{"id":37964,"date":"2019-06-07T07:26:41","date_gmt":"2019-06-07T07:26:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=37964"},"modified":"2022-01-13T00:50:12","modified_gmt":"2022-01-13T00:50:12","slug":"10-coisas-pelas-quais-me-esqueci-de-agradecer-ao-meu-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/10-coisas-pelas-quais-me-esqueci-de-agradecer-ao-meu-ex\/","title":{"rendered":"10 coisas que me esqueci de agradecer ao meu ex"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando tudo acabou, l\u00e1 estava eu a pensar que a minha vida se estava a desmoronar. Estava a solu\u00e7ar no meu quarto a pensar que ia passar o resto da minha vida sozinha.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I\u2019ve already pictured myself as the crazy cat lady \u2013 you know, the one from the Simpsons.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

That\u2019s what I do every time something bad happens to me. I mourn, but I do it in a humoristic way. I guess my whole life is kind of a satire.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Well, anyway\u2026<\/em><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Todos n\u00f3s passamos pela mesma merda quando algu\u00e9m nos parte o cora\u00e7\u00e3o. Todos temos os mesmos problemas e as mesmas perguntas. Mas sabes que mais?<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Cheguei a uma conclus\u00e3o brilhante. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I knew I couldn\u2019t stop my heart from aching. I knew I couldn\u2019t convince my mind to stop thinking about him.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Tive de passar por isso de alguma forma. Tinha de ultrapassar esse per\u00edodo. Se isso significasse ter de usar tudo o que tinha, f\u00e1-lo-ia.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I was so anxious to get out of it, but knew I couldn\u2019t skip steps. You all know that. You have to let things run their course and wait for the agony to be over.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

But here\u2019s the thing I\u2019ve realized\u2026<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

There are so many things my ex did to me that served as a lesson. There are so many things that I actually have to thank him for\u2026.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

1. Por discutir comigo <\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
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Ensinou-me a defender-me. Deu-me forma\u00e7\u00e3o adequada quando se trata de lutas verbais.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I was always ready to begin another screaming match \u2013 I was always prepared.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I learned how to speak my mind when someone constantly attacks me. That didn\u2019t mess up with my head.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I mean, it did at the beginning, but I\u2019ve learned to handle it over time. Now, nothing can affect me. I will always say exactly what I want.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

2. Por me tornar melhor para a minha pr\u00f3xima rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
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I know where I did wrong. I get it now when it\u2019s all over and I\u2019m not planning on making the same mistakes again.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Consigo reconhecer as situa\u00e7\u00f5es em que cometi um erro e agora sei exatamente o que fazer se algo semelhante voltar a acontecer.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Depois da rela\u00e7\u00e3o que me destruiu, sei que tipo de pessoa quero ser e I\u2019m working on becoming that person<\/a>.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

3. Por me mostrar at\u00e9 onde posso ir<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
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Now I know I\u2019m stronger than ever. Now I know no one could wipe me out that easily because I have the strength to handle almost everything.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

When I begin dating again, I\u2019ll know where to draw the line and when to say enough. That was something I didn\u2019t know how to do when I was with him.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

4. Por me ajudar a saber o que quero numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
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Aconteceram coisas m\u00e1s, mas tamb\u00e9m houve coisas boas.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Sadly, those bad ones outnumbered the good, leaving them in the shadows \u2013 unnoticed and forgotten.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

When you break up with someone, you\u2019re bitter, hurt, and sad.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

A \u00fanica coisa que recorda s\u00e3o os maus momentos, momentos que arruinaram o que tinham juntos.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Mas quando passamos essa fase de odi\u00e1-lo, lembramo-nos que nem tudo foi assim t\u00e3o terr\u00edvel.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Depois, lembra-se das coisas de que gostou, das coisas que o fizeram sorrir e ficar feliz.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Okay, you see, I want that. I\u2019ve seen it and I recognize it. I want my next relationship to be like that.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Tudo o que for inferior ao que quero, abandono-o.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

5. Por me fazeres pensar no que significa amar algu\u00e9m <\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
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Estava sempre \u00e0 procura de amor nos outros.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Eu estava a olhar para ele e a tentar aprender o que \u00e9 o amor atrav\u00e9s do seu comportamento e das suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es. Bem, Eu sei o que o amor n\u00e3o \u00e9<\/a> observando-o.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Quero agradecer-lhe por me ter feito perceber que o amor \u00e9 o que eu quiser que seja.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Quero agradecer-lhe por me ter for\u00e7ado, de certa forma, a compreender que o amor s\u00f3 pode ser encontrado dentro de n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

It\u2019s how YOU act and what YOU do, not someone else.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

6. For making me learn how I don\u2019t want to be treated<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
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I think that every one of you wanted something \u2013 or better said, someone \u2013 so bad it hurt.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Talvez at\u00e9 cada um de n\u00f3s soubesse que a pessoa por quem ansi\u00e1vamos n\u00e3o era boa para n\u00f3s, mas desej\u00e1vamo-la na mesma.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Well, my guy was mysteriously intriguing. I couldn’t resist him. I needed to unveil his secret to find out what is hiding behind that mystic exterior.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I found out, okay. I did\u2026 I didn\u2019t like it. I found out that is not how I want to be treated. Lesson learned, let\u2019s move on\u2026<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

7. Por me ter ensinado a libertar-me da pessoa que nunca deveria ter sido<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
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Todas as noites, ele deixava-me a apanhar os peda\u00e7os do meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o. Cada vez, ele deixava-me sozinha, tentando colar o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o como se fosse vidro partido.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Each time he proved to me that I\u2019m not the person he wants me to be. Heck, I\u2019m not even the person I want to be.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Quero agradecer-lhe por me ter dado a coragem de o deixar e ir tentar descobrir quem sou realmente.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I think I know that now. If not, at least I think I\u2019m on a good path to finding out.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

8. Por me ajudar a crescer como pessoa<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
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Cada rela\u00e7\u00e3o muda-nos. Crescemos como pessoa: crescemos fisicamente e, mais importante, crescemos emocionalmente.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

You don\u2019t have to wait to end the relationship to realize you\u2019ve changed. You can realize it while you\u2019re still in it.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

9. Por me deixares e me dares a oportunidade de encontrar algu\u00e9m melhor<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
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Agrade\u00e7o-lhe muito por ter acabado com a minha agonia. \u00c9 evidente que n\u00e3o fomos feitos um para o outro.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Maybe he isn\u2019t even that bad, but in combination with me, he was intolerable.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Talvez haja algu\u00e9m por a\u00ed que saiba como lidar com ele.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I guess what I\u2019m trying to say is I\u2019m thankful for getting another chance to find the right person for me.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

10. Por me ensinares a amar algu\u00e9m no seu pior momento<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
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Mesmo nas nossas maiores crises, nunca deixei de o amar.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Mesmo quando ele gritava tantas palavras duras e insultuosas, eu nunca deixei de o amar.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Eu sabia que uma boa pessoa, uma pessoa por quem me apaixonei, estava algures dentro dele.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Esperava que essa pessoa aparecesse a cada minuto, por isso amava-o. Continuei a am\u00e1-lo apesar de tudo.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Although we never made it, I\u2019m happy I met him because of so many things he taught me.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

\u00c9 certo que o pre\u00e7o foi elevado, mas o conhecimento n\u00e3o tem pre\u00e7o.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

O que \u00e9 que tem para agradecer ao seu ex?<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

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