{"id":41098,"date":"2020-07-26T13:17:46","date_gmt":"2020-07-26T13:17:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=41098"},"modified":"2021-11-10T11:26:21","modified_gmt":"2021-11-10T11:26:21","slug":"como-seguir-em-frente-10-formas-eficazes-de-deixar-ir-e-curar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-seguir-em-frente-10-formas-eficazes-de-deixar-ir-e-curar\/","title":{"rendered":"Como seguir em frente: 10 maneiras eficazes de deixar ir e curar"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Um dos melhores e mais inspiradores <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/77-incredible-letting-go-quotes-that-will-inspire-you-to-move-on\/\">cita\u00e7\u00f5es sobre como seguir em frente e deixar para tr\u00e1s<\/a> diz:<\/p>\n<p><em>\"<\/em><em>Deixar ir<\/em><em> doesn\u2019t mean you forget the person completely. It just means that you find a way of surviving without them.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>\u00c9 mais f\u00e1cil falar do que fazer, certo? Ent\u00e3o, como \u00e9 que se faz exatamente?<\/p>\n<p>Como \u00e9 que se continua a viver sem algu\u00e9m que significa o mundo para n\u00f3s?<\/p>\n<p>Como \u00e9 que se sobrevive \u00e0 perda da pessoa que se ama mais do que tudo?<\/p>\n<p>Como ultrapassar um rapaz ou uma rapariga por quem ainda se tem sentimentos? <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-ultrapassar-uma-relacao\/\">Como ultrapassar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> quando se ama algu\u00e9m?<\/p>\n<p>Como deixar ir quando o cora\u00e7\u00e3o continua a agarrar-se?<\/p>\n<p>How to move on in life, knowing it\u2019s the right thing to do, when all you want to do is stay next to the person who is doing the harm?<\/p>\n<p>Como seguir em frente depois de um <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ultrapassar-o-desgosto\/\">desgosto<\/a>? Como ultrapassar um div\u00f3rcio?<\/p>\n<p>How to move on when you still love him, after everything he\u2019s done to you?<\/p>\n<p>How to move on when you still love her, even though she\u2019s crushed you to pieces?<\/p>\n<p>How to move on when your husband leaves you after years of marriage? How to move on when your wife turns your back to you, as if everything you\u2019ve been through together doesn\u2019t mean a thing?<\/p>\n<p>Como seguir em frente depois de uma trai\u00e7\u00e3o? Como seguir em frente depois de uma infidelidade?<\/p>\n<p>How to convince yourself that it wasn\u2019t your fault and that you\u2019re worthy, despite everything this toxic person put you through?<\/p>\n<p>Como seguir em frente com a sua vida depois de ter passado por alguns destes traumas emocionais devastadores que o mudaram para sempre?<\/p>\n<p>How to move on, knowing you\u2019ve made some wrong choices in life? How to move on from past mistakes?<\/p>\n<p>If these are some of the questions playing over and over in your mind, you\u2019ve come to the right place because you\u2019ll get answers to each one of them.<\/p>\n<p>It doesn\u2019t matter if you\u2019re figuring out how to move on from a friendship or how to move when you love someone romantically: it is never easy.<\/p>\n<p>However, it doesn\u2019t make it impossible. I assure you that it can be done and here are 10 ways to do so.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">Ir <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/8-beneficios-quebra-da-regra-de-nao-contacto\/\">nenhum contacto<\/a><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-107006\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/worried-woman-looking-at-phone.jpg\" alt=\"mulher preocupada a olhar para o telem\u00f3vel\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/worried-woman-looking-at-phone.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/worried-woman-looking-at-phone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/worried-woman-looking-at-phone-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/worried-woman-looking-at-phone-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/worried-woman-looking-at-phone-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><\/figure>\n<p>It doesn\u2019t matter if you\u2019re wondering <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/fases-da-rutura\/\">como seguir em frente depois de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>Se a resposta \u00e9: como seguir em frente depois de um div\u00f3rcio (como homem ou como mulher), como seguir em frente depois de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o, como seguir em frente depois de uma rejei\u00e7\u00e3o ou como seguir em frente depois de uma paixoneta com a qual n\u00e3o teve nada, a resposta \u00e9 sempre a mesma: o primeiro passo \u00e9 <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/regra-de-nao-contacto\/\">n\u00e3o entrar em contacto<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t mean to only stop seeing this person \u2013 that\u2019s not enough. Instead, what you need to do is cut all ties with the girl or the guy in question.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve already heard people saying: \u201cfar from the eyes, far from the heart,\u201d right? Well, that can\u2019t be truer.<\/p>\n<p>Trust me, as soon as you remove this person from your life physically, you won\u2019t have a hard time moving away from them in your head and heart too.<\/p>\n<p>So, don\u2019t hesitate to block all of their social media accounts or delete their number.