o amor e a compaix\u00e3o. A cura emocional consiste, em grande parte, em recondicionar o c\u00e9rebro para associar imagens restauradoras a mem\u00f3rias dolorosas. &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">To recover from betrayal, we must ease that pain to look at how we can grow from it. So reflect on this scenario or grow from it\u2014what was the reason for John being in my life? &nbsp;What was the intended lesson? <b>Quando tivermos <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/a-licao-de-amor-mais-amarga-que-o-seu-parceiro-toxico-lhe-ensinou\/\">aprendeu a li\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>Se o problema n\u00e3o for resolvido, torna-se menos doloroso, menos desencadeante.<\/b> Podemos recordar esses momentos sem o trauma emocional que lhes est\u00e1 associado.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Tinha estado presa num padr\u00e3o e numa rotina da minha vida, fazendo o que era esperado de mim devido \u00e0s minhas obriga\u00e7\u00f5es e responsabilidades. A minha maior atra\u00e7\u00e3o pelo John era a sua criatividade, ele tinha tanto orgulho e n\u00e3o se desculpava por mostrar ao mundo este seu lado.  Este era um lado meu que estava enterrado bem abaixo da superf\u00edcie, que tinha tanto medo de crescer. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">John encouraged me to awaken this side of me. He taught me a lot about myself and if I\u2019m honest, I liked the person I was becoming. He was a massive part of my journey in my pursuit of happiness, so, for this reason, I thank him. &nbsp;<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Recondicionar o nosso c\u00e9rebro <br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><b>Brain conditioning is a process of repeating mental associations until new habits, or new neural firings, are formed. The vast majority of our emotions are conditioned by past experiences\u2014a stimulus-response situation. <\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Unfortunately, our brains can be slightly lazy and choose the option that requires the least amount of energy. So, conditioned responses are metabolically cheap because they consume little energy compared to conscious intentions (for example, let\u2019s apply this to emotional eating\u2014it is easier to respond to uncomfortable emotions by comforting them with food, as this is our conditioned response. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Em vez de lidar conscientemente com a emo\u00e7\u00e3o, o que exigiria mais energia, uma a\u00e7\u00e3o decidida conscientemente \u00e9 centenas de milh\u00f5es de neur\u00f3nios que disparam v\u00e1rias vezes). &nbsp;<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><b>S\u00f3 h\u00e1 uma maneira de o nosso c\u00e9rebro formar novos h\u00e1bitos: atrav\u00e9s da repeti\u00e7\u00e3o de novas associa\u00e7\u00f5es. <\/b>Therefore, we must practice associating restorative images with memories of pain. In time, that pain will ease. But don\u2019t worry\u2014in general, it takes less iteration for a more pleasant habit to replace a painful one. <br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Na nossa busca pela felicidade, para amarmos quem somos, n\u00e3o podemos odiar as experi\u00eancias que nos moldaram. Tudo o que me aconteceu ao longo dos anos, por muito doloroso que tenha sido, transformou-me no ser humano que sou hoje.<b> Sim, tenho defeitos, sim, cometo erros, mas sou humano, aprendo, reflicto e cres\u00e7o. &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Estes s\u00e3o alguns pontos a ter em conta<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><b>Step 1 &#8211; Accept the reality of the situation. &nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Don\u2019t try to overthink or escalate events in your mind (as we are all guilty at times of making things that have caused us hurt to be worse than they are). &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Aceite o que aconteceu, o que sentiu e o impacto que teve na sua vida. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Lembre-se que qualquer sentimento ou emo\u00e7\u00e3o que esteja a sentir \u00e9 v\u00e1lido.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><b>Step 2 &#8211; Grow through it.<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Reflicta sobre a situa\u00e7\u00e3o e sobre as li\u00e7\u00f5es que pode tirar para o futuro da sua vida. &nbsp;<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><b>Step 3 &#8211; Consider them.<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Se pensarmos porque \u00e9 que a pessoa agiu como agiu, podemos ter alguma confirma\u00e7\u00e3o da situa\u00e7\u00e3o (mas lembre-se que isto n\u00e3o significa que o comportamento est\u00e1 a ser tolerado). <br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Somos todos humanos e todos temos os nossos pr\u00f3prios defeitos. Pergunte a si pr\u00f3prio se agiu com base em cren\u00e7as limitadoras ou que necessidade estava a tentar satisfazer. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Embora isto seja dif\u00edcil, ajudar-nos-\u00e1 a ver a situa\u00e7\u00e3o de um ponto de vista diferente. A situa\u00e7\u00e3o ser\u00e1 um reflexo da outra pessoa, n\u00e3o de n\u00f3s.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><b>Step 4 &#8211; Move on.<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The greatest reaction you can have is to live your life as though it didn\u2019t happen, live a happy life. Don\u2019t be defined by your past but use it to grow and be determined to live a better life because of it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">O perd\u00e3o deve vir de um lugar onde o fazemos por n\u00f3s e n\u00e3o por mais ningu\u00e9m. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Crie paz dentro de si. Ao perdoar, est\u00e1 a libertar-se de queixas e julgamentos que possa ter, permitindo-se sentir melhor. Liberte essas emo\u00e7\u00f5es negativas e ganhe uma perspetiva positiva. &nbsp;<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>It\u2019s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody. &#8211; Maya Angelou<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\" style=\"text-align:right\"><b>Frankie Samah<\/b><br><a href=\"http:\/\/www.frankiesamah@me.com\/\" rel=\"noopener\">www.frankiesamah@me.com<\/a><br>Instagram @frankiesamah  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/How-To-Make-New-Neural-Pathways-To-Recover-From-Betrayal-2-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-36220\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/How-To-Make-New-Neural-Pathways-To-Recover-From-Betrayal-2-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/How-To-Make-New-Neural-Pathways-To-Recover-From-Betrayal-2-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/How-To-Make-New-Neural-Pathways-To-Recover-From-Betrayal-2.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Neuroscience has helped to reveal that heartache is as painful and real to the brain as physical pain. 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