{"id":42193,"date":"2019-08-19T10:21:24","date_gmt":"2019-08-19T10:21:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=42193"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:01:02","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:01:02","slug":"uma-carta-para-a-terceira-roda-em-todos-os-meus-encontros-a-minha-ansiedade-de-namorar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/uma-carta-para-a-terceira-roda-em-todos-os-meus-encontros-a-minha-ansiedade-de-namorar\/","title":{"rendered":"Uma carta para a terceira roda em todos os meus encontros: A minha ansiedade de namorar"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hey, old friend. You might be surprised that I’m writing you like this, since you and I are rarely apart and you\u2019ve been a piece of me for ages.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, I’m not sure about the first time I met you. I can’t tell how, when, and why you entered my life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tudo o que sei \u00e9 que n\u00e3o existe um \u00fanico encontro na minha mem\u00f3ria sem que tu sejas a terceira roda. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I can’t remember any of my romantic relationships of which you weren’t a part, including those in my teenage years.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let’s face it, you’ve made my life hell harder. But with time, I got used to you and even accepted you to a certain extent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nevertheless, it doesn’t mean I like you. It doesn’t mean that I’m comfortable with all of these fears and overthinking you’re causing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afinal de contas, quem \u00e9 que ficaria feliz com uma vozinha na nuca a toda a hora? Uma vozinha que lhes diz que as coisas v\u00e3o correr da pior maneira poss\u00edvel e que nada lhes vai correr bem.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Primeiro, come\u00e7a quando conhe\u00e7o um tipo novo.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tem <\/em>ele gosta mesmo de mim<\/em><\/a>? Ou ser\u00e1 que ele est\u00e1 a brincar comigo?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Perhaps he had a bet with his friends about whether he’ll be able to score my number? Maybe he\u2019s trying to get to my friend through me?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Porque quem \u00e9 que gostaria de mim? Quem \u00e9 que estaria genuinamente interessado em mim?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

E o mais importante, porqu\u00ea? O que \u00e9 que este tipo v\u00ea em mim?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Depois de me permitirem, de alguma forma, avan\u00e7ar desta fase inicial, a luta continua.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Uma<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Como \u00e9 que devo responder \u00e0 sua mensagem de texto? Como \u00e9 que respondo ao seu telefonema sem que a minha voz trema?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can I hide the fact that I\u2019m terrified of something so ordinary and everyday like going out on a date?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Naturalmente, a <\/strong>primeiro encontro<\/strong><\/a> \u00e9 um verdadeiro pesadelo.<\/strong> I\u2019m not just talking about some random stuff that goes through almost every girl\u2019s mind when she\u2019s about to go out with a guy for the first time, like what she should wear or whether she\u2019ll like him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No, I\u2019m talking about real panic attacks that stop me from functioning properly. I\u2019m talking about the fact that I feel like someone is forcing me to go out with this guy I\u2019m really attracted to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ser\u00e1 que ele me vai deixar pendurada? Ser\u00e1 que vamos passar a noite inteira num sil\u00eancio desconfort\u00e1vel?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ser\u00e1 que ele vai ficar desiludido com o meu aspeto? Ser\u00e1 que ele vai reparar que tenho dificuldade em respirar e que as palmas das minhas m\u00e3os est\u00e3o sempre a suar?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I manage to enter a relationship (which rarely happens), that\u2019s when my real battles start and when I notice that everything up to that point was just a piece of cake.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What if he grows tired of me? What if he\u2019s still thinking about his ex?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What if I\u2019m not good enough in bed? What if he\u2019s just playing with me?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ser\u00e1 que ele me ama ou est\u00e1 apenas a fingir? Sou demasiado carente?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why did he kiss me differently this morning? Why isn\u2019t he holding my hand right now?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ele est\u00e1 a ficar mais frio? Ou estou a imaginar coisas?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Does he want to end things but can\u2019t find a way to do so? Is he staying with me out of pity?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Estarei desesperado por dar demasiado de mim? Devo mostrar menos emo\u00e7\u00f5es?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Did he say \u201cI love you\u201d because it was time or did he really feel it? Would he care if he lost me?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sounds pretty exhausting, right? Well, this is just the tip of the iceberg and something I\u2019ve been living with ever since I can remember.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, this isn\u2019t only a hate letter for everything you\u2019re putting me through. Believe it or not, I also want to thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thank you for all those times you chased away the men who couldn\u2019t handle me <\/strong>no meu pior<\/strong><\/a>, showing me that they didn\u2019t deserve my best either.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

For all those times you saved me from those superficial fuckboys who didn\u2019t even try looking past my trauma. For every time my overthinking and not wanting to rush things helped me avoid guys who only wanted to get me in bed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thank you for being my shield and my defense mechanism from all the men who don\u2019t deserve to meet the real me.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Obrigado por me teres dado esta forte intui\u00e7\u00e3o que me permite pressentir m\u00e1s inten\u00e7\u00f5es a uma milha de dist\u00e2ncia. Por n\u00e3o me deixares saltar de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o para outra e por me fazeres esperar pelo homem certo.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A guy who will see that I\u2019m much more than my anxiety. A guy who will be patient enough to uncover the layers of my personality. The guy who will love me for who I am.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Uma<\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Hey, old friend. You might be surprised that I’m writing you like this, since you and I are rarely apart and you\u2019ve been a piece of me for ages. However, I’m not sure about the first time I met you. I can’t tell how, when, and why you entered my life. All I know is…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":42197,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29634],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-42193","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-anxiety"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29634,"label":"anxiety"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1127629844.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29634,"name":"anxiety","slug":"anxiety","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29634,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learning how to control your anxiety or help and understand your partner struggling with anxious thoughts will improve the quality of your life.","parent":22911,"count":30,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29634,"category_count":30,"category_description":"Learning how to control your anxiety or help and understand your partner struggling with anxious thoughts will improve the quality of your life.","cat_name":"anxiety","category_nicename":"anxiety","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42193","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=42193"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42193\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/42197"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=42193"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=42193"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=42193"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}