<\/p>\n<p>Even more, try your best not to visit the places where you know you might encounter them \u2013 the last thing you need is to be stressed out about whether the person you\u2019re trying to forget will suddenly appear out from nowhere.<\/p>\n<p>Also, it would be great if you could reduce all contact with everyone connected to the person you\u2019re trying to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-esquecer-um-ex\/\">superar<\/a> (delete them from social media and don\u2019t answer their calls!)<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t want to have anyone in your life who can give you all the information you need about them or who might remind you of your past relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, cutting ties with all of your mutual friends or even family members is especially difficult when you\u2019re trying to figure out how to move on after a divorce (as a man or as a woman) or after a long term relationship, because there are a lot of people connecting the two of you.<\/p>\n<p>This is especially the case if you\u2019re wondering how to move on from the mother of your child or your children\u2019s father, because it means that there\u2019s a human being you guys need to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/family\/5-dicas-de-sucesso-para-ser-pai-ou-mae-com-um-narcisista\/\">co-parentalidade<\/a>Por isso, \u00e9 imposs\u00edvel quebrar todas as liga\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n<p>However, in the situation where going no contact is possible (i.e. when you\u2019re trying to figure out how to move on from after rejection, how to move on after an affair which meant nothing to you, or how to move on from unrequited love), it is the thing you have to do.<\/p>\n<p>If circumstances really don\u2019t allow you to do so, try reducing your communication to bare necessities.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Aceitar a realidade<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-107007\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/worried-woman-sitting-on-the-couch.jpg\" alt=\"mulher preocupada sentada no sof\u00e1\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/worried-woman-sitting-on-the-couch.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/worried-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/worried-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/worried-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/worried-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><\/figure>\n<p>Como ultrapassar um ex? Ser\u00e1 que alguma vez vou conseguir ultrapassar a pessoa que amo?<\/p>\n<p>Como ultrapassar uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o? Como deixar de estar com ele ou ela?<\/p>\n<p>Se a sua mente est\u00e1 a repetir estas perguntas como um disco encravado, deixe-me dizer-lhe que o primeiro passo para a sua recupera\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 aceitar a verdade, por mais dura e dolorosa que seja, porque n\u00e3o vale a pena fugir dela.<\/p>\n<p>It is clear that you and the person you\u2019re trying to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/mesmo-que-nao-o-ultrapasse-completamente-aprendera-a-viver-sem-ele\/\">superar<\/a> simplesmente n\u00e3o est\u00e3o destinados a ser, apesar da profundidade das vossas emo\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n<p>And that is something you\u2019ll have to come to terms with, as much as it hurts.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of lying to yourself that things will eventually work out to your benefit, that you two will get back together, or that they\u2019ll realize they also love you, be brave enough to look the truth in the eyes.<\/p>\n<p>This is not a phase because you\u2019ve probably lost this person for good.<\/p>\n<p>Enganar-se a si pr\u00f3prio, pensando que esta n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o permanente, n\u00e3o o levar\u00e1 a lado nenhum.<\/p>\n<p>Na verdade, isso s\u00f3 vai piorar a situa\u00e7\u00e3o e aprofundar as suas feridas porque, mais cedo ou mais tarde, ter\u00e1 de enfrentar a realidade de frente.<\/p>\n<p>Quando o fizeres, o choque ser\u00e1 ainda maior devido ao tempo que passaste a enganar.<\/p>\n<p>So please, don\u2019t try lying to yourself \u2013 you <em>s\u00e3o<\/em> mais dif\u00edcil do que se pensa e <em>pode<\/em> lidar com tudo o que a vida nos atira.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">But don\u2019t overthink things<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-107009\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/woman-crying-on-the-couch.jpg\" alt=\"Como seguir em frente 10 maneiras eficazes de deixar ir e curar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/woman-crying-on-the-couch.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/woman-crying-on-the-couch-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/woman-crying-on-the-couch-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/woman-crying-on-the-couch-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/woman-crying-on-the-couch-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><\/figure>\n<p>However, accepting the truth doesn\u2019t mean overthinking it. It doesn\u2019t mean that you should overanalyze your entire relationship (if there was one) and every minute detail of your breakup.