{"id":38433,"date":"2020-05-05T13:02:58","date_gmt":"2020-05-05T13:02:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=38433"},"modified":"2021-08-24T13:11:15","modified_gmt":"2021-08-24T13:11:15","slug":"se-ele-faz-estas-20-coisas-toxicas-e-um-narcisista-dissimulado","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/se-ele-faz-estas-20-coisas-toxicas-e-um-narcisista-dissimulado\/","title":{"rendered":"Se ele faz estas 20 coisas t\u00f3xicas, ele \u00e9 um narcisista dissimulado"},"content":{"rendered":"

Most of us never see this coming. Especially when a people are in love, they go instantly blind to everything that might endanger their happiness\u2014call it conscious denial.<\/p>\n

Infelizmente, s\u00f3 nos apercebemos do que nos aconteceu quando o mal j\u00e1 est\u00e1 feito.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, de repente, algo nos abre os olhos e todas as coisas que vivemos parecem horr\u00edveis.<\/p>\n

The truth is, they were always horrible, but we chose to make them pretty. That\u2019s what happens when emotional abuse sneaks up on you. You never see it coming; you only feel the consequences.<\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que a nossa mente pode estar preparada para lidar com algo que pens\u00e1mos ter acontecido de repente?<\/strong><\/p>\n

I know, it\u2019s impossible.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Then, you\u2019re faced with one of the greatest challenges of your life\u2014healing.<\/p>\n

Primeiro, olhamos para tr\u00e1s e perguntamos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios como \u00e9 que pudemos aguentar tanta porcaria que ele nos fez. N\u00e3o consegues acreditar no que ele fez e na forma como reagiste.<\/p>\n

You cannot believe how many things you\u2019ve found an excuse for. From where you\u2019re standing now, it\u2019s absolutely ridiculous and sad at the same time.<\/p>\n

But there is an important lesson you\u2019ve learned. You cannot change someone who doesn\u2019t want to change. You cannot force someone to love you by loving them back.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the lesson each of you needs to learn if you\u2019re dating (and probably suspecting) ele \u00e9 um narcisista disfar\u00e7ado<\/a>.<\/p>\n

It is only \u2018I\u2019, and no one else<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

He only cares about himself. There is no sentence that doesn\u2019t contain the letter \u2018I\u2019 in it. You\u2019ll notice when you’re out with your friends, all he talks about is himself.<\/p>\n

The whole conversation revolves around him. Even if someone starts talking about something else, he\u2019ll use that to take the focus back on himself.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s his way or the highway<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

He never takes other people\u2019s opinions into consideration. When he decides something, it has to be his way.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like you don\u2019t even exist in his world. You can talk and beg; he won\u2019t give you the time of his day.<\/p>\n

Ele manipula-a\"mulher<\/h2>\n

Ele conhece todos os seus movimentos; conhece todas as suas reac\u00e7\u00f5es. Por isso, pode manipul\u00e1-lo e control\u00e1-lo para que fa\u00e7a exatamente o que ele quer que fa\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

And at the end of the day, you\u2019ll have the feeling you\u2019ve done what he wanted willingly. That\u2019s how good of a manipulator he is.<\/p>\n

Essa n\u00e3o \u00e9 a pior parte. N\u00e3o, a pior parte \u00e9 que ele gosta de a ver dan\u00e7ar ao som da m\u00fasica que ele toca.<\/p>\n

Ele orgulha-se de ter um boneco simp\u00e1tico e bem comportado que faz exatamente o que ele quer.<\/p>\n

Ele tem dois pesos e duas medidas<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Quando se trata da sua vida, h\u00e1 mais regras do que qualquer pessoa possa imaginar.<\/p>\n

You have to take steps through life carefully, making sure you don\u2019t take the wrong one (according to him).<\/p>\n

But, when it comes to him, different rules apply. All the things you\u2019re not allowed to do, he is.<\/p>\n

When he makes a mistake you\u2019d be punished for, it\u2019s not such a big deal.<\/p>\n

