{"id":36960,"date":"2019-05-22T08:00:01","date_gmt":"2019-05-22T08:00:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=36960"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:45:56","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:45:56","slug":"a-transparencia-gera-confianca-nao-se-esquivar-a-conversas-dificeis","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-transparencia-gera-confianca-nao-se-esquivar-a-conversas-dificeis\/","title":{"rendered":"A transpar\u00eancia gera confian\u00e7a - N\u00e3o se co\u00edba de ter conversas dif\u00edceis"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Do you suspect your partner may be hiding a bad habit, but you\u2019re afraid of approaching him about it? If you\u2019re thinking of moving to the next level, you\u2019ll want to have as much transparency in your bond as possible. But sometimes it can be downright difficult to confront your mate about a behavior he may be hiding. And, not confronting him about it could mean that things will only get worse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>There are many proverbial \u201cbad habits\u201d that we look for when we start to fall for a significant other.<\/b>  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At some point, you may have even made a list of must-haves and a list of things to avoid when searching for a soulmate. Everyone\u2019s list is different, but many of the must nots are typically similar. For instance, many people see laziness, procrastination, and other counter-productive traits as off-putting.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Others feel \u201cweighed down\u201d by partnering with someone who has little motivation and low self-esteem or can never see the bright side of things.  Still others tolerate anything short of illicit drug use and physical abuse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The problem is that by the time many of these things start rearing their ugly heads, it\u2019s too late. We may have seen the red flags sooner, but little bits and pieces here and there rarely offer the full picture.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>The only way to fully understand a person\u2019s habits \u2013 good or bad \u2013 is by asking them outright about them.<\/b> Even then, if people are being confronted about the bad, they may try to downplay negative traits, or they may not even realize they are doing these things. It\u2019s a tricky subject.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A auto-humilha\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 quando optamos por n\u00e3o abordar os nossos parceiros sobre os defeitos que sentimos. Os investigadores sugerem que este \u00e9 o maior arrependimento que teremos nas nossas rela\u00e7\u00f5es ao longo do tempo. Isto porque a revela\u00e7\u00e3o inadvertida de segredos prejudiciais leva geralmente \u00e0 desconfian\u00e7a e impede que a parceria avance para um n\u00edvel significativo. <b>Often, when secrets are finally uncovered, it\u2019s in an unexpected or backhanded way, and this is not something a bond can easily withstand.<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Algumas pessoas s\u00e3o, por natureza, mais directas do que outras. Mas, quando se trata de <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/ultrapassar-o-desconhecido-para-tornar-a-sua-relacao-duradoura\/\">construir uma parceria mutuamente ben\u00e9fica e duradoura<\/a>Vale a pena sair da sua zona de conforto. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/transform-your-relationship-by-learning-these-6-communications-skills\/\">Comunica\u00e7\u00e3o aberta<\/a>A comunica\u00e7\u00e3o, mesmo que seja dif\u00edcil, \u00e9 essencial, e quanto mais abertas forem estas linhas de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o, mais prov\u00e1vel ser\u00e1 que o vosso amor perdure.<\/b> Not only are you establishing that it\u2019s okay to talk about the tough stuff, but you\u2019re showing each other that transparency is important.  Transparency builds trust and is an integral part of a sustainable bond.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/HER-WAY-1-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-37002\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/HER-WAY-1-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/HER-WAY-1-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/HER-WAY-1.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Of course, you may also discover in the process that there is something about the person you\u2019re with that simply isn\u2019t going to fly. If there is substance abuse, infidelity, or other selfish behavior happening behind closed doors, this is not a solid foundation to build upon. You can try to work through it, but be aware of the warning signs and possibly that these things will continue to happen. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>If you confront your mate and find out that there is something happening that is not acceptable, it\u2019s then up to you (and only you) to decide whether or not you\u2019ll stay.<\/b> Pode ser muito dif\u00edcil reconstruir a confian\u00e7a perdida. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just remember, no one is perfect. You wouldn\u2019t want to be held to this impossible standard, and you shouldn\u2019t expect your partner to be either.  You\u2019re both human, and there\u2019s likely a whole host of habits that you and your mate can easily change if it benefits the bond. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>It\u2019s not uncommon for people to modify their routines to accommodate life changes, and it\u2019s certainly not uncommon for partners to want to change for their mates.<\/b> It\u2019s simply important to understand what\u2019s changeable and what\u2019s not, and to be patient and lenient with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Approaching the situation from this point-of-view and understanding that everyone has character flaws which may or may not be part of your value system is vital. Everyone is different and everyone has \u201clived life\u201d by the time they\u2019ve reached adulthood, so they\u2019re bound to come with \u201csome baggage.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At the end of the day, you and the individual you\u2019re with both have free will. You can choose which issues to discuss, which to leave out, which are worth working on or if it\u2019s better to just walk away.  You can leave the relationship at any time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>It\u2019s all about finding that <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/amor-imperfeitamente-perfeito-juntos\/\">mistura perfeita de imperfei\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> que nos atrai e faz com que tudo valha a pena.<\/b> You have to be compatible enough to be on the same page about the important things in life \u2013 your foundational values \u2013 and the rest is up for grabs. Don\u2019t forget to enjoy the ride.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/HER-WAY-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-36995\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/HER-WAY-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/HER-WAY-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/HER-WAY.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do you suspect your partner may be hiding a bad habit, but you\u2019re afraid of approaching him about it? If you\u2019re thinking of moving to the next level, you\u2019ll want to have as much transparency in your bond as possible. 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