<\/p>\n<p>Also, it\u2019s important not to start obsessing over this <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/6-fases-de-cura-depois-de-escapar-a-um-abuso-emocional\/\">processo de cura<\/a> you\u2019re going through.<\/p>\n<p>If you keep on asking yourself, how long does it take to move on for most people or how soon is too soon to move on, trust me, you\u2019ll get nowhere.<\/p>\n<p>A lei \u00e9 muito simples: quanto mais se pensa numa coisa, mais desesperado se fica por n\u00e3o a ter.<\/p>\n<p>The same goes with moving on: if you keep track of your progress and keep on wondering how come you aren\u2019t moving forward at the pace you want to, you\u2019ll only do yourself harm.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, the best thing you can do is let time do its work. I\u2019m not saying that you shouldn\u2019t focus on getting over someone from your past, but that shouldn\u2019t be the only goal in your life.<\/p>\n<p>Just go with the flow and allow yourself to recover. Remember, healing is not a linear process, it takes time and it definitely doesn\u2019t happen when we want it to happen.<\/p>\n<p>Different people need different amounts of time and energy to heal. Don\u2019t compare yourself to anyone, Concentrate on yourself!<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Don\u2019t run away from your feelings<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-107010\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-in-deep-minds.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste em mentes profundas\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-in-deep-minds.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-in-deep-minds-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-in-deep-minds-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-in-deep-minds-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-in-deep-minds-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><\/figure>\n<p>When you\u2019re trying to figure out how to move on with a broken heart, the first impulse you have is to ignore all of these devastating emotions that have been tearing you down.<\/p>\n<p>You think that if you pretend that the pain isn\u2019t real, it will magically go away.<\/p>\n<p>The same applies to the situations when you\u2019re trying to figure out how to move on from being cheated on, how to move on from an <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/licoes-aprendidas-relacao-abusiva\/\">rela\u00e7\u00e3o abusiva<\/a>Como seguir em frente depois de um abuso narc\u00edsico, ou como seguir em frente de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica de qualquer tipo.<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s face it, it seems easier to rather pretend that this cheating, this abuse, and this toxicity didn\u2019t happen.<\/p>\n<p>You think that the only way to leave everything bad that you\u2019ve experienced behind is to dig it deep under the ground, then keep on lying to yourself that you are perfectly fine, when you\u2019re actually falling apart from the inside.<\/p>\n<p>However, this approach can be counterproductive. ll of your feelings are real and they won\u2019t go away just like that.<\/p>\n<p>Actually, they will fester if you don\u2019t treat them on time.<\/p>\n<p>That is why it\u2019s crucial for you to accept your pain. Don\u2019t let it define you and become the only thing that overwhelms you.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t try to escape it either because it will catch you sooner or later.<\/p>\n<p>Abrace as suas feridas e transforme-as em cicatrizes que o lembrar\u00e3o sempre da luta que travou e superou.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">E falar sobre eles<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-107011\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-talking-with-friend.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste a falar com uma amiga\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-talking-with-friend.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-talking-with-friend-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-talking-with-friend-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-talking-with-friend-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-talking-with-friend-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><\/figure>\n<p>Outra etapa deste processo de <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/finalmente-deixar-ir\/\">deixar ir<\/a> e seguir em frente \u00e9 verbalizar os seus pensamentos e sentimentos.<\/p>\n<p>Como j\u00e1 sabe, tudo isto leva tempo, mas \u00e9 muito mais f\u00e1cil com a ajuda de amigos pr\u00f3ximos.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t be ashamed to talk about your feelings and everything that\u2019s bothering you. After all, this is what your best friends are for, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n<p>If you have trouble trusting everyone around you, chose one person \u2013 one best friend you can confide in.<\/p>\n<p>Escolha uma pessoa que conhe\u00e7a todos os seus segredos mais profundos e deixe-a dar-lhe uma ajuda neste processo de cura.<\/p>\n<p>Certifique-se apenas de que n\u00e3o permite que o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido e o seu ex se tornem o \u00fanico t\u00f3pico sobre o qual fala com todos os seus amigos mais pr\u00f3ximos, porque isso far\u00e1 com que pense mais neles.