{"id":36547,"date":"2020-07-13T07:42:06","date_gmt":"2020-07-13T07:42:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=36547"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:35:37","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:35:37","slug":"para-o-pai-que-nao-me-queria-agora-tambem-nao-te-quero","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/para-o-pai-que-nao-me-queria-agora-tambem-nao-te-quero\/","title":{"rendered":"Para o pai que n\u00e3o me queria - agora tamb\u00e9m n\u00e3o te quero"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Querido\" pai<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

H\u00e1 anos que queria escrever esta carta, mas sempre que me sentava e come\u00e7ava a escrever, esquecia-me de tudo o que queria dizer-vos.<\/p>\r\n

De repente, haveria uma mistura de sentimentos dentro de mim<\/a>, and so many thoughts kept rushing to my head that I didn\u2019t know what to write anymore.<\/p>\r\n

No matter how much effort I made, I couldn\u2019t find words strong enough to touch you.<\/p>\r\n

There wasn\u2019t a magic word I could say to have you here in my arms.<\/p>\r\n

You weren\u2019t someone who would fall for his child\u2019s tears nor were you someone who could feel empathy.<\/p>\r\n

Gra\u00e7as a Deus, n\u00e3o sou como tu, porque s\u00f3 uma pessoa sem cora\u00e7\u00e3o pode ficar imune \u00e0s l\u00e1grimas de uma crian\u00e7a.<\/p>\r\n

You know, there is an old saying that all the ideals in the world are not worthy of one child\u2019s tear.<\/p>\r\n

De alguma forma, sempre que penso em ti, lembro-me desse ditado. Sinto que ele me quer dizer alguma coisa.<\/p>\r\n

\"mulher<\/p>\r\n

Talvez que nunca te deva perdoar por me teres deixado sozinha enquanto eu chorava e te implorava para n\u00e3o partires.<\/p>\r\n

Maybe to have a heart that will be open for everyone except you because you don\u2019t deserve it.<\/p>\r\n

Perdeste todo o direito a mim no dia em que sa\u00edste por aquela porta.<\/p>\r\n

Para ti, eu era apenas algu\u00e9m que te impedia de realizar os teus desejos. Eu era apenas uma crian\u00e7a que precisava dos teus cuidados e da tua aten\u00e7\u00e3o, mas nunca os tive.<\/p>\r\n

Havia tantas coisas mais importantes para si do que ver a sua filha crescer e tornar-se numa jovem mulher.<\/p>\r\n

Falhaste como pai, e falhaste muito. E isso \u00e9 algo que eu nunca te vou perdoar.<\/p>\r\n\r\n

Nunca te perdoarei por me teres deixado como se eu n\u00e3o fosse importante para ti.<\/p>\r\n

Nunca te perdoarei por me teres dado a vida mas por me teres rejeitado no dia em que me viste pela primeira vez.<\/p>\r\n

There isn\u2019t anything more hypocritical than wanting a child but giving up on it as soon as you get it.<\/p>\r\n

\"mulher<\/p>\r\n

O que \u00e9 que pensaste? Talvez tenhas pensado que sou algu\u00e9m que podes deixar quando quiseres e vir quando quiseres.<\/p>\r\n

Bem, desculpe rebentar a sua bolha, mas n\u00e3o \u00e9 assim que um verdadeiro pai age em rela\u00e7\u00e3o ao seu filho. Um pai de verdade est\u00e1 l\u00e1, n\u00e3o importa o que aconte\u00e7a.<\/p>\r\n

Ele est\u00e1 l\u00e1 para dizer \u00e0 sua mulher que vai tomar conta do beb\u00e9 e que ela deve ir para a cama porque est\u00e1 cansada de tomar conta do beb\u00e9 todas as noites.<\/p>\r\n

Depois, quando fica sozinho com aquele beb\u00e9, segura-o nos bra\u00e7os, olhando-o como se fosse o presente mais precioso e agradecendo a Deus por lho ter enviado.<\/p>\r\n

Ele dizia-lhe que a amava muito <\/a>e que nunca deixar\u00e1 que ningu\u00e9m a magoe.<\/p>\r\n

Tamb\u00e9m se apaixonaria pelos olhos dela a olharem para ele enquanto tentava captar todas as mudan\u00e7as no seu rosto.<\/p>\r\n

He would fall for this young lady so hard while she wouldn\u2019t have a clue about that.<\/p>\r\n

