{"id":39513,"date":"2019-07-01T07:34:20","date_gmt":"2019-07-01T07:34:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=39513"},"modified":"2021-08-24T13:27:14","modified_gmt":"2021-08-24T13:27:14","slug":"4-sinais-obvios-de-que-estas-a-usar-o-amor-apenas-como-uma-solucao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/4-sinais-obvios-de-que-estas-a-usar-o-amor-apenas-como-uma-solucao\/","title":{"rendered":"4 Sinais \u00f3bvios de que est\u00e1s a usar o amor apenas como uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"

A depend\u00eancia do amor \u00e9 um problema s\u00e9rio e, se houver a m\u00ednima hip\u00f3tese de estar a lutar contra ela, deve continuar a ler.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many people won\u2019t give this much thought, but those who use love to replace all other shortcomings in their life deserve to find their happy ending.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just like with addicts (to drugs, alcohol, etc\u2026) it is possible that you, too, are using the idea of love as a replacement for something that you might be missing in life, but don\u2019t want to lidar com.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You get on this \u2018\u2019love train\u2019\u2019 and you keep pursuing it because getting off is not an option. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re scared where it would leave you, and you\u2019re not sure how you\u2019d function alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And this is why you use men to keep you busy and deflect your attention from serious shit that\u2019s going on in your life that you don\u2019t want to face just yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are unable to connect emotionally with a man, which is why you jump from one meaningless fling to another and tell yourself that it\u2019s love and that it\u2019s totally fine. But it really isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A depend\u00eancia do amor pode assumir uma vida pr\u00f3pria e pode estragar totalmente a sua vida ao n\u00e3o lhe permitir encontrar tempo para lidar com o que precisa de ser tratado. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tem um problema s\u00e9rio com intimidade emocional<\/a>e o teu v\u00edcio no amor est\u00e1 a dificultar as coisas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mas h\u00e1 muito mais do que isso. Aqui est\u00e3o 4 sinais de que est\u00e1 a usar o amor apenas como uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o para n\u00e3o ter de lidar com a vida real e com problemas reais:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. You have to be in constant contact with the person whose love you\u2019re using as a fix<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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You always have your phone on you, and you\u2019re constantly checking to see if his name will pop up on your screen. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If it doesn\u2019t, you absolutely must enviar-lhe uma mensagem,<\/a> even if just to say: \u2018What\u2019s up?\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Para si, \u00e9 inconceb\u00edvel n\u00e3o ter not\u00edcias dele durante um dia inteiro. Isso faz com que se sinta paranoica e ansiosa, e precisa simplesmente de uma dose. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t maintain conversations with other people. You are so focused on getting a text from him that it\u2019s hard to focus on anything else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your other relationships (with friends, family) suffer due to your obsessive need for your fix, and you don\u2019t even care to remedy it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

All you want is him, and you don\u2019t care what anyone thinks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Este \u00e9 um sinal claro de que h\u00e1 algo que o perturba seriamente por dentro, seja a sua necessidade n\u00e3o satisfeita de uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o mais profunda ou o seu medo de rejei\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whichever it is, it is making you go crazy for the idea of love you think you have with this guy because you think it will magically make it all better. (It won\u2019t.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Vive sob a falsa cren\u00e7a de que essa outra pessoa \u00e9 a solu\u00e7\u00e3o para todos os seus problemas mais profundos<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Just like with any other addiction, this one makes you think that your \u2018\u2019love fix\u2019\u2019 is the actual solution to your problems you don\u2019t want to face head on. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You get lost in this supposed love, assuring yourself that it is going to make it all better. But it won\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sabe como se diz que a relva \u00e9 sempre mais verde do outro lado? Bem, este \u00e9 o vosso principal problema. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Persegue-se uma fantasia esquiva, convencendo-se sempre de que est\u00e1 ao alcance da m\u00e3o, mas nunca se consegue apanh\u00e1-la de forma satisfat\u00f3ria.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u00f3 melhora as coisas naquele momento em particular. Nunca dura. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nunca nos sentimos melhor depois de passar e deixa-nos num estado ainda pior do que antes.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Muitas pessoas debatem-se com estar sozinho<\/a>E \u00e9 isso que os faz andar atr\u00e1s de coisas para se sentirem menos s\u00f3s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Simplesmente n\u00e3o consegue estar com os seus pr\u00f3prios pensamentos porque sabe que eles o v\u00e3o corroer, por isso opta por passar para a depend\u00eancia do amor para n\u00e3o ter de lidar com as coisas como deve ser.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. You value yourself based on other people\u2019s opinions of you<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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As pessoas que lutam contra as depend\u00eancias encontram-se geralmente numa encruzilhada das suas vidas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Normalmente, est\u00e3o a transitar de um cap\u00edtulo da sua vida para o seguinte, e a sua opini\u00e3o sobre si pr\u00f3prios \u00e9 mais fr\u00e1gil durante esse per\u00edodo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They aren\u2019t really sure who they are and what their purpose is yet, so they choose to let other people\u2019s opinions and impressions of them affect the way they see themselves. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This\u00a0 is a wrong thing to do, but it is also the main thing that sends you into overdrive and turns you to your type of addiction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pensas que mereces apenas o que uma pessoa irrelevante te considera digno, e essa \u00e9 a causa da tua espiral descendente que te levou a esta depend\u00eancia do amor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Ultrapassar\u00e1 certos limites para manter essa pessoa, mesmo ao ponto de a manipular<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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When a person is so adamant to keep a partner by their side, regardless of how far they\u2019re willing to go, it is no longer love, but a destructive pattern of behaviour that has resorted in your toxic love addiction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Resorting to manipulation and similar tactics means you\u2019ve started treading on dangerous territory that will likely end up breaking apart from under you.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When your behaviour changes for the worse and you end up acting completely unlike yourself, it\u2019s time to ask yourself what it is that led you to this point.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Substituiu o amor, a honestidade e o respeito por manipula\u00e7\u00e3o, mentiras e um comportamento controlador. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Em vez de tentar encontrar uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o emocional, est\u00e1 a saltar de um substituto para o outro, n\u00e3o se permitindo experimentar estar sozinho.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

E \u00e9 precisamente esse o vosso principal problema. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tens de aprender a estar bem sozinho, para trabalhares na resolu\u00e7\u00e3o do teu v\u00edcio amoroso que j\u00e1 n\u00e3o te far\u00e1 implorar desesperadamente pela tua dose. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u00f3 ent\u00e3o poder\u00e1 curar-se e trabalhar na sua recupera\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Love addiction is a serious issue, and if there\u2019s even a slight chance you might be struggling with it, you should definitely keep on reading.\u00a0 Many people won\u2019t give this much thought, but those who use love to replace all other shortcomings in their life deserve to find their happy ending. Just like with addicts…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":39519,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29614],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-39513","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-talks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29614,"label":"love talks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/shutterstock_475703821.jpg",800,532,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29614,"name":"love talks","slug":"love-talks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29614,"taxonomy":"category","description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","parent":38,"count":426,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29614,"category_count":426,"category_description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","cat_name":"love talks","category_nicename":"love-talks","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39513","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=39513"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39513\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/39519"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=39513"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=39513"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=39513"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}