{"id":4090,"date":"2017-09-05T11:58:11","date_gmt":"2017-09-05T11:58:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=4090"},"modified":"2022-01-17T23:51:34","modified_gmt":"2022-01-17T23:51:34","slug":"efetivamente-ganhou-perdendo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/efetivamente-ganhou-perdendo\/","title":{"rendered":"Isto \u00e9 o que realmente ganhaste ao perd\u00ea-lo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Enquanto estavas com ele, pensavas que o mundo inteiro estava ao alcance dos teus dedos. Pensaste que o que tinhas com ele era real porque ele fez tudo o que era poss\u00edvel para que te apaixonasses por ele. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Unfortunately, after his \u201cMr. Darcy\u201d period, instead of rising to new heights together, your whole world fell apart. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

The truth is, you never really had him in the first place. You had an illusion of him and that\u2019s it. You fell for a side of him that wasn\u2019t truly his.<\/p>\r\n

You fell for the guy he chose to show you, but he wasn\u2019t that guy. He was totally the opposite of a good guy. He was toxic and you had no idea.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

O problema com fazer parte de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica<\/a> is that you don’t even realize  that you\u2019re in one.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Lembram-se da hist\u00f3ria da r\u00e3 e da \u00e1gua a ferver? <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Bem, a r\u00e3 n\u00e3o fazia ideia de que a \u00e1gua estava a ficar cada vez mais quente at\u00e9 ser demasiado tarde. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

The same thing might\u2019ve happened to you\u2014you might have stayed in a toxic relationship till there was nothing left of you anymore. <\/span><\/h2>\r\n

Felizmente, saltou para fora da \u00e1gua a ferver mesmo a tempo de se salvar.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

No in\u00edcio, depois de o perder, sentimos que perdemos tudo o que nos era familiar. <\/span>Parecia que o ch\u00e3o debaixo dos nossos p\u00e9s tinha desaparecido e que era apenas uma quest\u00e3o de tempo at\u00e9 cairmos no buraco. Mas a realidade era muito diferente.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Yes, by losing him, you lost a few things as well. Luckily, none of those things was a good thing. It’s nothing you should cry for.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

A sua ansiedade abandonou-a juntamente com ele.<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

Demoraram demasiado tempo a fazer as malas e a partir, mas foi um grande al\u00edvio quando aqueles convidados deixaram a sua casa. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Costumavas tremer \u00e0 mais pequena coisa que fazias porque estavas sempre a antecipar a sua rea\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Tudo o que fazias era seguido pelo medo de que ele n\u00e3o aprovasse, de que n\u00e3o compreendesse e de que te metesse em sarilhos. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

For a long time, you were the girl that didn\u2019t care for anyone’s opinion, but he made you feel insecure and scared, and for each and every thing you did or thought of doing, you felt like you needed his approval. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

You needed him to go along with your ideas otherwise you\u2019d live in hell with him withdrawing his attention and love from you. When you let him go, you let your anxiety go as well.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Depois de o perderes, perdeste a sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de ter algu\u00e9m e n\u00e3o ser amada. <\/span><\/h2>\r\n

After he\u2019d emotionally punish you for anything and everything, you\u2019d just sit there, next to the man you love, and you\u2019d feel like the loneliest person in the world. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

If you\u2019d just have stretched your arm, you could\u2019ve touched him, but what was the use of it? After the episodes he\u2019d put you through, he seemed more like your headsman than the man that loves and cares for you. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Depois de o ter perdido, libertou-se da tortura de o ter sentado ao seu lado e estar a um quil\u00f3metro de dist\u00e2ncia. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

If it was really a loss, I\u2019d say it was a good loss.<\/em><\/h2>\r\n

You might think now that you\u2019re missing a lot since he\u2019s gone, but all the things that you\u2019re left without now are the things that were actually not good for you. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Even if those things might have felt good, they were used for one sole purpose\u2014for a toxic man to make you stay with him. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

If you\u2019d free yourself from the idea that you need him, you\u2019d see that you\u2019re doing really fine. If you\u2019d just open your eyes, you\u2019d see that you gained a lot more than you lost.<\/em><\/p>\r\n

Ganhaste a tua liberdade ao perd\u00ea-lo.<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

There isn\u2019t a thing in this world holding you back now. There isn\u2019t a thing or a person that might stop you. Y<\/span><\/p>\r\n

ou are not going to hear a big fat \u2018NO\u2019 from anybody because nobody has that power over you, anymore. You finally took your freedom back in your hands\u2014the only place where it really belongs.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ganhou o seu<\/span> lo<\/span>ve<\/span> de o perder.<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

You might think he\u2019s your love, but he isn\u2019t and he wasn\u2019t. You need to let go of that idea and only then you\u2019ll see where true love lies.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Encontra-se o amor nas manh\u00e3s em que se acorda e j\u00e1 n\u00e3o se tem medo. Encontra o amor ao ler aquele livro ou ao sorrir para um estranho ao acaso. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

You find love in your family and your friends that you get to see now since he\u2019s no longer there to give you a hard time for making space in your heart for anybody else but him.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Encontrou a felicidade depois de o ter perdido.<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

You might not see it yet, but you are happier now. The wrinkles that you have around your eyes are not from frowning or crying, but from those happy moments you\u2019re living now. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

You are a different person\u2014you resemble the girl that you were before he made you change.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Recuperou a sua confian\u00e7a depois de o ter perdido.<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

You might think that you were confident because you had him sitting with you at the table or because you never had to walk into a room full of people alone, but that\u2019s not what confidence is about. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

You might have been confident when he was around, but the moment he left you alone, you’d start panicking and screaming inside. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

You’d feel like there is a part of you missing and that you can’t do anything on your own. Luckily, that changed as well. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Agora, podes entrar numa sala cheia de pessoas e sentir-te confiante. Agora, pode ver-se ao espelho e sentir-se bonita. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

N\u00e3o h\u00e1 mais ningu\u00e9m para lhe dizer o contr\u00e1rio. Agora, pode ter aquela entrevista de emprego e ver se consegue o emprego porque n\u00e3o h\u00e1 ningu\u00e9m que o impe\u00e7a de o fazer, fazendo-o sentir-se incompetente. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Now, you get to become whoever you want because there is nobody to tell you you can’t.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Recuperou a sua vida depois de o ter perdido<\/a>.<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

Embora ele tenha deixado uma cicatriz no teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o e possas ter chorado quando fechaste a \u00faltima p\u00e1gina do teu livro com ele. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Agora h\u00e1 espa\u00e7o para coisas novas. Ainda podes escrever outro livro e, desta vez, certifica-te de que tem um final feliz. <\/span><\/p>\r\n\r\n

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