S\u00f3 as estrelas, ao olharem para os dois, saberiam que uma rapariga ser\u00e1 sempre amada e cuidada.<\/p>\r\n

S\u00f3 eles saberiam que, enquanto o seu pai for vivo, ela ter\u00e1 tudo.<\/p>\r\n

\"mulher<\/p>\r\n

Que bela hist\u00f3ria, n\u00e3o \u00e9 pai? Pod\u00edamos ser n\u00f3s, mas foste um cobarde por abandonares a \u00fanica pessoa por quem devias estar l\u00e1.<\/p>\r\n

You left me, and you didn\u2019t even think about how I would feel when I grow up and realize what you have done.<\/p>\r\n

You didn\u2019t care if I would ever think that the problem was in me. You left me to deal with my thoughts and the demons from my past on my own.<\/p>\r\n

You didn\u2019t want to help me because it was so much easier to leave and to enjoy life.<\/p>\r\n\r\n

Mas agora, quando j\u00e1 \u00e9s velho e me v\u00eas a ter uma vida fant\u00e1stica, de repente queres fazer parte dela.<\/p>\r\n

Don\u2019t you know that you can\u2019t pop up in my life as you wish? You had to earn it, but you didn\u2019t even make any effort.<\/p>\r\n

So, don\u2019t expect me to forgive you for not being there and to run into your arms because I won\u2019t do it.<\/p>\r\n

Even if you give me legit explanations about why you weren\u2019t there, I won\u2019t buy them.<\/p>\r\n

Sabe porqu\u00ea? Porque n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nenhuma raz\u00e3o suficientemente boa para deixar um filho. N\u00e3o h\u00e1 nenhuma raz\u00e3o suficientemente boa para deixar a sua carne e sangue.<\/p>\r\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\r\n

Parents don\u2019t do that because they are the ones who need to take care of their kids.<\/p>\r\n

They don\u2019t run. They don\u2019t hide from problems, and they cope with everything that life puts in front of them. But you weren\u2019t strong enough to handle all of that, right?<\/p>\r\n

Era muito mais f\u00e1cil deixar-me \u00e0 minha m\u00e3e, para que ela pudesse cuidar de mim e dar-me tudo o que eu precisava.<\/p>\r\n

It was much easier to leave me to the only person who would die for me because in that way, you didn\u2019t have to think whether I will be fine.<\/p>\r\n

I era<\/em> fine thanks to the world\u2019s best mom, but there was a void that only your love could fill. And that place is still empty.<\/p>\r\n

It still hurts, and it still reminds me of my bad luck. Maybe you think that you didn\u2019t do anything bad, but the consequences are bigger than you think.<\/p>\r\n

Por tua causa, Estou constantemente a pensar demais<\/a> se sou suficientemente boa e se todos os homens me v\u00e3o deixar tal como tu.<\/p>\r\n

Because of you, I can\u2019t find peace, and I can\u2019t stop thinking about what would have happened if you had stayed next to me.<\/p>\r\n

Pergunto-me constantemente que tipo de pessoa me teria tornado se tivesse tido uma m\u00e3e e um pai, uma fam\u00edlia normal e saud\u00e1vel.<\/p>\r\n

\"jovem<\/p>\r\n

There isn\u2019t a day when I don\u2019t think about you and the effect you still have on me.<\/p>\r\n

Isn\u2019t it ironic that the man who is not even a part of my life is transforming my life into a living hell?<\/p>\r\n

I know that I should forget all about you, but I can\u2019t.<\/p>\r\n

Ao contr\u00e1rio de ti, eu tenho sentimentos e emo\u00e7\u00f5es. Ao contr\u00e1rio de ti, sou um ser humano que sente coisas que n\u00e3o s\u00e3o t\u00e3o \u00f3bvias.<\/p>\r\n

E n\u00e3o importa quantas vezes eu pense em dar-te uma segunda oportunidade, de alguma forma acredito que, ao faz\u00ea-lo, estaria a trair-me.<\/p>\r\n

And that is the last thing I want now. If I betray myself choosing a man who didn\u2019t want me, I will never be able to forgive myself.<\/p>\r\n

So, \u2018dear\u2019 father, after all this time and after all this thinking, I still can\u2019t forgive you for what you have done to me.<\/p>\r\n

I can\u2019t wish you \u2018welcome\u2019 into my life as if nothing has happened. My heart is simply not that open and good.<\/p>\r\n

Acho que o sangue chama o sangue e que sou mais parecida contigo do que pensava.<\/p>\r\n\r\n

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