{"id":42170,"date":"2019-08-19T09:59:40","date_gmt":"2019-08-19T09:59:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=42170"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:01:28","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:01:28","slug":"7-coisas-mas-que-vao-acontecer-se-seguir-em-frente-demasiado-depressa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/7-coisas-mas-que-vao-acontecer-se-seguir-em-frente-demasiado-depressa\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Coisas m\u00e1s que v\u00e3o acontecer se seguires em frente demasiado depressa"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Curar e seguir em frente com sucesso depois de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o disfuncional \u00e9 o sonho! Mas, na realidade, \u00e9 uma tarefa dif\u00edcil. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Toda a gente tem os seus pr\u00f3prios mecanismos de sobreviv\u00eancia e lidar com o peso de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o pode ser feito de v\u00e1rias formas.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Mas uma coisa que n\u00e3o \u00e9 de todo encorajada depois de terminar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o de longa dura\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 seguir em frente demasiado depressa!<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>You may think you\u2019re doing yourself a favor by doing everything you can to do <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/esqueca-o-a-menos-que-ele-esteja-disposto-a-fazer-estas-7-coisas-por-si\/\">esquece-o<\/a> and completely preoccupying yourself with different things, but you\u2019re really not.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>You can\u2019t just erase a huge part of your life. You can\u2019t just pretend that all never happened. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>You CAN decide to ignore how you\u2019re feeling and deny that you\u2019re shattered and heartbroken, but eventually it\u2019ll catch up with you.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>E vai apanhar-nos de surpresa. E depois, ser\u00e1 muito mais dif\u00edcil recuperar e seguir em frente. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>If you don\u2019t believe me, here is exactly how moving on too quickly can and will negatively affect you:<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. Ao n\u00e3o fazer as coisas como deve ser, acaba por reprimir emo\u00e7\u00f5es que acabam por o apanhar<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1028902678-1.jpg\" alt=\"7 Coisas m\u00e1s que v\u00e3o acontecer se seguires em frente demasiado depressa\" class=\"wp-image-42174\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1028902678-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1028902678-1-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1028902678-1-768x576.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>If you don\u2019t let yourself process what happened and feel your feelings, it might happen on the worst day imaginable. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>You\u2019ll be drinking alone in your kitchen, listening to his favourite song, and it will just overcome you.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Tudo o que estava a tentar enterrar profundamente e a afastar-se de repente vem \u00e0 superf\u00edcie e apanha-o desprevenido.\u00a0<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>You won\u2019t know how to deal with all of the emotions, and the fact that you\u2019re drinking will only worsen and heighten the despair you\u2019re feeling. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>E \u00e9 por isso que \u00e9 preciso lidar com as emo\u00e7\u00f5es a seu tempo, at\u00e9 que um dia tudo comece a melhorar.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. Ter um homem de ressaca s\u00f3 adia o seu sofrimento<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1064722256-1.jpg\" alt=\"7 Coisas m\u00e1s que v\u00e3o acontecer se seguires em frente demasiado depressa\" class=\"wp-image-42175\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1064722256-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1064722256-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1064722256-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Quando se decide ir para a cama com algu\u00e9m demasiado cedo depois de <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/4-razoes-pelas-quais-acabar-com-ele-foi-a-melhor-decisao-da-sua-vida\/\">romper com <\/a>your man, you don\u2019t get to heal. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>You don\u2019t get to deal with your issues. What you DO get is a postponed heartbreak that hits you twice as hard.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>You\u2019ll think you\u2019re doing okay and that you\u2019re forgetting all about him. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>But what you\u2019re actually doing is sleeping with a random stranger who is going to walk out in the morning and leave you to your own devices. And what then? <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>What happens when you\u2019re alone with your feelings? You break down in tears and suffer in silence. Don\u2019t do this to yourself. You know better.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. Seguir em frente demasiado cedo faz-nos baixar os nossos padr\u00f5es (e perder coisas fant\u00e1sticas)<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_582570253-1.jpg\" alt=\"7 Coisas m\u00e1s que v\u00e3o acontecer se seguires em frente demasiado depressa\" class=\"wp-image-42177\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_582570253-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_582570253-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_582570253-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>By the end of it, you\u2019ll just want somebody there. Somebody to comfort you and tell you it\u2019s going to be okay. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>A body to warm yours at night, and just somebody to listen to you. And it won\u2019t really matter if this guy is actually a good guy or somebody with impure intentions.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>You\u2019ll just care to not be alone. And that is how you end up in a toxic relationship. You lower your standards for all the wrong reasons and end up in the arms of <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/a-verdade-e-que-nunca-seras-suficientemente-boa-para-o-homem-errado\/\">o homem errado.