{"id":43715,"date":"2020-09-30T12:22:20","date_gmt":"2020-09-30T12:22:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=43715"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:42:30","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:42:30","slug":"7-pensamentos-que-nos-passam-pela-cabeca-quando-temos-uma-relacao-ptsd","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/7-pensamentos-que-nos-passam-pela-cabeca-quando-temos-uma-relacao-ptsd\/","title":{"rendered":"7 pensamentos que passam pela sua cabe\u00e7a quando voc\u00ea tem um relacionamento TEPT"},"content":{"rendered":"

As rela\u00e7\u00f5es traum\u00e1ticas podem ser baseadas em traumas psicol\u00f3gicos, verbais, f\u00edsicos ou sexuais ou podem ser uma combina\u00e7\u00e3o de todos os factores acima mencionados.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re coming out of such a relationship, you\u2019re probably experiencing post-traumatic relationship syndrome, where you feel like no one understands you and you feel vulnerable, hurt and unable to trust anyone.<\/p>\n

O seu corpo e a sua mente est\u00e3o a sofrer e perde a esperan\u00e7a em dias melhores e na cura.<\/p>\n

You feel afraid of making another commitment because you\u2019re convinced that someone will hurt you again.<\/p>\n

Or you feel utterly helpless and you don\u2019t see the point in trying to do anything about it or seeking help from others.<\/p>\n

While it\u2019s totally understandable that victims of a traumatic relationship feel that way, certain attitudes can prolong your pain and make you even more vulnerable.<\/p>\n

As 7 atitudes seguintes podem mant\u00ea-lo preso numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o traum\u00e1tica <\/a> tamb\u00e9m conhecido como limbo e \u00e9 por isso que \u00e9 de import\u00e2ncia crucial come\u00e7ar a trabalhar neles a tempo!<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t see the point in trying\u2026\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

This one reflects the syndrome called \u2018learned helplessness\u2019.<\/p>\n

When you don\u2019t see the point in trying and dealing with the current situation, it means you\u2019re being overly pessimistic, you don\u2019t believe that things will change and you give up because you have no motivation to keep pushing forward in life.<\/p>\n

This attitude can become ingrained (especially if you\u2019ve experienced a few traumas in a row) but it\u2019s really important that you fight it with all of your strength.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important to find a silver lining and understand the need to push forward in life instead of giving up immediately.<\/p>\n

\u201cNo one ever made it, so why should I try?\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

When we\u2019re trying to find an excuse for not doing something, we reflexively refer to other people who haven\u2019t succeeded in overcoming something and not those who did.<\/p>\n

Tal como as crian\u00e7as na escola.<\/p>\n

When they get a bad grade, they instantly point to others who got a bad grade too, just to prove that it should be so and the majority didn\u2019t succeed in getting a good grade.<\/p>\n

Whenever this sentence \u2018No one ever made it, so why should I try?\u2019 comes to your mind, just convert it into a statement: \u201cIf I never try, I\u2019ll never make it!\u201d<\/p>\n

E sabe que h\u00e1 pessoas que o conseguiram e que o conseguiram por serem determinadas, optimistas e por acreditarem que os seus esfor\u00e7os v\u00e3o dar frutos.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhy me?\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

This is one of the most frequent questions when we\u2019re dealing with post-traumatic experiences.<\/p>\n

We ask ourselves, \u201cWhy me?\u201d when things don\u2019t go as we would like them to.<\/p>\n

Mas a verdade \u00e9 que nada na vida corre como queremos e quanto mais cedo aceitarmos isso, melhor.<\/p>\n

Em vez de amaldi\u00e7oar o seu destino, compreenda que h\u00e1 outra pessoa (ou milhares delas) no mundo a fazer a mesma pergunta.<\/p>\n

We can\u2019t influence what will happen to us but we can influence its consequences.<\/p>\n

Lembre-se que a aceita\u00e7\u00e3o da nossa realidade \u00e9 a primeira passo para a cura! <\/a><\/p>\n

\u201cI will just forget that anything happened and make the best of it!\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Outra atitude perigosa \u00e9 negligenciar os acontecimentos passados e decidir continuar a viver como se nada tivesse acontecido.<\/p>\n

Denial can cause ten times more serious consequences and that is why we should never try to suppress our emotions or something we\u2019ve gone through.<\/p>\n

Como j\u00e1 foi dito, o primeiro passo para a cura \u00e9 aceitar o que aconteceu e compreend\u00ea-lo, em vez de esquecer tudo e seguir em frente como se nada tivesse acontecido.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 a pior coisa que se pode fazer a si pr\u00f3prio e, se se mantiver demasiado tempo nessa atitude, o tiro sair\u00e1 certamente pela culatra com consequ\u00eancias tremendas.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Se reprimes as tuas emo\u00e7\u00f5es, devias ler isto <\/a><\/p>\n

\u201cNothing hurts me. I\u2019m strong. I don\u2019t cry.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"morena<\/p>\n

Sometimes we\u2019re afraid to be vulnerable and we think that if we don\u2019t show any sign of being hurt, we will win the battle.<\/p>\n

Mas isso n\u00e3o \u00e9 de todo verdade. Este tipo de atitude s\u00f3 vai prolongar a dor e as consequ\u00eancias do trauma, em vez de o fazer sentir melhor.<\/p>\n

Lembre-se que for\u00e7ar-se a sentir certas emo\u00e7\u00f5es n\u00e3o \u00e9 a mesma coisa que senti-las verdadeiramente dentro de si.<\/p>\n

Pretending that you\u2019re tough and strong will only result in wasting your time and avoiding the inevitable, which is dealing with your emotions instead of neglecting them.<\/p>\n

\u201cI will never open myself up to anyone again.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

It\u2019s normal to feel scared of opening yourself up to someone new after a traumatic relationship but constantly repeating to yourself that you will never open yourself up to anyone again is not really healthy and it will bring you more harm than good.<\/p>\n

You need to understand that if something happened to you once, twice or three times, it doesn\u2019t mean that it will happen the fourth time as well.<\/p>\n

Nem todas as rela\u00e7\u00f5es est\u00e3o condenadas a ser rotuladas como traum\u00e1ticas e nem todas as pessoas s\u00e3o potenciais abusadores emocionais.<\/p>\n

Para se curar de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o traum\u00e1tica, um dos passos \u00e9 tamb\u00e9m estar aberto a novas rela\u00e7\u00f5es, porque se tem medo de alguma coisa, isso significa que as suas feridas ainda precisam de tempo para sarar.<\/p>\n

But this doesn\u2019t mean that you should force yourself to enter a new relationship only to prove to others that you\u2019re over your past one.<\/p>\n

Como qualquer outra coisa, isto deve surgir naturalmente.<\/p>\n

\u201cMaybe if I hadn\u2019t done (sth.), this wouldn\u2019t have happened to me.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

O sentimento de culpa \u00e9 tamb\u00e9m uma das atitudes mais venenosas ap\u00f3s uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o traum\u00e1tica.<\/p>\n

You start thinking about too many possible outcomes and your actions and by doing that, you refuse to cope with the current situation you\u2019re in.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important to understand that you can\u2019t go back and you cannot change things and you need to understand that it\u2019s not your fault that you\u2019re going through this.<\/p>\n

Everything happens for a reason and this doesn\u2019t mean that you deserved it.<\/p>\n

Bad things happen to us to make us stronger, not weaker, and it\u2019s up to you to either choose to keep running in circles or choose to be a winner!<\/p>\n

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