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, share with them when you\u2019re feeling low, and then be sure to go on with other discussions.<\/p>\n<p>Lembre-se que esta tamb\u00e9m pode ser uma forma de ajudar outras pessoas que se encontram na mesma situa\u00e7\u00e3o, mas que s\u00e3o demasiado t\u00edmidas para verbalizar os seus problemas.<\/p>\n<p>Al\u00e9m disso, quando se ajuda os outros, tamb\u00e9m se ajuda a si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Procurar fechar o ciclo consigo pr\u00f3prio<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-107012\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/mindful-woman-sitting-in-nature-1.jpg\" alt=\"mulher atenta sentada na natureza\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/mindful-woman-sitting-in-nature-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/mindful-woman-sitting-in-nature-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/mindful-woman-sitting-in-nature-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/mindful-woman-sitting-in-nature-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/mindful-woman-sitting-in-nature-1-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><\/figure>\n<p>Letting go of the past is especially hard when you\u2019re dealing with questions such as: How to move on without closure and how to move on after <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/7-coisas-inteligentes-a-fazer-depois-de-ser-vitima-de-ghosting\/\">ser fantasma<\/a>?<\/p>\n<p>Uma das piores coisas que pode acontecer quando uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o termina \u00e9 um dos parceiros ir-se embora, deixando a outra pessoa a pensar onde \u00e9 que as coisas correram mal e se havia alguma coisa que pudesse ter feito para o evitar.<\/p>\n<p>Didn\u2019t you at least deserve to know what went on? Why did the other person decide to call it quits?<\/p>\n<p>Ser\u00e1 que eles questionaram a sua decis\u00e3o? Perguntou-se durante algum tempo como saberia quando deveria deixar de o fazer?<\/p>\n<p>Ou ser\u00e1 que acordaram uma manh\u00e3, certos de que afastar-se de si \u00e9 a coisa certa a fazer?<\/p>\n<p>Did they ever look back, wondering if you\u2019re okay and worrying if they damaged you beyond repair?<\/p>\n<p>Or are they out there, living their best life, as if they hadn\u2019t ruined yours? Did they move on while you\u2019re still stuck right there where they left you?<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re sure that things would be easier for you if you had the answers to all of these questions.<\/p>\n<p>You think you\u2019d let go of your past relationship in a blink of an eye if you just got closure.<\/p>\n<p>E a pior parte de tudo isto \u00e9 que a \u00fanica pessoa que poderia dar-te todas as respostas \u00e9 aquela que te magoou em primeiro lugar.<\/p>\n<p>Ent\u00e3o, o que \u00e9 que lhe resta fazer, se quiser livrar-se de toda esta bagagem emocional do seu passado e estar pronto para uma nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o quando encontrar a pessoa certa?<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/tempo-para-parar-de-olhar-para-o-fecho-nos-sitios-errados\/\">procurar o encerramento<\/a> da \u00fanica pessoa que lho pode dar. Em vez disso, procura fechar-se consigo pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n<p>Sim, ouviu bem. Aceita-se que o fim de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o era inevit\u00e1vel e, se necess\u00e1rio, at\u00e9 se arranja uma raz\u00e3o para isso.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t look for justifications and excuses for the other person. Instead, you just accept the apology you never got and you forgive them anyway.<\/p>\n<p>Encerra-se esse cap\u00edtulo da vida e aceita-se o facto de que algumas respostas ficar\u00e3o para sempre sem resposta.<\/p>\n<p>Trust me, with time, you\u2019ll be perfectly fine with it!<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Libertar-se das expectativas<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-107013\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-sitting-by-the-window-2.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste sentada \u00e0 janela\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-sitting-by-the-window-2.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-sitting-by-the-window-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-sitting-by-the-window-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-sitting-by-the-window-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-sitting-by-the-window-2-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><\/figure>\n<p>Uma das melhores cita\u00e7\u00f5es de \"how to move\" ilustra perfeitamente este ponto:<\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cYou can\u2019t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>And that is one of the biggest truths: you can\u2019t move on until you let go.<\/p>\n<p>However, after a relationship ends, a lot of people don\u2019t actually cry over the fact it ended. They suffer for all the missed opportunities and for all the potential they thought it had.<\/p>\n<p>They suffer because they\u2019re convinced they\u2019ve lost the only one they could ever love. And I\u2019m certain that you\u2019re doing the same.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re not only having a hard time due to your breakup, but also for having to give up all the future plans and goals you had that were related to this person.