{"id":39431,"date":"2019-06-28T09:36:21","date_gmt":"2019-06-28T09:36:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=39431"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:09:01","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:09:01","slug":"5-sinais-de-que-tens-medo-de-curar-e-nem-sequer-te-apercebes-disso","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/5-sinais-de-que-tens-medo-de-curar-e-nem-sequer-te-apercebes-disso\/","title":{"rendered":"5 sinais de que voc\u00ea tem medo de se curar (e nem percebe)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Apesar de tudo o que dizem, h\u00e1 pessoas que se recusam a esquecer as recorda\u00e7\u00f5es e a dor. Agarram-se com for\u00e7a ao passado, sem sequer terem consci\u00eancia disso.<\/p>\n

There are people who don\u2019t allow time to do its magic. The ones who refuse to start the repairing process simply because it means they\u2019d have to accept the end. The ones who don\u2019t want to heal because they are scared of the real life which awaits them after they recover.<\/p>\n

Here are 5 signs that you\u2019re one of these people and that your fear is responsible for the fact that you\u2019re not cura<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

1. S\u00f3 te lembras das coisas boas<\/h2>\n

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The first sign you actually don\u2019t want to let go lies in the fact that you don\u2019t look at your past relationship realistically. Instead of remembering things the way they really were, you only think of the good times and beautiful memories.<\/p>\n

Tendo isto em conta, \u00e9 perfeitamente natural que pense no passado como sendo muito melhor do que realmente foi. Idealiza o seu ex e tudo o que sentiu ao lado dele, o que torna imposs\u00edvel a sua cura.<\/p>\n

Fica a pensar no potencial da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o passada, pensando em tudo o que poderia e deveria ter acontecido, se voc\u00eas tivessem feito as coisas funcionar. Em vez disso, o que deve fazer \u00e9 olhar a verdade nos olhos e perceber que acabou por uma raz\u00e3o v\u00e1lida e que estava longe de ser perfeito.<\/p>\n

2. Romantiza a dor<\/h2>\n

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While looking at your relationship through rose-tinted glasses, somehow you\u2019ve also managed to romanticize the emotional pain that\u2019s been consuming you. Instead of seeing it as something you need to get rid of ASAP, you\u2019ve found something noble and divine in it.<\/p>\n

Deep down, you are proud of yourself for being this consistent. You\u2019re proud of being capable of loving one man for as long as you breathe, even if this is the man who\u2019s caused you so much harm.<\/p>\n

Well, let me tell you something\u2014despite everything the love songs, poems and novels are trying to tell you, there is nothing poetic about wasting years crying over someone. There is nothing romantic about being emotionally damaged and there doesn\u2019t exist such a thing as being beautifully broken.<\/p>\n

3. E tornou-se familiar<\/h2>\n

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Another sign that you\u2019re scared of healing, without even realizing it, is the fact that with years, the pain has become familiar. This is something you don\u2019t see at first but if you dig through your subconscious, you\u2019ll see that it really did become your comfort zone.<\/p>\n

After so much time you\u2019ve spent suffering, holding on to the past and thinking about the man who hurt you became a habit of yours. After so much time, you convinced yourself that sadness is the only emotion you know how to feel.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not saying that you should have pretended that the pain isn\u2019t real because that wouldn\u2019t bring you any good either. However, it is obvious that you\u2019ve allowed it to definir quem \u00e9<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

Whether you like to admit it or not, the fact is that you\u2019ve ceased to exist outside of the pain. You\u2019ve stopped being a daughter, a sister, a mother or a friend and you\u2019ve reduced your entire being to a broken-hearted woman. Please, remember that you\u2019re much more than that!<\/p>\n

4. Pensa que toda a gente \u00e9 como o seu ex<\/h2>\n

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Quando uma pessoa nos faz tanto mal, \u00e9 natural que percamos a f\u00e9 em toda a humanidade. Pensa que toda a gente tem a inten\u00e7\u00e3o de lhe partir o cora\u00e7\u00e3o e que todos os homens s\u00e3o iguais ao seu ex.<\/p>\n

Assim, sem ter consci\u00eancia disso, agarra-se \u00e0 mem\u00f3ria dele porque \u00e9 melhor do que se expor e expor as suas vulnerabilidades a algu\u00e9m novo que pode acabar por trat\u00e1-la da mesma forma que o seu ex.<\/p>\n

5. Or that you\u2019ll never find someone like him<\/h2>\n

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Of course, there is also the possibility that you\u2019re convinced you\u2019ll never encontrar algu\u00e9m melhor<\/span><\/a> and that no man on this earth could ever make you feel the way he did. Maybe your ex-boyfriend manipulated you into thinking that he was the best you\u2019d ever find so now you think it is pointless to even try searching for someone new.<\/p>\n

Not wanting to settle for a loveless relationship just so you don\u2019t end up being single is one thing. However, not giving anyone a chance just because you are convinced you could never love again after your ex is not only foolish but is also a sure-fire sign that you are actually afraid of healing.<\/p>\n

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