{"id":41159,"date":"2019-07-29T07:53:49","date_gmt":"2019-07-29T07:53:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=41159"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:18:48","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:18:48","slug":"para-de-me-dizer-que-preciso-de-encontrar-um-namorado","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/para-de-me-dizer-que-preciso-de-encontrar-um-namorado\/","title":{"rendered":"P\u00e1ra de me dizer que preciso de encontrar um namorado"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ontem \u00e0 noite, estava a enviar uma mensagem \u00e0 minha amiga que se casou no ano passado. Ela \u00e9 minha colega de faculdade e pass\u00e1mos uns tempos loucos na altura, mas, de alguma forma, ela mudou. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I remember we used to make fun of those women who got married and completely forgot who they were, all of a sudden turning into these Stepford wives. It seems now that she\u2019s become one of them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu estava a queixar-me de uma coisa, a dizer que era injusta e que me irritava. Ela mandou-me uma mensagem: that’s all rubbish, the best thing for you is to find yourself a boyfriend!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Really? That is your answer, to find myself a boyfriend? All of a sudden you know better because you\u2019re married, and all of my work and accomplishments are rubbish because I don\u2019t have a man?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People, relatives, friends in a relationship \u2013 stop telling me I need to find a boyfriend! <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe I don\u2019t want anyone. Maybe I am so involved in my career, charity work, and paying off a student loan that I don\u2019t have time or energy for anyone. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Porque \u00e9 que presume que sou infeliz quando estou sozinho? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do you think that all my activities and the extra effort I put in at work is because I don\u2019t know what else to do with my life due to the fact that I am single and therefore \u201chave no purpose\u201d? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to my friend who used to be a cool person and would also get pissed at some unjust issues like me, I am faking and distracting myself from the real issue that\u2019s bugging me, and that is my single status. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quem lhe d\u00e1 o direito de invalidar todos os meus feitos e cren\u00e7as com base nas suas opini\u00f5es tacanhas?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"P\u00e1ra<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

And don\u2019t get me started on family meetings and family in general. I spent my entire high school listening to them nagging how I need to get into a good college. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Depois, passei toda a minha faculdade concentrada em acabar o curso a tempo e n\u00e3o engravidar ou abandonar a faculdade para poder arranjar um emprego decente. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Depois de finalmente me ter recomposto, come\u00e7aram a chatear-me por ser solteira e por tudo o que fiz ser irrelevante agora. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quando \u00e9 que voc\u00eas v\u00e3o finalmente aceitar as minhas escolhas e deixar-me viver? Porque, malta, eu estou bem com a minha vida. Sou feliz, consegui tudo sozinha e sou finalmente livre e independente.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I spend my money on travelling, handbags. I am also involved in volunteering I can cook whatever I want and I don\u2019t need to prepare dinner for anyone. I can go out at midnight and get myself a McDonalds burger if that\u2019s what I want. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I really, truly am satisfied. And if I am okay with your lives and happy for your marriage and kids or relationships, why can\u2019t you be happy for me? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se eu fosse infeliz e dissesse claramente que desejava uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o, teria encontrado algu\u00e9m, qualquer pessoa. Por isso, por favor, respeitem-me, respeitem as minhas decis\u00f5es e as minhas convic\u00e7\u00f5es, e parem de pensar e dizer que preciso de encontrar um namorado. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E \u00e0 minha amiga, se ela estiver a ler isto, se eu tivesse um namorado e as mesmas cren\u00e7as que tenho agora, respeitava-as? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to you, would I then be a complete person, or would you still think they are rubbish? Because if you can validate my opinion only if I have a man, we really can\u2019t be friends anymore. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"P\u00e1ra<\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

So, last night I was texting my friend who got married last year. She\u2019s my college friend and we had a crazy time back then, but somehow, she changed.  I remember we used to make fun of those women who got married and completely forgot who they were, all of a sudden turning into these…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":41165,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29645],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-41159","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-being-single"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29645,"label":"being single"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/shutterstock_1233157888.jpg",800,502,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tina Navarro","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tatiana\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29645,"name":"being single","slug":"being-single","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29645,"taxonomy":"category","description":"How to rock being single? Or how to (and why you should) stop worrying about what others will think of your love status? Here's exactly how.","parent":29643,"count":114,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29645,"category_count":114,"category_description":"How to rock being single? Or how to (and why you should) stop worrying about what others will think of your love status? Here's exactly how.","cat_name":"being single","category_nicename":"being-single","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41159","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/22"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=41159"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41159\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/41165"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=41159"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=41159"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=41159"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}