{"id":4285,"date":"2020-08-11T12:29:22","date_gmt":"2020-08-11T12:29:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=4285"},"modified":"2021-08-12T06:56:35","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T06:56:35","slug":"amor-como-um-peido-perdido-forca-provavelmente-merda","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor-como-um-peido-perdido-forca-provavelmente-merda\/","title":{"rendered":"O amor \u00e9 como um peido perdido. Se tens de o for\u00e7ar, provavelmente \u00e9 uma merda"},"content":{"rendered":"

H\u00e1 alguns dias, li esta cita\u00e7\u00e3o, sem d\u00favida realista, de Stephen K. Amos,<\/p>\n

\u201cLove is like a lost fart. If you have to force it, it’s probably shit.\u201d <\/i> e est\u00e1 a ecoar na minha cabe\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 t\u00e3o simples e t\u00e3o verdadeiro.<\/p>\n

No entanto, a maioria de n\u00f3s tende a for\u00e7ar as nossas rela\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

Entramos nesta confus\u00e3o quando a nossa cabe\u00e7a nos leva numa dire\u00e7\u00e3o e o nosso cora\u00e7\u00e3o noutra. Os nossos pensamentos n\u00e3o est\u00e3o em equil\u00edbrio com os nossos sentimentos.<\/p>\n

Quando se d\u00e1 maior \u00eanfase a um deles, est\u00e1 a for\u00e7ar a rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Se a base da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o assenta sobretudo na vossa cabe\u00e7a<\/b> e p\u00f5e os seus sentimentos de lado. Est\u00e1 a nutrir uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o como esta por muitas raz\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

One of the most usual ones may be that he is a great guy; he treats you right. You can’t imagine someone else going way over the top to please you and make you happy like he does. You are number one on his list of priorities. He is doing everything by the book.<\/p>\n

Se alguma vez fantasiaste sobre como seria a tua rela\u00e7\u00e3o perfeita, seria assim. Ele ama-a e adora-a. Mas, por alguma raz\u00e3o, n\u00e3o \u00e9s capaz de retribuir esses sentimentos. <\/i><\/p>\n

You can rationalize as much as you want but when that special feeling isn’t there, you can’t create it. Love and chemistry are feelings you kind of fall into. They can’t be forced.<\/p>\n

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Se a base da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o assenta sobretudo no vosso cora\u00e7\u00e3o<\/b> , pode estar em grande nega\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

When this happens, we tend to rationalize every wrong thing in our relationship with the words, I WILL LET THIS SLIDE BECAUSE I LOVE HIM!\u2019<\/p>\n

We are hoping that a bad relationship will turn good at some point. But the truth is it probably won’t. If your o namorado est\u00e1 a tratar-te mal, a negligenciar-te, a manipular-te<\/a> and so on, the odds are that won’t change because you love him.<\/p>\n

This is a deeper issue where you have to have a deep conversation with yourself and realize that chemistry and love aren’t enough if you are feeling miserable in other aspects of your relationship.<\/p>\n

There is also a trap of long term relationships related to the heart issue. Your relationship isn’t really bad but not really good either. You are content to be somewhere in the middle. You get lazy and don’t want to fix things or you don’t want to change. After all, you invested so much time and energy<\/p>\n

Along with this, the problem might be that you are scared to be alone or just too scared to start over. It isn’t easy but your fears aren’t the ones that should keep you in a relationship. That’s forcing it.<\/p>\n

Don’t be lazy. Don’t settle. Don’t force things. <\/b><\/p>\n

No final, acabar\u00e1 por se sentir completamente infeliz.<\/p>\n

Encontre um equil\u00edbrio entre o cora\u00e7\u00e3o e a cabe\u00e7a. <\/i> Um dos lados prevalecer\u00e1 sempre, mas nada \u00e9 suposto ser perfeito.<\/p>\n

And when you don’t know what to do, it is always advisable to follow your heart. But keep in mind: your heart can play tricks on you.  <\/p>\n

Por isso, tenha sempre em mente as palavras de Alfred Adler:<\/p>\n

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“Follow your heart but take your brain with you.”<\/b> <\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m:<\/strong> Coisas que voc\u00ea precisa mudar se quiser finalmente encontrar o amor verdadeiro (com base no seu signo do zod\u00edaco)<\/a><\/p>\n

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A few days ago I read this undoubtedly realistic quote by Stephen K. Amos, \u201cLove is like a lost fart. If you have to force it, it’s probably shit.\u201d and it is just echoing in my head. It is so simple and so true. However, most of us tend to force our relationships. We get…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":104996,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29614],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4285","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-talks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29614,"label":"love talks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Love-Is-Like-A-Lost-Fart.-If-You-Have-To-Force-It-Its-Probably-Shit.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29614,"name":"love talks","slug":"love-talks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29614,"taxonomy":"category","description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","parent":38,"count":426,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29614,"category_count":426,"category_description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","cat_name":"love talks","category_nicename":"love-talks","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4285","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4285"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4285\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/104996"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4285"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4285"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4285"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}