Other people\u2019s opinions matter to him a lot<\/h2>\n

\"amigos<\/p>\n

He cares deeply about his reputation. He would always talk himself up because he had to be the most delightful and kindest person you\u2019d ever met.<\/p>\n

He wouldn\u2019t stop until he provoked that feeling in someone new he met.<\/p>\n

If talking himself up meant putting another down, he\u2019d still do it because he doesn\u2019t care who he has to run over to appear the best.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re the only one to blame<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

O jogo da culpa era o seu jogo preferido. Nunca teve culpa de nada. Se est\u00e1 em mau estado, \u00e9 porque fez isso a si pr\u00f3prio. Nunca foi ele.<\/p>\n

He is the angel, and you\u2019re the devil. He probably called you \u2018evil\u2019 and \u2018manipulative\u2019 a few times although you both know he is the evil one and not you.<\/p>\n

Ele \u00e9 o melhor que existe<\/h2>\n

\"dois<\/p>\n

He is always bragging about how he\u2019s the best, how he does everything better than anyone else.<\/p>\n

Se lhe perguntarem, ele \u00e9 o mestre do universo. Ele admiti-lo-\u00e1 sem qualquer vergonha.<\/p>\n

Sabem como \u00e9 que as pessoas que realmente conseguiram alguma coisa nunca se gabam disso. Guardam-no para si pr\u00f3prias e s\u00f3 o fazem se insistirmos para que nos digam.<\/p>\n

Bem, nunca \u00e9 preciso perguntar-lhe nada, ele gabar-se-\u00e1 de tudo sem qualquer iniciativa.<\/p>\n

Ele alimenta-se de negatividade<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Sempre que sente uma energia positiva, aproxima-se o mais poss\u00edvel de si para a drenar. Nesses momentos, ele at\u00e9 finge que te ama de verdade. Finge que quer fazer-te feliz.<\/p>\n

Por isso, naturalmente, depois de cada conversa com ele, sente-se emocionalmente esgotada.<\/p>\n

Your positive energy is sucked dry, and you\u2019re left with only the negative one.<\/p>\n

Ele tem uma dupla personalidade<\/h2>\n

\"amigos<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re out with other people, he\u2019s so charming and positive. Everyone who gets a chance to talk to him likes him instantly. He\u2019s a peach.<\/p>\n

Mas, quando s\u00f3 ficam os dois sozinhos, a personalidade dele muda. Torna-se sombrio e cruel, sem compaix\u00e3o e sem respeito por ti.<\/p>\n

He can\u2019t handle criticism<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

\u00c9 um profissional quando se trata de criticar os outros, especialmente a si. Age como se soubesse tudo e finge que quer mesmo ajudar-te.<\/p>\n

When the situation is another way around, except for the fact you really want to help him while he only fakes it, he won\u2019t listen.<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t take your advice because he truly believes he is perfect the way he is.<\/p>\n

Ele est\u00e1 cheio de desculpas<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Ele espera que largues tudo quando precisa de ti, mas quando precisas dele, ele tem sempre algo melhor para fazer.<\/p>\n

Ele tem sempre uma desculpa para n\u00e3o fazer algo que tu queres.<\/p>\n

Ele \u00e9 uma rainha do drama<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Com ele, nada \u00e9 simples na sua vida. Provavelmente, \u00e0s vezes, at\u00e9 se pergunta se est\u00e1 numa telenovela espanhola, porque todas as situa\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o muito semelhantes.<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 tanto drama a acontecer.<\/p>\n

Ele precisa de valida\u00e7\u00e3o constante<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Os narcisistas t\u00eam esta necessidade de provar o seu valor, especialmente \u00e0s pessoas que duvidam deles.<\/p>\n

This is something that bothers them constantly, and almost everything they do is to prove to everyone around that they are perfect\u2014that they have made it in life.<\/p>\n

What he does is not because he wants to be a better man. It\u2019s not because he wants to prove to himself he can, but it\u2019s because he wants to brag to everyone around how great he is.<\/p>\n

A perfei\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 a \u00fanica forma de o fazer<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t stop until he gets what he wants and in the way he wants it. So, nothing is good enough until it\u2019s perfect.<\/p>\n

