{"id":43528,"date":"2019-09-26T14:33:46","date_gmt":"2019-09-26T14:33:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=43528"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:13:19","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:13:19","slug":"se-a-sua-cura-doi-muito-leia-isto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/se-a-sua-cura-doi-muito-leia-isto\/","title":{"rendered":"Se a sua cura d\u00f3i muito, leia isto"},"content":{"rendered":"

Costumava pensar que o tempo era tudo o que precisava para me sentir melhor. <\/span><\/p>\n

I thought healing was moving up the scale with each new day at the same speed towards something better\u2014something less painful. <\/span><\/p>\n

I thought that is how it\u2019s supposed to be. Enduring the pain, and trying to move on with your life, fighting hard to believe that each following day is better. <\/span><\/p>\n

But, it\u2019s not. <\/span><\/p>\n

Healing doesn\u2019t work the way I thought it did. <\/span><\/p>\n

You should think that after so many times of being stuck in the same circle of pain and self-pity, I\u2019d learn to be better and smarter about it. <\/span><\/p>\n

I wasn\u2019t smarter, and I wasn\u2019t better. I made the same mistake over and over again. <\/b><\/p>\n

Pensei que me ia curar s\u00f3 porque tinha de o fazer. Pensei que ia melhorar de um dia para o outro.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Silhueta<\/p>\n

But healing isn\u2019t like that at all. <\/span><\/p>\n

Haver\u00e1 dias ou mesmo meses que parecer\u00e3o intermin\u00e1veis e estagnados. <\/b><\/p>\n

On the other hand, there will be days where you\u2019ll see progress you haven\u2019t seen in months. <\/b><\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 a perceber agora?<\/span><\/p>\n

A cura n\u00e3o \u00e9 um processo que envolva regras e uma determinada linha de tempo que tem de ser cumprida. <\/span><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o se pode come\u00e7ar por baixo e subir na mesma velocidade e com a mesma consist\u00eancia. <\/span><\/p>\n

Time alone won\u2019t make things better. Actually, the whole \u2018getting better\u2019 thing depends solely on you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Depende da sua for\u00e7a, do tempo que vai levar para se recompor e, mais importante, da sua capacidade de se manter positivo e disposto a seguir em frente.  <\/span><\/p>\n

It depends on the days and the mood you\u2019re in. We\u2019ve all been through bad days, regardless whether we\u2019re healing or not. <\/span><\/p>\n

Even when we aren\u2019t, bad days are bad on their own. <\/span><\/p>\n

Por isso, passar pelo processo de cura em dias maus n\u00e3o pode ser positivo. De alguma forma, \u00e9 preciso criar uma maravilha para tornar esses dias suport\u00e1veis e n\u00e3o t\u00e3o maus.  <\/span><\/p>\n

Tens de compreender que a cura vai ser feia. <\/b><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Vai tirar-vos a autoestima, o respeito por v\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios e fazer-vos duvidar das vossas capacidades. Mais importante ainda, vai abalar a tua confian\u00e7a e a tua vontade de vencer. <\/span><\/p>\n

Healing isn\u2019t constant. It goes up and down; it\u2019s like a rollercoaster. It\u2019s unpredictable and extremely painful. <\/span><\/p>\n

O seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o j\u00e1 ferido e a sua alma sens\u00edvel n\u00e3o podem andar em mais uma montanha-russa emocional. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s devastating and painful as hell. It\u2019s not something you can handle at this point.  <\/span><\/p>\n

But you mustn\u2019t fall under pressure. You mustn\u2019t give up. <\/span><\/p>\n

Even when you feel like you\u2019re drowning in a sea of self-loathing and guilt, you mustn\u2019t give in to your toxic feelings and thoughts. <\/span><\/p>\n

After all, there will be days when healing won\u2019t hurt as much and when you\u2019ll feel like you have everything under control. <\/b><\/p>\n

There will be times when you\u2019ll think everything will be okay. <\/b><\/p>\n

\"Rapariga<\/p>\n

Tens de abra\u00e7ar esses dias e agarrar-te a eles com for\u00e7a. Esses dias s\u00e3o a chave para a tua cura. <\/span><\/p>\n

Fa\u00e7a com que esses dias durem o mais poss\u00edvel; fa\u00e7a com que se sinta positivo e esperan\u00e7oso.<\/span><\/p>\n

While you\u2019re in the good phase of healing, you\u2019ll notice people who love you. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll appreciate their help, and you\u2019ll take their love both-handed without even thinking about it. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll feel like you can do this. You\u2019ll be confident and determined to get through this rough period.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you\u2019re in your bad phase, you\u2019ll push people who love you away from you. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll deny anyone\u2019s help and support which will make you feel even more alone. Then, it\u2019s so much easier to fall into the depression and self-judgment pit.  <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso tempo para sarar, mas nunca se sabe quando \u00e9 que isso vai acontecer. <\/b><\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso um pequeno gatilho para nos fazer chorar e quebrar, para nos fazer libertar todas as coisas t\u00f3xicas do nosso sistema. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pode acontecer quando menos se espera. Pode acontecer a meio da noite por causa de um sonho estranho. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pode ser despoletada por algo ou algu\u00e9m que se v\u00ea. A quest\u00e3o \u00e9 que nos d\u00e1 um murro no cora\u00e7\u00e3o e, nesses momentos, temos de nos manter unidos.<\/span><\/p>\n

But all that pain is worth that one sincere and huge smile you crack on your face. It\u2019s worth every tear and every stab in the heart you felt. <\/span><\/p>\n

That smile is the first sign you\u2019re actually getting to a state where you want to be\u2014healed and happy.<\/span><\/p>\n

A cura come\u00e7a e termina nos per\u00edodos.<\/span><\/a> O importante \u00e9 manter a calma durante todo o tempo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Calmo e racional. \u00c9 preciso acreditar em si pr\u00f3prio e na sua capacidade de se sentir melhor, de se tornar melhor. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have to believe that you won\u2019t drown in self-pity and depression. <\/b><\/p>\n

Every day is a battle when you\u2019re healing. But you\u2019re not gaining strength in vain. That strong will and strength won\u2019t disappear once you get better. <\/span><\/p>\n

It will stay a part of you, a part of your character. It will be a lesson you\u2019ve learned and a piece of past you\u2019re carrying as a reminder of what not to do.<\/b><\/p>\n

Until then…hold on. Endure the pain because it eventually ends. Just be strong and build the person you want to be for the rest of your life.<\/span><\/p>\n

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