<\/p>\n<p>Pensamos em tudo o que dev\u00edamos e pod\u00edamos ter feito. Pensa em todos os casais que conseguiram e v\u00ea os dois como fracassos.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t consider this just as a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/7-sinais-de-que-ha-um-desgosto-pela-frente\/\">desgosto<\/a>, you see it as a personal defeat too. You\u2019ve put so much wasted time and effort into something that didn\u2019t succeed.<\/p>\n<p>Bem, estas s\u00e3o todas as coisas que temos de deixar ir se quisermos seguir em frente.<\/p>\n<p>Abandonar as expectativas, os sonhos e o potencial \u00e9 um grande passo para obter a resposta \u00e0 quest\u00e3o de como ultrapassar o passado.<\/p>\n<p>Aceita-se o facto de que tudo acontece por uma raz\u00e3o e que teve de passar por tudo isto para um bem maior.<\/p>\n<p>Aceite que algumas pessoas e coisas n\u00e3o est\u00e3o destinadas a acontecer e deixe que Deus lhe mostre o Seu plano.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Observar tudo como uma li\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-107014\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/mindful-woman-looking-through-the-window.jpg\" alt=\"mulher atenta a olhar pela janela\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/mindful-woman-looking-through-the-window.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/mindful-woman-looking-through-the-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/mindful-woman-looking-through-the-window-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/mindful-woman-looking-through-the-window-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/mindful-woman-looking-through-the-window-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><\/figure>\n<p>The best thing you can do when you\u2019re trying to move past a painful experience is to see all the good sides of it.<\/p>\n<p>Sei que, \u00e0 partida, pensa que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada de bom em ter o cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido por algu\u00e9m que pensava ser a pessoa certa para si, mas acredite, h\u00e1 sempre.<\/p>\n<p>O que quer que lhe tenha acontecido preparou-o para o seu futuro. Mesmo que n\u00e3o o vejas agora, todos os teus <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/para-a-rapariga-que-precisa-de-compreender-que-todas-as-suas-dificuldades-sao-na-verdade-bencaos\/\">as dificuldades foram, na verdade, b\u00ean\u00e7\u00e3os<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Pode ter perdido anos a gastar tempo com algu\u00e9m errado, mas tudo isso ajudou-o a tornar-se melhor para a pessoa certa que ainda est\u00e1 para vir.<\/p>\n<p>Preparou-te para a rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel que vir\u00e1 no futuro e moldou-te para seres a pessoa forte que \u00e9s agora.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t look at the end of a relationship as something bad; see it as a head start for your future relationships in which you\u2019ll know better.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t look at your heartbreak as the end of the world, regard -look at it a valuable experience that is helping to shape you into the person you\u2019re destined to become.<\/p>\n<p>Nothing of this is bullshit; it really is the truth. Remember, you would never appreciate a healthy relationship that\u2019ll come your way if you hadn\u2019t had this toxic one in your past to compare it with.<\/p>\n<p>You would never appreciate the new people who are about to enter in your life, if you hadn\u2019t had the chance to meet all of those who have done you harm.<\/p>\n<p>The truth is that life throws us different people and situations at us. And most of the time,we can\u2019t control it.<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, o que se pode controlar \u00e9 a forma como se reage a elas. Mais importante ainda, o que pode controlar \u00e9 o que aprende e recebe de todas as pessoas que j\u00e1 cruzaram o seu caminho.<\/p>\n<p>Believe me when I say. even the worst ones \u2013 those who made you feel the most negative emotions \u2013 can teach you something.<\/p>\n<p>At the very least, you can learn to never be like them; that\u2019s a valuable lesson in itself.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Afastar-se da negatividade<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-107015\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/woman-sitting-on-the-swingset.jpg\" alt=\"mulher sentada no baloi\u00e7o\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/woman-sitting-on-the-swingset.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/woman-sitting-on-the-swingset-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/woman-sitting-on-the-swingset-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/woman-sitting-on-the-swingset-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/woman-sitting-on-the-swingset-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><\/figure>\n<p>The next step in this process of moving on is to get rid of all the negative emotions and negative thoughts you\u2019ve been dwelling on lately.<\/p>\n<p>A forma de come\u00e7ar \u00e9 cortar os la\u00e7os com todos os que trazem essa negatividade e pessimismo para o seu mundo.