This is a pretty bad personality trait, and it\u2019s characteristic for narcissists because seeking perfection means getting what you want at all costs\u2014even if that means running over people, they don\u2019t care.<\/p>\n

Far\u00e3o tudo o que for preciso.<\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t understand empathy<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve probably tried talking to him about something that bothered you. You probably got nothing in return.<\/p>\n

Your misery and your suffering don\u2019t mean anything to him because they don\u2019t concern or affect him directly.<\/p>\n

He only understands empathy when it has to do something with him. When another person is in pain, he doesn\u2019t give a shit.<\/p>\n

He will even stir the conversation you\u2019re having with him back to him being the topic to speak about.<\/p>\n

Ele tem um mecanismo de defesa<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Acredite-se ou n\u00e3o, h\u00e1 uma raz\u00e3o pela qual todos os narcisistas s\u00e3o maus e frios. Deve ter havido um gatilho que os tornou assim, provavelmente quando ainda eram jovens.<\/p>\n

Um narcisista foge se, por acaso, conseguirmos desvend\u00e1-lo e perceber porque \u00e9 que ele age daquela forma.<\/p>\n

They have huge emotional walls built around themselves, and they won\u2019t tear them down for anybody\u2019s sake.<\/p>\n

Aprenderam que a vulnerabilidade \u00e9 um sinal de fraqueza que n\u00e3o podem deixar que ningu\u00e9m veja.<\/p>\n

Ele parte-te e repara-te logo a seguir<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like a hobby of his. In the normal world, the person who caused you pain, the person who broke you isn\u2019t allowed to come back into your life.<\/p>\n

That person doesn\u2019t have the right to help you heal because they are the reason you have to heal.<\/p>\n

A coisa l\u00f3gica a fazer \u00e9 afastar-se dessa pessoa e lidar com as coisas que lhe est\u00e3o a acontecer.<\/p>\n

Well, that\u2019s not the case when you\u2019re with a narcissist. A narcissist will break you and then come back and comfort you.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll be confused, but at the time when you\u2019re broken, consolation is all you need, so naturally, you take what you can get. That\u2019s the game he\u2019s playing.<\/p>\n

Ele nunca deixa o passado para tr\u00e1s<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Nunca. Ele lembra-se do que discutiram h\u00e1 um ano.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like he\u2019s keeping a diary of all the things you said or did wrong, and he makes sure you never forget them either.<\/p>\n

Sempre que se come\u00e7a uma nova discuss\u00e3o, ele traz \u00e0 baila o passado.<\/p>\n

There is a reason why he does that. If you noticed, if you\u2019re winning the fight and he has nothing to say back at you, he pulls out something you did in the past and opens a Pandora\u2019s box of arguments which never end.<\/p>\n

Abusa emocionalmente de si<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Quando amamos algu\u00e9m, as hip\u00f3teses de nos apercebermos de que essa pessoa est\u00e1 a abusar de n\u00f3s emocionalmente s\u00e3o muito reduzidas. Depois de sermos maltratados durante algum tempo, habituamo-nos a isso.<\/p>\n

Esse comportamento torna-se normal para si. Passado algum tempo, come\u00e7a a arranjar desculpas para o seu parceiro.<\/p>\n

You start justifying his behavior because you still love that person, and you\u2019re hoping badly it\u2019s all just a phase. and it will go away.<\/p>\n

He is aware of the fact you love him, and he takes advantage of that by doing whatever the hell he wants to you because he knows you\u2019ll come back as you always do.<\/p>\n

O amor j\u00e1 n\u00e3o \u00e9 o que pensavas que era<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

He has convinced you with the way he treats you that love is a one-way street\u2014you give and get nothing in return.<\/p>\n

He has made you believe that is what it is supposed to look like. Well, it\u2019s not!<\/p>\n

Os narcisistas s\u00e3o incapazes de amar algu\u00e9m para al\u00e9m deles pr\u00f3prios. Porque para amar algu\u00e9m, primeiro temos de nos amar a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios.<\/p>\n

\"Se<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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