<\/a>\u00a0<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>It doesn\u2019t mean it will definitely happen, but it can for sure. And is it really worth it? You might miss out on amazing things and a great man due to your impatience.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4. You can\u2019t get your ex out of your head, no matter how hard you try<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1201859332.jpg\" alt=\"7 Coisas m\u00e1s que v\u00e3o acontecer se seguires em frente demasiado depressa\" class=\"wp-image-42176\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1201859332.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1201859332-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1201859332-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>If you don\u2019t heal properly, you\u2019ll never be able to get your ex out of your head. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>You will see him in every guy you sleep with and in every corner on the street. He\u2019ll be a constant presence in your mind and it\u2019ll drive you nuts.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Se n\u00e3o se curar lenta e pacientemente, n\u00e3o se d\u00e1 a oportunidade de seguir em frente. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>How can you forget about someone if you don\u2019t give yourself the chance to admit how broken you really are? You need to do what it takes to get over it in a way that helps you grow.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5. You\u2019ll compare every guy you date to your ex-boyfriend<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_388831714.jpg\" alt=\"7 Coisas m\u00e1s que v\u00e3o acontecer se seguires em frente demasiado depressa\" class=\"wp-image-42179\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_388831714.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_388831714-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_388831714-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Whoever you end up with, they just won\u2019t be able to compare to your ex. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>They won\u2019t be able to fill in your ex\u2019s shoes and it will leave you devastated. You won\u2019t want to compare, but you won\u2019t be able to help yourself.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Ele foi tudo o que conheceste durante tanto tempo e tornou-se uma medida para o que precisavas. E agora, com cada novo rapaz, ningu\u00e9m parece saber como lidar contigo.\u00a0<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>E isso far\u00e1 com que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/6-formas-reconfortantes-que-a-ajudarao-a-lidar-com-as-saudades-dele\/\">tem saudades dele<\/a> like crazy. You will want him again, but you\u2019ll know he\u2019s no good for you, and that will make you suffer more than you actually need to.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">6. You\u2019ll give false hope to the next guy and it won\u2019t be fair to him<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1196187427.jpg\" alt=\"7 Coisas m\u00e1s que v\u00e3o acontecer se seguires em frente demasiado depressa\" class=\"wp-image-42181\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1196187427.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1196187427-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1196187427-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>You don\u2019t want to hurt anybody, I know that, but that is exactly what you will end up doing. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>By moving on too quickly, you\u2019ll end up leading the next guy on and make him think he has an actual chance. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>And we both know you\u2019re in no place to make that kind of a decision so soon.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>O que precisas \u00e9 de algum tempo sozinho para te recompores e perceberes o que precisas neste momento. E sabe que saltar de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o para outra demasiado depressa \u00e9 exatamente o oposto disso.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">7. Vai fazer com que queiras voltar para o teu ex<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_639039922-1.jpg\" alt=\"7 Coisas m\u00e1s que v\u00e3o acontecer se seguires em frente demasiado depressa\" class=\"wp-image-42182\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_639039922-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_639039922-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_639039922-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>When you move on prematurely, you see what the world has to offer and it\u2019s just not as good as you had it with your man.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p> Nothing seems worth the trouble and you just can\u2019t bring yourself to really open up that way to anyone.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Your ex is the only one who made it all worth it (until he no longer did). And now, you don\u2019t see yourself with anyone else, which will make you go back to something that is clearly not good for you anymore.\u00a0<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>You deny yourself a true chance at happiness by not letting yourself go through the healing process. That\u2019s just not right. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>You deserve more, and hopefully, you\u2019ll see it too. Time heals all wounds, but you\u2019ve got to let it do its thing first.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/PINTEREST-2019-08-19T115847.217-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"7 Coisas m\u00e1s que v\u00e3o acontecer se seguires em frente demasiado depressa\" class=\"wp-image-42187\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/PINTEREST-2019-08-19T115847.217-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/PINTEREST-2019-08-19T115847.217-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/PINTEREST-2019-08-19T115847.217.jpg 735w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Healing and successfully moving on after a dysfunctional relationship is the dream! But in reality, it\u2019s a mighty task. Everybody has their own coping mechanisms and dealing with the burden of a breakup can be done in a multitude of ways. But one thing that is definitely not encouraged after just having ended a long-term&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":42188,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-42170","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1230899533.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. 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