<\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t expect to have a positive outlook on life and preserve your mental health if you keep spending time with <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/letting-toxic-people-go-is-an-act-of-self-love\/\">pessoas t\u00f3xicas<\/a> que continuam a arrastar-te para a sua pr\u00f3pria negatividade e a escurecer o teu caminho.<\/p>\n<p>I know that turning a new page in your life is not easy, but you simply have to move away from anything that&#8217;s causing you stress, from everyone who\u2019s making you feel bad about yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Para come\u00e7ar, tente rodear-se de pessoas novas que tragam mudan\u00e7as positivas para a sua vida.<\/p>\n<p>Start doing whatever makes you happy. Try a new hobby or exercise \u2013 whatever takes your mind of your primary problem.<\/p>\n<p>Besides this being great for your future relationships, most importantly \u2013 clearing your life from toxicity is crucial to your own well-being.<\/p>\n<p>Ajud\u00e1-lo-\u00e1 a aumentar a sua autoestima, a acreditar mais em si pr\u00f3prio e a come\u00e7ar a ver o desgosto que sofreu como algo que pode e vai ultrapassar.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Praticar o autocuidado<\/h2>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-107016\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/young-woman-breathing-deeply.jpg\" alt=\"jovem mulher a respirar profundamente\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/young-woman-breathing-deeply.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/young-woman-breathing-deeply-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/young-woman-breathing-deeply-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/young-woman-breathing-deeply-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/young-woman-breathing-deeply-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\n<p>The key to moving on is loving yourself. This might sound like a load of rubbish, but it\u2019s as true as it gets.<\/p>\n<p>You know how you\u2019re always nice and full of understanding towards your friends when they\u2019re going through some rough time?<\/p>\n<p>Como nunca os julga, mas, pelo contr\u00e1rio, lhes d\u00e1 a m\u00e3o em todos os maus momentos?<\/p>\n<p>Well, it\u2019s time to give yourself exactly the same treatment. Why do you pamper others in their time of need but put yourself down when you\u2019re in a bad space?<\/p>\n<p>Why you cheer for others, telling them that they will make it, but don\u2019t have faith in yourself that you will overcome all of your difficulties?<\/p>\n<p>Porque \u00e9 que empurramos os outros para a frente mas nos deitamos abaixo sempre que cometemos um erro?<\/p>\n<p>Why are you so hard on yourself? Why do you think of yourself as weak for going through all of this pain that you didn\u2019t cause?<\/p>\n<p>Quando come\u00e7ares a ver o teu verdadeiro valor e perceberes que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/um-homem-que-te-ache-digna-aparecera\/\">you\u2019re worthy<\/a> of self-love, you\u2019ll understand that nobody is worth you suffering over them this way.<\/p>\n<p>E, sem mais nem menos, a sua pergunta sobre como ultrapassar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o ou um desgosto de amor ser\u00e1 respondida.<\/p>\n<p>Once you start putting yourself first, you\u2019ll settle for less in your new relationship. You\u2019ll have enough self-esteem to look for the person you deserve, without lowering your standards.<\/p>\n<p>Once you start practicing self-care, once you start taking care of our mental health and once you focus on your well-being, you\u2019ll start living your best life.<\/p>\n<p>Just like that, you\u2019ll see that you never needed this person who was giving you so much headache in the first place.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll see that all of this moving on and all of this suffering was all a part of growing up. And you\u2019ll be thankful for things going the way they did.<\/p>\n<p>Most of all, you\u2019ll be proud of yourself for standing tall through the storm and for rising above the ashes, despite all the odds.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-107005\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/How-To-Move-On-10-Effective-Ways-To-Let-Go-And-Heal-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Como seguir em frente 10 maneiras eficazes de deixar ir e curar\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/How-To-Move-On-10-Effective-Ways-To-Let-Go-And-Heal-pinterest.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/How-To-Move-On-10-Effective-Ways-To-Let-Go-And-Heal-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/How-To-Move-On-10-Effective-Ways-To-Let-Go-And-Heal-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><\/figure>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One of the best and the most inspiring quotes on how to move on and let go says: \u201cLetting go doesn\u2019t mean you forget the person completely. It just means that you find a way of surviving without them.\u201d Easier said than done, right? So, how exactly do you do it? How do you continue&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":107017,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-41098","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/How-To-Move-On-10-Effective-Ways-To-Let-Go-And-Heal.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. 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